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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 10:40:56 AM | If he looks too good to be true, he usually is. Always apply the golden rule:
There is no such thing as a free lunch. Lol | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 11:29:59 AM | I totally agree with you.I ve been around a good bit, on German ,British,Italian and American sites:jerks have all the same patterns:
1 they re constantly on line..at work too,but disappear on weekends and holidays.
2as you chat with them they suddenly disappear for a few minutes..and as u ask them they ask you why YOU disappeared,or if you had probs with pc.
3they ask a million questions about you but hardly say anything about themselves.
4they either drag it forever before they find the guts to meet you(they have to sort themselves out...hmmm),or they want to meet you right away without bothering to know you or let themselves be known.
4they give you their cell phone nr but let only the answering service on.
5if they send you a million pics of themselves ,including their babes shots ,bomb you with calls and mails,fat chances are that after the first meeting they ll forget you in a second
I agree with one of the girls who advised to check with the county records ....its the only way.
Conclusion:I have met so many liers ,or even worse, hide the truth guys,that I dont bother to meet anyone anymore.I wish you good luck...just be very careful..time counts a lot for a woman. | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 11:35:59 AM | Clues: He is attractive and has all the 'qualities' we women find attractive..so why is he still available?
Clue: he is on all the dating sites
Clue: you see his pic on AdultFeindFinder
Clue: you post 2 profiles and he answers both
Clue: the first date is always on the cheap side (a cuppa coffee)
Clue: Somehow a sexual innuendo creeps in earlier on..
Clue: he is on line constantly
And there are more clues ...just be aware that once they get a taste for the candy store they cannot keep away from it... | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 11:39:57 AM |
County records will tell you if they have judgements, assumed names, marriages, divorces, evictions, debt and much more. Use your public records BEFORE meeting someone. Players are often ( not always) unstable people who use and feed off others and you will pick up clues if you do your homework. Using all your resources including your brain, you can weed out most all players and use your time to meet people who are better choices.
This is actually a good idea. Their lives are normally pretty wrecked. Crimes, etc. Keeping your analytical mind in place is paramount. I would run the background check. It's 20 bucks online and it's done well. Normally you will find that they have a string of things. | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 11:40:43 AM | | a guy who s always gone on holidays and weekends and has so many hobbies looks to me like he s quite happy with his own self ,or perhaps with someone else man or woman ,and doesnt bother to take enough time to look for a partner....and when he finds her,how much time is he really willing to spend with her?...I get bad vibes from this type of man....and i run as fast as I can... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 11:48:53 AM | | ..I do fully agree with cjgregory about cheching with county records.Unfortunately this can be easily done in the sSates but not in the UK where the laws of privacy are very strict.I even tried to hire a PI who promptly refused to help.If anybody has an idea..I m open to suggestions.... | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 11:54:25 AM | From what women on this site have told me, there are quite a few players out here, but after listening to their stories, most of the time it's pretty obvious the guy was a player and the women chose to be with him anyway, because he was "fine," the sex was good, or some other reason.
What hardly gets spoken of is the amount of female players on on this site-I'm a one-woman man looking for a one-man woman, and I can say from experience there are plenty of female players on this site, yet that is hardly (if at all) spoken of. It goes both ways. All the qualities people have listed in male players can be found in female players too. | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 12:37:02 PM |
From what women on this site have told me, there are quite a few players out here
Actually I have only spoted 2 "real ones" and only one of the two is hard core. Right here in the forums. There are some that are having a good time but mean no real harm. they are getting dates. I've been here almost two weeks and I indentified the 1 hard core within a week. You have to pay attention. | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 4:27:28 PM |
Clues: He is attractive and has all the 'qualities' we women find attractive..so why is he still available?
Maybe he isn't finding what he wants in the women that he finds available.
Clue: he is on all the dating sites
date sites are a tool to be used, You will find a lot of the women are on all the date sites.
Clue: you see his pic on AdultFeindFinder
date sites are a tool to be used, You will find a lot of the women are on all the date sites
Clue: you post 2 profiles and he answers both
You aren't exclusive so why shouldn't he contact other profiles. It would be you breaking the rules by having more the one profile.
Clue: the first date is always on the cheap side (a cuppa coffee)
the first meet isn't a date so coffee is fine.
Clue: Somehow a sexual innuendo creeps in earlier on..
a person can make a sexual innuendo out of anything. Doesn't always mean that is how it was meant.
Clue: he is on line constantly
Some people have jobs which do allow them to be on the computer often.
None of the clues you stated stand up under any scrutiny. Sure hope you do better in real life encounters. | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 7/19/2007 4:45:19 PM | HAHAHAHA I AGREE WITH FIRE FIGHTER, U GALS WILL BE OLD WITH 20 CATS WITH THAT KIND OF ATTITUDE..I ALWAYS MEET SOMEONE AFTER THE PHONE CHATS, USUALLY END UP GOING FOR A BEACH RIDE ON THE HARLEY....................PERSONALLY I WOULDNT LISTEN TOO PEOPLE ABOUT ADVICE ON HERE, YOU WILL NEVER NO UNTIL U MEET IN PERSON...BRING UR MACE ..............GOOD LUCK DARLIN........................... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 4:52:03 PM | | I erase my picture off anyones list I am added to that don't contact me first..they use the picture for pleasure or some other reasons...if it happens more than once I put them on IGGY. | |
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| He's online..
Posted: 7/19/2007 10:03:50 PM | | If he's online..he's a player...duh | |
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| He's online..
Posted: 7/20/2007 8:22:47 AM | Yup the next man I choose to be involved with will not be from online! In fact I want him to not own a computer at all!  | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 8/3/2007 5:40:24 PM | I read most of these responses. I have been stood up by women myself. So does that make that woman a 'player' or too chicken to meet?
'Only having certain times to chat online' believe it or not many men have jobs and lives after work. Because a man, you have never met, takes time for his kids or grandkids or his hobby does not make him a player.
'He chats with many people online at once' Are people online only allowed to chat with one person at a time? On this one I have to say it is time for you to join the real world. Almost everyone I know chats with more than one person at a time.
'He only wants to meet for coffee' Most date site safety rules will tell you to only meet for a coffee or something similar on the first meeting. If you want a fancy dinner and he won't spring for it DON'T AGREE TO MEET. Seems simple doesn't it?
Until the both of you agree to date each other exclusively, either of you can date other people. Even if you have sex on the first date, one date does not make you exclusive. Never ever assume anything when it comes to people. Communication is the key. | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 8/4/2007 4:22:42 AM | | the ones that r chatting to u then suddenly "have to go" and dissappear only to reappear 2 mins later..wife walked in...this happened to several of my friends their husbands doing this - chatting online and they would catch them out..hmmm. but true wat others say meet them and see and you arrrange the time and place if they are truely single then they will be cool about anywhere anytime. Good luck | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 8/4/2007 6:18:08 AM |
Clue: the first date is always on the cheap side (a cuppa coffee)
I would have to dissagree with this one a little. Lets see.....average two maybe three dates a week. Lets say a dinner or a lunch. Even if it's just appitzers 20.00 bucks a pop. A little more in Canada. That adds up pretty quick not counting gas and time. Why would someone spend that much cash on a bunch of maybes?
What if, unbeknownst to you, you asked out frankinstein's little sister? Or they don't look anywheres close to their pictures? Or she has two cell phones and talks using the word "like" 5 times in one sentence?
Great.....now you have to sit through a meal with them. Maybe it would be better to just throw yourself under a bus or something. | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 8/4/2007 6:20:11 AM | Clues: He is attractive and has all the 'qualities' we women find attractive..so why is he still available?
All the qualities ALL you women find attractive? Do all women use one mind and one heart? Wow! How boring!
"Attractive" for why "role", that a) of BF, b) of Spouse or c) of father of their children?
I am still "available" because my GFs have thought I was good for BF but not "marriage material". Does that make ME a player or THEM "MRS degree seekers/hunters"? Who is playing whom and for what?
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Posted: 8/4/2007 6:44:53 AM | Great answer verygreeneyez!! I myself didn't have that put together quite how you did. Thank - You very much... this explains a few issues that have come up that I now know how to react to. We all probably want to end up in an exclusive relationship eventually, but if we are not I feel that it should be limited to only two potential suiters at one time. I have been left on a week-end with absolutely nothing to do while he was holding me at second base waiting to fill first with something better. It is a bit confusing as to how to decide intially in a new relationship what the expectations are because your both too shy to ask, or he is not so bold as to say hey I'm dating 5 of you gals so slow down. XOX | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 8/4/2007 7:40:22 AM | turns off his messenger? I do that, but to be focused on the one conversation! Im not good at multiple conversations, and not all that skilled on a computer anyway.
As far as getting stood up, maybe he did have something come up, but if he never contacts you after, no apology or anything.Dont look back!
Or if you set a meet, and he cancels,then dissapears. Go | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 8/4/2007 7:50:25 AM |
Players - this word is also confused wth
someone who does not want to be with you- thus labeled
a player around here-
Truer words were never spoken.
Some people can't handle rejection and thus make themselves feel better by saying they got "played". | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 8/4/2007 8:16:07 AM | Clues: He is attractive and has all the 'qualities' we women find attractive..so why is he still available?
Maybe he is selective? If he has "all the qualities" then why should he settle? Perhaps he is looking for a woman with "all the qualities"? 
Clue: he is on all the dating sites Increasing his chances of finding a woman with "all the qualities". If he is going to find someone online, why limit himself to only one dating site? Personally speaking, however, I don't think any of the other dating sites that I have tried match up to POF. It has come a long way, even in the last two years, and I can't believe it is still free!
Clue: you see his pic on AdultFeindFinder Why are you on Adult Friend Finder? (or is that "FiendFinder"?)
Clue: you post 2 profiles and he answers both Wow, some lengths people actually go to. Maybe it's me but anyone who is posting 2 or more profiles to "test" others is showing a lot of trust issues and that usually stems from being untrustworthy themselves. Something to think about.
By the way, if the police set up a trap like that it is called entrapment.
Clue: the first date is always on the cheap side (a cuppa coffee) I would say most first "dates" (or "meetings" for those who are hung up on terminology) are over a cup of coffee or a drink. In fact, that's all most people want for the first time to see if there is any physical attraction. If you're using this as a "clue", you may as well give up right now, LOL.
Clue: Somehow a sexual innuendo creeps in earlier on.. That can also be a sign of his/her personality and comfort level with the other person. Most emotionally stable adults make sexual jokes or innuendos without any underlying currents or hidden agendas so again, this doesn't mean much at all unless it is a blatant sexual comment or request to show his peepee to you on the webcam.  Then it is time to block.
Clue: he is on line constantly Some people don't bother logging out if they know they will be returning soon.
And there are more clues ...just be aware that once they get a taste for the candy store they cannot keep away from it... And some people are sick of it and can't wait to get away from it but may not have any other options of meeting people.
Sorry to say but these "clues" aren't much of anything and anyone who is always looking for rejection (translation: to be "played") will probably find it. It's the law of attraction, after all. A self-fulfilling prophecy, if you will. Call it whatever you want. Put down the labels and the negativity and just approach online dating with an open mind and make your own decisions and experiences. Both my sister and my mother met their husbands online so I know there are good people out there (I am here too!).  | |
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| Clues that he's an online player ..
Posted: 8/4/2007 9:12:55 AM | | I'm usually leery of a guy who is looking for women ages 18 to 55. That just says to me "looking to get laid." I'm sure I'm the only one who gets that feeling, and I don't know why it seems that way to me, it just does. It just seems to me that if someone is looking for a relationship, there should be an actual age group. I don't think some guy in his late 40s is looking for his "soul mate" if he's looking for 18 year olds. | |
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