| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/18/2008 7:49:12 PM | | guess i never really thought about it like that. i am 31 never been married and no kids. been engaged a few times but never really worked out. which turns to be a good thing in both cases. sometimes it gets me down. i know i should not just take anyone and be unhappy for the rest of my life. but thanks for that point of view. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/18/2008 8:40:09 PM | Sort of prefer being single at 34 with 2 ended engagements - better than divorced. The terminology is tough. I can still say I'm single. Once you're divorced that lable ends up getting used more. Yeah, you're single but you're a divorcee.
My engagements ended because we just didn't connect on a spiritual & life philosophy level. I worked through a tough time working as a social worker/ therapist in corrections & 5 years of hospice as I was counseling the dying. There's a lot of food for conversation there that really takes a strong companion. Not being to talk about what I learned & how things effected me was tough. Seeing what I saw made me better & changed my attitude & priorities. That was well more than half of the problem. I'm looking for a grounded woman who can engage in some mental intercourse.
So be it when I'm 35, 37 or in November, I have my eyes & heart open. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/20/2008 7:21:59 PM | | Given the current the divorce rate, I don't think people should get married until they're at least 30. Use those 20's to travel and have fun and learn :) | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/20/2008 10:36:38 PM | 34 never married... & no kids... currently dating my career...
before the age of ten, ive must of been the ring-boy for about 4 different weddings ... through the eyes of innocence... life can be a bit hypocritical ... in a funny kinda way ...
living a bridge distance from south beach... one can only imagine the constant eye candy that is on display everyday on the windows of "Facade Ave."
Fortunately ive learned through my own mistakes as well as through the experiences & hardships of others ....whether it be a business or emotional relationship.... take your time to get to know each other before your heart & your imagination ...decide to go for a ride..
i must admit it is a bit overwhelming when friends & family... pressure you in believing that time is running out & that the older you get the harder it is to meet someone...
yet these are the same people who who every now & then vent about how they dont have any privacy what so ever... never have the time to do anything for them selves... & secretly whisper... "never get married".. LoL | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/20/2008 11:06:21 PM | | 31 here and never married. When I was a kid, I thought I would be married by 25 and have kids by 30. Guess I don't want to settle just for the sake of it. I do want to have kids someday but being single with kids (adopted or bio) is frowned upon in my community and I would be an outcast. I am already kind of getting there since I have not yet married.. :-) | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2008 3:31:43 AM | gm to everyone iam 35 soon be 36 and never been marryed i just havent found the right one yet,when happens it happen   | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2008 7:18:01 AM | I'm 39, no kids, never been married. Two engagements but never made it to the altar. 21 years ago I fell in love for the first time but we lost touch because we lived so far apart. Last year our paths crossed and we dated but it seemed as if neither of us was ready for a marriage for our own reasons. Now I just hope and pray that I don't have to wait another 20 years for our paths to cross again and next time they do I hope we are both ready to happily grow old together.
If she's not the one I'm supposed to be with, then God has someone better in store for me. If there is someone better than her, then I can't wait to meet her because that is going to be one incredibly awesome woman...
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2008 7:51:16 AM | I am 31 and have never been married. I have wanted it in the past, but ended up dating guys who didn't want marriage at all and I put that dream on the back shelf. Go figure. Never again. I do want it and I will get it. I'm glad I didn't get married in my 20's though because I've changed so much in the past 10 years that I am such a different person. I am now ready for it and have a level of maturity and understanding that I didn't have back then. I think waiting until you are in your late 20's or 30's is wise. Develop who you are first, become independant and strong as a person, then find someone who you can share your life with. That makes it sound so simple, eh? Haha.
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2008 8:57:41 PM | | 33, no kids, never married. I'm shy and picky which is probably 90% of the reason. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2008 9:37:06 PM | | 32, never married, 1 real girlfriend lifetime total though I've gone out with a few others I ended up not clicking with. I only just realized there was a "Over 30" forum and now I feel old, lol. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2008 10:25:43 PM | 30 No kids never married, never engaged. I did have a serious relationship in which i lived with a girl for 2-3 years...but really nothing serious. I have similar experiences to everyone else here. Did not have my mental equal while i was doing my BA Psych, and i guess really just have not found the person that would make me realise that by all intents and purposes that this person is it. With that being said im not so sure that there is a "one" or "soul mate"...im not saying i do not believe in the concepts more likely for me i think there is a qualifier for my situation.
I have dated enough to know that there were quite a few women that if the circumstances were right, or we were at different points in our lives, or we lived closer together etc etc etc, that things would have inevitably led to a lifelong relationship and yes marriage. I think the situation is key and both people have to be ready for the situation as applicable. I guess i have not met the right situation then to foster the growth needed for the relationship, and i think other poster's are correct, that it needs to be built from our ends to be successful.
I did not have a family when i was young nor was i adopted, i spent a lot of time on my own, as such i have had an overwhelming desire to raise a family and to be a man of many hats who loves his wife and children without fail, ruly and deeply, because i have never had it i suppose. That being said i am now trying to take the steps neccessary to encourage the situation i.e.;
Eating healthy
Working out
Educating myself further (Starting an MA Psych program in January)
Looking for new opportunities in new fields and increasing income above the curve on a yearly basis.
I think when i am financially stable, healthy as can be and educating myself (thusly increasing chances for more financial stability and promotion) I will undoubtedly find this situation i have been ready for all of my life in my heart, but i will also be ready for it in every other way as well.
Sorry it was so long, take care all.
JC | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/22/2008 2:58:59 PM | 30 - would very much like to have a relationship leading to marriage.
Equally a matter of looking for the "right" person (although I certainly am) as it is difficulties finding anyone at all that is interested.
(All that stuff they tell you about women wanting to marry stable, independent guys with good jobs and lots of great interests - absolutely false )
I've had two situations of relationship like things (first - she told me 3 months in that I wasn't her boyfriend but we continued to act like it, second - dating someone for 6 months before she decided she wasn't into me) and I had contemplated proposing to both if the situation had been firmer or lasted longer.
I'm far from the normal case though. Apparently, most people can EASILY find someone who wants to be with them! Or maybe not - why are we all here if that's the case. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/22/2008 4:50:47 PM | Looks like i'm at home here on this page, I'm 4o in two weeks time and never been married. I almost got there twice (engaged twice) had two beautiful kids who became my life. Now my kids are teenagers and no longer dependant on mum I'm free to meet my mr right.
I feel I now have time to enjoy my life with my future husband(whom ever he might be) without the pressures of raising a family.Theres always a bright side to life.
susan | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/23/2008 4:37:43 PM | i was married b4 i was 30 and divorced after i was 30 been single for 15 years which did i like the most married or single
both | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/24/2008 2:49:29 PM | | never married or engaged, turning 35 on saturday. I would love to get married someday but at this point just landing a date would be a thrill. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:10:39 PM | 39 and never married. Have always wanted to be. I still want to be. I would love someone to look at me like I would matter to them for the rest of their life....
I dread the thought of a ceremony. Wouldn't mind if no one else was around because I never wanted to do it for other people anyway.
But since I'm dateless at the moment I'm safe. I could say there was an 'almost' 3 times. There were 3 that I wanted to get there but they didn't quite make it to even an engagment. Reality wins again. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/24/2008 10:29:06 PM | I'm 34, I've never been married, and have one child. I once found the guy I wanted to marry but I wasn't the girl he wanted to marry, so whatcha gonna do? But thanks for this post I had no idea there were so many people like me out there. Most of my friends and family are married or married with children. I feel normal now well closer to it anyway  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/25/2008 5:16:14 AM | | I'm 39,never been married,mainly because I've not met the right guy who I want to settle down with and make that commitment to | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/28/2008 2:12:46 PM | | I'm 35, never been married, have no kids. Don't think I'm freak, though others might disagree. I find it kind of disturbing that there are so many people who seem to think a person who has been married multiple times is less of a freak than someone who has never been married at all. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/28/2008 2:18:44 PM | i'm 34 and have never been married, but i do have a small child.
sometimes the right thing happens at the not-so-right time :)
a | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/28/2008 8:23:16 PM | I have had a few serious relationships, too, but I always thought that when I met "the one (and I do believe one exists for everyone)" I would know it and so far not so good..I don't think that people take marriage as seriously as they used to, or as I do. My grandparents have been married for over 65 years and are STILL crazy about each other and can barely take their eyes off one another (blindness, maybe...but still) Wouldn't it be great to find someone who thinks that highly of you? Worth waiting for, I think. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/28/2008 10:35:31 PM | I'm 31 and have never been married or engaged. I was in a 9 year relationship and things didn't work out. We were young and thought we were both missing out on something better. Little did we know how great we were for each other. I don't think for a minute that I'd rather rush and marry someone just to say that I am. I agree with others that if you have divorce in your family it might possibly influence that thought. I would love to be married and hope I will be but I will wait until the right man is in my life.  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/29/2008 11:58:06 AM | I'm almost 45 and have never been married.
I have gone through my life with the philosophy that one day the "One" would cross my path.
About 5 years ago I met this incredible woman. She lit up my world. From the first converstation when I felt that click and could not let her leave without setting up another meeting. To make a long story short, she decided to end it saying it's not you it's me your such a great guy, I still love you, I'm just not in love with you.
In my heart I know where I wanted the relationship to lead and that was marraige.
I am now aware of what I was missing in my life before I met her. It wasn't just the feeling of being loved, it was the depth of the love I felt for her and her children.
I came from a long line of love, parents still married after 54 years, grandparents 39 and 42 years. But I've seen friends go through hell with divorce. And having to fight ex's to see their children. And perhaps thats why I didn't find love sooner.
I now I know what I was missing and I still want it, A woman thats there for me as much as I'm there for them. A woman that can be my source of peace when my day just sucks or life just seems to beat me down. A woman that runs to me when her emotional batteries are needing a recharge. I could say more. but I've gone off thread enough.
I hope we all get what we're looking for. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 8/3/2008 3:01:36 PM | | I've been married once long ago, no regrets. Now , even though I will be turning 44 soon ....... When I find the right woman for me, near or far.....I'd love to be married again. | |
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