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when they ask right off the bat
so on that note and deepthroaters in my area ... lol | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 3:34:23 PM | I'm afraid I don't understand why a man would find it offensive to be asked his profession. When meeting someone new, that is a standard question: What do you do for a living?
Now, if a woman were to ask how much money you make, that is a much different matter. But to assume that in asking your profession a woman is digging for salary information, I find a wee bit of a stretch.
A man I used to date told me that a few different women asked his salary on an initial coffee date. I find it difficult to fathom someone doing such a thing. But I guess the woman is revealing early on her primary motive in seeking a relationship, which is a good thing, I guess. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 5:18:28 PM | Your very smart picture suggests you are loaded really?
To me it suggests he rented a tuxedo at least once in his life.
Or he works as a chauffer, doorman, blackjack dealer, valet parking attendant | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 5:22:14 PM |
bdpowell on 6/5/2007 11  01 PM Subject: As a guy, I find it offensive... Message: Ok, I will readily say this.. She just wrote me back and was just wanting to start a conversation with me. She was interested in me and wrote to aplogize..which I accepted and might I also add..apologized to her as well. Ya'll chill lordy lol
OK... I read most of the posts up until this point. Anything that I was wanting to add was pretty much covered by the men and women who thought the OP's question was offensive. I have only one question for the Bradster.... Did that ^^^^^^^^ teach you anything??? Are you happy now that you realize she was "just making conversation"??? Do you no longer take "offense" to the ones who SUGGESTED that it's a good conversation starter??? Is your next thread going to be "I can't believe she wanted to know where I LIVE!!"?? (ok... that was four questions!) How about an apology for stirring up a hornets nest (and what a wicked nest!!!) over something as stupid as someone wanting to start a conversation with you!! EGAD!!
BTW... I have NEVER had anyone take offense to that question and I'VE never taken offense to it... it's called C O N V E R S A T I O N.  | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 5:22:38 PM | If i am judged on my job or income, i say see ya. I'd rather associate with people who value more important things.  | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 5:44:43 PM | Learn to use a spell checker darling.
pissafication in your cereal bowl ?
Listen to yourself, do you even realize how ridiculous you sound? If you can't spell pseudo don't tangle with me honey. ------ AS ALWAYS ANNIE WROTE
for always annie , I do the best I can when typing as I have one arm in the cast from a rollerblading accident. I assume you fell on your head SINCE YOU CAN'T COMPREHEND. Just because my writing style is not to your liking you need not presume yourself to be a literary critic. JUST A CRITIC is your style , a typical trait of a suburbanite frustrated housefrau.
YO | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 5:54:28 PM | The amount of women on this thread who actually took offense at the OPs thread and turned it into a defense of 'i am not a gold digger' pontification etc , etc , etc bespeaks volumes to the machinations of their mind and their motivations .
Q: gee , what do you do for a living?
A: electrician
Q: gee, what do you do for a living?
A: Chief financial officer for ++++++++++++ conglomerate.
Guess which guy would get the bequiling smile and the fluttering lashes, the sweetly scented sashes swaying to his rhythm?
the female critics of the OP would no doubt declare, " but I am looking for a hamburger flipper with the keenest of personalities." | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 5:55:15 PM | I don't mind being asked what I do, because my profession is one of the most important aspects of my identity. I take pride in my work, and it's a huge part of my life.
Now, if she tries to turn it into a question about how much I make, well, all she needs to know is that I'm financially responsible and I make ends meet. All she needs to know is that I'm not a deadbeat.
The last thing is for a woman to choose me based on how long and how consistently I can pull down a particular salary. Success comes and goes in any profession and in any economy. I want somebody who will stick it out with me through good times and bad. If I determine that she's incapable of doing that, then I know she wants whatever money she thinks I'm making, and isn't really interested in *me*. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 6:33:15 PM | Well, I always ask this question, only because I'd like to know if we have something in common. It's standard, baby. Not all women are asking because they want to get in your wallet. At least, it's not my intention when I ask that question....
Lighten up, sugar! | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 6:34:39 PM |
Q: gee , what do you do for a living?
A: electrician
Q: gee, what do you do for a living?
A: Chief financial officer for ++++++++++++ conglomerate.
Guess which guy would get the bequiling smile and the fluttering lashes, the sweetly scented sashes swaying to his rhythm?
I would choose the electrician for many reasons.
1. He is probably down to earth and not some stuffed shirt type of guy.
2. He is probably good with his hands.
3. He enjoys what he does, which is why he does it.
4. Not just anyone can be an electrician nor want to deal with high voltage.
5. He doesn't eat, sleep, breathe his job 24/7. Most high income jobs come with more stress and spend more time dealing with work than home.
By the way Anabolic....... Electricians happen to make darn good money in our country, I don't know about yours. Would you mess with high voltage wires??? Bet not, it isn't a pencil pushing job ehhhhhhhh?  | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 7:23:33 PM | /\ /\/\ Excellent points, SmartBlonde--especially #5. I know that in Western Canada, skilled trade are in high demand and in many cases university graduates are filling the positions due to the earning potential.
Anabolic is in Ontario, so this is especially for him:
The Skills Shortage
• Canada is beginning to feel the affects of a shortage of skilled trades people."The country's labour pool - which is expected to shrink under the weight of an unprecedented retirement bulge within the next five years - isn't even close to producing enough skilled trades people, homegrown or imported to meet demands. It's going to be hard and very expensive to live in a country where only a few know how to fix a broken car engine or leaky faucet, build well-crafted homes or make sure the lights come on when it gets dark." (Canada needs Skilled Trades, Globe and Mail, September 2003) NOTE: Slightly out-of-date, but at the top of google.
Want more? http://www.skillsontario.com/media/pdf/Just%20the%20facts.pdf
Did I mention that these non-pretentious, down-to-earth guys look really good in jeans? In fact, if I find one who has most of the good qualities I'm looking for in a man, I would kick in for half the mortgage anytime... | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 7:24:32 PM | | ^ I was gonna comment that electricians make pretty decent dough... but she beat me to it. I need to read faster. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 7:32:39 PM | <<<<<------can't wait for anabolic to set the record straight on the "Anabolic is in Ontario, so this is especially for HIM!!!
**Does this thing keep tabs on how many posts you make in a day and that determines how many words you need in the freakin message!!!??? SHEESH!!**
*sigh* | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:04:06 PM |
I personally find it extremely offensive when the first message I get from a woman inquires as to what my profession is. To me, it's no more offensive than in sending a first message to a woman asking about her cup size or if she deepthroats.
I have had this happen more than once and would like someone else's perspective.
I'm sorry, I guess the shallowness amazes me at times.
brad, i think perhaps you're over-reacting to that kind of question a bit, assuming that in asking that the woman wants to know how much money you make.
not at all in my case -- i have a career of my own and do quite well -- but i very often ask very soon (if not first mail, def first conversation) what does he do for a living.
it isn't about money at all, it's about compatibility and it's about 'getting to know you.' i indicate my profession right in my profile and if the guy doesn't? i will likely ask right away...
not about money at all.
i recently met a guy for the first time who spent a long time detailing for me how well off he is, all his properties, making it very clear that he is well to do.
what he did not know was that he was digging himself into a very fat hole, so far as i was concerned, because to me it is quite shallow to try to sell yourself to me on the basis of how much money you have -- i won't be with a guy for that kind of reason.
so i very nicely said something about 'isn't it interesting, the different priorities people have?' and he asked what i meant and i said well clearly it has been very important to you to amass lots of wealth, whereas, for me, this has not been important and will never be important.
to which he responded by saying, "well, women shouldn't worry about making money."
wrong answer.
anyhow -- no, i definitely wanna know what the guy's profession is, and right away, because i want to know who he is, what he does with his life, what's important to him, and whether or not there are compatibility things to think about.
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:22:31 PM | smart-blonde
exactly, I know electricians make darn good money, but no mention of the hamburger flipper with keen personality. BUT MONEY YOU NOTE. freudian slip of the greenbuck no doubt.
again with your sarcasm. PS CEO is not merely a pencil pusher no matter how much you tend to deviate and belittle them. You do a have limited knowledge no wonder you are the typical catty chick .
I can not see you having dinner with a CEO , as he would find the conversation blonde and your only ability stimulate a potential second date from him would no doubt resort to fellatio. Smart -blonde when doing so , turn off the lights by closing the car door.
And for your edification my cousin happens to be an electrician, his salary last year was 150, 000 as much as a some CEO of small companies. Between you and I you do tend to whitewash . | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:28:36 PM | Oh God, now we can't make polite conversation by asking what it is you do with 8-10+ hours of your day? I think what people do for a living is interesting. If a guy is worried that I am trying to find out so I will be able to tell if he can support me or not, he needs to get over himself.
If we didn't ask you would be offended because we didn't seem to express any interest in knowing anything about you 
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:40:29 PM | justcueit, how is my contribution to the form different then yours?
As for ANABOLIC, I happen to be female, blonde, 5'7 and 130ilbs , athletic , rolleblade, motorbike, ski, rollerblade , excellent swimmer and body builder. I have been called stunning and well read by many. I eat whole foods, smoke the odd joint, drink rarely, read voraciously, don't do steroids or other body pollutants and have published short stories, and poety.
My end of day amusement is not the TV. I work hard each day in the health profession, work hard at play, enjoy my dogs and boyfriend and at the end of the night I find it invigorating having an amusing time challenging minds to speak out and write including the witless such as your self.
I use the forum as a sort of ' dropping in on a convo' , ----- this is where potential great anecdotes of peoples thoughts can be harvested and fermented into a short story by me.
It's great research material. I am not merely fluff but count myself as cerebral, entertaining and some times down right cantankerous. I view my self as a polemist/contrarian and a thinker outside of the box. Heck, I am not perfect but boy am I down right lovable and I say this with humility because its reflected back to me on a daily basis. So I go by gut instinct on how my friends and admirers view me.
Naysayers, and hapless critics without foundation of credible discernment such as you and many herein are squashed by my ego as insignificant but like the picnic ant entertaining to watch. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:40:37 PM | Anabolic.......... look above at your post. YOU. .... made the comparison of the electrician vs the CEO. Then said.. which one would the woman choose. I only responded to YOUR comparison. Who is the dumb one now??????
FYI....... I have dated a CEO, Lawyer, Engineer etc. And no, I don't put out either. So sorry to burst your idea of me as a "typical blonde" in your books. By the way.. What is it you do???????? Too embarrassed to answer? When was your last date and what breed to you date? You are a pompous ass, who uses big words to hide is pseudo personality. You lack humor. Note when one puts a , it is a humorous comment. Get your pencil out of your ass, you might laugh for once in your life.
I typically refuse to step to lower people's level ... but you leave me no choice. If you are going to throw in personal sexual slams, now is my turn. You are so starched, use big words, and obviously too pompous to even give a woman fellatio, let alone probably don't know how to do it. Your tongue is probably as stiff as your personality. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:47:03 PM | when meeting a person or speaking or writing to a person for the first time ask these questions
do you enjoy reading and posting on forums?
do you participate in sporting events . if so , what etc etc
The weather is beautiful. Do you enjoy being out in the sun or do you prefer cool , autumnal weather?
What is your favorite season.
Do you travel? What's the most amazing place you have been to. My favorite part of the world is , list why, explain why.
Do you tend to go away on vacation and for short stays or long term.
see I GAVE YOU A LIST OF OPENING QUESTIONS, THERE ARE MANY MORE WHICH ARE NEUTRAL AND NOT CONFRONTATIONAL OR INVASIVE.
ASKING WHAT YOU DO FOR A LIVING AS AN OPENING IS RUDE. ONLY DULLARDS REFUSE TO ACCEPT THIS AS A TAUTOLOGY OF SOCIAL DECORUM. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:47:44 PM | OMG>>>>>>>>> I am so
For some reason I always thought Anabolic came across and was a guy. With the type of posts written, they seemed so male versioned. I just looked at the profile to see what the comparison statement was to justcutie and realized he is actually a she.
Now... I should say.. why don't you and BP hook up? You two would make a good match, since you side with each other etc.
The difference between her and you.
She has a boyfriend, you don't.
She is on 144 favorites list and you are on 5.
Now which personality wins here?????????
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Posted: 6/6/2007 8:53:54 PM | SMART BLONDE YOU ARE TOO DIM TO UNDERSTAND, THE LIGHT BULB DOES NOT APPEAR OVER YOUR HEAD? YOU do not understand my posts. You are definitely incapable of insightful thinking or evaluating intent of statement.
You are seriously in need of wiring to light up the light bulb.
There is nothing wrong with fellatio and yes I have performed it on many times, quite good at it. Unlike you , I just don't use it when the guy is bored at small minded conversation as you continue to display herein on the forum.
And your counter points are reflecting your pedestrian debating attempts and your social level in society.
I am not here to win points or favorites. It is not how I base my value.
And you do have a habit of making unwarranted assumptions in some vague attempt to belittle and distract and insult as if you are of some import or have credible credentials to forment your infantile insults. Specifically 'boyfriend'. You assume incorrectly but then................
A woman like you would use 'boyfriend' as a weapon to cast value on another's worthiness. WHich I interpret, if YOU don't have a man you must feel empty and worthless. Therefore, it explains much why you write the way you do and think the way you do. Therefore, my deduction is proven , what a 'boyfriend' does for a living is quite appealing if its something you could brag to your female friends. You may deny this , as I know you will. However, truth is your critiques and insults are what they are from how you percieve what is important in value and what matters.
i will allow you to have the last word , go ahead as it will no doubt amount to more assumptions on your part to argue like a typical woman who thinks she wins by going on and on and on and on and on. Just for your edification I am on the forum to view and learn and not to pursue or shop for a man I will leave that to you so you may garn self worth by counting the 'favorites list' .
now , get those nails out and start keyboarding......................... enlighten the diatribe by your rapier like wit..............................................
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Posted: 6/6/2007 9:06:38 PM | WHAT IS IS YOU DO AGAIN ANABOLIC..... I am so stupid I never caught that part?
You do not know me personally to know my sexual life. I think you are jealous. You have no pic and no job posted. Why all the hiding????????? Hiding behind all the words makes you appear to be a meek little soul.
Actually, I do understand your posts, but sometimes when you talk "normal" and not all psuedo intellectual, it makes you more "real". I am intelligent, but I am also down to earth and a fun person. I don't think you are down to earth nor fun. I don't go blasting my intelligence with big words.
If you also note on here...... I don't think you have made many friends on your side here on the post. If you were smart, you would of quit a long time ago. You have argued with just about everyone on here.
You obviously didn't understand my post. You asked justcuite how is yours different than hers. I stated what was different. Care to disagree on that? There you go reading too much into it. Did I state anything about how a man makes a woman more worthy? NO. Did I state anything about needing a man? NO
I rest my case. I care not to waste anymore of my time on someone who has no importance to me or in my life. | |
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