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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 2:54:12 AM |
OP, I hate when people say there is more to life than sex. Sorry but the reason we are here is to have sex. What do you actually think is more important in your life?
Something tells me, he actually believes that! Lol...Talk about messed up priorities, but then again, he is only 24... | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 3:50:32 AM | I guess then most people "in here" are interested in sex? Just an LTR, without sex? Hm!
It is truly a far better priority to have: career, fancy car, fancy clothes, fame, power, glory, chocolate, fancy foods and restaurants, etc etc??? | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 2:54:19 PM | Coz they think they wont get AIDS !
I caught something nasty once.
Vomitted, serious dairhoea, bladder infection, prostate infected and testicles both like tennis balls too. And this was a steady relationship ! | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 3:11:01 PM | | I have gone through different stages in my life when it came to sex - I can definitely say that most of my experience has been in a loving, committed, LT relationships. Although there have been times when I had sex for the sake of sex - however that does not mean that I feel any less of myself because of that. Playing safe with respectful partners is a personal choice - it doesn't change the person you are or diminish your morality! | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 3:28:26 PM | There is absolutely nothing wrong with your sexual preferences, my sexual preferences, or Jane Ho's sexual preferences. There are people that share each of our preferences, so criticizing soceity's pragmatism or morality is nothing but angst.
While I believe that, I'll share my personal feelings. I don't expect you to share my viewpoint on sex, but it is my viewpoint and that's the point of these forums. I wouldn't offer up this viewpoint without context, because it's not my place to criticize people's sexual preferences.
I like having sex. I'm am safer with sex than I am with many things in my life, which is to say I am as safe as science affords. Sexual communion is the highest form of intimate communication between persons. Consenting adults should be respected for whatever they want to do. To many people, withholding this intimacy builds up an anticipation and a hunger for it that makes them feel completely justified and (hopefully) satisfied when they do share the act with someone else. In reality, the act is physical and while the emotions are plentiful, a history coupled with an abundance of anticipation, can put so much psychological weight on the activity that the resulting pleasure will likely be "average" at best. But how would you know, anyway? You wouldn't have very much (if any) experience to compare it to. So, on with your religious illusions. The art of sexual enjoyment could be realized between partners who are truly monogamous (never been with anyone else) but this would require such a similarity in inclinations, utter empathy, stellar curiousity, and other magnanimous adjectives that just aren't going to happen. So you'll get average sex, some flashy player will come along in seven years and steal your honey away then on to the church singles (divorcee) groups to try again. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 5:54:45 PM | Exactly what is important in your life DamnProud2BCanehdian? Whether you want to admit it or not procreation is actually the reason you are here, the same as any other animal. Sure family, friends, and non-sexual enjoyment are great but don't kid yourself. There is a reason sex feels so good.
Also people who under value other's opinions because they are younger (wow, a big 3 years between the two of us too!) are imo small minded anyways. God forbid someone came along next who's 31 and said you were wrong. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 8:11:21 PM | On this planet that we reside upon, there are two instincts that drive the entire living montage as we know it.
1. fight for survival
1. reproduction.
It is NOT an error that both are numbered 1. In nature animals will frequently trade survival for the opportunity to breed. At the extreme think spiders and salmon.
Irrespective of supernatural imaginings, this world revolves around sex and violence.
Like the look of that beautiful flower? You are looking at the sex organs of a plant.
Enjoy the birdsong in the air? You are listening to the mating calls and territorial aggressions of competing birds.
Love the sound of the forest? Once again it is nature screaming for sex.
As cole 24 said, there is a reason that sex feels so good. It is vital for the survival of us all and our progeny.
Anyone who attempts to lessen the importance of sex is either seriously repressed, has a faulty libido or is lying. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 10:08:05 PM | Note to self: Contact all the ladies that have posted to this thread about how much they like sex, and want more of it....
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 11:15:47 PM |
As cole 24 said, there is a reason that sex feels so good. It is vital for the survival of us all and our progeny.
If this were true, why would labor and childbirth, also "vital for the survival of us all", be so excruciatingly painful?? | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/7/2007 11:21:54 PM | | This is an easy one. Women's bone structure is in conflict with walking upright. If you look at other sapiens they have an awkward gait when they walk upright. Humans do not because our pelvises have changed in accordance with our upright mobility. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:21:34 AM | So much for the 'young, immature guy 'not knowing anything.
Way to tell them Cole !!!!!
Ok, I read all of the posts...and to be honest, it really ticks me off when people seem to think they, or their views, are better than others because of what they believe or do.
You don't think sex is important? It's your life, do with it what you want.
You refuse to have casual sex? Again, it's your life...don't have casual sex.
You won't have sex unless you are in a loving, committed relationship? Then don't.
BUT...do not sit there behind your computers and tell anyone that sex outside of a serious relationship is wrong or immoral...that's not up to you to judge.
If you've never had casual sex, don't bother saying that it couldn't possibly be good.
Sex and love are two completely seperate things. Sometimes they go together, sometimes they don't. No one can argue that sex is much more intimate and romantic in a serious relationship...but that does not mean that casual sex has to be empty and mechanical. Casual sex can be extremely good and can even be a very intimate thing. let's face it, no matter who you're with, you're letting all your walls down when you are naked with them.
Don't bother lecturing anyone about casual sex being more dangerous, or those who have casual sex ( or sex with 'friends' outside of a committed relationship). I ahve been in both situations...married twice...only two partners in almost 20 years....never cheated in either of my marriages. First time....contracted STDs from my husband three different times. Had never had one before, have never had one since. So much for your theory. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:22:50 AM | | Letting all your walls down when your naked with them? yes, letting them down when having sex? yeah right, women who wear tshirts during it, women who dont want to be touched during, women who use it as a revenge tool/seducing the boyfriend of someone they dont like, i think most people are never truly open and intimate, or open up to someone else completely, during that act. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:32:54 AM | Sex is a need... maybe not to u .. but to most normal , sexual peeps .. with a healthy sex drive .. yup is necessary as breathing!
So basically what you're saying is....a person who decides to have sex only with a person they care for is not normal? Someone that wants MEANINGFUL sex doesn't have a healthy sex drive?
You determine a healthy sex drive by the morals people set for themselves??
HOW totally laughable! I can assure you that my sex drive is healthy, and just because I don't screw every Tom, D!ck and Harry, does not mean I don't enjoy sex. It means I don't want EMPTY sex.
It is truly a far better priority to have: career, fancy car, fancy clothes, fame, power, glory, chocolate, fancy foods and restaurants, etc etc???
No, you got that all wrong..its a far better priority FOR ME to be able to look in the mirror and like what I see, and not regret the decisions I make, it has absolutely nothing to do with material things.....
I'm not knocking anyone that feels that sex should be enjoyed with whoever is there at the moment. To each his own, but I'm getting really tired of people knocking you down, and making you sound like some freak of nature, simply because you've set certain morals for yourself, and are doing whats right for YOU, not for anyone else.... | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:43:56 AM | ***So basically what you're saying is....a person who decides to have sex only with a person they care for is not normal? Someone that wants MEANINGFUL sex doesn't have a healthy sex drive?
You determine a healthy sex drive by the morals people set for themselves??
HOW totally laughable! I can assure you that my sex drive is healthy, and just because I don't screw every Tom, D!ck and Harry, does not mean I don't enjoy sex. It means I don't want EMPTY sex.***
Words like "meaningful" and "empty" are totally subjective. They are not absolutes. Empty for one person can be meaningful for another and vice versa. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:59:22 AM |
Note to self: Contact all the ladies that have posted to this thread about how much they like sex, and want more of it....
Just because they said they like sex and want more of it that does not mean with many or with a soul mate either. Common sense, I know the fellow poster was joking, but a point is a point. People not in rels (ie single) who like lots of sex, men or women, does not mean they do it with every/any Rick or Jane or many Ricks and Janes!!!
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 7:12:43 AM |
If this were true, why would labor and childbirth, also "vital for the survival of us all", be so excruciatingly painful??
Because if it was the other way round, we wouldn't be here.
Saving sex for that special someone is fine, but it is purely a personal choice.
We all have a need for sex. Either we go out and find a willing partner or we settle for masturbation. Its not good to build up unspent sexual needs. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:05:50 PM | | sex can be overrated depending if the person brags about being fantastic and is crap, personally i love sex but also like it more in aloving relationship but then again who dosent | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:25:55 PM | | I can sure see how it is overrated, but in the same since I love it and lots of it. I have sex when I date, and I don't see a problem with it. Like my mom always said: Don't buy a car unless you test drive it first!!!! | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:59:17 PM | I think the American culture of "do whatever you want to, screw everyone else" is revolting.
The fact of the matter is, I'm not putting out to anyone who isn't my husband (regardless of mistakes I have made in the past). The idea nowadays is that this mode of thinking is a ridiculous and outdated notion.
I understand that the consequences of my decision are likely to mean that I will always be alone (and probably with a lot of pets) - but I don't care. I've had a gut full of this sex-crazed society and I want OUT!
Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.
Wendy | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/8/2007 6:52:43 PM | I have only respect for people who have sex.
But none for playing with it.
If you want sex, then it only stands to reason that you would go for the people who you KNOW are good at it. It also stands to reason that you would keep going for the same people.
This rarely happens, however. I meet a lot of young women who say all they want is sex, then go for a young bloke who is done real quick.It often turns out that they wanted a relationship when they were young, got used a lot by men, then go out and sleep with every good-looking, confident guy who chats them up, never go and approach a guy for it, then after a few years, they decide they want to be the "good girl" again, and only want to wait for marriage.
Is that sex? Or is that: since I've had a lot of casual sex when I really wanted a relationship, I might as well go out and have it, and get it out of my system, and then settle down.
Problems with that approach:
1) The more you have, the more you want. You NEVER get it out of your system.
2) I've been accused of being gay, because I didn't want casual sex. So I should go out and screw guys?
3) You can only get away with pretending to be innocent for so long. Then, the guy KNOWS you lied to him right from the start, and that's when he decided he can't trust you.
THIS IS NOT SEX. THIS IS AN EGO-BOOST!
Same thing with men. Show me a man who only wants good, casual sex and that guy is chatting up a very fit 36-year old woman. She knows what she wants, knows how to do it, and she's as horny as she's ever be, because she's hit her sexual peak. And he's told her right away that he wants casual sex, because he knows that she is up for that too.
But the women these guys go for are young, pretty, don't know much about sex, and are only looking for a relationship. THIS IS NOT SEX. THIS IS A CONQUEST!
So that's my problem with casual sex. I've met people who've had it. A lot are my friends. But most guys and gals who are into it, are looking for someone to boost their ego, so they can say that they did it with a fit, young, good-looking guy, or that they convinced a pretty, attractive girl into bed.
Either way, this is not sex. It's an ego-boost.
And posters are saying they want sex!
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/10/2007 6:57:23 AM | I read a post that said the reason we are here is for "SEX." Then seemed to ask why else would we be here.
Well, I could get all up on that. ::smiles:: But I won't preach.
I will say it is my belief we have been put here to serve our Lord. Sure he gave us the pleasures of sexual contact, he gave us ability to think, worship and feel.
But I don't think he put us here to worship sex. And if our only goal in life is sex, then our human race is doom to failure. I say that due to the vast numbers who live for sex and more sex are the ones who have caused AID's to spread so much like a wild fire that the firefighters can't control.
And yet if mankind can learn a lot of self control, the disease could be eliminated with "Wiser" choices of when not to have sex.
I don't know about some of you. But I wasn't put here just to have sex, I was put here to live a life and worship a Lord during its course of existance. Hate to get religious folks, but trust me, Sex isn't eternal life. Might be the end of an already short life your currently living though. Watch out for STD's... some of them kill. | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/10/2007 9:39:14 AM | And yet if mankind can learn a lot of self control, the disease could be eliminated with "Wiser" choices of when not to have sex.
"When" as in w/o a condom.
Other things kill too: cars, planes, elevators, cancer, viral diseases (SARS, Ebola, birdflu, tuberculosis, etc), stress, work, unemployment, skydiving, some sports, food, alcohol, hanger, greed, wars, jealousy, crime, earthquakes, etc, etc. But no one is speaking as much of them as they do about sex. "Why is that?" one can wonder!!!
Last example: People play (US) football but they wear "protective gear", unlike rugby. lol | |
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| why are most people so free with sex?
Posted: 6/10/2007 11:25:36 AM | Being comfortable talking sex doesn't mean you're free with it.
I for example am happy to discuss sexual issues with practiacally anyone without feeling uneasy .
Assuming they're in context & not brought up for tittilation purposes only.
But,i've had one sexual partner since i was 18.
So, 2&2= 5?  | |
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