| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/12/2007 11:24:31 PM | [Some women gotta stop screwing to get love. Sex is sex... have it ALL you want, but realize.. it only means sex.
Unless you've heard declarations of unending love or even less dramatic talk of special feelings... sex means sex.]-El_Mariachi
That is so cynical & sad Mariachi. You are way too pretty, to be so cynical. If I felt like you did,
I'd either shoot myself or stay celibate forever.
I am SO glad, I am not looking anymore. Too confusing & depressing! | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/13/2007 8:36:05 AM |
Did anyone stop to think that maybe this young lady had been crapped on a time or 2 by a lying cheat of a man,so she was going to put some extra effort to make sure THAT didn't happen again. Not me. If this particular young lady got played in the past, wouldn't she be more careful on a first date? She's quite the player it seems. I don't have sympathy for players. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/13/2007 8:45:25 AM |
That is so cynical & sad Mariachi. You are way too pretty, to be so cynical. If I felt like you did,
I'd either shoot myself or stay celibate forever.
Um ok.
You can keep your pity and dramatics though because it's actually LOGIC. While I am a cynical person, there's nothing cynical nor sad about seeing sex for what it really is...
Sex: an act performed with another for sexual gratification
There's nothing in that definition about love and emotional feelings... notice that? That's because WE add that stuff to it. Or we don't in some instances... we're just going for the gratification. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/13/2007 10:29:17 AM |
No - she caught you at your game and you are feeling bad she caught you-
thats why you have the need to call her names. I would say one pretty smart
little girl there-
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/13/2007 10:39:05 AM | but to arrange the next date, sounds like you were hedging bets,
are you fearful of being lonely, that you were hoping to keep someone on the back burner | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/13/2007 11:10:13 AM | Mesg 77
I did reference a concern that the young lady in question needed to get a leash on her hormones.
Oh it's entirely possible she has decided that being a "player" is the way to go. Let's face it, women are still running up against conflicting viewpoints/double standards/mixed messages. In fact if I had to make a statement about first date sex, I'd have to say that it looks to me like women are damned if they do and damned if they don't.
And besides, wouldn't "player" indicate a person who "hits it and gits"? To me a "player" would be a woman who kept stringing the guy(s) along, not one who set them up to be dumped.
But I still think that what we have here is a woman who's been hurt and is now either trying extra hard to protect herself, or possibly has launched a campaign of gameplaying as some sort of revenge strategy.
I'm NOT saying this is a healthy or "OK" behavior,simply pointing out that I doubt this gal just got out of bed one morning, and decided to start "setting traps" for the guys she dates,simply for something to do.
I would not go so far as to say " for EVERY 'psycho' woman there's a man who did her some kind of dirt. Or that every gameplaying man is taking revenge against all women for what ONE woman did to him. Of course it's not that simple! But I do think that somewhere in the backstory of MOST "psycho" women and "player" men is a very deep and cruel hurt.
Just my thoughts, and if I knew a way to tell everyone how to sort the real deal people from the gamers and psycho daters, I'd be more than happy to do so. But I don't think there is. And keep in mind, every time someone of either gender becomes hypersensitive for 'red flags' or makes elaborate efforts to 'test' a potential new partner, you might just be shooting yourself in the foot.
But it is in fact YOUR foot to shoot yourself in!   
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Posted: 6/13/2007 2:14:29 PM | OP look at it this way... less than 50% of profiles are genuine... so what makes up the rest?
Maybe the world is psycho but I have known people to create fake profiles to get another perspective on a person for safety reasons. Many singles who live alone or have small children are very careful about who they are going to communicate with and meet. Maybe you do not have such concerns but others sometimes do. If you have nothing to hide, then I wouldnt worry about anything. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/14/2007 10:59:47 AM |
Did anyone stop to think that maybe this young lady had been crapped on a time or 2 by a lying cheat of a man,so she was going to put some extra effort to make sure THAT didn't happen again.
Um, the only lying and "cheating" that was described in the story was done by the woman.
No - she caught you at your game and you are feeling bad she caught you-
thats why you have the need to call her names. I would say one pretty smart
little girl there.
I can't for the life of me see where the guy was playing a "game" or had anything to be "caught" about. Both people were obviously OK with early, casual sex. Calling her a "smart little girl" is mind-boggling. A silly little girl, I'd say. Psycho is over-the-top, though. Unpleasant, deluded and a bit creepy is more like it. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2007 11:09:15 AM | well what were you planning to do? were you goign to sleep with the both of them? (if they were two women) Get a life buddy. You sound like a veneral disease spreading PIG.  | |
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Posted: 6/14/2007 11:16:50 AM | I'm not sure what has been more entertaining about this thread - the original poster and all his additional comments or the variety of the responses from some of the usual culprits. Good to see the usual crowd sticking to their themes!
OP - not just girls play games - but games are for kids!  | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/17/2007 12:56:15 AM | I don't blame her. Women test men in a variety of ways, and she busted you.
For many people, sex is an intimate experience. Everything doesn't have to be a verbal contract. Perhaps it was what you didn't say.
She tested to see if you would stick with her-- and the answer was no, you were going to date the next hot woman which came along.
So there you go, you got what you deserved. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 10:16:18 AM | To the Op...
Went well, had dinner and stayed over...had sex it was great and we made a date for maybe next Wed.
That's the problem.. Sex.. Once you had it with her why were you still looking ? I am thinking that she is like me, casual sex is a no no..
Just a thought.. Although what she did was wrong..
You must have said something to her,before the sex, that made her think that you had stopped looking / became exclusive with her..
Just say'n that might be the reason.. But I wasn't there, so I have no clue.. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/17/2007 10:42:01 AM | Dude, this was no GAME...it's pychopathic behaviour or more appropriately
called a personality disorder. When you hook up and go out for dinner
or a movie and the next thing she does is creates a profile to "catch you"
dating other women? Like, all of a sudden you are her BOYFRIEND?? OMG!
Ever watch Fatal Attraction? That girl can star in it and would be PERFECT
for the roll. Don't construe this as a game - this is her personality and a severely
distrubed one at that.
That's the problem.. Sex.. Once you had it with her why were you still looking ?
The only reply I can think of is this......dating is a mine field...a very small
minority of women construe sex as a proposal for marriage while the
healthy ones know sex is a healthy part of life. This dude stepped on an
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Posted: 6/17/2007 10:43:57 AM | Dude......okay - listen..... old fashioned values do not mean sex on the first date....my grandparents are very old fashioned...they met at the soda pop fountain and the boys were as shy as girls and they all went together and ended up "setup" by the whole group.....it was a very social thing and the didnt sleep together until AFTER they were married....THAT is old fashioned.
People are so tired of being lied to on these internet things that they purposefully check out to see if a person is lying to them online with others.....I did it for my gf that found out her boyfriend was out there looking for someone else...
If you want intimate encounters...the go to a motel and just have at it - forget the dinner etc... BUT if you really want long term - dont have sex on the first second or even third date... dating is dating...not a sex fest....until you are SURE of the right woman....the knock it off!!! Dont get drunk either.... same reasons. Go out and speond time together - get ot know one another...sex is just sex and it means nothing....but sex with someone you love is truly an expression of your feelings.....hmm sounds old fashioned doesnt it.... | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 10:47:52 AM | Amber-eyes I am curious; does that mean the man had no respect for himself either?
You are making sexist remarks and shallow judgements, you only have l side of the story and therefore not all the story. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 10:56:22 AM | SORRY TO HEAR ABT YOUR DILEMMA ,,, YOU KNOW SOMETIMES ITS THE SAME WITH US WOMEN,,,, I GET MAIL FRM GUYS AND ITS THE SAME THING,,, THE PHOTO DOSENT MATCH,, OR THEY ARE MARRIED,, OR JUST PLAYING GAMES.
I CAME TO ON LINE DATING ,TO FIND SOMEONE SPECIAL,, AND I KNOW YOU HAVE TO KNOW
OR GET TO KNOW PEOPLE BEFORE YOU CAN MAKE A DECISION AS TO WETHER YOU LIKE OR ARE COMPATABLE WITH THAT PERSON,,,
I AM DISAPOINTED WITH THE ON LINE DATING,,,
SOMETIMES I THINK ,,, MAYBE IT IS BETTER THE OLD FASHIONED WAY,, BEING IN THE RIGHT PLACE AT THE RIGHT TIME AND MEETING SOMEONE,,, THEN THERE IS NO SURPRISES.
I WENT ON A VAC TO VA BEACH A FEW WEEKS BACK FOR 14 DAYS AND I COULD'NT BELIEVE HOW EASY IT WAS TO MEET PEOPLE,, TOO BAD I DONT LIVE THERE ,,, LOL,,
I REALLY NEED TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE,, BUT I THINK SOMETIMES THERE ARE DESPERATE PEOPLE ON THESE DATING SERVICES,,, OR THEY ARE JUST HERE FOR ?????????????
WHO KNOWS...
I WISH YOU GOOD LUCK IN YOUR SEARCH,,,
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/17/2007 11:03:22 AM | [As far as the subject matter here, it would be a cold day in hell when the average man creates a fake profile just to test a girl he went on one date with. It just doesn't happen'
Well, actually it does. This actually happened to me last summer. Met a man, talked online and the phone a few times then met in a public book/magazine store. Nothing physical, nothing committed, just a nice time talking. We said we'd probably go out the next week. Well, come Monday morning, I'm checking messages and there was this one that just was what I was looking for in a man. So, I emailed and within 2 minutes, my Saturday meeting guy calls me tells me made up this other profile to see if I was committed to him. Huh? We met and talked for 2 hours. He didn't even buy my tea, I bought it before he got there.
So, yes. As a jaded getting older woman, both genders play games. And I thought the games were left to the children...
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/18/2007 12:10:11 PM |
As far as the subject matter here, it would be a cold day in hell when the average man creates a fake profile just to test a girl he went on one date with. It just doesn't happen'
Yes it does - albeit more rarely I think -- neither gender has a monopoly on bad behaviors.
I think a lot of people prefer to take other humans at face value and give them the benefit of the doubt, even on dating sites. However while that is a good policy in life -- it does not change the fact that A LOT of dangerous people and even those just playing head games inhabit these internet sites. If you think yourself immue to being fooled then when the fall comes for you -- the fall will be harder and hurt a lot more. Just accept that this happens, these kinds of people exist, and don't beat yourself up over it for making bad choices. No matter how smart you are you can be fooled.
On the other hand women especially need to be careful. The price of running afoul of a predator can be very high -- and they come in many skilled varieties. For example I know one that targets married women, fools them into playing naked on cam, does a screen grab and then uses the pictures to blackmail them into sex. This guys knows that 95% of the time the women will not go to the police about him because he will give the pictures to the husband, parents, whatever and ruin their life. I know another that starts up long distance relationships with women, charms them, gets them to fly down to the city for big rock and roll parties that he claims to be running (and the party does not exist) -- then get them here, gets them drunk, and rapes them. I spotted this person at the last POF chat party in this area btw.
While some troublesome guys/gals can just be pushy and obnoxious (and not always take a hint of NO for an answer) they are far easier to deal with then a real predator. You need to know that the human hunters are out there. This kind of thing is a lot more common then women realize. Prosecuting these ****** due to internet crimes is difficult and the predators know it -- AND THAT IS WHY THEY HUNT HERE.
Guys - the same kind of thing can happen to you. You need to be mindful as well. I noticed that what looks to be hookers seem to be very active on this site lately -- and as another poster mentioned there have been incidents of unsuspecting men getting invited to their apartments and then being beaten up and robbed. Even men should keep to meeting in public areas until you know for sure what you are dealing with.
Enjoy the thrill of meeting new people if that is what you chase -- but please use common sense.
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Posted: 6/18/2007 12:40:49 PM | Op....I am sorry to hear that, those kind of mind games are uncalled for and you deserve better.
This is why I wouldn't mind there to be a "don't date her" button for the guys on here, to prevent things like this from happening.
OP.....Just keep your head up and be positive. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:10:12 PM | Can i jus say
If u were to go out on a date wit me i totally look lik my pics ( i neva lie) anyway and i can stay i am generally nice in person aswell as on here.
I cant say why some girls would do that, but i wouldn't and yes she sounds lik a bad egg, maby at the time she wasnt, but that is not normal behaviour.
Parhaps she was testing you out to see if you were true on your word and how many girls you were dating or going to after her.
Which in my opinion is quite normal in the dating world!!!!
Jus thought id say we're not all lik that some of us r genuine
Cyaz
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