|
|
|
|
|
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/13/2007 4:31:34 PM | Translation...
I believe that you and I are in understanding that different people have different opinions....we agree to disagree? ;)
But does this post mean that you think having missionary style sex, is healthiest...and if it becomes "hum drum" or boring....that it is just due to desensitization of our sexual organs??
While I am a very sexual person, I do not place sexual relations as a valuable aspect of a relationship. It is sort of just a "bonus" that comes along with it! ;)
But this makes it sound like you think anything other than missionary sex, is less than healthy? Our bodies are s varying...what works for some, doesn't for others. For example, there are many women who cannot climax from the missionary position, or even from sexual intercourse, itself.
I dunno....to me, this is no different than saying, "You do not need to eat a variety of foods...you CAN live on bread and water alone."
I just find it ironic that someone who views marriage so sacredly, who believes in fighting to make it strong; believes that a healthy sexual relationship is not a good aspect of same....that we should only have sex in moderation to keep it from becoming routine??
I am all for marriage. I am all for keeping the spice cranked up with variety (if that is what you are both into...of course there are the folks who only want routine, missionary sex.) I do not think that sex equates to marriage any more than marriage equates to sex. But to make it sound like (sorry if I misinterpreted) variety and a healthy sexual appetite is wrong....wow. | |
|
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/13/2007 4:51:40 PM |
But does this post mean that you think having missionary style sex, is healthiest...and if it becomes "hum drum" or boring....that it is just due to desensitization of our sexual organs??
Missionary, to me, is healthiest. If it does become hum drum, it could be desensitization, either physical or mental/emotional.
To each their own, but a female not being able to reach climax is not a physical notion, it is mental/emotional.
In my extremely humbled opinion, a woman needs the feel of missionary, mostly because eye contact should be made. A woman needs absolute trust and comfort in order to have the best orgasm, missionary with eye contact is the healthiest for the woman because of this.
I know that I am not a woman and am in to position to say for certain what a woman needs, but I do know how the human mind works, I know the differences between men and women, and I know that women often find difficulty having a true orgasm. The physical is only a small portion of what it takes for a woman.
We can agree to disagree if you like, I can only state things as to how I know them, I am not asking anyone to go against their own conscience. | |
|
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/13/2007 10:32:01 PM | You're right....you are not a woman....and lacking the ability to orgasm from one specific position is NOT just mental or emotional. If I can orgasm from say, 15 other positions, but missionary is not one of them....it is a PHYSICAL attribute.
Also, eye contact can be made during LOTS of other positions....have you ever checked out Kama Sutra? ;) | |
|
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/13/2007 10:43:22 PM |
have you ever checked out Kama Sutra?
I have seen it, understand it, read up on the history of it, but never met a woman willing to practice it.
Honestly, the most sexually exciting moment for me was when a girlfriend jumped onto the bad naked, face down, and stuck her but in the air. There was no hesitation from me, I pounced. (and no, not anal sex) and it was exciting, but not orgasmic, so I turned her over and we finished missionary. In fact, all positions with me ended missionary. Even when a woman is on top, she gets to a point that she is so into it that she needs me to be on top for her to finish. There is something about a woman, that using any muscles, other that stomach muscles, inhibits the pleasure of a true orgasm.
This is only from my experiences. If I am wrong, then by all means, let me know. | |
|
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/13/2007 11:09:59 PM | Holy! I just surfaced from a day of deep reflection, wondering if I truly do have it within me to love another man after my last relationship in which I loved someone who had acute symptoms of post tramatic stress disorder from his marriage, ex-girlfriends and parent's dysfunction.
I was wondering if I have now shut down for life because I don't want to take the risk of that kind of hurt again. Alteranatively, I was contemplating that maybe my heart is strong enough to heal because I know my soul has a great capacity for love. And I certainly do repond when an attractive man wafts his pheremones, so maybe there still is some hope.
And then I read the last post and apparently, we are now on to soft core porn. How did the thread make that leap?!?! | |
|
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/13/2007 11:40:04 PM |
This is only from my experiences. If I am wrong, then by all means, let me know.
Well, being your OWN experience, you certainly cannot be wrong about what you know! ;)
I think a lot of sexual activity may result in ending in missionary....but starting out in other positions blows your missionary only theory, away! ;) | |
|
| |
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/14/2007 6:23:37 AM |
And then I read the last post and apparently, we are now on to soft core porn. How did the thread make that leap?!?!
Well, I brought up the problem with sexual education in schools, and somehow it jumped into personal sex stories. I'm not entirely sure how it went that direction from what I said either. But after the OP's attacks on people, and lack of participation except to bash people in the thread, I don't think it really matters much. This thread has steadily been declining, and not because of any one person. I think it's a combined effort.
Maybe we should all just leave the issue alone, because it doesn't seem to be going anywhere, and let the thread die.
All for this, say Aye!
Oh wait, the way people have been acting on here, I don't doubt I'll get a few "Nay!" answers.
Eh, whatever. I'm not in a extremely good mood right now, so I'll shush now.
Aye! | |
|
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/14/2007 8:51:55 AM | Well I think the thread was with good potential....an interesting topic and full of good theories. :)
I think that people can discuss and disagree without happening into all out wars....my original post here was actually in response to YOU, Peter! ;) While we clashed on thoughts there, we have shared some views after. I respect your input and opinions. :)
But I think it was more PTSD and Divorce....then Divorce versus sanctity of marriage...then Sanctity of Marriage and sex....with tidbits thrown in between. :)
Nay...if we can play in Romper Room like adults....let's keep it up! ;) I see the OP has not returned...and for me, I am just taking it as she feels silly for her outbursts! | |
|
| Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by Divorce
Posted: 6/14/2007 9:00:26 AM | girl friend that is a good question. After my brothers & son thru out "the trash" at my house, my counselor told me I was suffering from post-tramic stress disorder.
I have overcome alot...but is it not sad that sex is used by these .......to control what is suppose to be a loving relationship. E-mail me at MommaG7@aol.com
I | |
|
|
| Page 6 of 6
|
1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 |
|
Home
login