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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:26:52 AM |
You cannot tell a woman that she is wonderful and then expect her to understand that your going to continue to play the field.
Ya some of us actually believe you when you lay it on so thick. And let ourselves get spun.
Do not understand the point of people doing this long distance though.
If you are looking for that special person, think about how she would react, knowing you jumped every cat in heat that offered. Or were so willing to try out every internet offer. Wouldn't make me feel like I was special to you at all. Big red flags.
I have had women suggest that I do a second profile to weed out the players. I can't play those games, even though, it really sounds like a smart thing to do in some cases. Unbelievable game playing goes on in this internet world. Just prefer not to swim in that part of the pond. Stay away from the sharks and barracudas. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 7:31:38 AM | Well...here's the thing..You went on a first date and you say that there was sex and she stayed over. Men and women think differently when it concerns sex..(like you all didn't know that)..Women have sex and they feel that its brought this relatiohship to another level and this is the point where she feels like you would now be cheating on her. I don't blame you for this..its totally her issue.
Her Mistakes:
From what I read and understood here you were at her place...do you honestly want to date a girl who would go to a perfect stranger's home on a first date.
She made a conscience decision to have sex with you, probably minutes into meeting you, thinking that it may get her into your life quicker....WRONG
She has done this before, and do you really want someone , knowing that they sleep with men everytime they go an a first date (if the attraction is there)..sex on the first date is a sure way to kill off any potential relationship. How do I know she's done this before...I read between the lines...The only motive for her to have several profiles up is to make sure you are not "cheating" because she has now put it in her head that since you had sex..it has brought it to another level
Your Mistake:
Even as a man, you should not be going into a stranger's home, no matter how many times you have chatted
You should have not had sex with her if you liked her because I know deep down you realize that sex takes on different meanings for men and women. To you it was just a form of release, to her it was intimacy.
You should have dated a few times before the sex came in to see if this is really someone you want to keep seeing, otherwise you're going to run into this problem over and over again. Sex is not a game...it can kill you if you're not safe, in more ways than one.
Learn from it, accept that she is probably hurt because , as mentioned above, she felt the need to do this to protect herself from getting hurt. I doubt she's psycho, just a little misguided about this whole dating thing. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 7:47:02 AM | I have to disagree with those of you who think this woman's actions were justified. First it's against PoF rules to create multiple profiles for yourself. To me that indicates Multiple Personality Disorder. Second, it's logically incorrect to ASSuMe that sex equals commitment. Sex = Sex. Commitment = Commitment. Therefore First Date Sex Commitment.
I do agree with those who think it is much more prudent not to have first date sex with someone who you met via the internet. Like a box of chocolates, you just never know what you're gonna get.
This woman is definitely psycho. First she's got multiple profiles. Second she sleeps with guys on the first date, then next day immediately uses the 2nd profile to flirt with the guy. Does anybody here think these actions are those of a rationally thinking sane person with an ounce of discretion? | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 8:05:30 AM | If all I know of your CHARACTER is that you screw on the first date, I'd say your character IS lacking in self respect!!!
You can get a lot from one detail, I guess. Oye.
You and the OP should stop behaving like wild animals spreading your legs (in your case) and sharing your intimate private body parts with whoever comes along!
THAT my dear does tell your character- or lack of it!
Ok almighty.. no one henceforth shall spread thy legs! Got it.
Why does the judge and jury always decide that if someone puts out on a specific date that they always put out on all dates?
I'm sure I'll get answers laced with insults...
*waits patiently*
This woman is definitely psycho. First she's got multiple profiles. Second she sleeps with guys on the first date, then next day immediately uses the 2nd profile to flirt with the guy. Does anybody here think these actions are those of a rationally thinking sane person with an ounce of discretion?
She just might not have anything better to do. Dunno that she's psycho so much as she is paranoid. Although.. if you're right, are you still paranoid? | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 8:12:10 AM | Hmm, sounds to me like the OP is just miffed that someone was able to catch him in his little game.
I guess some are trying to justify that she is more psycho and more of a sleaze because she slept with a guy on a first date and then tried to find out if he would be quick to make more dates. Didn't he also sleep with her on a first date?
He is just mad now that he won't be able to tell in the future whether a "new" contact is an "old" contact in disguise. I do think it is a risky way of weeding out on her part. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:16:28 AM |
Why do girls do that? and that is why internet dating is not the best. Most girls I have met off here have not been anything like the pics and only one or two have been anything like nice!!!
Well, with a little luck (for the opposite sex), maybe the next girl who considers going out with you will read your posting here and think twice about it.
I guess some girls don't mind being taken advantage of, but all things considered, I think most like a little respect. You tend to reap what you sow. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:25:34 AM |
This woman is definitely psycho. First she's got multiple profiles. Second she sleeps with guys on the first date, then next day immediately uses the 2nd profile to flirt with the guy. Does anybody here think these actions are those of a rationally thinking sane person with an ounce of discretion?
Unless I misread the original post (which is completely possible because of the writing style- or lack thereof), I believe the OP said that a SECOND girl contacted him and asked if he knew the first. He never said she was the same girl. I think he would have known that the jig was up when she showed up for the date and looked familiar.
This girl's actions may have been a bit suspect, from a trust point-of-view, but she's not the one in the wrong here. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 8:36:56 AM | I've seen many threads like where the OP states a person he/she dated contacts them via a 2nd profile. Most every instance it is a woman with the multiple profiles. Sometimes the multiple profile person posts stating they "caught" somebody via contacting them with both profiles. Don't you see how this is the pot calling the kettle black?
Also somebody please explain how the OP was "caught" or was playing a "game", or how the OP's date was "taken advantage of". She seemed to be a willing, able, agreeable, consensual participant. Somebody please explain how the OP's date was "victimized" in any way. She didn't have to meet this guy. She didn't have to have sex with him. She didn't need to have multiple PoF profiles.
Also somebody please explain how you have a committed relationship with someone after one date if you haven't had "the talk". | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:52:19 AM |
Also somebody please explain how the OP was "caught" or was playing a "game", or how the OP's date was "taken advantage of".
Unless they discussed being exclusive during their lusty night of sexy luvins, he didn't really do anything to get caught at. Youre' right.
She assumed, perhaps.. that they were now meantobeforeverandaday... and proceeded to f*ck it all up by doing the 2 profile thing... had there been potential for meantobeforeverandaday-ness.
Some women gotta stop screwing to get love. Sex is sex... have it ALL you want, but realize.. it only means sex.
Unless you've heard declarations of unending love or even less dramatic talk of special feelings... sex means sex. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/12/2007 9:20:42 AM |
Unless they discussed being exclusive during their lusty night of sexy luvins, he didn't really do anything to get caught at. Youre' right. Women who continue to post to this thread flying off the handle on gender-bashing rants aren't going to read our posts, Mariachi. They will just vent about how this guy got bent. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 9:32:03 AM |
Also somebody please explain how the OP was "caught" or was playing a "game", or how the OP's date was "taken advantage of". She seemed to be a willing, able, agreeable, consensual participant. Somebody please explain how the OP's date was "victimized" in any way. She didn't have to meet this guy. She didn't have to have sex with him. She didn't need to have multiple PoF profiles.
Although I'll admit that the phrase "taken advantage of" has the connotation of doing something to a person without their consent, or against their will, that's not how I intended it. The OP did state plainly that the woman was willing to have sex.
I was referring to a process in which a person may offer something to another and the second simply accepts or "takes advantage of" the offer.
The actual point of my statement was that respect is a must in any successful relationship (and don't kid yourself, where there's sex, there IS a relationship). If you actually believe that the OP showed the first girl respect, you're just not going to get the point!
The fact that she checked up on him and "busted" him afterwards indicates that she didn't feel that she was respected. If she misunderstood the OP's intentions, or the relationship in general, it indicates that they weren't communicating very well and, therefore, probably shouldn't have been having sex at that point. However, that was their choice to make, not mine. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 9:33:10 AM |
I did get busted but, like i mentioned previously she was alittle promiscuous that night too. Not trying to justify what I did, just never did a forum before and just was so shocked i had to share what just happend! lol worst thing...the profile of the girl who she used the next day was so so HOT! I was gutted lol.
I think this pretty much explains what so many of the others are trying to say. The OP admits getting caught, but he is trying to avert blame by stating she did something more heinous as in catching him by using a second profile. Even more heinous is she used a "hotter" profile and he just couldn't say no to the second, again not his fault. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 9:37:04 AM | "Unless you've heard declarations of unending love or even less dramatic talk of special feelings... sex means sex."
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm ........ I can't help but wonder how many people who are being so judgemental, have, them, themselves,had sex at a first meeting. Hard to believe that so many, have not lusted and just enjoyed the moment. I'm not even talking about a one night stand. I'm talking about just finally meeting someone after you have e-mailed, chatted and spoken on the phone for a while, Whether it's a week or two or whatever. Such admiration , such morals. Doesn't neccessarily make one a better person.
I just don't get it. When someone has sex with someone, it is nobody's business except the two people involved. Why are so many people so judgemental? So what if you have sex on the first date. OK......maybe if it's sex on the first dates and you "always" never see the person again. If that's how it's always turning out for you, then maybe and only then might there is a problem. But if you are both ready, discussed how you both felt about what you were doing and knew it was more then a one night stand. Gosh !!!! What is the freaken big deal. Just my two cents.
"Unless you've heard declarations of unending love or even less dramatic talk of special feelings... sex means sex." | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 9:59:27 AM | And the men don't ???
First, it was no responce
now ~ this, ~ this psycho ~ stuff
wonder just how that works??? Humm,
I've been blocked but it wasn't anything psycho.
It was misunderstandings or the cool hard ugly truth
that was to heavy too handle and I couldn't ingore or be coy about.
I want to experience this psycho stuff,sounds amusing, how do you call
them up? Do you do something special?
Dar | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:16:43 AM |
The actual point of my statement was that respect is a must in any successful relationship (and don't kid yourself, where there's sex, there IS a relationship). Sure that's a relationship--I'd define that as a bed-buddy. Still can't see how the OP took advantage of this woman. If he did, shame on him. If anybody took advantage of anyone here, I'd say it was the deceitful woman with the multiple profiles. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 12:40:20 PM | Cool guy, I think I agree, I have always been scared of the nice quiet girl coming along and maybe frightening her off by seeming to be enjoying myself...but hey what happens if she doesn't come? at least i willlook back with great memories!
I have to say, as I haven't comented about the first date sex thing...but in UK it is quite popular...and I guess I have done it loads and ther eis no less respect from me towards the girl...if i like her i will see her again...and have done before. | |
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| Some psycho just get one laid then looking for another one!right after the first though...
Posted: 6/12/2007 12:46:47 PM | I have to tell you I had one condom in my coat...(always)
She had a brand new box of like 20! I am starting to feel bad about this now and won't really talk more about what actually happend, but everything was cool and she was nice and i liked her...until the next day with the profile thing. I am not slagging her off or think badly of her for anything other than that. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 12:52:16 PM | LOl, I wasn't playing a game...honestly, the thing is I was a little miffed that I was used by the second profile...as she was lovely and we were getting on just as well as with her...(funny that isn't it) personalities are a big thing...I guess from that i can gather that i liked her personality as two different people!
Who the hell is ever going to know who they talk to in the future is really who they say? | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 1:00:36 PM | I think the story is getting more and more twisted. There was no 'taking advantage of', and I was not 'busted'. It isn't about why both of us wanted to have sex and liked eachother enough to do so, or that the next day a girl started messaging me and i liked her too and arranged a date, at which point she revealed she was actually the girl from the night before...
I posted this because I was so shocked that someone would even do that! just wanted to discuss it, and why she felt she had to...as i said iwas going to see her wednesday already????? | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/12/2007 5:45:25 PM | Let's just say that both the OP and the lady in question are about, half a bubble off plumb, a few frenchfries shy of a Happy Meal, a couple of sandwiches short of being a picnic, riding with a frayed cinch....but aren't we all?? at one time or another?
My comment was to the OP's "internet dating is not the best" remark. DUH! NO KIND of dating is the "best"...the "best" would be that the Good Lord( or whatever Higher Power you may have, or "FATE" for the nonbelievers) would simply drop the partner we were meant to have into our lap. Since that probably isn't going to happen, we have all kinds of dating and they all suck in one way or another, but what are ya gonna do??
Did anyone stop to think that maybe this young lady had been crapped on a time or 2 by a lying cheat of a man,so she was going to put some extra effort to make sure THAT didn't happen again.
I do think she might want to get a leash on her hormones before they land her in a world of hurt, though.
Just my $0.02 worth
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? Or you're gonna tell me that she had it at home. and "all it cost for the date was a nice wine" 
cheapie!
