| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/29/2007 11:46:03 PM | My parents divorced as well when I was very young. It had a tremendous affect on me as in I want to be totally sure it is the right one when I marry.
There are many things I consider in a man - for instance how he treats me, very important. For sure I am on here seeking long-term but will not just leap into marriage because my clock is ticking or whatever...it has to be right.  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/30/2007 1:08:19 AM | i'm 50 and have never married or been engaged .marriage is not for everyone.about half end in divorce(some i know have been very messy).i used to think something was wrong with me ,it was my fault.but my family and friends(i have many and about half are women) assure me that i just seem to go out with crazies.it is not from lack of trying on my part though.maybe trying too hard.still love life and thats the most important thing | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/30/2007 8:00:20 AM | 37 here, single never married no children... never even been in the ballpark's parking lot where this subject is concerned. To a certain degree it pains me as I'm starting to feel like I'm stuck on the outside looking in all the time and it's near impossible to meet a single woman that hasn't been married and has children. (sigh)
As the cliche goes, all the good ones appear to have been taken already.
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/31/2007 2:11:39 PM | | I just turned 31 and have never been married. I just never found the right guy. I think that alot of people get married so young; before they even have a chance to figure out who they really are. In the case of my parents: They waited 29 yrs. then divorced. They just didn't feel the love anymore and weren't the same people that they were when they met. It makes no sense to me. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/31/2007 5:59:15 PM | Thats me Rockwell,
I traveled all through my twenties fishing all over. I would not trade those years for anything, except maybe a wife and family. My mother and father are the all american marraige success story. I was the ONLY single person at my high school reunion, sort of odd. I'm keeping a positive attitude about it and who knows what the tide might bring.
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 10/31/2007 9:36:07 PM | By the time we get through university, establish our careers a bit, under go a couple of career changes, and see a few of life's surprises along the way we are already at 30. I do know of many people married in their 20's and truely believe you need to have your own life stable before adding another person. Usually it takes until your 30's to know what you are looking for in a significant other. The challenge then though is that many others may already have been divorced once, or with children, and we become less likely to initiate that first step. Ideally we all want to share the initial experience of marriage in a relationship, and the first time experience of having a child. We become so entangled in being at the next step that we forget we are getting older....
Your Age vs. Your idea of some who is old: --> try filling out your own table and see...
under 20's --> 25+
under 30 --> 35 might be mid life
under 40 --> 45+
But we get to this age and don't feel how we perceived that age to be old..... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/1/2007 9:44:51 AM |  ... In my own experiences, it may seem a bit strange, but NEVER in all of my relationships, dating experiences, etc, have I ever come across a single man who is even in the neighborhood of wanting to be married... ( heck--they aren't even in the country!! ) ;)
I'm not talking about the 25 year old mindset, I'm talking about 30-45 year olds.
However, it seems that every person I know, (within that age range) from work, or family, friends, well they all seem to be attached, engaged or married...
I don't know where you find them... LOL
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 11:47:34 AM | I'm 37, never married, engaged once, and thankful that didn't go through. I don't have any children either. With that said, my life is full and busy.
Would I like to have a fantastic woman to share it with? Sure. I'm getting more and more certain I won't meet her online. Reading this thread has been cathartic for me; the breadth of experiences and outlooks have been fascinating to read. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 12:46:49 PM | | Why does it matter so much? To me it means you have not met the right peson yet. What if you lived common-law just for the sake of it and brought a child into this wold and then broke up? To me that would be worse. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/2/2007 10:48:39 PM | Never married, never engaged or cohabitated. Nothing wrong with that. In retrospect, I'm grateful that none of the previous relationships "worked out". Now I realize that the reason I haven't settled down in a relationship is that I wasn't ready for it. I had some learning to do in the relationship department and just this summer felt like I've matured enough that I'm ready for something long-term, finally. I'm also cautious about commitments because once I do commit I'm "all in". If I'm going to commit then I want it to be with someone who is equally committed (and a good kisser  ). | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 10:36:11 AM | | does almost engaged count? like promise to get engaged as soon as I could afford a big fancy ring? | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 11:14:06 AM | | I was married when I was 31 and divorced before I was 32. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 12:02:21 PM | | I will be 30 next year. I don't think it's a big deal to be single when you are 30. Some people were too busy with school or work. Some people preferred to remain single in their 20s. I certainly rather be single and happy than married and miserable. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 11/5/2007 7:03:35 AM | I'm 34 - never engaged or married- I wasted 8 years of my life on a guy that was abusive so I don't think that helped.
Now I'm happier, healthier and ready for whatever life has to offer me. I also think people are getting married later in life - so I'm not worried. It'll happen when it happens. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/24/2008 5:25:25 AM | 33, Never married, engaged twice, two kids, and not looking to get married.  Not saying it won't happen but im not looking for it to. I'm happy being me with somebody regardless of marriage or not.
I think look silly in a suit anyway, so that's a good enough reason for me!  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/24/2008 7:55:00 AM | 33 never married, never engaged, never lived with someone, never had kids.....
about marriage, i love the idea of connecting yourself and working in partnership with someone on the everyday challenge of life....it isn't so much the wedding that i want, it is the partnership | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/24/2008 4:34:15 PM | | I am 32, never been married or engaged, and probably never will be. I cannot even get a date on this site let alone think about getting married... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:43:12 AM | | Im 36, never married no children. It's not something I regret so far. When the time is right I am sure marriage and children can still happen. But for now I go on with my life and try to make the best of things and let nature take its course if I come across the right woman someday. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/26/2008 4:13:21 PM | | I just turned 30 and never been married. I don't even have dogs. And my parents are still living together. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:03:53 PM | Thank you all for sharing your thoughts, opinions, and epiphanies!
I am 33 and never married. I often hear from well meaning family, friends, and co-workers' a loud & clear message regarding marriage; you must marry or something is wrong with you.
Reading some of your posts have put voice to my similar concerns, offered ideas, and provided validation and encouragement to me. Thank you!
Its refreshing since I do not have anyone in my circle who understands the choices I've made.
It seems as though many people pity me because of my single/never been married status. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:36:00 PM | | I may not be married yet but I plan on it. I don't ever want to stay single. Just had to say it because so many think being unmarried and single is such a good choice. It isn't for me. I hope everyone finds someone soon. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:15:53 PM | Never married, never got engaged, heck I never had a serious relationship. I am 39 and my aunt is going nuts I am not married. I have been hell and back with my parents I just didn't want more headaches. I am pretty picky and I do have commitment issue.
I don't think I need a relationship to be happy all I need is my freedom, my family and friends. A woman would be a plus, icing on the cake but it's not a must have for me. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/27/2008 6:40:21 AM | I don't know why, but I never found him either. I'll be 31 in March, back in school for the second career and gave up on having kids. I'm not modern enough to want to raise a child alone just so I could have one. I seem to meet a lot of divorced guys with kids and they always seem untrusting or a little bitter. Isn't there anyone who is "fresh" out there like me? Never married, no kids and not so bitter about love?
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/27/2008 7:14:49 AM | Ouch!! im 43 never married or had a relationship 
I am looking now but it might be to late for me to have any kids.
still going to give it a shot  | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 2/27/2008 7:47:47 AM | | I want to meet my Ms Right and het married before having a family That is why I do not have kids..many do not understand that. I do not want any child of mine being raised in a single parent home. So I search for my Ms Right. | |
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