| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 12/14/2004 10:38:52 PM | Interesting question....
One of the things that I noticed... is the fact that it is asking if it is "Possible to FALL in love online?"
Falling for something...... seems to be what most of the reply's have in common. Is it just me? Or is there something wrong with this picture? Whatever happened to the old sense of the word "LOVE"??? has it lost it's meaning? Is there such a thing as TRUE LOVE anymore? or has this word changed or morphed with time? Is society treating "LOVE" the same way as..... say "TECHNOLOGY?" everything..... being built on a level like "Bigger, Better, Faster?"
Seems at times that Love has changed much like TV has changed...... there used to be a time when there were only 13 channels on the TV..... now look how many???? 300+ and yet there still really isn't anything good on TV..... Same kinda crap.....lol. but just more of it. Seems to me that it will be awhile til we really get an idea of whether there is real love on the web. Finding Love in a "Virtual" sense almost seems kinda crazy.... if you take into account that most have not found LOVE in the REAL world. Sometimes I wonder if it would be better to go back to doing things in a more "TRADITIONAL" way. Seems that those are the times in which you are truly at one with the situation or relationship... you and your "Possible LOVE" are both flying by the seat of your pants and doing it together... at the same time....... in REAL TIME and both haven't any idea of the near future. In the real world.... there is no BACKSPACE or DELETE.... you are as you are..... mistakes and miracles in one.
Please don't get me wrong.... those who have found "LOVE" more power to them. Love is a wonderful thing.
True Love or Happiness to me....... are the times in LIFE that you spend with people in "REAL" time.... and find yourself at ease. Not wanting..... Just Accepting...... and being "IN THE MOMENT"
Take Life for what it is.... and do not GRASP for what you have not. BEAUTY and LOVE and Peace are all within your realm of understanding and "TRUE LOVE" will only come with the understanding that it will not come from some outside...... event. It happens WITHIN. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 12/15/2004 12:51:28 PM | Of COURSE it's possible *LOL*
It's happened to me...
You meet someone online, start chatting, then you call them or they call you.. you meet...VOILA...
(Is this hard to understand?) | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 12/15/2004 1:33:14 PM | The short answer: sometimes its even easier when there's distance, since the object of your love is more up to your imagination (and the other person's). Without the distraction of sex, it is also easier to focus on character.
Love can be relative. Consider a world in which people (pick whatever reason you like) can never physically meet (procreation is done, say, through mail). People would still get lonely and still talk, and they would have preferences about who their "talk-partners" were. Really good conversations would lead to deep relationships and serious feelings.
It's tempting to say that such love isn't real -- after all, you don't really know who is on the other end of the line. But even in our world, we never have absolute knowledge or truth about anything or anyone either. Love is always a matter of risk and faith, and the best we can do is minimize it. In a world where everyone cannot meet, their minimum may be larger than ours, but it is the best they can do so their love is as real to them as ours is to us. Conversely, there can be a world where people directly exchange thoughts and consider us to be trapped in little cells, and our love to be a pathetic shadow of the real thing. | |
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| Re: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 12/16/2004 4:52:22 PM | | "Online" alone? No. With other avenues in addition to getting to know them, yes. I know a couple who talked online for about 4 mos (long distance), finally met, and moved in together right away--and have been married now for 6'ish years. It happens every day! | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 12/17/2004 10:10:08 AM | yes it is possible to fall in love on~line,u have to have something to offer or many good qualities,i know find Ms Right is a task that can b a challenge at times. the fact that i am looking 4 a certain type of female makes equally difficult,there are only say so many gay women in my area and and he type im seeking. perssitance is key,changing yur profile from time to time helps,we need to up grade our selves at times, a good photo is a plus. i know i recently met a woman in mich. a 3 hr drive from me but all in all in went very well 4 a well date,i will see her again when i can. so don`t limit your self expand on who u are what you have to offer. hope this is a help
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN
Posted: 12/17/2004 1:18:00 PM | Chelle, Cubic: Originally I wasn't thinking about this... but your posts made me consider that I do believe a person can fall in love online; even if there's no other form of contact. Of course, it depends on the people and circumstances, etc. etc... but I can imagine a relationship where a person (or persons) just live every day for that online contact... possibly hoping it will move beyond that some day.
I believe however, that maybe your definition of love is more subjective than mine. You may be interjecting the term "love" with your own definitions of the "quality" of love... but you may see as I think I do : That's never consistent from one person to the next.
Everyone has different persepectives, aspects and qualities they seek in a relationship, so I don't believe we can really do that and make an objective judgment while using our own standards.
Does this make sense? | |
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Ray38
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Joined: 7/26/2004
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN
Posted: 12/17/2004 1:55:26 PM | I personally think that one can plant a strong seed online... I sincerely believe that through simple chat with no personal barriers, two people who are true to who they really are, can get to know each other real well..Even more so than in real life... although ,eventual physical interaction is important as well. They go hand in hand.
I met real interseting ppl. online, especially lately
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN
Posted: 12/17/2004 8:52:31 PM | | Yes, it is very possible to fall in love online. But you will only know if those feelings are real once you meet each other in person. Brace yourself for that moment because to undo the feelings that you have developed online towards that person may not be as easy as you think especially if the other party does not feel the same way as you do. One could well be heading for another heart break. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2004 9:13:45 PM | I think that someone can become infatuated online. Meaning that they become obsessed with each other and have to check their emails on a regular basis to see if the other person emailed. And then it gets to the point where they each want to meet each other but don’t want to do it too early or too late. But I wonder if this would lead more to an obsession than love.
Of course if they do really meet then sure it can turn into pure in-love. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 3/20/2005 11:19:30 AM | | Sure it is possible to fall in love on line. It happened to my nephew. He met someone online from England. He moved there 2 years ago. I am off to England for his wedding in November. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN
Posted: 3/20/2005 11:35:21 AM | I have heard of people falling on love through stranger means...(cop ticketing a woman who was speeding, teacher-students, mail-order brides...etc), so I wouldn't doubt that I could happen.
Now, whether that love remains after the two meet, is another matter. | |
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evansj
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Joined: 2/26/2005
Msg: 115 | |
| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN
Posted: 3/20/2005 1:02:50 PM | DEPENDS ON HOW LONELY A PERSON IS. THEY GOT A NEW THREAD OUT NOW CALLED
"BROKEN HEARTS" LOL | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN
Posted: 3/20/2005 1:24:04 PM | Even as I type this.... I can hear in my mind a song.... something about hear I go again...
If you had asked me this question 10 years ago, I would have a very doubtful response.
Since then, I have "seen" it happen twice. Both married, happily. One of which, I might add, the couple were married within 12 hours of actually meeting. They have been through hell and back together, financial, immigration, etc) and are still together. Evidence, at least as far as I am concerned, that the love was real.
I think a partof the difficulty here is that some might replace "falling in love online" with "having a relationship" that will last forever. It is unlikely in the extreme that two people could have a "dating" relationship online indefinitely.
Real love transcends time and space. So it is not a huge stretch for it to transcend technology. However.... as unfortunate as the next fact is... sometimes love is not enough to maintain a relationship. This in no way diminishes the love that exists... and it does not make it hurt any less when the relationship does not work out.
I agree... there are some... ok, maybe a lot... out there that are so full of lies, it is rediculous. But if you are going to withhold an emotional commitment... particularely if it turns out the one you are communicating with is some distance from you... Then it is likely that your own cynicism could be the worst enemy there is to any relationship. And... btw... you do not need to be online to find liars.... you can meet them in person just as easily. You can still fall in love with thier lies... and it will still hurt.
So, yes... you can fall in love... . but sooner or later, you have to go beyond love, and be together.... and that is much much harder than being in love. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2005 1:43:52 PM | NO WAY!
You cant fall in love online! We are not meeting a person here, you read the text and look at a photo.
If you fall in love, it is with the illusion you have created in your head! Not with the person behind the keyboard.. | |
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Joined: 1/9/2005
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN
Posted: 3/20/2005 3:51:13 PM | | Most definately, .....provided that you and the other are honest and things progress to a point beyond screen and telephone. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN
Posted: 3/20/2005 4:00:07 PM | | only when he forgot to put the seat down...........oh! online?I have no idea, never tried it. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 3/20/2005 7:19:15 PM | I haven't had it happen to me yet, but I've met new people and had some good conversation. I have even herd people say that they are going on a date. So I guess it is possible and I'm sure people have met over the net. I think you have to be close enough to one another for starters, plus you do get a share of whacks as well. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 3/20/2005 7:25:38 PM | | sure its possible, but its better to get to no the person in real life, that way you wont be dissapointed if things arent the way they claimed them to be when just talking through the screen | |
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deuy
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Joined: 3/15/2005
Msg: 123 | |
| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 3/20/2005 7:27:34 PM | Yes, absolutely,
I know this from first hand knowledge, that a person can actually fall into a very deep and meaningful love like never before experienced.
Yes, it can, and does happen. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 3/20/2005 7:34:38 PM | | i have fallen inlove online before but i got hurt badly from it , so i have learned to guard my heart from online people. but lately i have met someone from off here an i must say i can see myself falling inlove with this person but that was after i met them in person , not everyone lies on here some are serious an some are not, you just have to be careful over who u trust. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 3/21/2005 8:36:40 AM | | What do you meen by "online"? Do you meen never meeting the person face to face? Or do you meen finding them online, then meeting? I think the later is totaly possible. The former, well maybe, but I'm very doubtfull. | |
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