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Posted: 6/6/2007 7:33:03 AM | Sheesh bd has taken a beating! Everyone has the right to NOT answer personal questions. This thread has really spun, of course I see a few "old timers with new nicknames" pot stirring champions those two
So bd how did you get the lovely tan? What kind of books do you read?
What do you do for a living? Okay it was the third question asked does that make a diff?  I am teasing you!!! | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/6/2007 7:33:07 AM | if you're so successful and not a gold digger, where does happiness fit into the equation if you are financially covered anyway? Do you really want someone who has worked themselves to death like you have and may not have any time or energy for you like you don't for them?
Hmm, now that IS the million dollar question.
At one time I was a partner in a firm and made wads of cash but didn't have a whole lot of personal time. Big jobs tend to suck up big investments of time; I absolutely LOVED my job, so it didn't feel like "working yourself to death". Most of the men I had relationships with made significantly less than I did, and I also encountered my share of the male golddiggers, so I can relate to that. If the OP is concerned about golddiggers, he can simply choose to give no information or a very generalized response that answers the question, but doesn't reveal very much.
A career that "matches" your own automatically gives you commonality I would think ... understanding some of the demands, being able to afford the same travel/recreation and other "lifestuff". And, perhaps, shared professional interests too.
Believe me, when careers DON'T "match" somewhat, you DO have some extra navigation in relationships... it has caused some unhappiness in previous relationships (sometimes love isn't enough to carry the day... depends on the individuals involved). Of course, it is possible the extra navigation might be only the case when a female has the "bigger" job, I don't know because I haven't experienced the opposite.
I've handled the "wads of cash but no time" problem with a career shift that brought me the precious commodity of time for life while still being challenging and a job I thrive on. But do I "know" what career my ideal partner will have? Of course not. I've suggested he might be in business, teaching or a creative field in my profile, simply because, with my background, those are the careers that provide the greatest opportunity for connections of interest, but I'm not "stuck" on them.
When I ask about someone's career it is part of the "getting to know you" process. Looking for linkages and commonalities of interest and whether they love their job, or not. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/6/2007 7:37:07 AM |
Everyone has the right to NOT answer personal questions.
Absolutely. But to be offended by the question? Kind of silly. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/6/2007 8:27:32 AM | | When I ask a guy what his profession is it is just a way to get to know him. It has nothing to do with how much money he makes. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:32:59 AM | Personally OP, I don't think a woman asking that is after your wealth.
I don't display my profession on my profile, and people eventually ask what it is. When I tell them, they don't immdeiately lose interest. If they really were hunting for a doctor or lawyer, when asking, I wouldn't hear from them again.
It's just a way of trying to find something out about a person.
What would you discuss on a date? The weather, for 3 hours?
If you're offended by people asking about your life: then trying to get to know people through this type of venue, really isn't the best for you. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 9:08:27 AM | Wow, I don't find it offensive when men ask me what I do for a living. I take it that they are interested in what I do because I spend a significant portion of my life doing it.
Now, it does so happen I make a pretty good living doing it, a better living than my ex-husband the doctor, my deceased husband the "senior government official", and my boyfriend the computer programmer, but I still don't take the question to be some kind of sneaky way of finding out how much money I have.
Now on the other hand, asking me my bra size doesn't have much value except to find out how big my breasts are. 
So, on that note, how big is your penis? I have no plans on making use of it, but I am gathering statistical data for another thread. 
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Posted: 6/6/2007 9:11:39 AM | I believe the OP works in a very expensive restaurant, and will be your host for the evening and afterwards model's for grooms on wedding cakes.
I think your photo of you in a tux, is great & you're having fun!! What does it matter what you do, as long as you're decent, honest and nice man. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 9:16:50 AM | | i think your totally on...it is very rude to ask of your profession the first time you message someone... | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/6/2007 9:17:38 AM | Well maybe it is their way of weeding you out! and it may have nothing to do with the amount of money you earn, but really HOW you earn it!
I mean you may be a doctor or a lawyer or maybe even a golf pro! and ewwww, a doctor can cut up people, and a lawyer can argue both sides of an argument, and a golf pro has the wrong kind of caddy! (that was a joke)
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Posted: 6/6/2007 9:36:06 AM | Hi Brad,
You are taking the wrong slant on things. Some women, including myself, prefer intelligent men. Knowing what a man does for a living tells a gal if the guy has any brains. Additionally, that question isn't limited to the women. Sometimes, the first question I get in an email is, "Do you work, and what do you do?" So, don't find it offensive, unless the question is, "What do you do, and how much money do you make?" | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 9:51:10 AM |
OP~ Offensive....LOL...as you proudly display pics of you in a tuxedo and with a BMW behind you. You're out trolling for women 33 years younger than you. What a self-absorbed a$$ you are....all because you're not clever enough to handle the question in a way that makes both of you feel good. And then you equate that question to bra size and deep throating to asking what you do for a living.....sheesh, it's no damn wonder we have so many lesbians in the world....half of them run screaming from the likes of guys like you.
EAZK I couldn't have said it better myself.
OP your profile sends a Sugar Daddy message.
Us non-golddiggers don't care much about thread counts on sheets.
Although, I personally, wait until we start conversing before I ask about a profession, I do ask, and it's only because I am interested in getting to know a person better. If I don't ask then , I probably could care less about what you do for a living, because, I'm not interested in the part of your life that takes up at least half of your time. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 9:51:42 AM | | I agree with Brad. I find it offensive for the same reason he does. That's why I don't post what I do for a living. And at this point I won't even post what I look like because I want to create a friendship first in hopes that he won't try to hump my leg right off the bat. I'd like to be accepted for who I am and my worthiness as a human being before my pocketbook and looks get involved. (hey... I'd love to talk with you Brad but I'm blocked on your e-mail because of your distance criteria) | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/6/2007 10:54:48 AM | You know what? If a guy has golddiggerphobia, and applies it to EVERY woman he meets, how unfortunate for him.
I'm currently interested in someone who is afflicted (and I can understand why to some extent); however, if he automatically assumes that I'm interested in him for his wallet, there's really nowhere to go in a relationship.
If he were willing to dig a little deeper, he would learn that I pretty much instantly reject wallet-wavers due to my values, ethics and self-esteem. But perhaps he can't, because he is scared off by my estrogen content. Couldn't he just rely on his ability to judge character?! I don't know. Time will tell, but I'm not holding my breath nor holding out for him.
Years back, I tried to have a relationship with a wallet-waver and again it was an impasse. It really makes those humbler men in tight jeans look more appealling. At least I wouldn't have to jump through hoops to demonstrate my comparably modest yet dignified financial independence*. How exhausting!
*with some factors, that I don't disclose--because there are also male golddiggers out there (imagine that!). | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 10:59:42 AM | | Just tell her the industry you're in. Foodservice, service industry, trucking, hospitality. If you feel like she's pushing, tell her "your pushing" and give her a wink. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 11:37:16 AM | Tell her that you're a plastic surgeon and that you'll fix her nose/breasts, or suck the fat out of her ass at a steep discount!
And, that you know specialists who can help her with her complexion problem...
Too Che (and away)!
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Posted: 6/6/2007 12:14:11 PM |
No, I do not anger easily..at alll.
The fact that I have not said **** YOU to some of you shallow ***holes by now should demonstrate that I have patience.
Again, you have not either read my profile or the thread. Either of which you are dumbasses.
Huh...guess I'd rather deal with someone's 'assumed shallowness' (but then, I don't assume anything to begin with) than someone with your attitude...It's not what what does, but who one is, that's important...and you just proved that very nicely for all to see. I bet if any of those women who contacted you, asking what you did for a living, are reading this they're really glad you didn't connect with them ;) | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 1:03:27 PM | | Anabolic: msg 151;When I was introduced to the Queen ,my occupation was stated to her immediately, the Priminister of Canada ,President of USA along with many heads of state and parliamentarians also asked what I did for a living. I to have travelled the world and there was not a time when someone had not asked me what I did for a living. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 1:16:23 PM | OP...
You must be hiding something.....let me guess ......a pimp?
Just kidding !
When I ask what they do , it's get to know them a little .....it's not about $$$
What you work at can say something about the sort of person you are . | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 1:37:43 PM | In many forums when a man says he is "generous" that means he will pay for your company. Maybe just a revision of the text and you can tell the women of the Arlington area that you are a good guy looking for a good woman without the hint of the "Big Bang" hanging out there in her future. So many Jackie Gleasons, so few John Goodmans | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 2:23:22 PM | it's not offensive to ask what someone does for a living.
Making assumptions, or judgements, about the person, after you've learned what it is they do, would be offensive. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 2:35:28 PM | wow, have you had a lot of experiences with money hogs or what?
i ask people what they do, not to size them up finacially, but just because some people are in cool fields of work... its just a general getting to know you question... | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/6/2007 3:12:19 PM | I see 11 pages of practically nothing.. So OP what do you do for a living ??
This thread is way too funny.. I don't mind if people ask me what I do for a living on first contact, but my bra size of the deep throat... OMG... get real here, there is no comparison.  | |
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