| Age limits in profiles
Posted: 6/7/2007 6:36:09 AM | Good grief. It is just PERSONAL choice.
If I don't want to date someone older than me, so be it. No one is going to alter that choice. If I feel like dating someone 20 years younger than me, it is MY choice. The same if I decide to only date 80 year olds.
Some ranting in a Forum about how I am missing out means NOTHING to me and I doubt it is going to affect anyone else.
Suck it up and move on people. | |
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| Age limits in profiles
Posted: 6/7/2007 6:55:33 AM | | I don't have an age limit on my profile because I have a lot of friends who are all over the age map. For dating, depends on the person. I have my own personal age limits, and yes, they are a bit of a double standard for me. The overall decision to date them, has nothing to do with age, but how they make me feel overall. | |
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| Age limits in profiles
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:11:34 AM |
See I think it's pretty clear that you KNOW what you want to drive
and what you Don't. Thing is most of us settle for whatever will
get us to work and back. etc..etc. ad nauseum.
WOW.
Can you say "pontificate" people?
Apparently POF is now being overrun with such.
I give up.
*bangs head on keyboard to no avail* | |
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Posted: 6/8/2007 12:53:23 AM | setting up age limitations for me is cuz if it's older than what i've stated not sure if i can relate to them and may have nothing in common with them. Having said that, personally i don't date anyone older than my half sisters and younger than my nephews.
Dating guys my daughters ages is just NOT kosher! ewwwwwwww! | |
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| Age limits in profiles
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:28:50 AM |
WOW.
Can you say "pontificate" people?
Apparently POF is now being overrun with such.
I give up.
*bangs head on keyboard to no avail*
Wow now I'm the Pope and
my type must be some kind or vermin
to "overrun" this place. Or perhaps an
attacking horde. Not sure who else overruns some place but
I AM sure that they are bad guys.
Thanks for making me a villian coz I'm
not found of age discrimination and my own
family intentions have me searching for someone
younger than me. Guess I'll hang my head in shame
and take myself off to the bingo hall where I can hit
on some nice respectable geriatric tail. | |
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| Age limits in profiles
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:14:25 AM | I have mine set between 21 and 45 mainly because of the friends I meet on forums or for those who wish to contact me about an event or something. I am still very active and involved in sports and entertainment that fits in with younger generation yet I like to do things and have friends from within all that age grouping at work and away from work. As for dating I tend to look to meet someone who is not much younger than myself and not much older. It just makes sense to me to find someone in a similar mindset (ie. already started a family and is raising them or has a good career on the go not someone just starting out fresh from school or looking to start a family or nearing retirement and loking at grandchildren in the near future.)
I know where I am in life and I am looking to meet someone who is right there with me, the age does not say that really but their life experience does. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2007 11:56:13 AM | | I have a few girlfriends who are in their early 20s and they have no desire to date guys thier own age. They all seem to want older men who are my age. As for myself I say give or take 5 years either side of my age, but nothing is set in stone. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 10:42:10 AM | The thing people seem to be distracted from is that the restrictions are on who can talk to you not who you want to date. I have no restrictions on who can talk to me.
I have no interest in dating a twenty-something who is younger than my daughter, or a guy but I have talked to people at events and promised to follow up only to find that they had email restrictions. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 10:49:32 AM | I agree with luvgeek.
The thing people seem to be distracted from is that the restrictions are on who can talk to you not who you want to date. I have no restrictions on who can talk to me.
or email me.
I despise the age limits and most restrictions on profiles. I don't understand why this is such a difficult concept to understand.
If I want to contact someone and I am one year older than his wish list allows, or he restricts everyone except those who have "dating" on their profile it doesn't make sense why a member of the opposite sex would restrict so much of the population and severely limit his opportunities of meeting his next love interest. However it does give me my one and ONLY rant!  | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 11:35:23 AM | Anyone who puts restrictions like this on their profile is doing you a favor. They are being honest about what they are looking for.
You don't like it, you can move on quickly.
Wouldn't you rather know up front that someone's tastes and yours don't mix?
At least they are being honest.
Personally I prefer women my age. But hey.... most women my age like guys who enjoy camping and kids, and that's something I don't always agree with.
especially camping.
-DS | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 6:21:40 PM |
The thing people seem to be distracted from is that the restrictions are on who can talk to you not who you want to date.
Some people are "just" here for the dating thing.. not to talk to people or to make friends... so fair enough.... they know what they want and restrict their profiles accordingly... does not bother me... just might be their loss.
B. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 7:45:19 PM | | I normally post them and wish them luck on that 18 year old wonder woman, because it's just not a young 18 they want...... men get greedy and wish for somebody >P-E-R-F-E-C-T lol. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 11:19:25 PM | Yeah, this one always made me laugh, also. I think men are more guilty of it than women because most women find guys that are 10-15 years younger to just be too immature. That's not to say that women don't do it, too. The funny thing is that age restrictions are something that only comes up on the internet. You don't see guys (or girls) trying to screen by age down at the pub, do you ? That would be too funny too see some guy asking for proof of age before he talks to a girl  Age can be hard to judge in person, some people pass for much younger than they are, but it seems to me that people that put these age restrictions in their profile don't realize this. They could be passing up their perfect match on here and not even know it, but if they met the person face to face age probably wouldn't occur to them. Their loss. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 6:33:31 PM | Yeah, it's not just the men ladies do it too. A gal near my age added me to her favorite list, but when I tried to contact her... WTF! She only dates much younger fellows... Then I thought, hey! She only dates young fellows... and this pirate made her list, Arrrrgh! (that means really good! /.o)==)
I am removing my age restrictions, cause yeah, I would like to meet friends too. Besides I don't really care about a gals age, it's her earliest possible retirement date I'm interested in. Mine is April 11, 2017... anything within a few weeks would be great /.o) | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 8:14:27 PM | Great topic and I too changed my "restrictions". Thanks to all for opening up my mind.
Gee retirement date.....I can go early August 1, 2011, then again the princess and my reason for working will just be out of high school 
Looks like it will be a little later than that..... | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 10:21:46 PM | Yet2 findu:
A little long winded, but very well put.
Now that will stir things up. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 10:28:20 PM | If I want to contact someone and I am one year older than his wish list allows, or he restricts everyone except those who have "dating" on their profile it doesn't make sense why a member of the opposite sex would restrict so much of the population and severely limit his opportunities of meeting his next love interest. However it does give me my one and ONLY rant!
Because they want to.
Now we are deciding what choices people should make.
Hmmm...a lot of people here must have voted for Harper.
BTW: For the record
My restrictions are 'any' and 'any' as well as 20,000 miles.
Because it's MY choice! | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 10:38:03 PM | I agree that its a real big turn off seeing that a guy would want something that much younger, when I get a email i check their profile and if I see that I dont bother replying, But like stated by Neptune within the 10 yr gap thats a okay. But I do really think that is disgusting how a older man would want to date a person thats 20yrs younger than him. I find guys that date younger girls are for other reason. they cant handle a lady there own age because they speak their mind and have a say in things unlike a younger girl that hasnt had the experience to know any better, thats my opinion.And ya some guys do have friends that age but most of them are interesting in younger girls...I have a daughter thats 20yrs old and i couldnt imagine her going for a 38yr old man that could be her dad. Im not saying all men but some. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 11:18:43 PM | As I posted earlier in this thread, I removed my email restrictions because I was hosting a
POF event & didn't want to make it difficult for people to conact me for more information. I
haven't bothered changing them back yet, but it hasn't made much difference, so I may not
bother. After all, I am only looking for friends now, do I really care how old they are, or if they
smoke?
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[If I want to contact someone and I am one year older than his wish list allows, or he restricts everyone except those who have "dating" on their profile it doesn't make sense why a member of the opposite sex would restrict so much of the population and severely limit his opportunities of meeting his next love interest. However it does give me my one and ONLY rant!]-~fiery fury~
It can be confusing at times. I rememeber being on another site once, & they sent me an email
stating that by altering my profile from "romance/long term", to also include "dating" I would be
effectively be compatible with twice as many other members & show up in twice as many member
searches. Which I thought was kind of stupid, since to me "dating" does not sound like a very
serious person at all, not someone I would have much in common with, personality-wise.
However, when I first came onto this site, I found several guys while searching, that said "dating",
but when I read their profiles carefully, realized that they were really looking for long-term. Some
people, in my experience, just don't categorize themselves accurately. | |
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| Age limits in profiles
Posted: 9/29/2007 11:57:26 PM | Im not being judgemental, im just stating the facts. Like I said not all guys. LOL | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 5:46:21 AM |
If I want to contact someone to follow up on something we discussed or to put them in touch with someone, or let them know of an event, etc. it is more than frustrating to discover I can not contact them. If you really insist on specifying an age limit then post inside your profile and be flexible.
1) It's a well known fact that no-one reads profiles before contacting you
2) If they do read the profiles they ignore them
3) I had to put age restrictions on my profile because I was tired of all the 20 somethings thinking that I was desperate to get laid....
As for the older guy looking for the younger chickie...I have personally seen this with a friend and it didn't work for long...after a while they gave up trying to be younger/older..their interests in almost everything was so different.... | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 10:03:15 AM | Since over 50% of marriages end in divorce, what does that tell you about the odds of anything working out? Yes they are worse for the subject under discussion at this point.
What about with major differences in socio-economic status?
Differences in ethnicity?
Huge distances?
Do not hear too many 'eewww, yuck' around those.
How about the women dating a guy 10-20 years her junior, where are all the 'yuck's.
Its not for me is personal choice, its disgusting is judgmental. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2007 6:26:14 PM |
I come across a guys profile that has 'must be between 18 - 38' in his restrictions, and he is 38, I am instantly turned off.
I do not see a problem here. As far as I can see he is including women within ten year span of his emotional age. | |
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