| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/5/2007 10:02:08 PM | it is important,,,,
I wont bother with people that make me uncomfortable and challenge me in unfair ways, I dont care who they are, how powerful, attractive, accomplished....
In truth I am a very subtle tiger if my fur is rubber the wrong way ..... 
By the same token, if the interests are shared and there is courtesy, friendliness and a genuine respect I am a real sweetheart .... no fooling | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 7:16:39 AM | Obviously you've never been very attracted to anyone. If you were, you'd know.
Chemistry is not an end all or be all...it's a basis. It's the magic. It's what makes you want to get together but can't be the sole basis for being with someone either. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 7:54:56 AM |
I think we are attracted to what we are familiar with. So when you find someone with common interests, they are attractive, are capable of communicating, etc, then that becomes a bonus.
Then how do you explain being 'attracted to' opposites... nothing in common... incapable of communicating, etc.??? OR... not KNOWING whether you have anything in common or whether the other person is capable of communicating?? Chemistry is instant and doesn't take into consideration any of that stuff... it's an attraction... a look... a smile... a twinkle... an aura.... and IT exists!!
Kudos to you for being able to find someone you are familiar with. I go for chemistry and then determine through time whether we have common interests, communication etc., but that's 'just' me :-) | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 9:56:35 AM | Chemistry can have us be attracted to someone we have nothing in common with because they may have qualities and characteristics that we may in some way wish to discover in ourself.
We also may have things in common with them, but either way there is something that we are to learn from them about ourself. Sometimes if both people dont want to learn then they will just live together and subconsciously agree not to rock the boat and be together for 50 years and never really learn anything about there partner or themselves,it all depends on what is going on subconsciously and what you may or may not be ready to learn.
You can change the kind of people your usually attacted to , that is if your not happy with how things seem to turn out.
Chemistry is directly connected to our subconscious, when we learn to resolve our subconscious imbalances our body and mind will learn to work together with greater awareness.
Its actually pretty amazing, science for the most can only discover things to the degree in which the investigator or scientist has discovered in themselves.
If a scientist is close minded in whatever way, so will there discoveries , we all are suppossed to be scientists in some way, whether we know it or not.
A scientist is just someone who investigates, if we want to evolve we have to investigate things for ourselves, its funny how we make almost no effort to understand what we are really about and how our conditioning has us living most of our life unconsciously.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 10:08:24 AM | They say Love is blind, but that statement is coming from someones ego, the reality is that our understanding of Love is blind, just as they say Love is not enough, The reality is that Love is enough and our understanding is what is not enough.
Love is a virtue that is made up of all the virtues, if you did a search on virtues you would see that there are many virtues and that undersatnding that love is made up of all these virtues would also have you see that Love is actually enough.
Too many people see Love as only an emotion, The reality of Love is infinitely greater.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 10:24:54 AM | Our emotions our connected to our subconscious and our reactions are manifestations of our subconscious emotional and psychological imbalances and the more we address the imbalances we are aware of, the more room we make for whats in our subconscious to addressed as it will surface and we can learn what it is we have to learn and how to do it, and that is how you aquire control or should i say take responsibility for ones behavior and take part in evolving as a human being, I dont find its easy but when you get tired of falling on your face in any part of your life you will consider growth as a worthy option.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 11:18:15 AM | YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Smiles644 hit it on the head - the other viewpoint is saying sexual attraction (sure, try to say it's a 'mix' of things if you like) comes first and everything else will fall into place - that is until someone with 'better' 'chemistry' shows up.
It would be way interesting to see a study published on the longevity of a marriage (and/or rate of divorce) compared between two groups. Assuming an honest answer - group one would be 'oh he/she was so hot when I first met them'. Group two would be, 'you know I really wasn't all that attracted to them at first, but as I got to know them the feelings and attraction grew'. Any bets how this one would turn out?  | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 11:24:45 AM | Chemistry only wears off after a while anyway. It's not a bad thing, it's the way it's supposed to be. Chemistry is only there to get you to plant/accept a seed.
The Chemistry people talk about is that nice feeling you get when you see someone who make want your pecker. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 11:59:31 AM | Chemistry is not about just getting you to plant the seed, its also about learning about yourself and the psychological and emotional dynamics that are the foundation of how ones chemistry and desires are created.
Every aspect of what it means to be human, no matter how primal, has the ability to be consciously and intelligently directed and is not out of our influence, Our conditioning which is a collection of mental and emotional influences effects us right down to our biology and understanding the connection between the two and undoing and unlearning the things that create ignorance will reveal to us what greater depth there is to us and to life.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 12:04:32 PM | Thats nice that you mention the importance of actually getting to know someone, that means being open to learning about yourself and another and its amazing how ones understanding of chemistry changes when this takes place.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 12:08:02 PM |
Chemistry is not about just getting you to plant the seed, its also about learning about yourself and the psychological and emotional dynamics that are the foundation of how ones chemistry and desires are created.
hmmmm... that's not what it is to me. To me it's the "connection" that makes me want to learn everything and anything there is to know about the one I have it with. I have to agree with 'planting of the seed' theory. For me, nothing's going to grow if the chemistry isn't there. Well, not 'nothing'... friendship maybe... but nothing romantic  | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 12:10:39 PM | | "nothing in common..incapable of communicating"..Because that is familiar to some people, living in that kind of dysfunction..So they continue to seek it out in partners..Some are addicted to chaos because its familiar to them growing up..Its being aware that you are doing that, seing the bigger picture here, that makes people be in a position to make diffirenent decisions about who is "attractive" to them... | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 12:26:22 PM | oh yes it does.
2 people's personality has to click well together to make it work.wich is what is called chemistry.i mean i see it all the time in my day to day life.there is some people i work with and stuff or just know that i get along with real good.we have good chemistry so to speak but others u just dont relate too or dont get along that great with. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 12:50:23 PM | cape... my chemistry takes place LONG before I know if there is "dysfunction, chaos, or childhood familiarity". In fact it's practically instant. There's a huge difference between "attraction" and "chemistry". I find lots of people attractive... I don't have chemistry with but a few. That is what's elusive about chemistry. What makes you have it with one, but not with another one of similiar 'attractiveness'. If there was no such thing as chemistry then I could see making choices based on looks, history, income, # of kids, smoker, height, etc., etc. The fact that you can have chemistry with someone who doesn't fit the 'mold' tells me looking at 'the bigger picture' is not part of chemistry.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/6/2007 6:56:08 PM |
if there is no chemistry i do not pursue anything
I used to be like this. I'm flexible now. I've hade chemistry sneak up on me and get me good. You never know. Now that my attitude has changed, I see things differently. I've seen beautiful women who were not at all sexy, and other who were so-so, but were sexy as hell (young and old). | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/7/2007 5:46:47 AM | | just...When you talked about couples having nothing in common and unable to communicate yet there was chemistry, thats what I was referring to regarding the dysfunction...We can have chemistry with someone and still they arent the right person for us becasue of that....,..They obviously have had time to get to know one another if they are already to the state where they are "not communicating" yet they continue to cling to the relationship because of "chemistry" | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/7/2007 10:26:16 AM | Yes, i did mention that chemistry is also about connection when i said its about learning about yourself and another, there can be no real connection with someone if the connection is not based on Love, Most conections are based on fear and the love is conditional which limits the potential fo growth and intimacy, there greater your understanding of your self the easier it is to connect with others and feel Love for them and true Love is much more spectacular then the typical chemistry we experience and when Love is really understood then chemistry will evolve and not be so blind and misleading.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/7/2007 10:30:21 AM | No chemistry = no kiss = no go
You can't force it just like you can't force acceptance, love or compatibility. It's either there or it isn't. You can have chemistry with multiple people for sure, but can't make it for someone.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/7/2007 2:01:11 PM | Chemistry played a very big part in my first engagement.
Shall I tell you how?
I was in college and Chemistry was a required course. He was a pro when it came to the sciences so he came up to me and said he would tutor me and help me pass the class. We became good friends. Then we became lovers. Then he gave me an engagement ring.
So, that is how Chemistry played a part in my relationship during my college years.
Okay, so that was my little bit of kidding around.
If there is no chemistry between two people, the relationship cannot work out. Chemistry is a kind of soul and physical connection. It is almost like phermones. | |
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