| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/7/2009 8:17:45 AM | Almost 35 here ... and not married.
And I don't think "almost" counts, but in case it does... I was with someone for 8/9 years. Engaged and the whole 9 yards. Then, he sat me down and told me he had decided he did not ever want children. He waited 8 years, to tell me that. And, since I was not into the idea of giving up my chance to some day be a Mom, especially at that age (I was 25 at the time), we went to therapy, tried to work through things, and, in the end, when he decided he still did not want children, we ended the relationship.
Funny how fast time flies. 10 years later, here I am. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/7/2009 8:51:03 PM | I AGREE WITH THIS POINT OF VIEW , I MYSELF HAVE NEVER BEN MARRIED AND I HAVE NO CHILDREN . GETTING MARRIED IS WHY I JOINED THIS SIGHT AND A FEW JUST LIKE IT . I LIVE IN A TINY LITTLE TOWN IN NORTHEAST GEORGIA NAMED CANON . ITS BEN MY EXPERIENCE THAT THE WOMEN IN MY AREA HAVE BEN MISTREATED AND LET DOWN ON SUCH A HIGH LEVEL BY, FOR LACK OF A BETTER WAY OF PUTTING IT " BAD BOYS AKA JERKS ." THAT THEY HAVE PUT UP WALLS AROUND THEIR HEARTS TO KEEP FROM BEING HURT AND LET DOWN AGAIN . THUS LEAVING MEN LIKE MYSELF OUT IN THE COLD . SO WARE DOSE MY HELP COME FROM ? ILL TELL YOU MY HELP COMES FROM THE LORD . LAST YEAR MY PASTOR GAVE AN ALTER CALL FOR PEOPLE THAT WANTED TO RECIEVE SOMETHING FROM GOD , I WENT TO THE ALTER TO REQUEST THAT GOD BLESS ME WITH A WOMAN THAT WILL WALK HAND IN HAND WITH ME . AS MY FRIEND AND SPIRITUAL EQUAL . A WOMAN THAT WHEN I LOSE SIGHT ON MY FAITH WALK WITH CHRIST , SHE WILL BE THERE TO PRAY WITH ME AND LOVE ME THROUGH THICK AND THIN . KNOWING I WILL DO THE SAME FOR HER IN RETURN . I ASKED GOD TO BLESS ME WITH A WOMAN TO LOVE THAT WILL BE THE ONE I WILL MARRY . AS THE WEEKS WENT BY AFTER THAT SUNDAY , THE IMAGE OF AN INGAGEMENT RING KEPT APEARING I EVEN DREAMED ABOUT PUTTING ONE ON THE HAND OF A WOMAN . I HAD BEN SAVING MY MONEY TO BUY A BIG SCREEN HIGH DEF TV . BUT WHEN I DROVE TO DILLS MY LOCAL GROCERY STORE , THERE IT WAS AGAIN . AN IMAGE OF AN INGAGEMENT RING . SO I WENT INTO THE JEWLERY STORE JUST TO LOOK AT ONE . LOL THE SIGN SAID 70% OFF ALL INGAGEMENT RINGS IN STOCK . SO I SAID OUT LOUD OK JESUS I HEAR YOU . I PUT ONE ON LAYAWAY $100.00 DOWN . ON FAITH I BOUGHT A 15 HUNDRED $$$ QUARTER KARET DIAMOND 14 KARET WHITE GOLD INGAGEMENT RING ON FAITH . THAT SAME NIGHT AT WORK A FRIEND ASKED ME IF I WANTED A PIECE OF CHEWING GUM . I SAID SURE , MY FRIEND GAVE ME THE LITTLE PACK OF BIGRED WITH TWO PIECES OF GUM IN IT . I THOUGHT NOTHING OF IT . UNTILL THE FLAVOR WENT AWAY AND I TRIED TO UNWRAP THE SECOND PIECE . I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT ...... BUT THERE IT WAS A $100.00 BILL WRAPED AROUND THE STICK OF GUM . I WENT TO MY FRIEND THAT VERY SECOND AND SAID HEY DUDE YOU MISSING THIS , WITH A BIG GRIN MY FRIEND SAID NOPE . GOD LAID IT ON MY HEART THAT YOU NEEDED THAT . I TOLD MY FRIEND GOD BLESS YOU AND THANK YOU . I TOOK THE MONEY TO THE JEWELRY STORE THE NEXT DAY AND MADE MY SECOND PAYMENT ON THE RING I WAS BUYING ON FAITH . THE RING IS PAID FOR IN FULL NOW AND PUT AWAY IN A SAFE PLACE WHILE I WAIT FOR GOD TO BRING MY ONE AND ONLY ALONG . KINDA LIKE CINDARELA BUT ITS A REDNECK WITH A 15HUNDRED $ RING INSTEAD OF A GLASS SHOE LOL . YOU MIGHT SAY IM AN EDIOT BUT I SAY IM MOVING BY FAITH , BECAUSE NO PRAYER GOES UNANSWERED THEY JUST TAKE TIME . TO ALL ME FELLOW SINGLE CHRISTIANS I SAY KEEP THE FAITH AND SEEK GODS DIRECTION . GOD BLESS AND I WISH YOU ALL WELL .  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/7/2009 9:08:39 PM | | Think thats bad? I just turned 41 & never been married. I have always wanted to get married, but not at the price of having kids, or letting someone control me. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/7/2009 10:18:35 PM | How old is this post? Those facts have changed in the last 2 years. We are still in a war time mode and people are marrying at a younger again.Factor in the gay marriages and the increase of singles adopting without partners and you have the average age back to 25-35.
"I have always wanted to get married, but not at the price of having kids, or letting someone control me."
The last statement is amusing. No one controls you unless you want to be controlled . Not everyone wants kids either | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/7/2009 11:38:31 PM | 35 here and never been married. Got very close once (within a few days)
Enjoy being single, but would also love to be married if I met the right bloke. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/8/2009 2:20:19 PM | | I'm 31 never been married, or engaged, and have only had 3 serious relationships. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/8/2009 3:13:46 PM | | Never been married or engaged, with few serious relationships as well. Maybe because I'm selective? who knows. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/19/2009 9:40:11 PM | | I'm still waiting for that special someone. When I find him I'll know..it will just take time. Last thing I want to do is marry the wrong guy! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/22/2009 1:51:24 PM | You should see the smile on my face when I say ...... never married, never enagaged, and no kids (never want any)... ergo no divorce, and no custody drama.
Though my mother and father were never married, my mother and my step-father were married for over 20 years until his death 10 years ago. My father and his wife have been married over 30 years .......... yet.....
neither my sister (who is in mid 30s) nor I have married (though she does have 2 kids, and I'm ALWAYS happy to say that I have NONE)
and my father's step-daughter is in her 40s - never married (though has kids)
and his step-son is in his 40s, never married (has kids)
I think it stupifies some who know me. The parents have had very long marriages, yet none of the offspring has chosen to marry.
I've said enough.....
Ciao!
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/23/2009 7:39:45 PM | | Okay, this thread is just stupid. Why get married so young? Everyone I know has divorced by the age of 40 because they all married in their early 20s. You should wait until your early to mid 30s. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/24/2009 6:48:46 AM | Okay, this thread is just stupid. Why get married so young? Everyone I know has divorced by the age of 40 because they all married in their early 20s. You should wait until your early to mid 30s.
Exactely. Im 34, never married.
Many people want to have their career first.
Many want to play the field first.
Many just dont want to get married.
Many just cant find the woman/man that wants to get married.
And Many just want to find the right woman/man instead of jumping into a marrage that they know wont last. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/25/2009 1:15:48 AM | I have been engaged twice, and thought the last relationship was "the one", being in Vegas, that can change real quick.
I have never been married, and will never say I never will, but someday I am sure I will meet the greatest lady in the world and all will be good. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/25/2009 2:09:01 AM | | I am also in my early 30's never been married or engaged. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/3/2009 8:49:24 AM | | I am 34 and have been married and yes, divorced, twice. My boyfriend is 37 and has never been married. I would consider it a great honor if he asked me to marry him...given that he is obviously more cautious...i think the institution of marriage will mean alot to him...maybe more than to those who have already tried and failed. It would show me indeed i am the "one" for him...i still believe in marriage. I just hope he doesn't view me as "damaged"...anyway knowing that he has never taken the plunge will make it even more sweet if he does with me.... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/4/2009 1:03:07 AM | 35 and never married, engaged, or proposed to. It did come up in conversation in my last relationship, but only as a hypothetical (at my insistence).
I'm in no rush. If I find someone for whom I feel so strongly and get along with so well that marriage seems like a natural step, then great. If not, great. I really enjoy my life and don't see myself becoming dissatisfied anytime soon. As someone else put it, the longer I go being able to do what I want, when I want, the harder I find it to give up!
Some of my married friends are happy in their marriages, others are quite unhappy. If it's taught me anything, that would be NOT to rush into a marriage, or settle just because "it's time". | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/5/2009 9:35:13 PM | One here....
Hey, there's plenty of us after all... Look at all those other posts...
Now I don't feel like I'm alone... Still, we all hope even at our advanced age to meet our loves... Ain't it grand?
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/5/2009 9:44:53 PM | I've never married.
Most days, I feel like I'm trying to force myself into meeting people.
Most of the people I meet seem shallow.
Imagine being in a a town for two months and not even seeing anyone you'd like to take to dinner.
I imagine this is how Martians feel. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/5/2009 10:26:11 PM | Well, the ladies never really lined up lol, but I had a few opportunities to fall in love with a couple of terrific young ladies and get hooked into the whole thing while going to college, but, tough guy that I am (yeah, right), resisted it, because I didn't have a pot to piss in financially and knew the whole thing was going to be a costly struggle, financially and emotionally. Times haven't really changed that much lol...
Maybe we're intelligent people, bright enough to see that the whole marriage thing feels confining somehow and doesn't work for us-! Or maybe we're not that mushy or romantic lol. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/5/2009 11:49:57 PM | | I have never been married and I have no children at 33. My reasons for this...is because I have ot met the right woman,or the woman didn't think I was the right guy. I feel that I would make a great husband and father...just need to find the right woman to be these things with. Hopefully some people realize that they are not the husband/wife type and decide that they will remain lifelong bachelors....No sense lying to yourself or somebody else when it comes to a decision so serious.....especially when children are involved. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/6/2009 5:12:14 AM | Hey Bestfish,
I hear you completely. I moved to this city 3 years ago and have only met a few guys I would want to go to dinner with. It is harder to meet peeps in a city - as peeps keep their distance unless they want something - lol. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/6/2009 5:15:05 AM | I'm not that romantic myself, or so it seems in comparison to others I meet. I am 41 and never married because I never met that right person for me, although I had no desire at all to get married for years. Now, if I never get married - that's fine with me. Only, if I met someone with whom we both wanted that - would I.
I wouldn't rule it out but I'm okay without it. I don't think financial reasons should apply to an extent. At our age, if we're financially independent and can each take care of ourselves - then being together would mean being able to have more! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/7/2009 8:30:58 PM | The reason I'm online is that I've gone six years without a girlfriend. I've been in big cities (over 10 million) and country towns (under 3,000). I've been in college towns, too.
Yep. Two years with 12 Universities in a 5 mile radius and went months without a date. Got a Master's degree out of it which hasn't got me any jobs.
I'm currently in a town of about 8,000, I'm told. I don't know if those numbers are from the voting rolls or if it also includes the full-time residents of the Shady Acres Cemetery. For some reason, I thought I'd have better luck going back to college. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 3/9/2009 5:15:09 PM | | Dido. I think that from a historical perspective women married early as a means of survival. Family life was the only option. However things have changed. Women are attaining higher levels of education and making their own money. We have goals that include and transcend family. As a result marriage has taken a backseat, but the institution is still valued. Everyone woman that I know in their 30's wants to be married but without sacrificing themselves or their goals in the process. | |
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