| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:24:18 PM | | That OP has got himself some kind of sharp suit .... I wonder what the joker does for a living ? ....probably in sales....he looks like a bit of an operator. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:27:09 PM | | I don't find it offensive at all. It's a pretty standard "getting to know you" type question and it shows an interest in who you are. While it can help people gauge what sort of income someone might make I doubt it's the main reason why most would ask the question. The same job title can mean very different pay levels between companies. I've found with my employer over the years that job titles get changed periodically to sound fancier and more important but the pay doesn't necessarily reflect what one would think it should be for that profession. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:28:27 PM | | As you can see bdpowel smart ass answers are pretty much the norm with most of the gals on this site. With all the complains women have towards the many issues with men and how they treat their women you would think any question along those lines would be of more importance. But as you can see in a lot of cases its not. By the time any man in America has gone thru one of our kangaroo courts for divorce,it doesn't take a HS GED to figure out where a womans head is at. These women who ask how much you make a year are already thinking of her next divorce and how set up she's gonna be.Don't kid yourself. Maybe its YOU who should start asking how much the women make. After its all said and done you will stand a far better chance in court of haveing a life if your ex makes as much as you do. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:32:12 PM | I think he's in the oil industry, myself. It's Texas ands he's got an expensive car and he's smiling, so....yeah..it's oil. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:32:18 PM | Why would that be offensive unless you are looking for faults? I have always considered one's profession as something that is hard earned and at times can be very interesting. What better to speak about at a first meeting? It is a completely benign topic. Talking about the politics, religion, the past, the future, your family may not be subjects for a new friend or stranger. So what DO you talk about on a first date? The weather? In my job I meet people every day that work construction and get their hands dirty for a living. This does not mean in any way that they are uneducated, not interesting or broke.
I have also met Dr's that are alcoholics, lawyers that went to Ivy League schools that work for legal aid and do mostly pro bono work, and accountants that cheat on their taxes. What you do may not say a damn thing about who you are or what you earn. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:36:08 PM | "1000 ct. sheets ??? Those are like $450.00 a set"
Actually, I just had to check them out and Walmart has them on special right now for $70.00.  Maybe the OP is a "bargain hunter" by profession.
The point is....we made an assumption about 1000 ct. sheets. And you make an assumption about a question people ask you!
I taught ESL for 25 years in Europe. Beginner courses teach students how to form questions in English within the first few units. The question form to ask about a person's job is idiomatic in English and in many other languages too. That alone indicates how commonplace the question is from culture to culture. The sub-text MIGHT be that the person asking is trying to get information related to money but, overall, a question related to what a person does for a living is acceptable, appropriate and never out-of-line.
RVL | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:40:27 PM | That's why I state what I do in my profile. Hey it's not glamorous and I don't make tons of dough. I don't talk about money, yours or mine. I have enough to get by on. I don't waste money on useless trinkets, buy luxury cars or go to expensive restaurants to impress women, and can't stand women who have to be impressed by how much a gullible guy would spend on them without them opening their wallets. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:49:37 PM | Note: profession is one of the standard fields in the POF profiles.
Cup size and deep-throating skills are not.
That says something about the BASIC GETTIN' TO KNOW YA stuff.
I, for one, have enough of a relationship with what I do for a living to consider asking about "profession" a viable part of the VERY preliminary stages of the "getting to know you" process.
But nevertheless, go ahead and be all defensive and paranoid about women's intentions if you wish. It says a lot about your general opinions about women, their motivations, their purpose, and the relationship between men (work) and women (tits and orifices?) as genders.
As a WOMAN, I'm offended by your very silly comparison.
 | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:51:30 PM | I think he's in the oil industry, myself. It's Texas ands he's got an expensive car and he's smiling, so....yeah..it's oil.
* thinks to self *
Yeah , maybe she's right , he does have a kind of ewing-esque look about him ..but with more of the smooth talking operator slippery grin......he probably has bull horns on the front of his big shiny lincoln continental . ...those boats are murder on gas , but he probably gets his gas free ..the b*stard... I wonder if he even pays any taxes...probably not. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:51:34 PM | .
Yeah, it’s true, some people just don’t want others to know what they do for a living. Personal preference, I guess.
Interestingly enough, no one has ever asked me that. Probably, though, that’s because I’m kind of happy with my profession(s) -- past and present -- and therefore spell it out clearly, in proper English, on my profile. Besides, it’s kind of hard for me to hide when my photo is up; I was in the public eye for a while and some locals recognize me.
But, when someone I might be interested in positively refuses such information to me, I have a very effective fix: disregard them.
. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:51:43 PM | You look like you just came from a black-tie event so naturally that makes women think you have money.
Change the picture of you in the tux to a pair of dirty overalls -- that should stop the questions ... 
| |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:58:54 PM | I find that often talking about what one's profession is a common icebreaker or topic of conversation. Since you have none listed in your profile, you may as well put "ask me". When I was available I had mine listed, it seems more of a curiosity if you seem hesitant than if you just put something general.
It's a valid question not for income reasons, but for many it's a factor in their lifestyle. Someone who works odd or long hours, has changing shifts, or a dangerous job, someone might want to know that before they date someone or spend time getting to know them.
I think you're reading a bit into it, but it's your profile, so do as you choose. I just wouldn't always assume the worst when someone asks you a fairly simple and common question.
I had several ask where I lived and I just asked why did they want to know. Turns out it was so they could pick a place to meet that would be convenient.
Sometimes making assumptions may make it more difficult for you when someone's motives may not be bad at all. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:00:15 PM | I'll offer a compromise:
Anyone who wants to know my cup size, profession or income can just ask and I promise not to be offended.
If you want to know the answer to the deep-throat question, my answer will always be:
"Depends on the size of your winky."
How'd'ya like *them* apples, Hi-WayMan? | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:03:11 PM | I'm in "upper management". I work for a large corporation within a an even larger industry. I have 1000's of people below me. ... I cut the grass at the local cemetery!!!
Let me guess too... I want to play. OK...short hair...tux...some kind of what appears to be a medal on the lapel...I got it...A serviceman....and judging by the weight I'd even venture to go so far as to say officer. Did I win?
Get a life buddy. If you don't want anyone to know what you do for a living then tell them its none of their business, but don't go griping about it in the forums after having your picture taken in front of someone else's car in a rented tuxedo on your way home from a vacuum cleaner convention.
I'm with *tinydancer* 1000 %...thread count or not. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:03:43 PM |
Ted..again to me just another way of asking..HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU MAKE?
That's an assumption based on some past experience with women that did ask that question in hopes of knowing what you make? No doubt, those women exist.
If you are assuming that's the motive everytime or even most of the time, I think that's unfortunate and incorrect to assume before you know where the question comes from.
I ask what everyone does. Especially men because work is important to them. It's a very important part of their lives, it shows up in their personalities if they are happy with their chosen professions. I like hearing what people do for a living and if they are doing what they love, and if they are successful.
Success does not equal how much money. I've had people ask me if I'm successful in my endeavors. I only go by my own personal opinion of what that is and that's not monetary. I don't care what someone does, how much they make. If I were to be involved with someone, I would not be with someone that is unhappy with their professional life and not doing a thing to be happy.
I do see how you could be sensitive, given our materialistic society. I would think it kind of sad if you don't stop to think about the person behind the question first. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:09:52 PM |
Anyone who wants to know my cup size, profession or income can just ask and I promise not to be offended.
Ummm ....let me guess...DD ... bank teller / part time topless bartender ....75 k ? | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:10:53 PM | | I have to agree with msflis....if your gonna be a lawyer, gee are ya gonna be able to spend time with me, are you a professional football player,"oooh I hate football"...get the drift....that would be my only reason why I would ask | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:12:19 PM | | Better than what I've been asked on initial e-mails. Namely, "do you own your own house?" and "exactly how much money DO you make?". I could just swoon! | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:14:29 PM |
Women are mainly interested in money and penis size. They can't help it . They seem to born that way.
um isn't that just as bad as saying all men are interested in is sex? Is that ok for us to say too then? okidoki
Hey you guys are saying some pretty mean stuff about the OP. I think he just asked the question because he is making an assumption that asking what you do for a living equates with asking you what you make. They are actually not the same. Sure some people have blue collar jobs and some have white collar but I can tell you from first hand experience ( my job LOL) that some white collar folks are up to their ears in debt and don't make as much as the blue collar guys who have no debts.
Asking what someone does for a living is NOT the same as asking them how much money they make. Wrong assumption. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:15:16 PM | | Have you thought of this.? Instead of being offended when someone asks, just say something like "My profession is just how I make a living. What I'm really interested in is...". Then bring up a hobby or other interest. How someone replies to that would be a better indicator of their intentions. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:20:57 PM | As a girl I wonder why they care too. Guys ask me all the time what I do for a living. I tried speed dating.
First question - So tell me about Radioface
Second question - What do you do for a living
How freaking lazy can you be?
Why do they care? Ask me what I did last weekend. Where I volunteer. If I'm a dog or cat person.
I hear you Brad.
Just in case anyone really does care
I'm a construction project manager
Wow am I freaking cool. Guess I can pay my own bills.
Quit my job and am done June 15th. Taking the summer off. So soon to be unemployed.
Wow am I freaking cool. Guess I can still pay my own bills.
I totally get you Brad. Who freaking cares what I do for a living? Do I like it? I guess not, I quit.
I’ll still be the same person June 16th as I was June 15th I’m just going to get up an hour later. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:23:32 PM | What you do for a job has always seemed to me like a fairly standard early question. It's not the same as what you earn because people can be at various points in a career at many ages, so what you make could vary greatly. It can also vary greatly by whether you work in the public or private sector. Just because one might have a high profile - income wise - profession: say doctor, lawyer, etc. certainly doesn't mean you aren't also in debt way over your head either. On the flip side, some jobs that don't sound that great can actually pay very well and have great benefits. Also, it matters to some people how much you like your job and/or how portable your profession is in case you don't both live in the same town.
Then again, if that's the ONLY thing they write in their message ... well, I don't think that's the best way for them to score points in a first message. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:27:54 PM | I just had to point out that this is not particularly true.
On the site as a whole MOST of us DO have professions listed. Had I been referring only to the folks posting to this topic, I'd have said that.
He's omitted it.. what did he think.. no one would notice and not ever ask? That's just insanity. Leaving it blank then being offended when people ask what is a really standard question. | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:32:07 PM | When im'ing , women ask me what I do ...I don't mind .
But , I have said in the past ...
Ok I will tell you , but you have to promise you won't reply "oh cool" ...
they always say "oh cool " !! | |
|
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 3:34:09 PM | | gosh how u getting away with it being the first question they dont even ask me at all nor care too busy asking the other questions u listed ................ | |
|
Home
login 
