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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/11/2008 7:35:07 PM | | I agree. There could also be hundreds of reasons not to get married. The person could have a different culture for instance. I am from Montreal Canada, recently moved to the US, and one of the things that struck me the most after having moved here was the number of married people compared to where I come from. I see so many people with rings. Where I come from hardly anybody get married anymore; I have lots of friends, and only two are married. I have never been interested in marriage myself, I think if two individuals love each other marriage is not needed. To me, marriage is just for the show; the feelings between the two persons, when sincere, should be enough without the need to flash in front of everybody. I literally met girls who told me wanting to get married because they wanted to wear a nice robe and all... just go and buy yourself a robe and some flowers then (just being sarcastic... I would have paid for the robe, hehe) | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/11/2008 9:37:37 PM | | I am thirty and have never been married and neither has my twin sister. I have not found "the one" I suppose. My parents have been married for 36 years and I want a marriage like that, one that lasts. Until I find the person I can stay with forever, I will not get married. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/12/2008 12:49:20 PM | lol 35 here and never married...
Pretty sure my problems my geek side mostly...
Roll out of bed code for 12 hours, keyboard plant... Not good for relationships...
Im working on it though hehe | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/14/2008 10:58:44 PM | I'm 33 and never married....came close twice though and got cold feet.
My parents had an arranged marriage in India....not a good one either...which kind of turned me off the idea of marriage for a long time.
Today, I am open to it. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/15/2008 6:24:14 AM | | I am 32 and have never married,although spent 13 yrs engaged and for most of that period all i wanted was to move to the alter,but now that relationship has ended i realise that marriage isnt the B all and end all,after all its just a piece of paper and its makes nobodys commitment any deeper than if you live togeather. Also a lot of people from our generation grew up in divorced or single parent households which has maybe given us all a different outlook on the institution that is marriage!! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/15/2008 9:04:05 PM | I am 30, never married, engaged once (glad I smelled the roses on that one) or twice, can't remember. I've been in love a couple of times since which could have led to marriage had I stuck with it. Could be married now to a nice slightly older man, but I don't love him, he loves me and wants more children...
I'm not in a hurry to get hitched for various personal reasons (at a crossroad in my life)...kinda burned out on men right now...(and I don't mean I'm gonna start testing women either...)
Who needs marriage....? | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:41:38 AM | Hmm, no... never been married! Never met someone who made me think that way.
I'm not anti the idea and still hold out hope that someone will come into my life who makes me marriage inclined!
Steve | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/17/2008 10:23:45 AM | There are surely an infinate amount of reasons why "older" men have never been married / no kids, but personally I have always had LTR's (longer than 2 years), where it just never happened. So after roughly 15 years of being in relationships - no offspring/ no alimony cheques.... 
I think the days are long gone where the stereotypical nuclear family is now the norm.... so maybe it's a bigger question about changes in society itself...... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/17/2008 1:47:12 PM | Yes our society has changed someways for the good and some ways for the bad. How is it good for our society when someone asks you why you are not paying child suport or why do you not have children and you respond bevause you have not met the right person yet.
People seem shocked when I say that and some have said "So what meet a womanb and have a child anyway even if she is not your Ms Right"
So are we making progress or taking steps backwards as a society? | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:02:43 PM | | Me too I'm learning to not worry about it so much. You know it's funny but when I was like 16/17 i allways thought that I'd be married and have kids at my age 37 at that time it seemed so far away now that it's here I'm realizing that it's ok to be single. I'd love to find that certain someone to share my life with but if I don't I don't. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/20/2008 12:15:05 PM | I am almost 33 , not married but like alot of others have been engaged once. Since that relationship I have become more particular about what I want in a guy and also don't want to be with someone who has previously been married ( or has children). Of course that makes Mr Right a little bit harder to find, but I intend to marry just once so why should I settle?
I believe there is somebody out there for everyone and they're worth waiting for.
Happy hunting everyone..... | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/20/2008 5:45:39 PM | I am almost 30 and never been married... no kids either.. I tell all my family and friends that I would rather be single then married and not happy. I am positive I could be married now if I really wanted to be but I am looking for the right person. If I don't feel it's that person then I am not getting married.
My parents have been married for 33 years.. :-) | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 4/23/2008 5:54:53 PM | | 33 years old and never married. Never fear, I'm getting better with age...lol! Seriously, I think I'm just a late bloomer. It happens. Those who judge the late bloomers are probably needing their own validation. I know what I have to offer women. It just comes down to finding the right one. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/16/2008 11:41:42 PM | | It was my goal to be married by 30, and I'm nearly 32 now and still single. But I try not to get too down about it. I look at it like I haven't found the right one yet. I hear of so many women who marry young then get a divorce shortly after. I'm glad that didn't happen to me. I'd rather wait a while longer and find the right one. Settling is never a good idea. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/16/2008 11:51:24 PM | | I'm over 30, never married (though I want to some day)...but no kids for this chick. Just not the right fit for my lifestyle. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2008 9:25:07 AM | hi.
im 41, i have never been married and have no kids. to be honest i do not see myself getting married at all, and prefer to be single. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:42:28 AM | I am 33 and never been married. I have been engaged once and realized it was for all the wrong reasons so I got out of it. I guess I haven't found the "one" and I'm hoping he's out there. Both my younger sisters engaged and I joke - "2 out of 3 ain't bad?" but my mother doesn't seem to agree. I would love to find someone that will make my toes tingle but it hasn't happened. I want to find the one that I still want to talk to when I'm 90. My sisters think I'm picky - and I guess I am - I don't want to marry just anyone.
I do have a little guy who is my life so I am even pickier b/c I have him to think about. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2008 3:54:29 PM | | Hiya I'm joining the que. I'm 32 and never been married and have no kids. I am open to the idea but unlike others it hasn't been a childhood dream.If it's gonna happen it'll happen, whats for you won't pass you. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2008 6:32:50 PM | | Im 31 and never been married, or engaged, and its not by choice. I just seem to have a hard time meeting women. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2008 6:38:36 PM |
How many of you on here are at least 30 and have never been married?
Does it count if we wish we never had been? | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2008 6:39:56 PM | | I have the same problem many have...school..own home. .pets.....what happened? I met those who want to use and I've seen men who were interested run because I brought more to the table. Maybe some ran because I didn't have enough according to them but that's why I joined a social site and became an organizer. I don't give up and besides, you won't catch any fish if you don't put out a net.. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2008 7:13:45 PM | 35 and never been married--have been a single mom for 14 years, though
Would like to find someone who is my match, but I think it will probably not happen in the near future and maybe never. I am ok with that, I have a good life and I'd rather be alone than with someone I don't mesh with.
Nutt | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/17/2008 7:44:02 PM | | I'm 37 and never married. But....it could happen! Maybe one day! | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/18/2008 10:01:52 AM | In some ways I regret the fact that, in my late 30s, I have yet to marry, or have children.
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-I do not regret the fact that I have not gone through the tension, drama and bitterness of a divorce.
If/when I do get married, I intend for it to be permenant.
Until then, I'd rather stay patiently single, than have one, or more, failed marriages. | |
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| 30 and never married?
Posted: 7/18/2008 2:53:43 PM | | 35 here and never been married. I am fine with that, too. I've seen too many people I know get married just to be married, and end up regretting it. Usually by the time they realize it was a mistake they have had children, which only ends up hurting everyone involved. I feel very fortunate that I have never had to go through that. Yes, it can get lonely at times, especially when it seems everyone else around you is married. But I would not want to be married just to be married. And so far I have not found anyone I would truly want to settle down with. Plus, I am not even sure I would want kids, and that is a huge issue when it comes to relationships. | |
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