| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/7/2007 5:01:30 AM | Yes each to thier own. Once you have tried one way, and it hasn't worked you know your own limits, and know what works for people who you are interested in. It's called communication....
If someone changes thier profile and the other gets scared of it, and backs off......sorry been using net dating for over 6 years, after mostly being the one to jump on board quickly, and it always ended quickly.......i'm taking my time (and you will find other people probably doing the same thing - so is that so wrong!!!??) . Who said anything about meeting anyone else anyway if i was with someone/or dating someone? Jumping the gun again............
I wasn't really interested in meeting people for anything other than friendship, on a first meet, no expectations and no disappointments....
Be interesting to see how many people it has worked for after one date, and lasted the lengths of time.........
Pebs: u dont half make me laugh......
where does it say im meeting other people, let alone seeing someone????? please look on my posts....just where???? lol
and actually the people who know me, know the real me, and they know i wouldn't meet loads and loads at the same time....that is all that matters....
Judgemental!!!
Oh and i was asking how others percieve thier own experiences! But, think got the gist of yours.......
Plenty of bunny boilers around isn't there........lol (which is usually the case if one wants more than the other)
God give me strength!! lol
Well no not attention seeking, because i never said i was seeing someone or not! lol hmmmmm.........
Thankyou very much to take the opportunity to send replies......i've had a lot of experience, and i am quite focused when it comes to that 'special someone' thankyou :-)
Thankyou student nurse...i agree dating is not a relationship until its both agreed shouldn't be seeing others......!!! | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/7/2007 5:06:20 AM |  If i had had changed my profile after every 'one date' i had been on.......................................... Stalker alert!! lmao
I didnt change my profile until the morning after we had agreed that we would give a relationship a go, and even then i waited for him to call me and ask me if i was 'still single' then as i hadnt changed it immediately..................well i didnt want to appear to be overly eager, besides he may have changed his mind!! 
Dating in my opinion is not actually a relationship until the two of you sit down and make it 'exclusive' or official that you will no longer be actively seeking anything else from anyone else. | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/7/2007 5:07:35 AM | ... communication is great, education is better, to learn from an old experience, just 'cos it didn't work the first time round, prejudice says it wont work again.
its better to move on and learn from an experience, not let it taint and effect the rest of our life.
from the sounds of your replies, you answered your own questions, was it not an attention seeking activity to post a thread about an issue you seem so sure about anyway
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/7/2007 9:49:03 AM | | i was thinking about this....whenever someone puts up notsingle/notlooking...should they still be aloud on?..........(i can feel the hatred)......arghhh...... | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/9/2007 2:50:24 PM | Well Zoe didn't you get somewhat of a bashing there!!!
I agree with the majority regarding this. You could be seeing someone for weeks but its just a mates basis with perhaps a snog at the end of the night and you both have the knowledge that its not going anywhere. You could meet someone and within a couple of days decide you want to give a relationship a chance and change your status. I changed mine after seeing my guy for a few weeks, I knew that I felt something for him and that I wasn't interested in 'keeping options open'. He knows that I have a profile on here (although I met him in the 'real' world) and that my status ISN'T looking. He has no problem with it as i talk to him about the people I talk to on here and we laugh and chat about some of the forum subjects.
Every body is different and every relationship is different but I think its a fair question from anybody ..... I'm sure its something we've all asked ourselves from time to time and maybe a few have even been left feeling abit deflated if they change theirs and the 'date' doesn't... communicate!!!! | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/9/2007 4:56:44 PM | The OP posed a decent question, what right anyone has to call her some sort of player i will never know. One date isnt a relationship (unless you are weird and want to get married by the second).
Play it by ear sweetie, see if this goes into 4 or 5 dates then think about it.
Interesting how one contributor said in another thread that she wasnt to be addressed directly "ever" yet does the very same thing to someone else on here.  | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/16/2008 1:06:38 PM | Im REALLY sorry to rake this one up from last year, but tried to seek a newer one but couldn't find any!!
I have been chatting to a guy no AND meeting up with him for 6 weeks... we have had some lovely day spontainious trips out.. and have spent the night at each others house a fair bit....
My question here is we have decided to start a relationship, but slowley as we have both only come out of a relationship not that long ago...... We have had the best 6 weeks, seeing each other at least 4 times a week, i have met and spent some lovely days out with his children, he has changed his profile to looking for friends instead of dating but he hasnt changed his discription bit yet, or the "single" bit... Should i worry that he's not that dedicated or do you think it doesn't really matter... do should ask him to change it??? | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:15:49 PM | He has changed it to say looking for "Friends". That should make you feel really great.
I was seeing a lady from here a while ago and after a few dates I did the same. She said it was a really nice gesture. Maybe, like me, your man has forgotten about the single part on there.
I also changed mine to say I was only coming on here now for the forums. | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:23:21 AM | | i met some 1 in last couple of weeks and have changed and updated my prof to say looking for friends , having just moved to area its still nice to meet new people | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:35:30 AM |
He has changed it to say looking for "Friends". That should make you feel really great.
I was seeing a lady from here a while ago and after a few dates I did the same. She said it was a really nice gesture. Maybe, like me, your man has forgotten about the single part on there.
I also changed mine to say I was only coming on here now for the forums.
Thanks TG.. I am pleased he's changed it to "Friends" i think i'll leave it for a few weeks see how we getting along then ask him to alter it a little bit.. thanks for your advice hun.  | |
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| Changing single to seeing someone
Posted: 6/17/2008 7:47:11 AM |
Thanks TG.. I am pleased he's changed it to "Friends" i think i'll leave it for a few weeks see how we getting along then ask him to alter it a little bit.. thanks for your advice hun.
That's OK, you are very welcome. I hope you have better luck than I did my profile says dating again now  | |
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