| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 4/16/2005 6:20:10 PM | I wouldn't have believed it before, but yes, it is totally possible to fall in love online. 
And why not? Especially when two people are more concerned with what's upstairs then what's downstairs. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 4/16/2005 10:23:07 PM | I have wasted many hours online ... though I have found a few cool people I wanted to keep in touch with online..but you know what happens....when you lose an email address or phone number...but online..you can never find htem again....
I'm sure it could happen but you only get what you put out....put out a catch and love and maybe you'll get a catch and love back...or just feel good.
best wishes..in love life health wealth and wisdom
g'nite sweetyt | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 4/16/2005 10:24:57 PM | I tried eharmony and some swear by it (a couple dollars) but it does aim for compatibility and moves you along in stages..and train..along..steps..if you're like me and you don't know how to get from o - 60 (in less than a lifetime)
eharmony...compatibily helps...and the hand holding. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 4/16/2005 10:55:09 PM | | i havent yet...doubt i will........my roomie from college joined e-harmony a long time ago, and met her fiance off there, lord knows why SHE needed to join a dating site, but she is sooooo happy, she says after a couple of emails that she knew there was something special about him, she had be real skepitical of the whole meeting someone online thing...but it worked for her...in my past ive been several and dated several men i met in chat rooms, no love though........but i say whatever works for you | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 4/17/2005 12:18:27 PM | I'm certain that you can, and I think that's what makes it all the worse.
It has happened to me, and I'll say that when it doesn't work out, it's just as devastating as if you were in the same room.
I had flirted with woman online a while ago, it was a very busy time in my life and I was new to this, but I kept her profile in my mail because I knew there was something there.
We had recently started writing to each other and chatting. I realized one day while looking at her picture, thinking of all we had said, that she could very well be the one. She had the most recognizable inner beauty. I could also see the love that was within her, waiting for the right person to give it to.
Our conversations flowed beautifully, we had a lot in common, we both cherished our children, and neither one of us was looking for a fast time. We wanted real, true, love.
The conversations ended up taking us to the space between us, and how we would deal with it. And sadly enough, even at the price of finding your soulmate, we couldn't resolve the distance that separated us. Sure in the short term we could meet in the middle, fly back and forth, whatever it takes. But there was no long-term solution.
I know that I feel a very deep love for her, and I know that she does have feelings for me, but because of the distance, we'll never know.
So from me, the answer is a resounding yes. | |
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| Re: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 4/17/2005 3:33:04 PM | farieigurl,
I agree, it is possible. And you do find out more when there is'nt the physical thing to deal with. You fall in love with the man inside, not the man outside. You become friends first, then the rest can follow with more ease I think. | |
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| Re: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 4/17/2005 6:24:32 PM | yes it is possible to fall in love online because i meet my g/f off this website and im very happy with her and we hope to get married some day and start a family and never thought it was possible to fall in love online but i was worng about that. u have to belive in it and it will work for u thump  to this web site | |
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| Re: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 4/18/2005 6:47:10 AM | I think the original poster was asking if it is possible to actually FALL IN LOVE ONLINE....without ever meeting the person.
Sure, you can 'meet' someone online and become interested in them, maybe even go a bit crazy over them - but then you arrange to MEET them, and after that then yes, it's possible to fall in love with them. But to claim true, undying love for a person that you've only seen pictures of, or chatted to online, or only ever even emailed is totally ludicrous. I'm sure that there are dozens of people right here on this site that have had what they thought was love for someone...and then met that person and found out they were NOTHING like what they had imagined....that the concept of what sort of person it was they had been talking to online was totally different than the real thing. And yes, I suppose there are also others that have not been disappointed, and found the real thing was just as good - if not better, than what they had imagined. But I think that is very rare.
I is my hope that I will meet someone special on this site. And that true love may come my way again. But not without ever meeting the person first. I just think that sort of thing is simply not possible. | |
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| Re: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 4/18/2005 7:27:18 AM | | I think I disagree. That is to say I know where I'm at and where and when those feelings started. And it was before the first phone call. But the proof is in the pudding, I 'spose. Stay tuned. | |
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| Re: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE?
Posted: 5/30/2009 2:12:51 PM | Yes. It's happened to me.
We aren't together anymore. It had nothing to do with how we met.
But there are huge limits to getting to know someone online. It can create a false illusion of intimacy. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love online?
Posted: 5/31/2009 9:19:33 AM | You mean JUST from typing on a keyboard? No, it's not possible to fall in love online.
The written word can be a very good communicator, but there's something about the give-and-take that occurs in a conversation in person, as well as the visual stimulation and the heart warmth that either occurs or does not occur when you're sitting 3 feet apart. A keyboard can't reveal that. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 6/7/2009 3:39:51 AM | Recently I started to talk to a man on line on this site, we have such alot in common and for 2 weeks we mailed 2 maybe 3 times a day and on our private e mails, he asked to meet me on the first phone call and we arranged for this weekend. He would come to my home town and if we really felt it was right he would stay over but if it was not the right time he would go home.......... no pressure.
We loved to write and the conversation was stimulating, funny, warm and interesting. We would both rush home from work and look to see what had been written. We had so much in common that I held my breath incase it fell apart. Then yesterday as I awaited the call/text to say when he would be leaving his home I got a text to say that he was not coming, he said it was too intense and that he had been alone too long. He has had other relationships and they fell apart. I was deverstated and so confused. I had fallen for this man and wanted to enhance his life as well as him enhancing mine. I never wanted to change our situations just make them happier.
Now he is ignoring me totally and wont even stay as mail mates which is better than just cutting someone off. If there is love to be found on here how the hell do you find it. I have been on this site for sometime and have not managed to find a sincere man yet, its either sex they want or they cant be bothered! Whats left for an honest woman like me who has such alot to give and yet cant find a man genuine enough to give it too? | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 6/7/2009 2:34:46 PM | Believe it or not this happens all the time. There's just one little problem... they've never met.
Romantic hopefuls now have so many ways to find each other - online dating, chat rooms, and social networking sites all provide new options of communicating with total strangers that may never meet face to face. Yet they often grow to feel so connected and insist what's happening is real. I mean, hey - they've got the endless texts, emails, and instant messages to prove it. Who cares that their beloved perhaps lives far away and could be lying about everything? What does it matter that they haven't so much as held hands? This is l-o-v-e and they've never been so sure.
Why, in this world full of opportunities would this "close but not quite" stuff be so commonplace? The very fact that these lovers have only limited interaction could be adding to the allure.
This feeling of illusory connection between people who don't know or barely know one another is created as a defense against loneliness and the fear of intimacy. By having a love life mostly in one's head, they get the benefit of not having to risk the rejection a real love could lead to, while getting some of their needs for attention satisfied by both their own imagination and the fleeting interactions the circumstances allow.
It seems harmless, but the danger is that the more a person relies on fantasies of connection, the less he or she will seek or be able to accept love and affection in a real relationship.
In all couplings, it's natural to go through a "fantasy" stage - the time everyone is on their best behavior and being their idealized self. This is enhanced by a euphoric****ail of chemicals the newly in love brain releases, making it impossible to see the source of infatuation as anything but their perfect dream lover (a stage which sadly lasts only a few months, leading many to later head for the nearest exits, mystified)
This heady time is Mother Nature's way of getting us together so we'll keep the human race going. The hope is that once everyone's masks come off and the rush of brain opiates calm down, the fantasy will in fact be a reality.
If you fear you may be in the throes of a "fantasy" relationship, ask yourself two questions:
1. What do I want?
2. Is what is happening what I want? (Meaning, if you want a partner to spend every night with you and be exclusive, but you only see them once a month because they're married, then yup, you're having a fantasy relationship
If the answer to #2 is negative, try to fix the situation. If it's not possible, then recognize what you've been doing - you haven't been ready for a full relationship and needed to experience a partial one.
But if you want more, be brave and choose to believe in the abundance of life, and move on. You'll only make yourself more attractive to everyone (including the unavailable lover you just gave up) and increase your chances for having something that can bring you the real relationship you long for at last. | |
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| IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 6/8/2009 1:25:50 AM | Do you know Indiana Rose that having read what you say I feel better in the fact that its so true. There was I thinking that maybe, just maybe I had found someone that I could spend time with and now I think.......... he is not worthy of me!
Fantasy is the thing we all have whether its sexual or other but in life fantasy does not bring real rewards. This man sent me a mail last night wanting, ney telling me that he had been with a woman only two days once and when sex had taken place he left her and she was heartbroken, well I have to thank him for not letting things get that far with me coz for sure I would have fallen for this man after sleeping with him. Why I ask myself now? I am now going to put my smiley face back on and get back in the saddle but not in a fantasy world, I have learnt a valuable lesson here and although I will continue to 'fish' it will be on my terms and will read and re-read what you have said. You write with clarity and I like that. I am a very clever intelligent woman who has been foolish but I am by no means a fool. Thank you so very much and may you be blessed with love, life and health. Yours Suzanne | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love online?
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:57:24 PM | | It is absolutely possible. It happened for me. It was Match.com back in 2002. I was a city girl, he was an 8th generation farmer. He lived about 40 minutes away from me on a huge dairy farm. He sent me an email about 4 days before my membership was going to expire. We exchanged about 4 emails, then chatted on the phone a few times. This was November of 2002. We married in June 2oo4 and were supposed to live happily ever after. Early this year, he died in my arms at 45. | |
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