| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 9/23/2007 9:16:19 AM | Of course you smokers have the right to smoke, just as much as we non-smokers have the right to object to having to breathe in your smoke. People are going to do whatever they want to do, whether it is good or bad for them. As a nurse, I am obviously going to continue to educate my patients about smoking, I don't want to see them prematurly end up as my hospice patients....... I have a 42 yr old dying from lung cancer, started smoking when he was 14 years old. You can leave it up to God if you choose, or you can do something to help yourself before that happens.
To the posters on here who are working on quitting or who have already quit, I commend you...... | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 9/23/2007 10:13:23 AM | I guess that means we are greater than God if he chooses we die at that time and doctors and quiting smoking can change that. I for one believe we create a lot of our own illness by believing what we are told so our mind produces in our body what it thinks should happen. But there is a study I do agree with by f. Batmanghelidj, MD about not having enough water in our bodies causes alot of the things we spend millions of dollars on a year to not fix but keep on medicating. People might want to check out this site if they are worried and they don't stop smoking..www.watercures.com even if your not a smoker you might want to check it out it might save you a bunch of money by not going to the doctor because your sick all the time.
So this smoker is going to keep up her life style in excellant health and wonder why all the non smokers she works with are so out of breath and she isn't. I guess God and water have a lot to do with it here and what I believe.
The only non smoker I would date would have to know what tolerance is and know how to act it. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 9/23/2007 10:31:11 AM | I smoke and recently had a gal tell me the ashtray thing... as someone else said, whatever floats your boat, but I don't need to be told it's bad, etc, etc, etc.
Afterwards, I mailed her an ashtray... she can kiss that henceforth.
DON'T DATE a smoker to begin with, PERIOD.
Be nice to have some consideration for that persons feelings and not let a relationship grow (or even begin), then blow him/her outta the water, thus hurting feelings and a persons heart.
To me, that's game playing.
My 2 cents.
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:17:05 PM | hmm to all you smokers. u can smoke away and blow your smoke in my face as long as in turn i can bend over, aim my arse at your face and cut the cheese in your face
maybe that will show u how disguting it is to have to inhale the smoke coming out of your stinky facial rectums | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 9/23/2007 8:32:36 PM |  JEEZ trubblemakr...THAT is just pretty UNcalled for...dontcha think?
Habits....addictions...are just that.
Perhaps not to be accepted...yet never to diss.
We ALL have our weaknesses...COME on! Bet YOU do....
Nicotine is a nasty addictive drug...
VERY difficult to elude once hooked...
NOT fair to attack the addicted...
All I have to say for those who Are addicted...stop with the lame excuses.
And for .....Those who blame...also STOP.
Only TWO major groups reaping Billions here....the Tobacco and Pharmaceutical Industries. Sigh. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 9/23/2007 9:31:32 PM | it is interestin, but I have never smoked in my life
But i date smokers all the time. It is something about it that i like | |
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Posted: 9/24/2007 9:08:53 AM | aww poor poor anti smoker...did some horrible nasty person blow smoke in your pretty witty face?....keep your trousers on+lets lynch em instead..!wow that'd be fun eh?
tell you what..lets wait for some of our boys who smoke come back from Iraq+Afghanistan(bet theyre really pissin the enemy off over there with their vile habit)...stand near them when they light up+you tell em what you just posted on here....dont worry I'll hold your jacket while you thrash em...
get a f.....n life | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 9/24/2007 9:13:47 AM | | theres a message for you on here....cant be bothered writing it twice...need my fingers to roll another one.. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 9/24/2007 9:25:35 AM | | I quit smoking over 5 years ago, for health reasons. Yeah I miss it sometimes, but I have to admit, I wouldn't be able to date a smoker because it really does play a number on my olfactory system. I can't wear perfumes anymore either but I won't ignore people who do ? Just common sense and good manners go a long way when it comes to sharing space with people who smoke. It works both ways. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2007 9:26:32 AM | | Stick it in your profile and make sure the guy is honest with you. If he tells you he's a smoker refuse to date him, and if he lies to you and pretends he doesn't smoke then lights one up, he's a liar anyway so he's not worth bothering with. I'm a smoker and I have a mention in my profile for people to keep away if they find it offensive, but nine times out of ten they say it doesn't bother them, it's only after they've dated me a couple of times and try to convince me to cut down that I realise they were lieing and I dump them. If there's something that really puts you off in a man, don't date him. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 9:42:51 AM | I think it is your right and that is the ideal situation. However, I could date a smoker that respects a non-smoker's space.
I dated a guy who claimed to be an occasional smoker but was actually a chain smoker.
He tried to control his smoking on the first date. However, on the second date he turned me into a smoked meat. Now because of this horrible date in the furnace I am looking for a non-smoker. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2007 8:08:52 AM | | I have really enjoy what you say about life and smoking...there is many things that can kill us,to much of anything is not good...to each there own...to many people try to tell ...you...how to live..what ..right...or whats...wronge....and its hard enough to manage our own life let alone someone else..most non-smokers are very rude and inconsiderate about smoking,even if your outside,what they dont realize is,when you get to the point of that much control in people life..whats next..they passes a law,they ..no smoking in the home...that also means...they can ..also enter there home also..just by someone saying so...this is... U.S.A..which..means...FREEDOM.... | |
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Posted: 12/19/2007 8:49:17 AM | Meh, if they don't want to date a smoker that's their right. I don't mind being excluded from the dating pool they swim in on account of my dirty little habit. Really, aren't we both doing each other a favour ? Her for telling me she doesn't want to date a smoker and me for being honest about it in the first place. Seems to me that everybody wins.
I won't tolerate people giving me their preaching though. I go to great lengths to ensure that non-smokers aren't forced to share my habit. As long as it's legal I'm not going to apologize for a damned thing. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 6:22:57 AM | Every freaking smoker on here that is trying to defend that crappy, nasty, smelly habit is full of crap themselves and YOU ALL KNOW IT!
Each and every time you are sitting alone, in front of your computer, crusing the web, when you take that break to rest your ass cheeks and you go pick-up a bottle of Windex to clean your monitor while using toilet paper or some other soft clean tissue...
When you see all that tar and nicotine gunk on the cloth... When you see the trails of scum that has built up on your computer, the phone nearby, your other hardware or even your television across the room... YOU FEEL DISGUSTED, pissed-off and mad as hell because of the habit of smoking.
Moreover you feel hate and discontent against the fat cats in North Carolina that are raking in BILLIONS of YOUR DOLLARS each MONTH because YOU are TOO WEAK TO QUIT!
You all know you want to drop this nasty-assed, disgusting, stinking habit. You all KNOW it takes willpower and discipline but you all feel you lack what it takes!
You all know that at the drop of the hat that ANY tense moment you are going to grab for the butts in the ashtray and your rolling papers to roll the crap left over and smoke whatever you can find when you are out of smokes... You will smoke the damn ashes if you had to!
The truth is? You all CAN STOP SMOKING... You and your self-esteem will NEVER be on better ground as when you just flip that little switch in your head and say to yourself that these **stards in the cigarette industry are NOT going to make another "fu...ng dime off of me"...
I tried to quit HUNDREDS of times over a 35 year period. Hell, I could have quit when I was in Marine Corps Bootcamp, but they gave us an option to smoke... And yes! We enjoyed that "buzz"...
But the bottom line is, you won't stop until you are ready to stop. I figured QUITTING was too permanent, so I gave myself an open-ended option. I decided to STOP as QUITTING was permanent and I didn't want to break my word to myself... So I, "stopped". Giving myself the option of starting again whenever I wanted to.
That was November 2005 and I have been around smokers and all the after-effect crap and you know what? I have NEVER been more disgusted than when I witnessed a casual smoker go outside my house to smoke and then walk back in...
WHAM! That stench hit me like a rock in the face. I never felt so bad all those years that I have been doing that to my girlfriends, family members, children and others...
I am now on the "other side" and it's OK! It's OK for you guys to give up the BS battles of trying to defend that nasty-assed habit, put them down and not quit, but STOP for a little while.
It's OK to leave them in the kitchen cupboard and go watch a movie with a huge bowl of popcorn to munch on.
Hell, I put down cigarettes and picked-up on bags of carrots. Strange as it was... Carrots I could take antwhere and munch on anyplace I went. It worked for me. It can work for you... You just have to decide when you want to STOP, put em down and go about doing something different in your lives.
Better yet? You will be welcomed BACK to the other side of life where all of us Ex-Smokers are now living... Come on in! It's great! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 7:35:09 AM | ^^^^^^^ DrWhoopie, I applaud you.........
Thank you for being so blunt in your post, and hammering home the nasty facts about smoking to all the smokers out there who continue to defend their disgusting habit. As a healthcare provider and a daughter who lost her mom at an early age from smoking related heart disease, I am forever on the anti-smoking bandwaggon..........
Kudos to you for having the willpower and determination to quit.
Welcome to the nicer, cleaner side of the fence!! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 8:12:33 AM | We all have our preferences.I smoked for 20 years and quit in 2002.Dating a smoker is not my thing ,but I wouldn`t put them down either.I have no problem having dinner or a drink with a smoker and it doesn`t really bother me to smell the smoke.I am over wanting to smoke.It would never make me pick up smoking again.My son smokes and he has to smoke outside.
I`m sure you knew that the guy you met was a smoker so why even date him and then talk shit about him.BTW,not smoking doesn`t make you smarter. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 12:58:41 PM | The problem is how many people know that they are going out with smokers to begin with. Many people in canada don't self identify themselves as being smoker and claim that they are non-smokers, but it's becoming so common nowadays in Toronto to hear these same women say that they only have a few smokes when they go out drinking.
I'm sorry, but this is like me saying that I only snort coke when Im out with the boys and am therefore not a drug user. People need to fess up, and that way both sides will be happy. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 10:49:38 AM | I am a smoker. I have dated numerous nonsmokers. Not one of them didnt kiss me because I smoke. I work closely with other employees, and they are surprised when I say I'm going to take a smoke break. They had no idea I smoked, even though they were working side by side with me. I have quit smoking. Have smelled it on others, I didnt think it smelled bad, it just initiated that feeling of longing for a minute or two. It is not as bad as smelling strong perfume on someone, the kind that gets into your nostrils and irritates.
Sorry OP, but you do sound a bit judgemental of smokers now. Guess your better than us lowly smokers. Dont fall of that pedestal. Lots of exsmokers go back to smoking. I am one of them. Stress and tough times, your old friend is there, waiting for you. Dont get me wrong, I am cheering for anyone who has quit, for a day, a week, a month, a year. Or even if they are just trying to quit. I just have a problem with high horses. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 12:37:03 PM | | I don't smoke but have been in love with a woman that started smoking again after having quit. I can tell you one thing I noticed, oral sex tasted different, not bad but different. I like giving oral too much to think it tasted bad. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 12:54:00 PM | | I smoke , but that doesn't mean I would pass on dating someone that did not, because that person could be great & maybe the one you would be happy with!! It all comes down to preference. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 2:43:42 PM | Not reading all of the posts, but wanted to say I have been on both sides of the playing field with this one....a smoker, and a non-smoker...and ex smokers are the WORSE anti-smokers! lol
I have seen profiles and met people who, it seemed we would mesh in an incredible way...and then, "NO SMOKERS" is seen/said and I move on. I would NEVER try to force my habit on someone who despises such...but I have to admit it is kind of sad to think that other than this habit, two people could otherwise be wonderfully matched!
Would I quit if I met someone who I really dug, and they hated it? I have done it before, with no regrets...just hated the look on his face every time I lit one up. However, it would not happen immediately, and it would have to be on MY terms, not his, that I quit.
But I can empathize with this, as I would not be flexible on my specific "dealbreakers" either...such as someone who smoked marijuana, did other social drugs, wanted children, etc.
However...there ARE courteous smokers!!!!!! I am one of them! I ask before lighting, if one will bother them...and I smoke outdoors when possible. I consistently chew gum to freshen my breath, spray a light body mist or perfume, and I smoke menthol which do not have as harsh of a scent or after smell. (I HATE non menthol smoke in my home...it clings like no other!) I do NOT taste like an ashtray when kissed! ;) lol | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 2:54:23 PM | | I dated a smoker when I was younger, first love and all, but HATED that he smoked. I made him brush his teeth and shower before even coming near me. Several years later (after dating non-smokers), I started dating someone who was "trying to quit" Well needless to say he really wasn't trying (at least not around me). I ended it. He was a great guy but just couldn't do it. I had a grandmother and mother both die from complications of emphysema. Never again will I date someone that smokes or is "trying to quit". | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 3:10:07 PM | | if he likes you a lot then he will do his upmost to try and stop smoking around you (which will be good for him) even though I am a smoker myself I dont like dating men who smoke I want to give the weed up and if i thought so much about them and it was either cigs or him I know which I would choose ( him of course) so give him an ultimatum | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 9:22:38 AM | | so what u are saying is...mind u're own business....bright girl!!!!! so there ARE some smart people on here. | |
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