| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/11/2008 2:24:54 PM | I'm with the rest of ya. 37, No marriages. I proposed a couple times, never worked out. I'm not a big believer in marriage though. If it means I have to die alone in some nursing home when I'm 90-something, oh well, how much is it really gonna bother me... I'll be dead 
I think too many people stress out about being married so they won't be alone when they're old. Last time I checked, that wasn't the purpose of a marriage, unless I'm not jaded enough to know it is.
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/13/2008 9:10:45 PM | I'm in my 30's, never been married and have NO kids! Believe it or not, a lot of people are WAITING to get married BUT the later u wait (due to career, extra schooling, partying, whoring, traveling or whatever) u blink ur eyes a few times..... baaammm.... u are 30, 35, 40....! It's gets even harder as u get older and many just throw in the towel, develop other interests, don't wanna go through another bad relationship or just realize they wasn't marriage material from the start!
If I wanted to find my future wife.. I wouldve' HOPE to find her in college (but college is not how it used to be: it's like NOW "date", "hook up" with someone or as many people as possible and then LATER on find ur future wife or husband!)
It's not as EASY as u think nowadays!
I rarely get those questions, "y u not married or don't have any kids?" It's common place now that many people in their 30's don't have kids or spouses! Other people are just living their lives and going on about their business! The ones that are HAPPILY married (yes they exist believe or not) , they are trying to stay that way! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/14/2008 12:32:21 PM | I'm 37, never been married and have no kids.
I want to do it right the first time, and doing it right means waiting on the right person. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/15/2008 4:57:31 AM | | Bottom line is if ur going to get married make sure you actually want to...I am almost 38 and am happily not married. Happy because I never settled for anything less than I wanted. If I ever meet a woman that I want to marry I will, but damn am I happy I did not settle for any of the exes:) | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/16/2008 2:56:26 PM | I have been engaged and I pulled the plug on that one for several reasons. No, I have NEVER been married yet. Hopefully one day, I will find my Prince Charming. I don't know if it will be on here or not...but you never know...:)
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/29/2008 11:36:30 PM | well,everybody here is not alone.i am also 30 and never been married.and never had any children eighther.sometimes i feel as if i dont have a life.everybody i know is married and have kids ,friends i knew familly members,except for me.well i hope to find my soul mate here hopefully sooner than later.and then me too will have a lifelong story to tell. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/31/2008 11:33:51 AM | | Kamloopsishere....i wish you would rethink about the people who have been divorced ..i was married twice... the first time.. yes was my own stupidity on settling for the wrong guy... but the second one.. i would say was a different story all together. I do have the ability to do what it takes to work at a relationship, the problem is.. is takes two.. and my partner was the one who was unwilling/unable to put the effort in. I am a strong woman, and if it was up to me we would still be married and working things out. after that heartbreak.. i highly doubt i will ever marry again. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/31/2008 6:23:39 PM | 30 and never married is just a waystation enroute to 99 and never divorced. By studiously avoiding marriage, I have made myself divorce proof.
I am serious. Haven't you noticed, that every single divorced person who you ever met, was married at least once? That is more than a coincidence.
My distaste for divorce has led to my decision to play it safe, and not ever to get married. | |
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IHuman
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Joined: 10/20/2008
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/1/2008 11:35:15 AM | | I think different people have different reasons for being 30 and never married. Unfortunately, most are reluctant to tell the truth about it, because they're afraid that someone make think that they're either weak or bitter. I think marriage is made a bigger deal than it really is. Nowadays, marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper and a ceremony. Infidelity is on the rise in this country to the point where it's almost considered the cool thing to do. That does not help the marriage debate at all. I personally enjoy the single life. I'm single with no kids and have a pretty good job. The only person I have to worry about satisfying is myself. If I get lonely then I just go out and operate on the fact that the women where I live are very predictable and thusly easy to manipulate. Marriage isn't always a good thing. Just look at the divorce rate in this country. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/1/2008 2:20:44 PM | | Hallo Sigi. Dont know you are woman or man but would you like to do it one day? | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/2/2008 10:51:03 AM | | 37 and just haven't clicked yet wrong time and wrong people we all grow up differently and in different timelines when it is your time you know | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/2/2008 1:38:44 PM | | 30 soon to be 31, never proposed, never a fiancee no kids never married. I think for me it's about being ready in a lot more ways, i still have a Masters degree i would like to accomplish (and a PHD) and buy a home etc first before i do any of that. I always thought it went (and i know this is really old fashioned) Meet-get to know-live together-Marry-have kids. Somehow that timeline works for me although not for everyone, i do believe marriage is more than just a "piece of paper" as so aptly put. To me it's not about manipulating women (which gives a false notion of power) it's about finding love with someone who is compatible for the long haul, and when the going gets tough, a life partner, not a for now until someone better comes along partner. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/2/2008 3:35:44 PM | | Almost 30, never married, never engaged (though almost was), and no kids. Just haven't met the right person yet. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/2/2008 7:13:33 PM | 37. never married. no kids.
it gets old when people ask why.
im an only child and ive always felt content being alone.
although, i would love a partner in life, but nowadays the pressures out there are intense.
ie jobs, money, religion, cheating, etc.
i met someone on here a couple of months ago that seemed a great match, but when i got home from work, she left for work. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/3/2008 6:11:38 AM | I overheard my mother talking about me to some relative on the phone a while back, she said - 'J, my eldest, well yes, she is a spinster, she tends to attract weirdos'. lol!
Cheers mum. Have to say she is correct, my past track record is not brilliant. This is why I am not married at 30. Neither would I jump into such a committment with anyone unless I knew 100% that it stood a chance of going long term. People rush things too much these days, so what if I die alone and get eaten by my cats!?! There is nothing wrong in being single. :0) The only major benefit I can think of from getting married is a tax break from the Government. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/3/2008 9:57:05 AM | Heh, I was reading the FT and they had an article about why marriage was a really bad deal if you were very financially solvent, partly due to the marriage laws in this country being rather behind the times, believe it or not in the UK a prenup is not a legally binding document....
I just thought including that bit of trivia might be interesting, as to be single....well ive been 30 for almost a whole year 31 coming up in less than a month and ive noticed that I cant see the single thing changing anytime soon specially with my job (living in a B&b all week). | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/4/2008 2:42:05 AM | Almost 43 here and have never experienced the ol ball and chain (nor have any kids), tho ive been engaged twice. Im going to be honest here and say that at this time in my life, im really not that into men that have kids (younger kids that is), and there are ALOT of men with kids out there my age. Plus,, i am a smoker and will not date a non-smoker so that narrows the field down considerably. Living in a small rural community has all the benefits of life that i want,,,except men! lol Very hard to find dates in my area and no, i really do not want to move to a bigger city just to find a man. Im pretty happy here where i am,,,albiet a lil lonely at times.
Id LOVE to be married someday, but honestly, i really dont think its in the cards for me. The men i do happen to meet are either interested in me but im not in them, or visa versa. lol Cant seem to win! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/4/2008 3:17:15 AM | 42 here and never married, or engaged.
I've always been single apart from a short relationship at Uni, but now think I'd like to have somebody special in my life. I'm one of those who'd sooner not date a smoker, but apart from that I don't really have that many criteria (I think!).
So far the online dating hasn't really been that successful for me, although I expect it works better for some people than others. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/4/2008 4:52:36 AM | | I'm 32, never been married, or even close to it. Guess I'm holding out for the right person. I've seen a lot of people (parents, friends, siblings) in marriages that are unhealthy, unstable, and ultimately don't last. Sometimes it's loney out here, but I know myself well enough to wait for someone who is right for me rather than settle for someone who is not. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/4/2008 10:06:10 PM | | If you're over 30 and have never been married, you're too picky. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/5/2008 5:28:02 PM | | 36 and never married....Frankly, only been in one relationship that I felt really good in and we are both trying to make it work again....I have been there for a few others that have been divorced and would never go that route... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/8/2008 10:56:12 AM | I was all but engaged several years back but...she started ripping cabinetry apart when she didn't get her way and screaming at me for things I was not even responsible for.
I doubt there is such thing as absolute perfection, but I want to feel compelled to be around a person if I plan to spend the rest of my days and nights with them.
You have to get past the basics I think, go beyond the stuff on the surface to see who you both really are. Some people don't want to do that because it will reveal a hard truth they won't be able to ignore later. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/8/2008 7:06:37 PM | I've just turned 35 and "dodged that bullet" as an old friend once said when I asked if she ever got married. Matter of fact, not wanting to get married was the recent for my last relationship going sour. Comedian Bill Burr and I seem to have the same view of marriage... "Isn't ANYONE looking at the statistics?!? Why do they keep doing this?"
http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoID=1797148741
Perhaps I just enjoy my freedom a little too much, that and not entering a contract that puts half of my possessions and income up for grabs. 
That being said, I adore companionship, and some of the best nights of my life have been chatting it up with someone for hours and losing track of time. I'd like to think that in this day and age, you can still be single and still be a good partner for someone, even just one.
Am I wrong? | |
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Deni31
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Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 300 | |
| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/8/2008 10:14:31 PM | | That's me :) Never been married, never made the mistake of marrying the wrong person or wasting a huge chunk of my life either. I take marriage seriously. It's an investment of time, emotion, money, my life- into another person. I want it to be worth it, I want no doubts and I want it to be amazing, or I don't want it at all. | |
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