| best wishes Lady
Posted: 7/30/2007 2:36:50 PM | May the wind and the waves favor your fishing trip .
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| best wishes Lady
Posted: 8/2/2007 12:24:00 AM | Thanks for inspiring me, I really enjoy what you have written on your profile,
the birds, I can`t get them out of my head, there is some thing peaceful , they are free, singing, being happy in there little world, thats how we all should be in life if it was possible to stop everything and be right there with the little birds. Thank -you Kat you made my day so much better! from shelly*8 | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 8/8/2007 12:28:32 PM | You all can b**ch and moan about wanting to chat and email for weeks and months until you "know someone"but the truth is, you will only know as much about that person as they want you to know. I have gone out with literally dozens of men of this site and others. Lots of meetings or first dates if you will. Not one of the people was anything like what I expected form chatting or emailing them. And boy am I glad! I met one guy from here that I got no sense of the wonderful person he is from our emails and chats but decided to meet him anyway. He is nothing like what I thought I wanted I could ever want. Wish me luck. And maybe a few of you will move your butts ouyt from in front of the computer and go meet people!!!!!!          | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 8/8/2007 12:35:32 PM | WOW, a woman who GETS IT. I'm 100% with you. Once I see I like the first impression of who I'm dealing with, like you, I want to see if I'm wasting my time or not. Why should I or anyone have to spend some insane amount of time E-Mailing one another only to see in person the person isn't what they want. I rather know up front if I'm wasting my time. Be efficient DATERS PEOPLE!!! And to the girl who thinks the guy is looking for sex OR weird if he wants to meet right away. GROW UP!!!! Maybe he is weird or looking for sex, but if you have a clue, you'll know that before you ever get asked to meet him. Get a backbone and be secure and confident in yourself. And to address the other girl who said about finding out something she didn't like right away and was sent running for the car. AT LEAST YOU KNOW NOW AND DON'T GOTTA SPEND 6 MONTHS AND FIND OUT THE SAME THING ANYWAYS.
Good god, wise up people!!!!
To Camourgirl: I commend you for being this openminded and smart. God Bless you and don't ever change. | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 8/8/2007 1:05:26 PM | OP
I just got one e-mail from a gentlemen, I responded back thanking him for his nice compliments...he responded again with just this "lets meet have coffee and visit".
I responded back with a very nice e-mail...asking if he would mind just e-mailing a couple times back and forth...that I was new to the date site thing and a bit nervous as of yet.....
NEVER HEARD FROM HIM AGAIN....(he read my last reply within minutes of me sending it) :fustrated
Makes one wonder just what he was "looking" for eh????? | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:08:01 PM | I think meeting someone right away is a good thing...Why waste a whole lot of time E mailing back and forth...Expressing ones self on a computer is a bit troublesome at times...I prefer to meet woman fairly quickly, "If theres a spark there, great"!..If not, move on!..I find it a bit difficult, due to a heavy work schedule that leaves me bit and pieces of time...
I WOULD ONLY MEET SOMEONE RIGHT AWAY, IF THEY FEEL COMFORTABLE ALSO!..Im not a pushy guy... ..BESIDES, MEETING ENCOURAGES FRIENDSHIPS ALSO! | |
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Posted: 3/9/2008 10:43:29 PM | LOL I was thinking that - but I wasn't going to plug it myself :D
Which reminds me, weren't there rumblings about a Tacoma/Olympia M&G? Someone going to step up and get that ball rolling? ;) | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:09:54 PM | Well I like to talk for a week or two. And not via email. I like IM. lol I think I can get a good feel for people that way. I learned the hard way that meeting people immediately means I can't put my stalker/bullshitter filter in effect and it's a lesson that's stuck soundly.
I will never meet anyone again after one or two emails. I like living and personal space. Maybe it's just me though. lol | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 4:21:06 PM | A song from "Stars" along the lines of your question?
Personal
wanted: single f
under 33
must enjoy the sun
must enjoy the sea
sought by single m
mrs destiny
send photo to address
is it you and me?
reply to single m:
my name is caroline
cell phone number here
call if you have the time
28 and bored
grieving over loss
sorry to be heavy
but heavy is the cost
heavy is the cost
reply to caroline:
thanks so much for response
these things can be scary
not always what you want
how about a drink?
this ancient club at noon
i'll phone you first i guess
i hope i see you soon
i never got your name
i assume you're 33
your voice it sounded kind
i hope that you like me
when you see my face
i hope that you don't laugh
i'm not a film star beauty
i'll send a photograph
i hope that you don't laugh
not to single m:
why did you not show up?
i waited for an hour
i finally gave up
i thought once that i saw you
i thought that you saw me
i guess we'll never meet now
it wasn't meant to be
it wasn't mean to be
i was sure you saw me
but it wasn't meant to be
wanted: single f
under 33
must enjoy the sun
must enjoy the sea
sought by single m
nothing too heavy
send photo to address
is it you or me?
is it you or me?
is it you or me?
is it you or me? | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 3/29/2008 5:26:44 PM | I say meet right away.
I don't need to be comfortable with knowing a person before I say hi at a restaurant. I don't see why I would need to feel comfortable with knowing a person before we meet for coffee.
You can tell in less than one hour whether you think there is potential there. Why spend a month?
In fact, I think that someone who doesn't trust me well enough to meet me in a public place after a week or so might just have troubles ever trusting me. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 6:01:51 PM | Skagitriver~ That's a cool song. I'd never heard of Stars but they have a really unique sound. I haven't heard a song so appropriate to online (or personals) dating since Escape (Pina Colada Song). It's interesting how the song written in the 70's is upbeat with a positive outcome and the one written in '07 has a totally different feel to it. Thanks for the lyrics!
http://www.last.fm/music/Stars/_/Personal | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 3:04:21 PM | | Meet right away. I have met people after talking to them for a year and have met people after only a few minutes of chat on line....same results. Meet right away and save time for all....Jeff is right, you know right away if you click or not. | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 3/30/2008 9:17:13 PM | ALTARA SAID:
I will never meet anyone again after one or two emails. I like living and personal space. Maybe it's just me though. lol
This is directed at all of the posts with a simular slant, Altara, not just yours... Yours just sums up what I see is the problem. . .
Wow. It must be a serious problem in REAL life then... I mean, not getting to pre-communicate with the guy in the produce aisle or heaven forbid at a bar or dance or party. What do you women do; give the guy your calling card with an email address and then run home to wait for them to write?
Why are people so damned paranoid and terrified here? Is it the media? Our current government (LOOK OUT! A BOOGIE MAN!)?
In the "old" days, people used to meet face to face before they even knew who each other was! Amazing.
Anytime I get the "lets email, then phone, and THEN, maybe in a month we'll meet", I immediately move on. Life's is too short, too fun, and time to precious to waste typing out a question at a time for weeks on end.
Anyone who's thinking about responding to this with --"But, but, but... there are stalkers and other bad people!!" I suggest you turn off your computer, turn on your television, and then sit on your ass while awaiting to die a nice, safe old age.
James, Port Orchard, Washington, USA, Earth | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 3/30/2008 9:34:28 PM | "Why are people so damned paranoid and terrified here? " ---Seattlerain
If you had ever been victimized by someone you met online, then perhaps you would understand. Until then, you do not have the right to criticize the boundaries that other people set. Everyone has their own comfort zone, and others should respect it, even if it is more restrictive than their own. | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 4/28/2008 8:32:39 PM | | I think that it is a good idea to meet for coffee or tea after a few exchanges of e-mail and after some phone conversations. If there is a feeling of chemistry and the flow of conversation is good, then meeting soon after that is totally ok. This saves time and you will know sooner if you want to see that person again. | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:11:28 PM |
gingersnapWA said:
"Why are people so damned paranoid and terrified here? " ---Seattlerain
If you had ever been victimized by someone you met online, then perhaps you would understand. Until then, you do not have the right to criticize the boundaries that other people set. Everyone has their own comfort zone, and others should respect it, even if it is more restrictive than their own.
I have every right to voice my opinion here, gingersnap. People are victimized everywhere, not just online. To meet one bad apple and freak out about *ALL* online men is paranoia. Personally, if only victims are allowed to talk about this, then they feed into each other's fears and the perceived danger becomes greater while back in REALITY, 99.99% of the people online are perfectly safe, sane, & normal.
If a particular person keeps ending up with the dangerous men, then that "victim" is attracted to that sort of man and needs to work out the issues within herself (the same thing goes for men who keep hooking up with psycho women).
This country (USA) is under siege... not by 'terrorists' (BOO!) but by people trying their best to scare the citizens of the USA, because terrified people have no problem with a police state if it makes them feel less terrified. (it's all an illusion of course, but people always buy into it).
James, Seattle, Washington, USA, Earth | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 4/29/2008 5:06:32 PM | I would add that being frustrated with someone else's comfort zone is not the same as disrespecting it.
I would just think that if a person was really concerned that they were going to be victimized by someone they meet online then they would find other ways to meet people. No point hanging around a place that is going to scare you. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:01:55 PM | Insisting that someone do ANYthing you want, before that individual feels ready to do it, IS disrespecting their boundaries. Bemoaning the fact she won't change her boundaries for you is juvenile.
(BTW I didn't mean waiting months or years before meeting , but until both parties have enough info about the other to sense some compatibility exists, and to feel comfortable. ) | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:23:38 PM | How about bemoaning the fact that other people are bemoaning things. Is that juvenille?
Nobody is insisting anything. We are sharing our thoughts regarding the original post, whose subject reads "what do you think of meeting right away?"
Some people disagree. Is that ok? Sheesh! | |
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Posted: 4/30/2008 7:35:13 AM | gingersnap said:
Insisting that someone do ANYthing you want, before that individual feels ready to do it, IS disrespecting their boundaries. Bemoaning the fact she won't change her boundaries for you is juvenile.
I never insisted anyone do anything. I've only stated that 'men' aren't as dangerous as some here seem to believe. I've never said anyone should change their boundaries, although I did say that any woman who spelled out that we must email x number of times and then talk on the phone x number of times before a simple coffee have me clicking "NEXT" immediately.
I'm way to gregarious and outgoing to date a scared little bunny hiding in the shadows of life. Hell, I arranged and went on a date with a woman who dialed my phone number by mistake once.
James, Seattle, Washington, USA, Earth | |
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| what do you think of meeting right away?
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:35:06 AM | if she calls you pushy for making an effort to make a date, just remember it wasnt going to happen without you making the first move
Funny that this thread was bumped just now, I've just updated the headline and the first paragraph of my profile to gently encourage people to ask me out! As a matter of fact, I sometimes refuse to talk if I am not. For one good reason: it's Spring, and I am not missing it even for a knight on a white horse. (though what would a knight on a white horse do indoors?)
However, I beg to differ with the quote above... when I was just beginning this dating thing, on a rebound and just testing the water, there were guys I was really interested in who ruined their chances by being pushy and asking me out or even asking for my phone number before I was ready. It's all changed for me now, I'll go date a complete stranger in a heartbeat as long as it's a public place where I'd want to be anyway, but in either case, you've got to read the road signs and prove to be thoughtful and tuned in to the lady... just like she does. See, it goes without saying that someone not tuned in to your signals now probably won't be where it matters most... | |
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Posted: 4/30/2008 9:41:52 AM |
I watched a show on the Discovery Channel where a professor researching human attraction *demonstrated* the human ability to select the most genetically compatible mate with 90% accuracy based on smell alone. When's the last time you smelled a database and even if you could which of us would go around sniffing them?
Interesting... from one computer geek to another, how did the professor define genetic compatibility? | |
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