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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/16/2007 10:35:43 PM | I had a few former friends who played the game of dating and having g/f's they knew would not be approved by the family (ethnic families). 1 in particular had few girls at the same time - always looking for the rich family he could get involved with to enjoy the good life.
He eventually found a young european girl who needed to marry as she was close to 30 and needed to have a family to please the kids. The other one was over 40 when he was found a virgin bride (same european race) to be his wife and he was supposed to have a family to please his parents. Never knew what happened but I know he would also have to leave the money behind and work so it would have been a marriage for the sake of their families.
Me - I have come close a couple of times to marriage and looking back I am pleased things did change as I take marriage seriously and believe it is a lifelong commitment and not just something to please others or your own ego. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2007 5:03:23 AM | made a few mistakes in life but marriage wasnt one of them... no engagement either... I think all that is beyond me now, everyone I meet seems damaged nowadays and I have my own things to do, besides people see me as damaged goods because i'm single with a daughter...
meh if the right person happens along then who knows but I'm not gonna bet the farm on that happening anytime soon looking about here. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2007 11:07:22 AM | i have never been married or engaged.......i have been shacked up and it is the same difference i suppose. I just don't believe in marriage.....i believe in the ideal...but not in actually doing it. I can love someone totally and completely and be completely devouted to my partner.....without signing the dotted line. Then again i have issues with societal notions....so i might be limited in my thoughts. I give 2 thumbs down for marriage and two thumbs up for love and commitment. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2007 5:24:08 PM | I'm 33 never married almost engaged once. Been in long relationships for most of my dating time and now a nice long break. I do agree almost everyone seems to already been married atleast once and already has kids etc. I think not everyone is meant to have kids or feel obligated to and guess I'm being patient on someone compatible will come along. Don't wanna get married and then do the divorce thing, doesn't sound like much fun, lol.  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/18/2007 3:05:05 PM | Damn, I used to think I was original and unique by being in my 30s and never married. But then this thread came along...
I guess I have to be happy that I am the only person who speeds up through an intersection when the light turns yellow... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/18/2007 3:20:36 PM | I'm 46 and unmarried, if the right lady comes along then I will marry, but I'm in no rush. I still believe in marriage and what it means. If it never happens I'll be fine also. Hopefully I'll find the right person. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/18/2007 5:39:40 PM | | I had just come out of a seven year relationship a year before I turned 30 and a year later, two weeks before my 30th birthday, I cried about the fact that I no longer had that false sense of security that a pre-planned future, or engagement/wedding ring provides. Now , I have been single and independent for two years, I'm studying at a University and am rebuilding my life at my own pace. I live in a small populated area where most people over thirty are all ready settled with families of their own, so this forum is very comforting for someone like me. Our individual lives are so different and there are so many reasons why we are still single, but at the end of the day, if we want it to happen it will .Goodluck, beautiful people, in finding whatever it is you want in life. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/18/2007 8:08:49 PM | | never married, never engaged, no children, closest i came was a 2 year common law relationship which ended in 2005...and i'm single at the moment. perhaps we're all too fussy, or perhaps we're simply more secure within ourselves and don't feel the need to attain the social validation which marriage symbolized in previous eras (or which still does in other non-western cultures). | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/19/2007 12:43:25 AM | Never married, engaged once, no kids. Longest relationship about 4 1/2 yrs and we lived together. I had this stuff pass through my mind the other day just walking into the kitchen. Spent that time with him and after that 3 relationships that all lasted from 1-2 1/2 yrs each.
It's not bad or anything. It just doesn't seem to get to a point where we both are concerned with running off to get paperwork to prove that we like each other. I may never get married or have kids and that will be o-tay. Was always careful about not having kids after seeing my friends stuck with 3+ on our chance meetings. Seems that every time I met them, they had another, it may be as addictive as chocolate. lol
Plus, I like glass, and lucite, shiny surfaces like polished granite, my home is adult, it's not made for kids to run amuck like maniacs and bump their lil heads on everything, did i mention baby powder and dirty diapers don't smell so hot hahaha. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/19/2007 1:21:37 AM | Im 29. Will be 30 in 1 month.
No plans to get married. Never want to.
Its a big scary trap that sucks your life. Today life is fast, and single life is way too much fun.
Ofcourse Im getting the judgemental people, saying "30 and you're not married?"
those kinda things can make you change your mind. Society influence sucks.
Marriage is a christain thing. Lets bring back the day people celebrated Aphrodite and screwed everyone on the front porch... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/20/2007 5:07:36 PM | | I've been engaged three times but never married. I think when I was younger I wanted a husband because of the fairy tale stories of happily ever after. Now that I'm in my mid-thirties, I have the security of owning my own home and I've already got a beautiful daughter. So, I don't feel like I need to marry for the traditional socio-economical reasons people go through the ritual of marriage either. This is not to say that I am opposed to it or won't ever marry, just that I don't feel any need to worry about that when I am dating someone. I'd much rather just enjoy the time we spend together concentrating on having fun. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/20/2007 10:41:07 PM | 32 single dad of a 10 yr old wonderful boy and I have never been married, never been engaged and I have no plans to ever do either! I believe marriage is not what it used to be and that many people these days rush into things and don't seem to want to take the time to find the right one HENCE the high divorce rate and large amount of single parents.
Do you really need to be married to be happy? HELL NO! I think if you are content with your spouse and your children are happy and it is a healthy relationship then to hell with the marriage ceremony and just continue to live life as you are! Some still want it and that is fine but I totally believe that our generation has much less interest in getting married today! I being one of those who will never tie the knot! I have actually dated women that once they have brought it up I have walked out the door! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2007 2:51:29 AM | | just turned 30 and never married, never engaged and no children... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2007 12:55:17 PM | I'm 34 and have never been married and/or engaged. I'm not really sure what my issue is but sometimes I think I'm meant to not get married and other times I think it would be the greated thing in the world.
Chances are that I just haven't found the right one yet.
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/21/2007 3:34:49 PM | | I agree with ugly betty, that for some people marriage is not necessarily a good thing. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/22/2007 4:07:16 PM | I guess toss in another name on the fire. I guess to look at me, maybe its not all that big of a shock. I was never one able to really "play the field". But at the same time, never really wanted to.. always wanted to play with one person at a time.. not that that ever worked out very well either. I suppose being an introvert and not looking like a supermodel does have its drawbacks.
Mostly the whole.. just too scared of the world sometimes.. I guess if you never really throw yourself on the chopping block you can't have something cut off.
Came close to the big M ONCE.. I was 19.. what'd I know about anything then.. or now for that matter really.. I guess I feel I am kind of .. stunted. Need to really move in some direction, maybe that's why I am always pushing myself into work, keeps my mind off of other things in the world. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/22/2007 7:53:13 PM | | I am 33 and have never been married. I don't think it is fair for people to put those of us that haven't been down, just because we don't fall to the pressures of society to be married. I am not against marriage it's just that my experiences as of late are that a good majority of the women I meet are divorced with children and all they seem to want is someone around to pay the bills. Now don't get me wrong I am not saying ALL WOMEN are like this just a good majority of the ones I meet are. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/23/2007 5:44:02 PM |
resplendent soul
i have never been married or engaged.......i have been shacked up and it is the same difference i suppose. I just don't believe in marriage.....i believe in the ideal...but not in actually doing it. I can love someone totally and completely and be completely devouted to my partner.....without signing the dotted line. Then again i have issues with societal notions....so i might be limited in my thoughts. I give 2 thumbs down for marriage and two thumbs up for love and commitment.
I feel the same way actually. I alway's find nowaday's it's best to live common law with someone and not bow down to the pressure from society to be married. Also, this topic is comforting in that I'm glad I am definetly not the only one that's 30 (turning 30 in November) and not married. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/24/2007 4:00:17 PM | | That's me. I have not had any serious relationships either. It is because I refuse to compromise on my convictions. It seems like godly women are few and far between these days. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 8/4/2007 11:04:40 PM | | I am just undesireable. I fit this category and always will. Yeah I am on dating sites as a last resort but I doubt if anything will happen. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 8/5/2007 5:37:34 AM | | I believe no one should get married under the age of 30. Most people are figuring out who the heck they are in their 20's, and what qualities in a mate they desire. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 8/5/2007 6:38:10 AM | | At my 10 year high school reunion I was one of two guys that had not married and we had a graduating class of 496. Now I am 36 and things are still the same, never engaged and never married. I focused on career instead of what seems to be the thing around here, getting married out of high school and have kids. Now when you do meet a single woman she automatically comes with kids, it's just a given. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:25:56 PM | I'm 35 and have never been married. I was in a long term relationship in my 20s (well, for most of my 20s) but wasn't engaged. I think that because of women's careers taking a top priority (my education and career have been top priorities in my life) that women are very independent and aren't rushing into marriage. However, I still get questions like "why aren't you married at your age? why don't you have kids, blah blah, etc.?" Then I ask them, "why are you in a loveless, unhappy marriage?" I'm joking. I get tired of people asking me those questions.
I'm happy with my life and I don't feel like my clock is ticking and that I have to get married at a certain age. I have friends in their 40s who are single and they have very rewarding careers and are very happy and successful people. I would rather be single and happy then in a miserable relationship with someone just for the sake of "getting married"/in a committed relationship. I see far too many people (especially my friends) who are unhappy relationships and marriages. I've already went that route of being in an unhappy relationship and I'm glad I didn't get married to that person (it would have been a huge mistake).
So if you're 30 plus and not married, I wouldn't worry too much. Things happen for a reason. | |
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