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| Is it possible to fall in love online?
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:57:24 PM | | It is absolutely possible. It happened for me. It was Match.com back in 2002. I was a city girl, he was an 8th generation farmer. He lived about 40 minutes away from me on a huge dairy farm. He sent me an email about 4 days before my membership was going to expire. We exchanged about 4 emails, then chatted on the phone a few times. This was November of 2002. We married in June 2oo4 and were supposed to live happily ever after. Early this year, he died in my arms at 45. | |
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| Re: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE ONLINE?
Posted: 7/20/2009 9:42:56 AM | | When I was overseas visiting some friends in London, we went to a 'round the way pub and were just hanging out having a good time. About half way into our evening I had a tap on the shoulder, only to turn around and see this GORGEOUS hunk of man standing next to me. He looked young, so as I gave him complete eye contact and he proceeded to say, 'Aye wee lass, wot you doin' oot dis eve? I wont to sit doon next to ya and tell you I loove ya.' I could not help but scoff at his ballsy approach, but I did let him sit down as getting me to laugh is a definite point score. He was a Scotsman from Glasgow, 25 and a rock climber, I was American from Chicago, 39, and artsy fartsy . My mates were elbowing me and giggling as I balanced the two very different conversations between him and them. The evening went very well and we all had some laughs and I proceeded to tell him that I was leaving in a couple of days to return home. He suggested that I give him my hotmail addy so that we could keep in contact and my phone number etc. I agreed and we both left for the evening and I surmised that I would never hear from him or see him again. Before I even left the country, he had texted me the next day and told me he was thinking of me and asked if I was thinking of him. A wave of excitement washed through me, but I couldn't make TOO big of a deal out of it because we resided in different countries, so I texted something clever to him like, 'Yea I'm thinking of what a complete headache you have given me.' We both had a sick sense of humor and he replied, 'Well, ya better noot say ya got a wee headache when I scoop ya up and take ya to the bedroom.' Oh, he was GOOD. Someone I could banter with, that is probably the sexiest quality in a man, is one I can share barbs with. It takes wit and quick maneuvering to verbally spar, and he had it. Long story short we end up IM-ing and texting and talking on the phone for a period of a year and I most definitely fell in love with him over that time and he with me. Most of our talking was online as we got to share all the inner and private conversations that couples do I suppose, but the distance was too much for us. Wanting to be together so badly and being 5,000 miles over an ocean was what tore us apart, even though it hurt like mad I don't regret the time we had sharing, the deep connection, and most importantly the laughs. I would not do distance again however, it's just too difficult in the long run. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love online?
Posted: 7/21/2009 5:23:21 AM | Hey leather angel, yes it happened to me, even though i was cynical. First time i got past the bs and small talk, first time i made the effort to chat daily, first time i actually made the effort to meet the girl i was interested in. It has been wonderful so far and i am excited about the future. I don't know if she was the only woman i would have been happy with but i am sure happy so far ( profiles didn't match and we live too far apart but nothing seems too hard so far and i am feeling very alive).
Cheers, Andrew | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love online?
Posted: 7/21/2009 6:29:42 AM | I think I would be very hard for me to fall in love with someone I haven't eventually met in person. For one thing, it's very easy for someone online to just be a complete fraud, lying to you or just playing you, so I am usually a lot more guarded online. In person, I can read their body language and their tone, which makes it easier verify their intentions. Physical contact and intimacy is also a pretty important part of the process for me.
Even if I do develop feelings for this person though, I would also probably find it hard to commit myself to her if we have never come into contact with each other in person. It's especially hard if it's over a long distance where the chances of first contact are even smaller or possibly even non-existent. Once that contact is made, if I have feelings for this person and see a reasonable chance for a future together, than the distance becomes manageable and commitment becomes an easy choice. | |
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