| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/9/2007 2:10:37 PM | i think if you really like'm ...you should trash the profile . like you said theres lots of other ways to stay in contact with friends you met on there . we all have email addresses, cell phones, face book and other sites like that ect ect.
yeah but OP, those other sites don't have forums. The forums make this more than 'just' a dating site. Since we have the options to make our status "not single, not looking" then there is a provision for it. I like to take part in the forums when I am twiddling my thumbs at work waiting for customers so if I wasn't single I would probably still do that. I would hide my profile for searches and tell my SO thats what I am doing. I am a big girl ....I can be committed to someone and still use the forums without being scared of the temptations and the same would go for my SO. The shared profile could be a good idea..or at least let them know what the password is to make them feel more secure I guess. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/9/2007 2:18:13 PM |
The shared profile could be a good idea..or at least let them know what the password is to make them feel more secure I guess.
That is a very good idea... I am in the process of arranging to share a profile with someone. But since we both share a dry acerbic wit, and a joy of bashing small minded people... it might be difficult to tell who was posting. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 4:21:51 PM | I personally can have prince charming ride up sweep me off my feet. I will not be deletign my profile. I would change it to
Not here for anyone
Friends Only
Met a wonderful person this site Rocks.
Here for forums. only
Type of thing I love the forums. I will probably end up with some one that loved the forums as much as I do. So it would be his and her 's pc.'s | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 4:52:14 PM | I like posting on the forums too much to ever delete my profile. I would rather change my setting from single to 'NOT' single and continue posting.
If you don't like posting on the forums though, I would say that after you've been together around three months, suggest that you both go online and remove our profiles together as a sign of your committment to one another. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 5:08:21 PM | I had someone that I met on a different site that was on again off again. When I found this site we were off and as you can tell I Love The Forums. Well she wanted me to delete and I told her show me you want me and I will change my profile, but I wont delete it because I like the forums. She couldnt handle it, nor could she show me so I'm still here and even if I was to find someone from here, One I'm sure we would have to have two computers because I think she would be on the forums too. Two we would know eachothers passwords so we would both know neither was hiding anything from the other (which I dont think would be an issue because if I dont trust, I dont stay) and Three I would have pics of her on mine as Im sure she would want the same on her's and I would change my profile to tell I was with her as I think she would want to too. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 6:11:31 PM | I'm in an exclusive relationship (recently started) and I'm keeping my profile...
I modified it... he read the modifications... looked at me and said "Aw, that's so sweet. Show's me what I mean to you." He never asked me to remove it... he's fine with me hanging around for the forums.
I was on another dating site, also. I deleted that account once we decided to be exclusive because they didn't have the lovely forums. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 8:22:25 PM | I would delete my profile when I know it's a serious commited relationship. Just dating someone is not grounds for deletion in my opinion.. it's true like many have said before, there are other ways of communicating with your friends. It's a dating site, a social community as well as a resource for advice for a lot of people.
Trust is a big factor in relationships and if you don't have it, keeping an active profile will not help the relationship at all.
There is no appropriate time frame for choosing to delete your profile, just a mutual agreement on both ends.  | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 8:48:42 PM | I actually have to agree with EAZK on this one, folks....maybe a little more tactfully and as applied to myself rather than the OP - since I can't knowledgeably say what's good for him without being him.....
I can totally see where this is a serious trust issue....I am a perfectly trusting person until someone gives me reason to think otherwise...I'm also a social butterfly...I have my profile set to "friends" because I'm not actively on the hunt...I'd rather find friends on here than go on numerous painful dates in a shot-gun manner...I've made some hellacool friends on here...closer than ones I had originally in really-real life....although they've started mixing into real life...which is fine as well...I can always use more decent friends. That said, if I had a SO (significant other)....meaning they got to the point and past all the tests which led to them gaining the right of being called "SO"...they'd have an understanding of who I am, how I work, and trust my intentions - i.e. when I say "friend" I mean FRIEND....there's a reason why there are different categories on here people.....just because some don't use them properly doesn't mean all or even a majority of people abuse them....it comes down to TRUST...do you trust your SO to be a person who abides or abuses those terms and intentions? If I had a SO who insisted upon me closing my account, that'd make me very wary of their need for control and trust....like the guys who say in their profiles "I want a woman who doesn't ever talk to her exes"...that reeks of control issues.....runaway!RUNAWAY!!! | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 8:56:41 PM | Ad man.............Too funny. So sad, but true, based on alot of the forum posts on here.
It is time to delete it when you both talk about it and agree to be monogomous in dating each other. I was in a relationship with a guy I met on a dating site, our 3rd date we both deleted our profiles. He initiated the topic first, and I agreed. We dated for two years.
To those who say they won' t delete it because of the Forums.... I would hope I would be too busy with my guy to want to come on to the forums. I think one would forget about the forums when they were in a steady, happy relationship. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 9:58:26 PM | | My opinion would be once you both agree that you want to explore a relationship between you. I firmly believe having a profile on a single's dating site once you have agreed to explore a relationship with someone is disrespectful to the other person. It would create drama in the relationship where it could so easily be avoided. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/24/2007 11:55:31 PM | well it all depends on the person and how things are going between u too.
i would definately take off my profile after things are getting real serious and once we have some sort of commitment to dating each others seriously.
but history has teach me not to jump the gun too fast so to speak.i would say wait a reasonable amount of time.dont take off your profile after just one or 2 chats that would be very naive for example. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/28/2007 9:54:40 AM | | Blondie....I know personally, I'm on here when I have down time and am away from friends/family/SO (when it applies)....I have a very healthy mentality of "I work on computers during the day, so I don't sit on them when not at work"....of course, being single...I am on when not at work...but when I've been in relationships, I still have down time when I'm not with that person and I fill it being social and trying to give a little back...I don't see the harm in trying to help someone from my experiences in life...I don't see the harm in making friends online or even in person...I'm open and completely honest...if I make friends while dating someone, those friends will be integrated into meeting others in my personal life....simple as that. From everyone's logic on "you shouldn't be here if you're dating someone exclusively" - do you also apply the same rules to in-person friends? You should be wanting to spend all of your free time with your SO, not going out with your friends? That's ridiculous...and seriously control-freakish-tendencies. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/28/2007 8:31:08 PM |
I think wanting to leave is a good thing and signals your tired of it and want off, hopefully you will have met someone and feel confident that both parties want to make - a go of it and have the strength and will to do so.
I dont want you to think I'm being rude so dont take it that way. You havnt been here even a month yet and Im sure, like all the rest of us on the forums, will make friends along the way. It is surprising how you get to know people through just there post in the forums. You may even be lucky enough to meet someone from there as I did. Dont close your mind to staying because you may just make some wonderful friends along the way.
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 8/29/2007 9:35:28 AM |
when do tou think, after meeting someone on plenty of fish , is the best time to delete you'r profile as a sign of commitment?
I don't feel it's necessary to delete one's profile as a sign of commitment. I simply modified my profile
1 It's hidden
2 My status is "single/not looking
3 I added a statement to my profile that I have found my "special person".
I have met a lot of great friends and have had a lot of fun in the forums. My SO and I still attend POF activities and singles group activities where we met so many friends before we began seeing each other exclusively. Neither one of us will be deleting our profiles. When we attend these activities we both mix with the group and try to act like host/hostess to make newcomers feel at home.
Neither one us us feels so insecure that we would be at all upset with the other if we met other friends at these events or even online in POF. We go there together and we leave together. There are a lot of other better ways to show commitment besides deleting one's profile.
A person can NEVER have too many good friends. | |
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