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Posted: 6/11/2005 10:57:48 PM | | I'm with Polarunion. I like women who are healthy. Not fat, not anorectic, but healthy. It doesn't much matter why you have a weight problem. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 6:42:30 AM | | For me it's a health issue. I have a friend whos family I am very close to. He has an Aunt that is severly overweight. She has been that way all her life. Her sister aren't big just her. As she has ages we all know we are going to lose her soon. I am not a superficial person but, I don't want to be widowed at 50 and spend my last years alone. The husband supposed to go first. Statistically that is. I have dated "big" girls before when I was younger. With my age came a change in my outlook. I'm not a health buff but when I do put on a few extra pounds, (and I do) I work it of with a diet and aerobics. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 7:31:55 AM |
WHAT DO YOU LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN AND BE TRUEFUL NOW!!!!!!!!!!
AND HOWDO YOU FEEL TOWARDS FAT WOMEN?
JUST WANTED TO KNOW WHAT IS ON A MANS MIND........
Someone already said it, but I'll repeat it. Guys will often say that they looks don't matter. Well, why not look at it this way...
Do you ever see a guy and think "Wow, he's REALLY cute!" If so, then you already know that looks matter.
I have a friend who is engaged to a lady who could reasonably be considered fat. She is more than a few pounds overweight, as is evident by how her skin folds. If you have skin folds around your waist, then you are "fat", or obese if you'd prefer. Anyway, my buddy is engaged to this woman, and he's definitely not an attractive guy by normal standards (i.e., he'd rarely be considered to be cute or handsome). But he's not overweight. He's a normal weight. But does he have a thing for "fat" women? No. Every time he sees a normal weight or attractively slim woman who just looks cute (not necessarily hot, but just cute), he gets excited and is like "Damn! Check her out!" I see most of the same women he does and most aren't as hot as he seems to think, but maybe he's never dated a girl who's cute or hot.
What I'm getting at is that guys OVERWHELMINGLY prefer normal weight or slim women. This doesn't negate issues such as overall prettiness. There're two receptionists I know who work at the same station. One is overweight, the other is very slim. Honestly, in all truth, the overweight girl is prettier. The slim one has an unattractive face, the overweight one has a cute face. The slim one essentially has a boy's body (no "figure"). The overweight one has a woman's body. The slim one has a deeper voice. The overweight one has a lady's voice.
Are you following?
Now, if the overweight girl was "fat", then she'd negate her naturally superior attractiveness and put herself down to the level of the slim girl. Simply put, men notice a womanly figure, and if a lady just wasn't born with it, or her bodyfat covers it all up, not much is there to attract attention.
A guy may like you, and even want to marry you, but looking your best makes you feel best, and him even more excited about you. People who wish that we could be interested in sex without regard for physical attraction aren't being honest with themselves. Doesn't every woman want the guy she loves to think that she is pretty? Would you be flattered if a guy told you that you AREN'T pretty to him at all, but he loves you because of your personality? Wouldn't you like him to find something attractive about your appearance, even if it were only a couple of things?
Ask yourself if YOU are happy with your weight. If you are, then ask yourself if you are happy with the kind and number of men who are attracted to you. If you aren't, then sliming down a bit will help. You have to decide what you want to do. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 10:14:42 AM | What I look for?
A nice smile and BIG boobs. I guess I want my kids to be well fed.
Oh and Redheads! I like them too.
Fat women?
If I try to hug em and my fingers don't lock they are too big.
On my mind?
Getting to know a person can change the way you see them. I got to know a great person but her boobs didn't get bigger. I still love her though. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 10:32:29 AM | | In a crowd, it's pretty much comon sense, I'd go for the athletic, healthy looking woman way over a woman who's overweight, or even average weight. It's simply physical attraction. But that's not to say that I wouldn't be interested in a fat woman, but it definately makes it more challenging for them since they have to work to get noticed in a positive way. It boils down to the whole first impression thing. And I also know guys who care what other people think, and thus wouldn't go out with a fat chick. I guess it changes from person to person, but I think generally, the majority of guys would go for the athletic chick. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 11:51:25 AM | I'm not shallow like some of these other lying bassterds.
Along as she has big boobies, she's alright with me. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 1:16:14 PM | Hi Sweet Baby Girl...
Well, I've been both.... overweight by about 25 lbs and not in the greatest shape and then lost the weight, through diet and excercise every day, except Sunday...that was the do what you want and eat what you want day. I dyed my hair blonde, grew it long and by all male accounts... a knock out to behold, even at 40-something years old, was hit on by many men in a wide age range. But you know what, it really didn't matter, because the guys that I was attracting and were asking me out could not/would not see beyond the exterior. The relationships that I did have, which were few and far between, were based on sex and once that was acheived...well, you know how it turns out...lol
So, now..... I enjoy food, I still go for long walks or for a run now & then but mostly work out in the yard and enjoy what I'm doing.... there's no panic or standard that I try to live up to, other than my own. I find that just as many men are interested, maybe even more... but maybe more of a different calibre of men are interested. I dress in clothing that makes me feel good, things that I think look good on me, and things that make me feel sensuous and I believe that it all translates as sexy and confident to a man, without being blatant or trashy.
Appearances are important, it's the first thing everyone sees, so I think that if you're happy and content with who you are and how you look, then you'll attract those who feel the same and appreciate what you have to offer.
This is a woman's perspective and I would welcome comments from men. | |
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Japhus
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Joined: 5/28/2005
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Posted: 6/12/2005 2:49:10 PM | We're all different...
Some like big, some like small, some like dark, some like tall...
I had a friend that I had a not so secret crush on go anorexic one year. Just before school broke for the summer I saw her in the library as she was handing in some books. No word of a lie her skin had gone so translucent I could see her bones!
Couldn't look at a skinny girl for years after that without feeling ill.
Personally, I like my ladies short and petite. By that I mean 5' 5" or less. A few extra pounds doesn't matter to me but I have found that my "personal" limit is she has to weigh less than me. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2005 6:35:27 PM | you forgot one.. Low self-esteem.. Some reason I attract large women.. I'm not a rude guy i'll chat but that' as fas as I'll take it..
Alot of them have self confidence issues.. It's sad but also there choice.. One should be able to control there own thoughts.. Or if not happy then try change.. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2005 7:30:29 AM |
belladona:
I dress in clothing that makes me feel good, things that I think look good on me, and things that make me feel sensuous and I believe that it all translates as sexy and confident to a man, without being blatant or trashy.
Appearances are important, it's the first thing everyone sees, so I think that if you're happy and content with who you are and how you look, then you'll attract those who feel the same and appreciate what you have to offer.
I agree with belladona 100%
Confidence is sexy, live by your own standard and just be yourself. I think that would attract guys interested in you, and hopefully have what your seeking. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2005 6:20:00 AM | Generally, I just look for great personality out of a woman. If she bores me, I'm going to lose interest quickly. A pretty face fades over time.. a personality can age like fine wine.
I like a woman who's kinda thick. I may not be too attracted to really huge women initially, but if she's personable in conversation, I can forget about that. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2005 4:22:48 PM | | What do I want in a woman? Me. Yeah, it's an old one, but it's true. Honestly, I couldn't date a woman if I didn't want to have sex with her. OTOH, there are women I'd want to have sex with, but I wouldn't want to date. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2005 4:35:17 PM | Ok I like a woman that likes me lol. Seriously....personality..attiyude...so ya have some physical imperfections... ( not sayin you do! ) so what! If ya live to be 90, you are not going to look as good as when you were 20!! If a woman treats you how you treat her...then whats not too like..that simple!  | |
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Posted: 6/16/2005 4:35:28 PM | | not really into fat women. a bit of extra weight? i like that: i'm into nice big butts and cuddly girls. i like a little extra more than not enough. but if she weighs too much more than me, it better be because she likes to hit the weights. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 12:10:30 AM | the woman with the wider hips and smaller waist will NOT get the guy because over time we have evolved to wear this thing called CLOTHES which covers up our hips and waist.
anyway hips are determined by bones, not fat, so if you dont have the bones for it, you wont have the right hip to waist ratio no matter how much weight you gain | |
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ATPase
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Joined: 3/31/2005
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Posted: 6/24/2005 5:45:39 AM | | I wont' even date a girl with A cups.. B is even debatable | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 6:04:37 PM | | Personally I first and foremost look at a women from the personality/sense of humor stand point. Those two things are a must for me. My longest relationship (3 years) was with a girl who for the most part of the relationship was what must people would consider overweight. I'm really not a very judgemental person and as long as a person looks like they are taking care of themselves (not just letting themselves go) then thats usually good enough for me. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2005 6:09:17 PM | In other words the woman with the smaller waist but wider hips will get the guy...and being fit is important for child bearing and even if he doesn't realize it, his instincts will seek that out.
Not with me.Wide hips usually means a big butt.I don't like big butts.But then I grew up in the era when Twiggy was sex symbol. | |
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ATPase
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 170 | |
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Posted: 6/25/2005 7:25:23 PM | | shouldn't that read "to all of the men?" The word "too" and "to" are not the same. Ugh. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2005 10:39:43 PM | | i always look to the slimmer girls first, but ive been with some really cool chunky girls. | |
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ATPase
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 172 | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 12:02:58 AM | | Well I know that in this society that wieght is a really big issue. I mean a serious issue. I used to be a rather large myself, and I lost the weight, and it wasn't for my health either. I lost the weight simply because I couldn't even get a date with a female before I lost the weight. That is no lie either. Women have a stigma attached to obesity, and from my own experience find it completley unacceptable. Trust me the pendulum swings in both directions. When I was overwieght I couldn't even get a girls phone #. Now they think I'm the most charming witty guy. However weight is a controllable thing its nothing that is permanent at all. So there is always the option of seeking a physicians advice and trying to find some safe and healthy method of removing said pounds from said body. I look back at some old pics and I realize now why women gave me so much grief. I was so big it made me look unhealthy and distorted my features beyond anything you could ever imagine. One day I woke up and said enough is enough, I decided to go on a diet and I've lost close to 100 lbs and now the ladies aren't too big of an issue nemore. Soooo obesity isn't just a woman issue its everyones problem ,men and womens. However you have choices so if your just plain fed up with being big my suggestion is to see a doctor and try to find some way to remedy the "fat" situation and you'll be alot happier. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 1:38:51 AM | | I ACTUALLY LIKE A GIRL WITH NICE ROUND HIPS,FLAT STOMACH,I DONT LIKE SKINNY GIRLZ,SHES GOTTA HAVE CURVES,.......................BUT I CANT STAND A GUT ON A FEMALE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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kloopy
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Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 175 | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 5:36:35 PM | Some women are eating healthy and do things to keep themselfs fit but you do no there is such thing as over active thyroids and these women can't help but gain weight it is not in there control so.......You would punish them for that???
That makes you pretty low...and shallow with the rest | |
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