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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/25/2009 11:30:51 PM | "Muziklover", there are a bunch of people who fit this scenario and I'm one of them. If it's not for love I will never get married. I actually get further and further away from doing it possibly as the days come and go because I'm so comfortable doing what I want when I want to. My sentiments are for you and anyone else for that matter to keep doing what you are doing and to stay single until you find someone that's worth the stretch.
Sounds more like : I hate to be committed therefore I won't wed. That is more like the advice that I got from reading your post.
That is kinda sad how you stated that but of course to each his own.
"Trejalace", I couldn't help but read your post and had to respond after I posted my thoughts on the question from the original poster. How did you come to your deduction of reasoning from what the original posters question. His or Her statement has nothing to do with lack of commitment. They just stated that they haven't got that this is my last 1st date feeling from the people they were with and decided to make a better choice. What am I missing?
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/26/2009 10:33:14 PM | | yea, never settle for less. NEVER. i'd rather be happyly single the rest of my life then be unhapply married!! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/28/2009 12:01:37 PM | | Give yourself credit. Don't ever marry anyone your not crazy about, you've known long enough to really know who they are, and that you truly are compatible. Negotiate everything, talk about parenting styles, finances, jealousy, goals, EVERYTHING. Then wait longer . You're onto something. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/29/2009 5:18:19 PM | | 34 and never married -- I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything other than perhaps DIVORCE. :) I have been engaged before... and luckily for me I made the right choice at that time to remain single. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/29/2009 9:13:47 PM | | Hey I'm 35 and I've never been married. I have to say enjoy the single life while you can still get it cuz I'm sure people who are married wished they still did. Although downside to single life is when your ready to find that someone and you've never been around the block yet it's really hard to find that certain someone. I'm ready to settle down and even though I won't find true love on a website at least the dating part stays fun. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/30/2009 10:07:49 AM | I am 30 years old, no children and never married. I was raised to believe that it is important to focus on education, gaining life experience and just enjoying life while you're young and the right person will find you eventually. That being said, I've ended a number of relationships because I didn't believe it was "time"; I was too busy being spoiled and selfish I suppose. Now that I am a little older and know what I want I truly regret the missed opportunities. All I am saying is that if the right person is in front of you, don't look a gift horse in the mouth. It IS possible to both take advantage of the right person at the wrong time and to take your time developing a relationship with them!
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/31/2009 6:12:09 PM | | I was engaged when i was 22 but it didn't workout because we were not compatible and she had a lingering drug problem. I have always pictured being married with kids when i was 25. But instead i have been on countless dates the last 10 years that didn't lead to anything meaniful. I have dated women of all races, women with 2, 3, 4, kids and women that have weighed 200, 300lbs. But i would ultimately hope to find someone that i have a lot incommon with because i believe that you have to be compatible if you want to have a successful relationship/marriage. I would prefer to find someone to experience First Things With like kids, marriage and etc. But , it seems that most of the people in my age bracket been married or have kids. And the one's that i believe i have alot incommon with turn out to be fakes, liars, or druggies. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/31/2009 7:20:44 PM | nope...never married nor engaged. im in no hurry...and i havent been stable enough in my life to commit to anyone or anything more than me and my career. lol.
i think a lot of ppl are in this boat these days!!
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 1/31/2009 8:58:44 PM | I agree with Liberal inTX
My life isn't as stable as it use to be in the past. With my mom & dad doing bad i'm constantly trying to help them financially, like a good son should. But by doing that it has really hampered me from living the life i want. But the last thing i want to see is my parents struggling. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/1/2009 5:01:46 AM | | Ha! I have never been engaged or married and it is perfectly normal to me. Marriage is joke nowadays and people take vows saying "death do us part" when the fact is they're in divorce court as soon as "somebody screws up". See you must remember, people get married for ALL the wrong reasons, women want the huge rock that they claim takes "THREE MONTHS SALARY" to buy (just to show off their girlfriends), men doing it to just get sex everyday, or for domestic reasons (they have no cooking skills, or can't take care of home, etc, women do it because they're afraid to be alone...and so on and so fourth. But don't tell married people what I said....they will deny this and take it to the grave....THE TRUTH HURTS! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/1/2009 6:44:37 AM | | No one should marry before age 85! That way no one really fights over custody, division of assets, allimony etc., etc. because the death rate is higher than divorce at that point. Just my 2 cents worth... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/2/2009 8:05:59 PM | Yes, that's me. I don't even date much. Truth is I don't think it's because people are looking for the right person... i think it's because people are sort of crazier than they used to be. Honestly, do you recall ANY generation before us that depended on so many antidepressants and mood relaxers? So we need our space from each other and marriage isn't going to give you that.
Then you have women who suddenly want to date guys out of their league and then wonder why they get cheated on. Guess what, guys had been doing that for a long time and the same thing was happening then. Lol, society is gone haywire. Thats my 2 cents. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/4/2009 11:10:58 AM | | I'm 40 and never married. I was engaged once and in love once (not the same person). Its not for a lack of desire to BE married either. I've dreamed of getting married and having children since I was a teenager but have never met the right person who shares my ideals about life and faith. I'm beginning to wonder if such a person exists. I'm not the kind of person who can get serious with someone that I know is not "marriage material" just to keep from being lonely. I've tried that (the one time I fell in love) with disasterous results (still hurting). I don't know what I will do if I don't meet "the one" sometime in the near future....I can't bear the thought of being alone the rest of my life. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/4/2009 5:12:50 PM | I probably posted before, but now I'm 36 and still not married, no kids, never engaged and never asked. I don't really think it's a bad thing, as I have filled my life with things that make me happy and every experience I have had (even if it was just a friend or dating) has made me who I am. I think marriage is a big deal, but I also think taking time to get to know people without thinking if it will lead to marriage is even better because that way you still get something out of it, and enjoy it for what it truly is. I won't be sad if marriage never comes my way.
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/4/2009 9:47:05 PM | 30 and never married?
Perfect.
We'll make romantic music togetherrrr....  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/5/2009 12:33:06 PM | | never been married, had the opportunity, but seemed a weird thing to do when had just me the lady in question, am pleased that did not pursue it :) | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/5/2009 12:38:34 PM | | I just turned 30 and I have never been married or engaged. I am ok with that. I have not met the right person yet and the last thing I want is to settle, and then end up hating him later on. I was a bit of a late bloomer, didn't have any real serious realationships until well into my 20s. It seems like each relationship I am in is better and closer to what I am looking for in terms of spending my life with someone. At this point in my life I would rather be single than be with someone who I know is not right for me. The one thing that does bug me is that I would like to have kids, and now that I have entered my 30s the clock seems to be ticking....... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/5/2009 2:00:14 PM | " The one thing that does bug me is that I would like to have kids, and now that I have entered my 30s the clock seems to be ticking......" Avant thee, quit my sight! Don't want to go through that scenario again. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/5/2009 3:59:50 PM | been engaged once, but never married.
Up til 2 years ago, I always wanted to, but lately I'm not sure.
perhaps the right woman will bring that one in me.
until then I troll the boards  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/6/2009 7:55:01 AM | | Just wanted to say "RIGHT ON" I agree with the fact that people tend to shy away from us over 30 people who have never been married. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/6/2009 11:42:55 AM | Subject is: 30 and never married?
I never had the opportunity. Most of the women I ask out say no to me. LOL But, I would rather be single and free to do whatever I want then be in an unhealthy relationship.  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/6/2009 1:46:38 PM | | My brother and I are both over 30 and our parents have been married for 40 years and have had a wonderful relationship so I just think everyone is different. One of my boyfriends asked me to marry him but I was only 24 and just wasn't ready. I know what I want in a partner and will not settle for less..........if that means being alone, then so be it. | |
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