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Posted: 6/5/2007 5:43:50 PM |
Again, it was the first question asked!!!!
Yeah right after 2 compliments. How awful.
You left it blank. OF course someone will ask it's all that's missing. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:48:11 PM | eazk..screw you
I ignored you first rude remark, but choose not to this time.
I simply asked for a response how how some felt with this being the ~very~ first question someone were to ask. Seems alot agreed, some did not and thats ok. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. This world would be a very dull place if there was only 1 train of thought.
I did not turn this into a forum frenzy as you might suggest. | |
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TeJay
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Joined: 1/16/2007
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 5:55:43 PM | You're too funny.. you forgot Underwear model.
I see both points. I just responded to a simular post. "if the profession is blank, does it mean they have no job". My answer was yes..probably. Only from my experience is that I didn't ask the question when I went to meet someone on this site and then found out he actually didn't have a job. I paid for the dinner. He had been on workman's comp for couple years as well as lifetime pain meds, (my assumption here)...but I also would not ask as a first question.
I list one of my seasonal jobs but not all of what I do. I think it comes out through conversation after we mutually agree that we might have things in common as far as profiles. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:14:43 PM | "This is funny ,,the guy wears a suit in a pic and drives a BMW that the bank probably owns if not good for you,,,and people are assuming he has money Funny how people can come to these conclusions...
I really don't see the issue with the question....lighten up there budz,she could have asked you if thats your real hair" Yeah firefighter pretty much stole the show with that one!!
Honestly, OP a lot of guys you don't even need to ask. So maybe you're just different. Many men love to talk about their work, after all it's something they spend more time doing than anything else.
If it makes someone more comfortable to talk about their job, then it doesn't offend me at all. Have had lots of interesting conversations, and money or income was NEVER a part of it. Unless they tell me when I haven't asked. You'd be surprised how many do. I find that a turnoff, as much as posting a pic of their car, house or boat.
If you want to be mysterious about it, like I said before, that's totally your choice.
Most people just read/delete emails they don't like, rather than making it a thread topic. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 6:16:32 PM | To me it's conversation to keep things going, not a "how much do you make question" I don't want to know a person's financial situation. Hell they could make a ton but be in debt to their eyeballs and no better off then the next guy. A person's profession is a part of them, isn't that what getting to know someone is all about? I get nervous asking that question nowadays because guys get all freaked out about it, shouldn't be that way.
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:26:53 PM | I suppose so. But guys ask me the very same thing, first contact. Also, who I live with or who lives with me. If I own or rent. And it seems, no answer is good. If I own a house, and he doesn't live alone, he thinks it's a good deal and he can just come over. If I do own a house, then I can't move in with them.
Works both ways.
:) Cali | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:37:56 PM | | To me, the question is just a way of breaking the ice... I didn't even realise it could be offensive. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 6:54:51 PM | i find it offensive when I ask a guy what he does,,, he tells me what his job is that makes him money. Unless his job is his passion, I want to know what it is I life that really turns your crank! | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 6:55:14 PM |
Hey Brad ...Here is a list of fake jobs ...feel free to use any of them the next time a woman asks what you do for a living
Waste Station/Water Treatment Worker
Fortune Cookie Writer
Professional Whistler
*Cow tipper
Snake Milker
Adult Store Attendant
Dog Food Tester
When people asked me what I do for work/ a living I used to tell them 'I sell drugs to babies. Crack coated pacifiers are my specialty' Some people got the joke (that I made up an answer that was over the top to make fun of the question) but some had no sense of humor at all. Stuck with a stick up their butt. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 7:12:32 PM | I think it is a totally logical question...I ask it to see if it is something else we have in common. Or maybe something I am interested in knowing more about. Or something he would like to talk about and is something he is passionate about.
Couldn't care less if a guy is rich or not....do care if he can support himself....as I can support myself and my kids. Alas, not all women are created equal so I can understand why you would find it offensive.
I have learned it the hard way, the odd looks that you are not alone in this feeling. Actually, you are probably feeling what the majority feels! | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 7:20:46 PM | I think asking what ones does for a living is a general question.
#1. A person's job can tell you a lot about someone. Did they go to college, are they a physical type worker, maybe they don't even have one.
#2. A person should be proud of what they do for a living.
The OP put seeking 18-50 on his profile. His kids are all over 18. No wonder he doesn't want to put his career. He might end up being a Sugar Daddy to an 18yr old!LOL That is just sick in my books. Seeking younger than what your kids are! | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 7:28:37 PM | Hey... I was in Arlington Texas for my nieces prom not long ago ( visiting relatives)... OP... you sure look like the limo driver that was hired for her prom !!!
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 7:34:28 PM | Smart-Blonde..seems you are not so smart after all. If you had read my profile you would find that most of the traits I am looking for are not defined by age. Although incomes are typically defined by profession. Just because I do not choose to reveal what I do after the first question asked to me, does not mean I am not proud of what profession I am in. It does not make me a sugar daddy or any other fantasy you might have.
Again, what someone does for a living does not define who they are. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 7:38:55 PM | You seem like a nice guy…I wouldn’t worry too much about the thread count fetish.
When I was in high school it was kind of common when you met a girl to ask…”so, what school do you go to”” in college people ask “so what’s your major?” and when you’re older you ask questions like “so what do you do for a living?” I really don’t think women are trying to size up how deep your pockets are. I believe it’s just casual conversation. I ask women that question all the time. I build a conversation around it and also ask questions like “so you’re an attorney…what kind of law do you practice?” or “did you ever make a judge mad?” It just gets the conversation going. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 7:39:05 PM | Has anyone looked at OPs profile lately? After all this discussion, I had to take a look.
OP has posted that his profession is "Chippendale Dancer". While it is not likely that this is true, at his age, I am left with the feeling that this man may not know when to use his sense of humor, or may not be a sincere, truthful person.
Knowing what he does for a living is of little interest to me at this point. He has revealed to me in his profile, and the attitude and language in his several posts, what kind of a person he is, and, that we are not on the same wavelength...This is neither a negative nor a positive......it is simply a fact.
Sincerely,
KNITTIN KITTEN | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 7:48:20 PM | My guess would be your a janitor in a high school....
This explains the suntan... you work at night, while the school is empty.
Doesnt matter to me, just sharing my thoughts on the subject since I met plenty of guys from online and not a one who posed with cars had a job worth a darn.
that or your working in make ready in a car dealership... you know those guys who hose down the cars in the early morning before they open.
ps, I saw on OPHRA that arlington texas is one of the USA's best dating cities for women.... they have a large selection of dateable men there in the 20-50 age group. Tall, handsome guys with good jobs... and a very low divorce rate compared to other large cities.
hmmm.... guess its tough being a guy there with so much competion. The mystery worker route working for you OP?
LOL
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Posted: 6/5/2007 7:50:14 PM | [what someone does for a living does not define who they are.]-bdpowell
Well, I happen to agree with that attitude personally, & to be honest, very few people have jobs that
are interesting or that I would really want to talk about. But not everybody feels that way. When I first
starting dating my boyfriend (1 & 1/2 years ago)the first thing my sister asked me, was "What does he
do for a living?" I actually had to re-read his profile & look it up. I couldn't remember! | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 7:55:02 PM |
Smart-Blonde..seems you are not so smart after all. If you had read my profile you would find that most of the traits I am looking for are not defined by age. Although incomes are typically defined by profession. Just because I do not choose to reveal what I do after the first question asked to me, does not mean I am not proud of what profession I am in. It does not make me a sugar daddy or any other fantasy you might have.
You selected the age bracket 18-50. That is what shows on your profile. I have no fantasies of a sugar daddy, trust me, I make a great living on my own. Maybe you might want to do a search on my profession and see how much I make. You might be impressed! My point of sugar daddy is a 51 yr old seeking an 18 yr old. Why else would an 18yr old want to date a 51 yr old? I am assuming you have a problem with your job/income because you got taken before or have had people like you just for your money.
Maybe you aren't so smart! I don't have a 7 series BMW in my pics and an expensive suit. If you are afraid of one judging you for your money, then maybe you should put some pics of you in jeans and casual shirt. | |
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Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 145 | |
| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 7:56:04 PM | I have another thought on this topic: I have seen many profiles that do not specify profession. That tells me that it's not something the person wants to discuss with strangers right away. So, I don't bring it up until he does first. In an IM, I have had gentlemen refer to how busy their day was at work - that is my opportunity to ask him what he does for a living.
It's a shame that some people can't discuss certain topics in the forums without attacking or judging the OP or other people who have responded to a thread. It's perfectly legal for the OP to date anyone 18 or over. You can assume whatever you want and you may or may not be right, but it's none of your business. Also, there are perfectly good catches out there who don't work - some are on workman's comp, some are independently wealthy, some are on sabbatical, etc. It's up to you if you want to date them or not. Just stop telling them they are wrong when they are not. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 8:02:52 PM | [what someone does for a living does not define who they are.]-bdpowell
Well, I happen to agree with that attitude personally, & to be honest, very few people have jobs that are
interesting or that I would really want to talk about. But not everybody feels that way. When I was first
dating my boyfriend (1 & 1/2 years ago)the first thing my sister asked me, was "What does he do for a
living?" I actually had to re-read his profile & look it up. I couldn't remember!  | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 8:05:49 PM | Smartblonde, unlike others...I really do not care what you make. In fact I do not recall asking you, particularly within the FIRST question.
Secondly, if you were that smart you would have recognized that I had jeans and a casual shirt on in the picture you referred to. I do not care how much money you make, most shallow people would though. A ~GREAT~ living is different to different people. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2007 8:06:55 PM | I think that asking what your profession is is natural. You work at least 5 days out of 7.... that's a HUGE part of your life and who you are.
I'm actually usually somewhat irritated when people leave it blank.
I also find it strange that you equate asking your profession with asking blatantly sexual questions to women... but that's another matter all together. | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 8:10:28 PM |
OP~ Offensive....LOL...as you proudly display pics of you in a tuxedo and with a BMW behind you. You're out trolling for women 33 years younger than you. What a self-absorbed a$$ you are....all because you're not clever enough to handle the question in a way that makes both of you feel good. And then you equate that question to bra size and deep throating to asking what you do for a living.....sheesh, it's no damn wonder we have so many lesbians in the world....half of them run screaming from the likes of guys like you.
OK.....the other EAZK will be back to the keyboard in a few minutes.
EAZK You just saved me a whole lotta typing. Thanks! | |
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| As a guy, I find it offensive...
Posted: 6/5/2007 8:14:42 PM | As I have stated before on a thread elsewhere , asking a person what they do for a living indicates tres guache communication skills and pedesterian manners and boorish behaviour.
I have travelled a great deal and find it is common for people in North America to ask this question within the first few minutes of meeting. Perhaps its indicative of materialism or lack of social conversational skills either way its in poor taste .
The OP proposed a very thoughtful question. The responses given to him indicates many people herein have no idea of ettiquette or social decorum. It also tends to highlight the emotional and intellectual IQ which to seems to be quite average.
IT IS DEFINITELY RUDE TO INQUIRE OF SOME ONE WHAT THEiR CAREER, PROFESSION OR JOB IS IN LIFE. Good breeding is not solely indicative of education but rather what has been instilled as being socially aware and socially presentable.
It's akin to asking a person their bank account status and how much they make per year.
Most seem to be suitable for bingo and beer parties where manners can be finger licking good while eating cheese and macaroni as many surely don't comprehend what the OP was stating.
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