| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:35:20 PM |
I find it offensive to have to state my age on these Personals sites. A woman's age has always been her own business up until recently. 
Ya what she said!! | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:39:38 PM | Well it is unfortunate that some women, not all mind you, are looking for the next walking wallet. Allow me to GENERALIZE here just a bit. It is usually the younger more attractive ones (again refer to the word GENERALIZE), who are not necessarily seeking love, but a way of life they choose not to work for themselves.
In those cases it's not about how nice a guy, how handsome, how religious/spiritual etc. It's about "I want a free ride, and I want that ride to be a d amn good one."
You're very right...... it is offensive and as a woman, some of my sisters out there are giving the rest of us a very bad name. I apologize on behalf of that part of my gender. However...... my apology means squat, LOLOL. Unfortunately, it's the nature of some beasts.
On any dating site of course we're trying to sell ourselves, so it really helps to put our best foot forward. Your best foot stands out, with your age bracket, marital status, as a lot of women look for that first off i.e......."he's 51 now and no doubt financially secure, blah blah blah.........." Just be glad you didn't post a picture of your house, boat, car etc.
I might suggest take off what you set your female age limits to though. I mean take it off altogether. The reason why I suggest that is pretty much obvious. Some of the older ones may whine about you looking for a trophy, and some of the 18 - 25 year olds will be looking for that "sugar daddy", and be thinking that you must be willing to cater to the princess syndrome.
I am very glad you are OFFENDED, and I am glad you spoke up about it. Hopefully some of that type will learn how truly dispicable it is. The good news is........ you'll be able to delete them as soon as that obnoxious question is asked.
As for the sheets???? Just be glad you didn't mention silk.
Take care my friend and good luck in your search.
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Witchy | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:42:09 PM | I'd say that was a materialistic woman if that was in fact the very first thing she asked you!
Total turn off!
I work as lineman for Southern Company. Although the money is great, I work very very hard for every cent I earn, and I'd never date a woman who was materialistic, no matter how much of a total babe she is and no matter how much she was interested in me after the fact! | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:42:26 PM | I can see where you MIGHT be offended by someone asking what you do for a living, especially if you are NOT PROUD of what you do for a living. But honestly, what is the big deal???
If it's that big of a secret or you are ashamed of your job perhaps you should consider finding another way to meet people and pray they don't take an interest in you and your employment. That just might solve your problem. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:45:26 PM |  Oh please Brad...hardly the same as you say... who knows the reason a woman asks..I for one do not ask...thats comes soon enough, but to compare asking about employment and boob size...dont make me laff !!! I would like to know why it bothers you so much??? Just tell them..u work..period | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:46:23 PM | Good grief...OP.... get over it. 
You can put in general what line of work you're in and then you might not get asked. But, if someone has that area blank, then, why take offense when you get asked what profession you are. It's a blank space on a profile and a target for a possible inquiry right from the get go.
And, it is no where near the same thing as asking the cup size of a woman's breast or a man's penis size. Get real. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:48:22 PM | Well as a woman I to find that offensive, asking how much money you make, in my oppinion its none of anyone's business. Asking aboout your job discription now that is another thing and that is fine an dandy no harm done. I for one don't care who knoow the kind of jobs or working skills I have an if anyone needs to know I have worked on the farm chopping cotton an picking cotton for a living or to help out some an raising our own food to store.I have worked in a garment plant making men's an boys pants for years to help support my family an worked in a cafe aan nursing home and now I am taking in ironing an mending clothes to help out.
The question is what is wrong with this picture, not a thing its honest money.Its not begged for stolen nor being handed out by a free hand. Bigfatansassy   | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:51:03 PM | | Well people ask me that too and I'm 21 years old. And I certainly don't look loaded. So I think that for some people it can just be a conversation piece. However in your case, you probably encounter more of the gold digger types. What a guy does for a living isn't something I ask. Not unless he hints to it and I find it to be something interesting. If not then I'll just respond with an 'uh huh that's nice...' If we know each other better or are possibly dating I'm open to hearing more (the good, the bad) but strictly as a conversation and helping him through any stress. Not because I'm interested in the money he makes. It's really not any of my business anyway. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:51:35 PM | Well as a woman I to find that offensive, asking how much money you make, in my oppinion its none of anyone's business. Asking aboout your job discription now that is another thing and that is fine an dandy no harm done. I for one don't care who knoow the kind of jobs or working skills I have an if anyone needs to know I have worked on the farm chopping cotton an picking cotton for a living or to help out some an raising our own food to store.I have worked in a garment plant making men's an boys pants for years to help support my family an worked in a cafe aan nursing home and now I am taking in ironing an mending clothes to help out.
The question is what is wrong with this picture, not a thing its honest money.Its not begged for stolen nor being handed out by a free hand. Bigfatansassy P.S. I woouldn't give a tinkers damn about much money you had or made or had on hands it would be you that I cared aboout. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:53:12 PM | | oh god, i just have to pipe-up on this one! dont be so shocked dude...how about when a girl asks straight out how much you make a year? or " are you whitecollar" or "are you a business owner" but the most popular question I hear is "do you work?" does the word "golddigger" ring any bells? or are girls so used to dealing with unemployed food stamp recipients that they are just too cautious? but if they only knew the image/first impression they project...... | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 4:57:37 PM | Well I don't find it offensive but it does put up a flag for the person I'm chattin with, My normal answer is male prostitute : ), other sites have or ask you to put you profession in your profile, if you wish too. From my pics you can see I have a pretty nice life Not bragging just saying, telling the truth, I have worked hard to get where I'm at so what!, I know it could all change tomorrow Life is like that. So when a lady, actually just had one for the first time this last week ask me, My inital reaction was not positive, I didn't tell her that in our chat but it set a bad tone for me. I would not take the time to meet her for sure just because of that.
Dan | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:00:25 PM | I think asking what you are involved in is not rude personally. So many people identify with "what they do" today. I've found over the years its a great way to have a conversation... and to see if that conversation is going to be interesting. I've also found most men love to talk about their work and appreciate a woman who is savvy enough to understand what he's talking about.... now if she asks how much money you make that IS Rude!!! And none of her business.....
Bust size has nothing to do with day to day real life.....lol
Going in dating land....
Girlflower | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:02:06 PM | 111 messgages plus..... no time to sift through all of them.
I am probably repeating what others may have written.
I ask primarily because it is what takes up one of the biggest parts of our lives.
I ask to establish a common ground, or to have them tell me something interesting about their job. Gold digger? Naaah. Got my own.
If they told me they were an English Teacher/Property Manager, I would be thrilled. Nothing to run out on in terms of conversation. Misery loves company and vice-versa in shared fields.
The pointed questions about sex/body size, well yeah....they're tacky.
If anyone asked me my breast size, I would say:
I am the square root of size AAA.
Anyone ever notice the odd parallel between bra size and battery size?
Things that make you go Hmmmmmm.......
WD | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:08:27 PM |
I personally find it extremely offensive when the first message I get from a woman inquires as to what my profession is.
I'm not offended at all if someone asks what my profession is. I state very clearly in my profile that I'm fully retarded and semi retired. I also state that I'm self employed. If someone wants more details, I have no problem with that. I'm not ashamed of what I do and that I enjoy my work. What a person does for a living tells me a lot about their education, skills, interests, etc. I really don't care about their income but the type of work that they do tells me a lot about them and opens the door to further conversation. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:08:30 PM | OP- You put in your profile you want a woman that's extremely passionate and sensual, and then as the other replies have said, list expensive tastes, pictures in a suit/tux, bmw in the background, etc. My, we aren't the hypocritcal hedonist are we? You love luxury including sensual women within a HUGE age range. Me thinks you ought not to be so critical of women wanting to know OTHER things about you- for instance are you really employed or are you a poser?
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:18:45 PM | I have sat here and debated on whether or not to jump in on this thread. I decided it was worth the few minutes it takes to type a response.
I believe the questions, and assumed intent, might be regional. Having been raised in the South, I would never come out and ask someone how much money they make. That is just not polite! But, then again, most folks outside the South don't usually use "Bless his heart" right after they have just put someone down.
I believe you have received good advice from some of the posters when they have told you to respond vaguely to the question. I wouldn't automatically assume that the person asking is trying to get a grip on your checking account. You might have missed out on a potentially fantastic relationship because of your assumptions.
As one person stated, you couldn't "hear" the tone of voice or inflection used when the question was asked. If you think the person asking the question would interest you if the question had not been asked, why not spend some time swapping emails and see if your assumption was correct? | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:22:39 PM | Ok, here is the message that was sent. Nothing more following than a name of the person sending it to me.
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Nice profile. I think you are very handsome.
What is your profession?
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Again, it was the first question asked!!!!
Not what kind of music I enjoy or when you see a movie, what type do you typically see. Do you have children..for god's sakes are you married...as some are here.
So when I share on my profile what my likes are i.e. sheets some of the more shallow minded I am sure thinks it implies something sexual? lol alrighty ........I don't quite understand that but if you want to read SEX into the sheets you sleep on, let it be.
I am surprised by some of the responses being as rude as they have been. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:28:55 PM | It is rude to ask personal questions from the get go I agree. I just realized I never look or care what their profession is. First thing I check is the smoking and if they are married beyond that for a beginning of a friendship the rest is to be discoved. Good luck in meeting that special lady she's out there somewhere. J | |
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Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 120 | |
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:33:17 PM | | I wouldn't want to get a message like that. Not only it was the first question asked, it was the ONLY one asked. I'd throw that fish back. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:33:52 PM | Hey Brad ...Here is a list of fake jobs ...feel free to use any of them the next time a woman asks what you do for a living
Waste Station/Water Treatment Worker
Fortune Cookie Writer
Professional Whistler
*Cow tipper
Snake Milker
Adult Store Attendant
Dog Food Tester
*I have dibs on cow tipper so you can't use that one!!
Indigo...too funny. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:39:17 PM | Had I received an email such as the one you received, I would have written "Thank you for the nice compliment. I'm in investments, banking, real estate, power tools, or whatever is a generic description of your profession.
In fact, while no one ever tells me I'm attractive (no pic), they do quite often ask me what a former country club wife is. | |
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 123 | |
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:40:02 PM | | bdpowell~ ....it's called an 'icebreaker', perhaps from someone who may not be as socially glib as you. You left an opportunity to ask a question. She did. However, you opted to turn this into a forum-frenzy. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:40:44 PM | | I for one have never asked anyone what they do for a living right off. I get to know a bit about the person first and decid if I like them enough to inquire futher. When I run outta junk to say or ask, I ask, what a person does, tells you a lil bit more about them. I don't ask because I want to know what kind of money they make. I couldn't give a dang about money, I have my own. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:43:38 PM | This is funny ,,the guy wears a suit in a pic and drives a BMW that the bank probably owns if not good for you,,,and people are assuming he has money Funny how people can come to these conclusions...
I really don't see the issue with the question....lighten up there budz,she could have asked you if thats your real hair
 have a nice nite everyone | |
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