| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/8/2007 2:09:08 AM |
Then how do you explain being 'attracted to' opposites... nothing in common... incapable of communicating, etc.??? OR... not KNOWING whether you have anything in common or whether the other person is capable of communicating?? Chemistry is instant and doesn't take into consideration any of that stuff... it's an attraction... a look... a smile... a twinkle... an aura.... and IT exists!!
this is very true its this sort of a Chemical reaction that makes a relationship intresting and worth working for. For me its a look that attracts me and that unexplainable twinkle in ones eye that gets my fire raging and they always seem to be totally the opposite to me we never have anything in common but the communication is there at first.
I personally think that if the "Chemistry" is there but no communication then its not going to work out, you if you find a partner over the internet like in a dating agentcy your not going to know if the "Chemistry" is there but the communication you can tell, for me i find out if the "Chemistry" or a Chemical reaction is there when I meet someone this is the only way I find out if there is a spark I cant say or tell any other way.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:30:49 AM | cape... when I am talking about chemistry I am talking upon the initial meeting of a stranger... that WOW factor... THAT twinkle.... THAT aura. That's why I say you know nothing about that person at that time... no clue whether they are communicators or if there are commonalities, but it's the chemistry that makes you WANT to know that person.
Sorry if my posts weren't clear on that, but that's where I was coming from. As one poster said, ^^^^^^if you're communicating online you have an idea of common interests and communication before meeting, so that would be different. The chemistry still has to be there for me but that's not the scenario I was talking. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:40:16 AM | | Chemistry like the high school subject is very complex and difficult to understand. Of course it plays a part in a relationship its like the magnetic that attracts but so much more has to come into play for a successful relationship! Some start with chemistry and others develope over time its all mad science when it comes to human emotions ! | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/8/2007 9:49:10 AM | Its not complicated, some people will be led by there hormones first and others will be led by there heart, Once you become more mature on a heart level then you will not fall for all the illusions that our mind and body play on us. And when i speak of the Heart i am speaking of something more then the emotional aspect that is usually related to the heart.
Its not difficult, evry thing that happens whether it is physical, mental, emotional, spiritual is an opportunity for us to learn about ourselves.
True love says I do not ask to be Loved i want to Love, I do not ask to be understood i want to understand.
If your looking for the real thing then chemistry wont be what leads you, some people never learn, they may even stay with the person for life and still not have a clue about themselves or there partner. As you evolve ,chemistry will be replaced by consciousness, its because we live our life mostly unconsciously that chemistry is as powereful as it is, that changes as we evolve.
If you actually investigate this for yourself you will understand what i am saying.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/8/2007 1:07:32 PM | | Chemistry, or at least what most people refer to it as, is for the most part simply the subconcious behavior and desires we have that we don't understand. You can change your 'chemistry' if you want to, for the most part, if you can observe the target of your affections responses to you, and alter your behavior if they start to become less interested. The only thing you can't change is your basic scent. If your potential partner 'smells' wrong, and I don't mean B.O. or perfume, then there's little to keep the attraction going. I once dated a girl who smelled much like my sister; killed the attraction completely. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/8/2007 1:41:20 PM | chemistry plays no part in MOST relationships. ie friends family coworkers
it is not really that important in most relationships
the only time it counts and is important is for sex. marriage. that's it. no chemistry, no marriage. pretty simple huh? | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/8/2007 1:45:30 PM | i love lots of people the agape way.
agape love is important for marriage...but that by itself does not make a marriage satisfying. marriage requires more than agape love. it also requires erotic love. without BOTH erotic love and agape love and third, romance, marriage is empty and pointless. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/9/2007 9:20:00 AM | The kind of love you mention is empty and pointless, erotic love is not love , romance is not love, For love to be Love it has to be unconditional or else it is motivated by fear and therefore conditional , humanity is so imature when it comes to understanding love, A relationship has meaning when you help each other discover what Love is really about and to not become a slave to the illusions that people believe love to be.
Most people dont care and thats fine, but for the ones that are paying attention they will make the effort to open there eyes | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/9/2007 9:37:27 AM | When I meet a guy and my heart/pulse goes wacko it's attraction, not chemistry. I can be attracted to someone but it doesn't mean the chemistry is there. To me, chemistry goes deeper than the physical aspect, it's having similar feelings/emotions, a desire to communicate these feelings/emotions with that person and knowing it's shared among other things.
So yes, to me chemistry plays a crucial role in a relationship. I see it as part of a group that also include compatibility, communication and commitment. A successful relationship can't have one without the others. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 6/9/2007 10:00:50 AM | There is a valiable as the humans are. Some people just are looking for companionship and then the chemistry is not really important for them. Other dream about the perfect relation . . . and is there when the chemistry is involved. Chemistry is the mysterious thing that make you want to touch and stay close to the person that you are feeling that, if there are same values and life style, then you become close friend and lover. wehn the time goes you Rise in love and become in soul mates.
The life is beautiful, the colors bright, you have a big smile and everything is nice.
Now we need to work everyday keeping the relation fresh and taking care of as you take care your car, your garden or your house. If you don´t even with the chemistry-
You know the story- We mess up the best relation that we never had. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 9/22/2007 1:14:27 PM | I've been quietly collecting favorites since Janu/2006 for several reasons, but one reason was to take my time and study myself and people. From time to time, I would venture to write someone and experience various responses.
Meanwhile, some people were opting to write me. It was strange because I was NOT attracted to any of them. However, I sometimes did see agreement and affinity on the philosophical level. It dawned on me that I do prefer a physical attraction, but that's not all I want.
I want to see brilliance in my potentional long-term partner. I want to be attracted on all levels. I want to have intelligent and stimulating discussions. I want to enjoy looking at my partner and proudly show her off. And when it comes to sex, I want there to be total fireworks, the passion and that deep in the heart glad feeling.
What bothers me about the chemistry thing is, like anything else, it can be abused. I do not want to be judged like we were in a cattle auction and I want to be equally careful not to get carried away with the chemistry thing.
It's like one of our posters has observed. Some of us had the chemistry, but the other factors were missing. Crash and burn.
Yeah, I like seeing a fox walking down the street. I'll even give a hoot, but I'll never take anyone seriously until AFTER I discover a few things.
Do they communicate well? Do they know how to clarify things and ideas? Are they good at problem solving or do they latch onto the first excuse to create drama? Are they fun to talk to? Do they get it with relative ease or do they make you feel like you are dealing with a five year old?
I don't have to have a brainiac. I don't have to have a beauty queen. A good friend would be nice and if the other stuff is there, I'll be taking them very seriously. Yes, I kinda want a show stopper. I want excellence and that's the chemistry I want to find.
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 9/25/2007 10:08:55 AM | | Chemistry = infatuation. All relationships have it to begin with, but it tends to fade over time...which is why a relationship needs more than just chemistry if it is to continue, and be good. Compatibility helps a lot. Chemistry is the biochemical (hormonal) urge which sparks an interest, and lays the groundwork for more to follow. In many relationships there is never anything more, so the relationships break down as the chemistry breaks down. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 9/25/2007 10:12:07 AM | | Opposites attract...because of chemistry. They do not bond well, though...so when the chemistry fades, the attraction fades. Compatibility, communication, common goals, etc, can build upon the chemistry, and make for a lasting relationship. Chemistry alone-even the kind which attracts opposites together-will not sustain a relationship. | |
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| Does CHEMISTRY play a part in relationships?
Posted: 9/25/2007 10:34:01 AM | | To me chemistry is more than just a sexual thing.... it's an over-all mind and body experience and YES it is a very important part of a relationship. | |
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