| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/21/2007 6:51:30 PM | :) Hey there--gotta love this site, I have never received so many emails containing comments that I am fibbing about being the age that I am as I do not even look close! My friends all joke that it is because I have no kids nor marriage issues. Also on this site I get challenged on 'why' I do not have the need to have kids or get total 'high fives' for making this decision and having an actual life thus far.
'I' believe that great love and adoration, equaling devotion does not have to result in marriage in all cases. I do not have anything against it, love the ideal of it. Comes down to knowing eachother and your self, proceeding to have 'communication' and individual growth.
Personally blessed to have had great men in my life both long & short term and now .... "I want to stop, so I can begin....again, but now with the exact ONE". | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/21/2007 9:25:40 PM | | I have never been married nor enaged. I tend to be shy. I thought I found the right woman but she broke my heart. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/21/2007 11:59:18 PM | | Some people dont get married because they want the freedom to whore around without having to be accountable to anyone......I'm 37, never been married, dont have any kids. I just think it is silly to get involved when you see the signs that it isnt going to work out. For me the big problem is that most women I meet who are in their 30s and 40s dont want any more kids and that's a showstopper for me because I would like to have some but not outside marriage and I dont want to be 65 when they graduate high school. Or they think "something is wrong with me" because I have never been married and dont have any kids, yet many of those same women are divorced. My last girlfriend always told me I was "green" because I had never been married or engaged...I really thought I had found the "one" about 5 years ago. Everything clicked but all of a sudden something happened, she still wont tell me what but I believe her family was against the relationship. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/23/2007 8:18:26 PM | For me been engaged twice was cheated on same old story. I think the whole speal on marriages today is over done. On what people want. No kids never married also...I am like the rest of the guys with a brain i think waiting for the right moment and right one that gets it.
I was listening to the radio on my way home tonight and a woman was on talking about her book. No idea was browsing the channels but i found this interesting out of all the bridal magzines in the world she found the word wife in only seven times. What is a wife i believe is her book still was interested in going to look at it. My sister just got married and that costed close to thirty grand. | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/24/2007 12:43:47 AM |
I think it's because people are taking their time finding the right person to marry.
I think its because a lot of people have realised that its an outdated institution and a ceremony that celebrates one day, though if you are really in a relationship you do that every day. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/24/2007 7:19:16 AM | I am coming up on 40 quickly and have never even been close to marriage. I want to settle down and I think maybe guys sense that.
Guys my age have usually been divorced a couple times and have kids. They have lots of stories about crazy ex wives and look at me like any second I will sprout a second head and spew craziness. Sheesh, give a girl a chance.
I also have decided these guys have kids who love them so they are loved and not as interested in getting serious.
I wish I could figure it all out...but men continuely confuse me and leave me baffled as to what they REALLY want. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/24/2007 8:11:47 AM | | I am over 40 and have never been married. While growing up my mom always told my brother and I to live with the person first before getting married..just in case we found that we weren't totally in sync. I have had a few long term relationships but over time we found that we just didn't want to grow old together. Although we loved each other we weren't "in love with each other" and to me that is just as important as loving someone! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/24/2007 10:51:41 AM | I know exactly what you're saying Muziklover. But I find some comedy in "people are taking their time to find the right person to marry. The divorce rate being so high..." Maybe time has nothing to do with it. The rates seem to be on the rise still. I've heard it said that "we marry out of our greatest love or our greatest fear". I'm betting it's those in the latter group that are lowering the curve!
I've been close twice. But now that I'm 38 I almost feel I've outgrown the concept. Not the loyalty, monogamy, two against the world concept. But the unicorn, knight in shining armour, fantasy of it all; and the church or state endorsement. I could just as happily devote myself to someone with a "spit and a handshake"! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/24/2007 2:40:40 PM | I hated the thought of settling down in my 20's. But now that I'm 32 my views has changed. So no marriage for me yet.... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/24/2007 5:09:09 PM | | 30 and never married either....and you're right, I think more of us are taking our time and not rushing into marriage with just anyone. Many of us are from broken homes (divorced parents), and we prefer to not make the same mistakes our parents made. I mean that was their job, to teach us things and they did....don't rush it, wait for the right one of many possible right ones hahaha. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/28/2007 6:43:35 AM | Do people actually think something is wrong with a person that reaches their thirties and hasn't been married? That just goes to show how society programs people to conform to some model of how we 'should be', versus celebrating the individuality and freedom of choice we have. I am 36, no children, and I have no regrets.
Do I find myself wondering about the choices I've made? Of course, that's only natural. But I just can't imagine myself settling for a typical married life. Even more, I can't imagine being dragged through the agony of a divorce. I also believe that most women in western society want the wedding, but not the duties and responsibililties that come with marriage. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/28/2007 6:23:35 PM | I too am over 30 and never been remotely close to marriage. The closest I came was going almost 2 hours out of my way to meet a girl I met online, only to to find out that her parents had to "approve" of me, and didn't. ironically, the only regret I had was that I didn't have my camera handy to take "postcard perfect" pics of the scenery on the way up to her house. I'm not sure if I'll every find that special person, but If I do, I know without a doubt that she will be about as perfect as a human being can be.  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/28/2007 6:27:47 PM | | I read somewhere the other day that 75% of people are married by the time they turn 35 and 95% of people are married by the time they turn 65.... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/29/2007 11:10:18 AM | I have seen my mum get divorced twice, and my aunt the same.
I'm 31, I'd like to get married, but to the right person.
To be honest divorce scares me not getting marriage!
Divorce ruins families, but marriage creates them.
You just see so much of it these days. I just don't want to waste my time on this earth going through messy divorces, life's too short! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/29/2007 12:18:59 PM | | Well I have just had my 42nd birthday and I too have never been married for the same reasons.... never had that feeling of the right person, almost had it but not quite. I know what I am looking for but can't find it all. Maybe some will say I am being to picky but I have certain qualities I look for in a lifetime partner. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/29/2007 12:41:42 PM | Never been.. never will... just my preference.
We live in a world of disposable relationships... and marriage doesn't serve any purpose to a man anymore. | |
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5x5
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Joined: 6/17/2007
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/29/2007 1:02:32 PM | turned 30 last month, never been married or had a child. Am constantly annoyedn by couple friends always trying to set me up like i'm a freak. Single because i want to be and if i gotta spend possibly the next 40/50 years with one man, i better take my time to find the right one huh!!Feel a bit cheated by biology in that i would like to have a family so time isn't so kind to women in that respect. If i didn't have to worry about that i wouldn't bothered getting married until i was in my 40's or 50's i reckon! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/29/2007 2:47:21 PM | | I am 42 and still with my parrents and never married. I gess I cant afford it and I havent found the right lady for me . | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/29/2007 2:55:05 PM | Never married, never engaged. Closest I came was a 6 year relationship (thank god that ended).
Come one guys, admit it, it's all about the money .... wives and girlfriends come and go, but once that moneys gone, it's gone for good ......... the best thing about being over 30 and single is you get to keep your whole paycheck! My retirement plan is within 10 years, my married/divorced friends will probably retire at death. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/29/2007 2:56:21 PM | | I was engaged once... she cheated on me. That kinda killed that. :p | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/30/2007 10:25:29 AM | | i know the feeling. been engaged to a man i was with for 6 1/2 yrs. and thank god i didn't get married. it would've been a disaster coming. when i do find that special person in my life, i would love to be married. marriage is for lfe. you go in front of god and do your vows. marriage is a one time thing and i'm still looking for that special someone to sare it with. a one time deal with me. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/30/2007 3:44:10 PM | Should not even be an issue. You either or are or you are not. You are married for x reason and you are not married for x reason. X = unlimited possibilies. X could be positive. X could be negative on both sides of the coin. People put to much emphasis on this.
Answer for me is, not married. It will happen when it happens. Right person, right time. To put it in some kind of Dr.Phil list...come on..lets get real. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 6/30/2007 3:56:45 PM | | yes alot of people get married but if you notice most of them end up devorcing after months of marriage i wonder if now and days your arent better off staying as a couple with out signing papers i started wondering this after my parents where married almost 20 years and then they split. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/16/2007 5:56:38 PM | | Same boat as you muziklover. I have to say that part of it is my job (Marines). The other well ..is me. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/16/2007 7:11:08 PM | One more to add to the list. 36 never married, no kids. Parents will be celebrating their 37th aniversary this year, so I can't blame it on that, lol. I just havent found that connection yet, came close a few times, but not close enough.
The trick I imagine is "compromise" , which is easy for some but not for all. (not trying to sound harsh or jaded, just making an observation, of those who I have seen stand the test of time)
I simply trust in fact that "If it's worth having, then it's worth waiting for" | |
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