| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 9/27/2007 6:06:16 AM | when there is an engagement ring on my finger??
i can have other contacts that i can explain that i am currently seeing someone so im not tooking actively for a new beau if i am so inclined... but until such a time why should i take myself fficially off the market becasue i have had 2-3 dates with someone?? I actually had this conversation that i was dating from POF and he seemed to think that i should change ever last profile i had on the web to not single...
Until such a time as i am remarried i am single...but that is just IMHO
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 9/27/2007 7:44:39 AM | Well i chat to people thousands of miles away, dont see them as a threat to my relationship just as i dont see people that are local. I come on here to acknowledge when i will be going to a local meet so they can cater for numbers, to post on the forums as you are all doing now. A lot of friends i have made from here i do know in the real world, some i have their numbers too but this is just another medium via which i can chat to them rather than running up a mega phone bill. MSN is the same. I have been to a few meets on my own and been made very welcome by many, just because i have met someone doesn't mean i put them on ignore or stop going, it just means the goal posts have now moved and what i intentionally joined for is now not the same reason as i remain here.
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 7/22/2008 6:59:53 AM | I have several opinions on this subject! 1) if u date more than 3 X's & u decide to date exclusively than profile should say not dating/not looking.
2) If the guy asks u out then it is a little more than just dating exclusively. U have to see where it's gonna go with no interruptions. That is when both profiles should be made into one together profile, but only if they have friends on here or participate in forums. If u don't do this then it should specify not dating/not looking and specify u found someone that u r happy with and u r exclusive with that person, u want to give a relationship a try, blah, blah, & so on.
3) If u have been dating exclusively or going out "steady" & decide u r both in love then joint profile should specify that or a message stating u r in love and u r closing out ur account/profile.
I personally have deleted my profile 1X before when the guy I was dating asked. We decided to date exclusive, but not exactly "boyfriend/girlfriend". Only to find out I deleted mine and he just hid his and thought I would not find out. That to me is sneaky and he was only a player. Oh well, live & learn. I don't get mad I just become wiser. But at the time I was very mad that I trusted him I deleted and discovered he was IM' ing everyone. I am honest, I don't play games, & I will do what I say. U must have mutual trust especially on POF! But if u offer to take down ur site u should do it and not play games. If u do then u r only cheating yourself from a potentially great relationship and cheating the other person as well. Do not think when u hide ur profile when u said u would delete it that it can't be discovered because u can find out very easily. So remember honesty us the best policy! So if u don't want to delete or go joint when u start pursuing a relationship then don't offer & be honest and just say I'd not ready to take that step, but at that point then just keep it at a simple dating level because the committment is not there.
This is just my opinion so I hope this helps add another perspective to this subject... | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 7/22/2008 7:09:43 AM | | I met someone (away from here) last year not long after I signed up. I just made my profile invisible since you have to jump through hoops to delete. Now if I were to be exclusive with someone, I'd just change my profile to indicate that I was no longer looking because I enjoy the forums and have made a few friends. I'd only delete if it became obvious I no longer had time or the desire to participate. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 7/22/2008 7:15:11 AM | think about it guys...when u meet the right one you want to be exclusive right away...take away internet dating, that is the way it was before that was it not...any guy i was serious about we both knew from the start, there was no time frame. ur just into each other and you call, see, text, do things all the time...that is normal. spending time on a computer talking to opposite sex is not sorry, i just think if ur still on here chatting with others ur not that into the person...this online dating has really messed alot of things up.
i agree 100% with the above statement......
Although I have many friends on here.... and i like to attend the events.... if my S/O and i decided to attend events with friends, then we could get it through the grape vine...JMO! | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 7/22/2008 7:47:36 AM | | I think after you become serious with someone and are spending time with each other on a regular basis then that would be the time to talk about your profiles and decide what is best. I am currently in a great relationship so we have changed what we are looking for on our profiles. I have moved to not single/not looking and really only use this profile for the forums. This is how I pass my time at work! Lol! But if he wanted me to delete it I wouldn't think twice! | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 7/22/2008 5:12:19 PM | I agree with countrytat.
I personally hate coming to these sites , looking at tons of profiles, sending out emails ect ect. Usuallywhen I start talking to someone that I think I might like, I quit sending out emails . I'd rather just concentrate on the one and see how it goes. many times, it just kind of ends up that two women might respond around the same time though so there might be 2 going at one time. ( I call that juggling and it stresses me out big time.) Usually one of the two will kind of dry up though.
The last girl that I was dating thought this was kind of wierd. (although she hid her profile pretty quickly). We were at different points in our lives though> I am definitely searching for the ONE and she was recently divorced and was wanting to meet different people.
Nothing wrong with either approach in my opinion just as long as both people know what is going on. I've talked to many woman who just can't understand why a guy will tell her that he likes her tons (but continues going on these sites). | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 7/22/2008 7:39:56 PM | If you both value and appreciate what you have found in each other...nix the damn profiles. My goodness isn't that what so many people on here say they are looking for ? That someone special.
I say.....value what you have, cause once it is gone, baby it is gone. Besides, do you honestly think no one will be here if turns out you need to come back? Come on. The whole friends excuse is lame, if they are really your friends you have already established other means of conversation.
Best of luck to Ya!
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 9/13/2008 8:09:30 AM | As soon as the dating thing turns into a relationship I think is time to delete the profile. If one, or both, want to stay here with no dating expectations I think would be fair to change your status to "not single/not looking" and remove any information in your profile that could suggest you are looking for dates...
I wouldn't remove my profile, cause I enjoy the forums; but I, definetely, would change my profile to make it clear I'm seeing someone in a regular basis  | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 9/13/2008 8:57:40 AM | I hid my profile initally after I meant someone on here (actually we both did) HOWEVER I was on here quite a bit because I just love the messag boards...and he thought it was wrong, I can see why he thought differently but at that stage of the game I hadn't given him a reason to think otherwise.
I think after the 3rd date and you really know that you like this person then you should hide the profile and see where it goes, I guess next time around I join another message board so I don't get myself in trouble.  | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 9/14/2008 3:28:56 PM | I personally don't think deleting the profile has any meaning, at any point in time. It takes less than five minutes to simply put the profile back up.
I don't take "deleting" a profile the same as "stop using" a profile.
So IMO the better question is "after meeting someone on here, when should you delete and stop signing on to dating sites? | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 9/14/2008 4:24:45 PM | | This is just what I do but don't try to force on anyone else. If a third date gets planned I hide my profile. If things are going well after one month the profile gets deleted. Yes it's a bit of a hassle rebuilding a profile again but so what. That's just the way I am. I can only concentrate on one lady at a time and I think it shows that I am trying to be honest. Mark | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 9/14/2008 6:23:45 PM | I agree with Chevy Guy2121,
If 2 people meet and are dating on a regular basis, I think that they should delete their profiles. If the relationship don't work out, then, of course they can rejoin. I've noticed with many sites that some people seem to be addicted and although they say that they are in a relationship, they are still signing in and responding to persons that contact them. To me, they don't know what they want. Playing with someone's feelings is a very serious thing. | |
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