| Some psycho just get one laid then looking for another one!right after the first though...
Posted: 6/19/2007 9:09:25 AM |
As far as the subject matter here, it would be a cold day in hell when the average man creates a fake profile just to test a girl he went on one date with. It just doesn't happen
it certainly does happen ~ I know of at least 5 local men that have multiple profiles.
was she correct in how she handled it? perhaps ~ perhaps not. it was, however, effective. she knows that you're still looking, and she can move on and do the same. consider yourself lucky that she didn't take you for a real ride w/ the fake profile by dragging it out.
the fact that you made sure to mention that her "fake" was "hot" shows me that you have very little regard for the night's previous activities. I agree w/ the posters that have said that men can completely disengage emotions during the sexual act, but the fact of the matter is that it's harder for women to do that. we're hard-wired differently when it comes to intimacy. doesn't make either wrong, just means that there will always be a gap in communication.
sex on the first date has very little bearing on whether it's going to affect the potential for a relationship. if there's sparks, there's sparks. usually, on dating sites, ppl have a chance to get to know each other a bit before they meet, so it's not like you picked her up at the bar (those girls aren't looking for relationships). I get so tired of hearing men saying that they look down on a woman that "puts out" on the first date ~ it takes two, if memory serves me correctly ~ so if she's a slut for doing it, you're a pig for allowing it to happen. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 6/25/2007 8:18:29 AM | "Oldromatic" ....that is a misnomer if I ever saw one...
Sorry.....a simple recounting of two people and one mistake...that involved both. Learn from it. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/2/2007 7:13:22 AM | | I for one have never had sex on a first date, sorry but for me it is part of an entire package and to get the full picture of that package, it is not going to happen on a first date. Now having said that, I do understand the desire and needs to be with someone, that is why my Mother taught me to not put myself in a place where I will be too tempted to stop. haha, it really is about controlling self and keeping a clear head during the date. There have been times when I was very happy to not have slept with someone after I got to know them better. I am not saying it is right or wrong, that is an individual decision, what I am saying is, be open and honest in your communication and then there are not games being played and no reason to explain yourself later. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/2/2007 12:28:40 PM | "playing games" is what life is all about but the term is overused and misunderstood by most men. It's as trite as "fine dining".
People play games because they realize that they are not perfect and have reservations about exposing their real selves. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/2/2007 6:21:07 PM |
You have a guy who sleeps with a woman and then the very next day tries to hook up with another woman and gets found out and then he goes on to call her "psycho" in order to save face.
That goes both ways. If you have no defense for what you did to cause a breakup, you just call the other person crazy or psycho, hoping that if they tell the truth about you, no one will believe them.
But I agree that a man who does that sort of thing has no right to call anyone anything. While we're calling names, can we call him a PLAYER? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 7:31:07 PM | Here's a funny thing that just happened. I talked with a guy on here that we'd had talks last year. He saw my post about the "fake profile" and believed it was him. Dude, I wasn't even talking about you. Talk about narcissistic. This morning you were so ready to go out and talking down about yourself and then tonight I'm a horrid person because you thought I talked about you? Men (and women) can be so funny, sometimes. Even when you don't think or talk about them, some of them just think they are your only topic of discussion. Oh, btw, he "blocked" me. Isn't that hysterical? It wasn't even about him. He apparently did do a fake profile to see if I was "cheating" on him.  Ok, if talking to other people on here without making a committment to someone is cheating, then yeah...I cheated. Move on to your next fish who'll take your stupidity.
Liz--who did not tell tales on anyone I've been talking with on here.  | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:42:51 PM | | ~OP~ You're just pissy you got caught. Good for her. You should have told her, point blank, before sex, that you intended to continue looking, seeing others and that the sex meant nothing to you. I'll bet she wouldn't have slept with you, and she probably wouldn't have emailed you again, from her real profile or her fake one. JMO | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:19:14 PM |
OH Timmy get out of the stone age. Never had sex on a first date?
I havent, guess guys with values are cavemen. Long live the stoneage. | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:35:02 PM | | OP, count your blessing that you got an insight into her personality early. It would have been worse a few weeks down the road when you would have found a rabit boiling in your kitchen lol! | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/19/2007 1:51:07 PM |
It is just a sense of insecurity. You kinda have to feel sorry for these people. The energy they waste trying to prove to themself that someone else is unworthy. I tend to regard these folks as paranoid individuals. They have been hurt, and can't let go. They can't trust and probably cannot love.
True Butterfly. Sadly. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 6:26:24 PM | People actually play games in here?????? Geez! So now where do I go to meet real, honest, man with intigrity? A bar??...nope!,,,been there done that. Local grocery story??...maybe he'll want to 'squeeze my charmine' OMG! can you imagine? Men and women have been doing 'the dance' since time began. How and where aren't the issues, but WHY! Once someone can actually figure out why this 'dance' happens and exactly what benefits one derives from this, would you please let me know? I gave up playing games many many moons ago - public school I think it was. Now when someone wants to mess with my mind, it's amazing how quickly they find themselves on the opposite side of my front door (which by the way, I try to have it hit them where they sit)  As to having sex on the first date - hmmm,,,may not be the smartest move I've ever made, but I appologize to no one for indulging in a very basic instinct - which for me occurs when the moon's in its 6th rotation around the earth .....gotta run!,,,,need to find out which rotation we're in tonight  | |
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/19/2007 8:07:15 PM | OP, sex on a first date? Most women who do that, are either:
(a) On a one-night stand, and DON'T want to see you again, or:
(b) Expecting that is the beginning of a relationship.
If you wanted to keep seeing her, AND other women, you had to have the "exclusivity talk". Otherwise, she just goes bunny boiler on you. Women don't like to mix partners around, unless THEY are the ones sleeping around, and they pick the partners. Too many STDs I guess.
If you want to play the field, make it clear before you have sex with someone, even if their legs do spread like butter on the first date. I have this vision of her on a piece of bread, some jam, and him as a butter knife. Can't get it out of my mind!
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| Girls playing games on here like Psycho's
Posted: 7/19/2007 8:32:34 PM |
OH Timmy get out of the stone age. Never had sex on a first date?
I'm not Timmy, but no. Yuk, why would anyone want to share an intimate experience with someone they hardly knew?
I grew up in the sex, drugs and rock and roll era, and I still don't get it.
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