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| Re: WHO PUTS OUT ON THE FIRST DATE?
Posted: 11/17/2004 3:17:46 PM | | i would say sluts put out on the first date! be it men or women,a real gentleman doesnt go there and a real lady dosent either. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2004 5:48:46 PM | I do what seems to be right in the moment. If it works out after sex on the first date that would be sweet but those relationships that start fast burn out fast to at least they do for me. I let the moment dictate what happens I think making rules about how far to go on a first date is ridonculas. | |
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| WHO PUTS OUT ON THE FIRST DATE?
Posted: 11/17/2004 8:09:47 PM | My thoughts on this are that most people do not go into a first date intending to put out. But if there is a connection, or booze, or a combination of the two, and the two people involved just send out those sexy, can't-be-without-you-tonight-vibes to each other, then yah it happens. IT HAPPENS. lol. & ladies, us guys won't hold it against you. Just hold us, dammit! it happened to me. one night turned into a week and then a month and before you know it, it's a relationship.
sometimes, u just gotta go with the flow.
& that's my 2 cents,
From Me.
p.s. ladies, I'm now single AND willing! | |
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Posted: 11/29/2004 1:16:59 AM | | Well I love sex, so if the mood is right then yeah i will have sex on the first date... So if you wanna call me a slut or say i'm not a lady, then thats your right, but who are you to really judge me as a person? | |
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Posted: 11/29/2004 4:06:36 AM | | Sex on a first date? Hell no. If that's your goal, or you're so d*mned weak with obsession and lust, then it sure ain't romance. It's just gettin laid. Acting on impulses without control of your emotions is stupid, and askin for trouble. You better go out awhile, get to really know the person, and don't let the lust rule your decision. God, are you in middle school? I expect stupidity there, but not here. | |
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| WHO PUTS OUT ON THE FIRST DATE?
Posted: 11/29/2004 7:12:55 AM | | i put out on the first date, that way i know if i want to see him again or not. if he can't tune the engine, i won't be seeing him again. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 12:44:57 AM | | otisflave1941 >> Are you following me everywhere i go on purposejust to put me down.... Maybe your just to old fashioned.. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 4:11:05 AM | | I like Georgie's post. A man should have the common decency to show he has value in a woman beyond sex on the first date. Some people have these standards of value, some don't. One night stands are just fulfilling a horney need the majority of the time, and don't mean a d*mned thing about valuing the woman. But most guys do have raging hormones for the first few decades of their lives, and their brain resides entirely in their pecker. So if some of you women want to get in line for the pecking order, wait your turn and don't expect any respect. You are being used, that's all. If you want a true relationship, you don't find it all in sex. When you're all used up, gettin older, and the guys want the younger victims, then maybe you will actually start looking for somebody that still has values. Remember, in too many case, people are no d*mned good! Get control of yourself, for God's sake! ( I wonder why I'm wasting my breath, and even answering this.) | |
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Posted: 11/30/2004 2:36:11 PM | | Baby,, haha,,no I am not following you around. I wasn't specifically pointing at you. My post just happened to be close to yours. Heck, don't worry bout what I say. It don't mean nothing anyway. I would not specifically put you down. Anyway, what you do is none of my business. I'm just a dead leaf falling off a tree..get blown away with the wind in a matter of minutes, and all is forgotten. | |
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| Re: WHO PUTS OUT ON THE FIRST DATE?
Posted: 11/30/2004 4:28:58 PM | for the record...
i put out on first or be it last date...and of course sometimes they are both:)
if at that moment its what me and my friend want...then fine....sometimes maybe i want to tease them/myself so i wait for a second or third encounter before i persue ....but if the time is right the first enounter then why waste it?
the good lovers out there will understand this....
the folks saying they wouldnt or whatever that is fine....but to suggest that i am not a gentlemen or that i am a slut cause of this is not true...
and imho people to place judgement on others is rude..
what i think people must do is be careful with those moments....obviously protect yourself (condoms) ....then simply let things unfold....by ussing protection i find *after* is soothing instead of stressful....and i see it in my *friends*
i find women tend to put on a show/act different prior to sexual relations...i imagine men do the same...and i find out alot more about the person after the sexual *act* is finished..
i realize my 2 bit input here sounds extremely blah/mundane but i wanted to make it simple for the *judgemental* folks ....maybe they will have a better chance of understanding..
the people who do understand the stimulation of having sexual relations on a more simple/physical/primal level dont need to be *skooled* or *reformed* i just think they should be careful if they are not currently....
i might add.....if these encounters take over your life.....if you have soo many of them you forget what you are looking for....or maybe you come to a point you are unable to truely feel anything with substance i feel pity for you....and i honestly can say i have not reached this point in my life so i have no real concrete advice for someone in this position....typically if i meet a women who is like this i try and keep clear of her and keep things on a friednship level...
anyhoo
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Posted: 11/30/2004 7:53:25 PM | so what would everyone say to this??
I put out on a first "date" ......fully expecting a friendship to commence.....and then it didn't.
I am not broken hearted or anything....I actually really enjoyed myself and have chalked it up as an experience. I am just wondering if I should now consider myself "cheap" "easy" "slut" ??? | |
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Posted: 12/1/2004 2:11:28 AM | Otisflav1941 >>
Then my appoligy's go out to you... It's just that in every forum i've been to your right under me... Telling me i'm wrong!!! (lol) | |
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Posted: 12/1/2004 4:38:37 AM | | Baby,,no apology necessary. And I'm not saying any of you are sluts..no way! It's your life, and your decision. If it works for you, then I am glad for you. I don't mean to judge, just observe a lot of posts. My opinion is worth maybe just want it costs in here,,nothin. I just hate to see people get hurt. (Anyway, if I was 20 years younger, I'd be on top of you, not under,,hahaha.) | |
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Posted: 12/1/2004 7:41:04 AM | | I don't think that anyone should be condemed for what they chose to do. Most people have those "secret" one nighters they don't want anyone to know about. I don't think that sleeping with a man the first night means doom to the realtionship either. SOME men just think you are a sexual creature like they are rather than a "slut". I slept with my husband of 12 years on our first date. Gee how much longer do you guys want a relationship to last nowadays. I've waited with some men, I've done a few on the first night. Some have worked out, some haven't. Do what you want. It doesn't make you a slut or virtuous either way. You don't get to claim you are a virgin if you wait till the second date do you? I'm pretty sure I never read that in the rules. The hyman does not regrow just because you wait. I think condoms are a MUST though. I would seriously encourage everyone to practice safe sex be it the first night, or after waiting 6 months. Knowing them 6 months doesn't make them any safer, only a test from your local health department saying they are clean does. Ok me and my radical views are going to work now...have a great day guys. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2004 7:54:33 AM | | I would say that people who put out on the first date are careless. There are too many STDs that will ruin your sex life forever, your love life even. It's hard to resist, whether you're a girl or a boy, but it's too dangerous. I have no moral qualms against it, just health ones. | |
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| Re: WHO PUTS OUT ON THE FIRST DATE?
Posted: 12/2/2004 1:13:18 AM | "I slept with my husband of 12 years on our first date."
well i am confused...
sites purpose "Online Dating & Personals"
your married and on this site??
if you said " my ex-husband" then i would fully understand...
not trying to hack on yas or anything just confused..
i do like the *safety* comments in your post ...
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Posted: 12/2/2004 2:37:49 AM |  This is so true...so if I am not looking for a serious relationship, sleep with the guy on the first date...hmmm...think I can handle this...we all need to get laid...naturally we are all human beings who need intimacy in our lives...without it, I would go mad...Sex on the first date does come out and it could be the best time of our lives especially if we have been single for a long period of time or had bad sex with a past relationship...LOL...yeah! Who wouldn't put our than?   | |
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