| The age barrier
Posted: 6/11/2007 4:48:51 AM | i am not silly enough to think that a 30 yr old would date a guy 20 yrs older.
It's not a case of being silly enough. If you don't click, you don't click. I recently dated a guy in his 50's and the sparks flew.
It all depends on the person and their preferences. You may even fit their preferences but just may not have 'that thing' they are looking for. Who knows?
Age isn't such a big thing these days and men dating younger women has been widely accepted.
I guess a 28 year old and a 55 year old is 'out there' but hey, I didn't care. But say, a 23 year old female and a 30 year old man- no big deal at all.
EDIT: On the other hand I don't prefer to date older men nor do I like it when they e mail me. It just screams 'sleaze'. That's just the way I feel about it. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 4:51:22 AM | couldn't have timed that better..............I rest my case.
(and men dating older women too Marley) | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 4:54:13 AM | self-recommendation is the biggest turn-off............! | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 5:08:18 AM | ok here's what the age barrier consists off.
for me
once your over the male menopause I have a trophie sex idol who adores you. treats you like a king , worships the ground you walk on and is passionate about the 3 mins of hot steamy sex once a month, whether she needs it or not .
there does come a time, sooner or later you will still have to learn to enjoy each others presence. and even playing spoons while she sleeps upside down in a cocoon of her own black wings is not an excuse to NOT sometimes talk !!( no end of that )
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holding hands even!! ...and in public
so you see its not all fun and games , younger! older! equal chronological lifetime! its all the same ...
just like work
I have no age barrier just more to learn, and its heaps of fun.
but then again i am not really mature enough to comment. when i grow up i will write a more meaning full, deeper perspective , but dont hold ya breathe
hows that sara  | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 7:02:27 AM | I have been on this site for a few months and have met some nice people. I don't have "unreal" expectations and quoting *hilly* from another thread, I tend to fish in the middle of the pool. But I still haven't met that someone who gives me that spark.
they are either so lost in their past they need to find a guy who looks like and acts like their ex partners
If I were looking for someone like my ex partner, I don't think he would be my ex. What I would like is someone who is far removed from the ex.
I have come to the opinion that alot of women who come to this site carry the ultimate baggage
Everyone has baggage of some kind. You just need to find a way to deal with it and don't drag any prospective partners into it.
This is not self pity, this is questioning the realism of the people on this site
I can't speak for anyone else but I do know why I'm on the site and hopefully I will meet him but I refuse to let it get me down. If it is meant to happen, it will.
Hang in there - you can't force someone to like you. Just go with the flow and have fun and don't let things get you down! | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 7:03:03 AM | Good for you clumsy...I thought your comments and suggestions above were fair, objective and offered in good faith.
What I have enjoyed about this site so far is that it is not too "precious"...no topic is sacrosanct from a little gentle leg-pulling but there is also the opportunity for brutal honesty if required.
The more I return the more of a sense of community I perceive.
And nightboy ...I would like to echo one of the above comments.
"It's not the destination that is important but the journey itself" | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 7:17:48 AM | | Thanks poincares, lol although fair&objective oaf, doesn't quite have a ring to it, however I did get a surprise in my mailbox, a lady in nightboy's age group but unfortunately not near him contacted me to actually thank me for the response hoping he'd think about the changes, so there ya go nightboy, there are ladies out there in the range your looking for, so have a think on it and let us know how you go. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 7:22:43 AM |
there are ladies out there in the range your looking for, so have a think on it and let us know how you go.
So do we write to "Dear Clumsy" now? I have this problem....................................... | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 7:47:34 AM | | LOLOLOL I meant in here, however at least i'd get email! from someone!...err so whats the problem? lol | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 5:20:41 PM | lmaooooooooooooooooo...
I rather like the "Dear Clumsy ..." comment
 "BlooP" | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 6:32:24 PM | Original poster - have you considered changing your pic, or adding others that capture you with a more open expression on your face? While I admit my perception might be clouded a little by the nature of this thread, you are looking rather cynical in your current pic.
Just a thought . . . | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 6:40:09 PM |
I agree with Nightboy why doesnt anyone like a man with straws up his nose
straws??? can you do it with two at once? | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 4:36:30 AM | Agree with in bloom. Changing pics might help.
Nothing wrong with the one you have but maybe a couple more might help? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2007 1:31:02 AM | I am just thinking mate, not a criticism just an observation. Try smiling in your pic, you don't look happy. Just a thought for what it is worth
Adrian | |
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Posted: 6/16/2007 7:08:37 PM | I've read your profile and although I'm single I wouldn't go for you. (Sorry for being so blunt but I'm here simply to be of some help, ok?) Why?
1. Your pic. You're definitely NOT ugly but there's not a smile or anything special about it... Try to get more photos, too. Different angles, clothes and places...
2. You sound boring! Women in our age group are REALLY looking for someone interesting with a zest for life! After going through raising children and a failed marriage WE WANT TO HAVE FUN!!!! It I were you, I'd re-write your profile. You certainly have some good writing skills but you should be more daring and creative! Make use of some new imageries (Make up your own!) to interest the reader, be more optmistic about finding someone and try to convey a less serious (= more appealing ) image of you. Your profile definitely lacks humour and a more positive feeling about it!
3. The sex bit. Although it has some really WOW information (The bit about getting your partners exhausted  ) you don't seem to be persuasive enough to get my exclusive attention. The reason? I think you 're not letting anything to the imagination... Try to seduce us with your words. Are you self confident enough (You should be if you're such a great lover!) to be a charmer, a seducer?
Good luck with your fishing! Hope I was of some help! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 12:12:54 AM | | ^^^^Use straws i got some good mail | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 2:15:08 AM | | BrasilBrasil, I could not agree more with your comments! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 4:52:01 AM | | Jeez the mail I get "Why aren't you living in (insert city here)"...........dammit, might try the straws though......... | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 8:37:47 AM | I used to have an age barrier when I searched. I thought I was being very realistic, not thinking that anyone under the age of 32 would be interested and up to 46. I was actually contacted by the girl I'm seeing now and she is 27. I wouldn't have even met her with my age barriers up.
My point is, keep your options open. There could be someone out there in a different age group than what you are looking at who will blow you away.
With a few new pics and a spruced up profile, you'll find the right one for you.
Just remember to keep  | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 3:28:58 PM | Females are being "stern" with you henry? Hmmm - some guys pay for that - consider yourself lucky. 
Provoking a reaction may not be the best way to catch a lady though. And now we can't take any of your forum posts seriously! Do you really mean what you say - or are you just trying to provoke?
Shame henry, shame. (not too stern I hope)
Oh, on topic....lalalala
I don't think such a thing as an "age barrier" exists. I do believe such a thing as an "interests and goals" barrier exists. And that very often people of the same age range have similar goals and interests. So, when you meet someone younger, or older, that's where the barrier is. Or, a "family" (what? you're dating someone how old???) barrier comes into play.... | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 5:57:29 PM | | Tend to agree with CC, am not a believer in the "age barrier". Suppose however should add that there are some that likes and dislikes in the opposite sex, these can become a "barrier" if you don't meet their expectations, think that is what CC is getting at. Put it this way, I certainly wouldn't want to be with someone who wasn't into me just as much as I was into them .... would you? | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 8:54:36 PM | Thank you Frankiepankie2 for agreeing with me.
Sorry Henry 333 - Just stay in QLD - the Sunshine State although it doesn't feel like that here in MOntville. SOOOOOOOOO cold! I was born and bred in Rio, Brazil, a tropical country. Moving back to Cairns! Can't stand the weather here! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 1:38:02 AM | age thing has never been a problem for me.
I am a freind to anyone who love's life & live's life
don't understand why some ladies around my age, are not interested in even a friendship.
age is just a number, & if your young at heart...nothing else really maters as friends
I don't have 1 foot in the grave
I work full time
I love having fun..
thank god for the ladies i have meet, to whom AGE is not a problem.
young or older.
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Posted: 6/18/2007 3:13:25 AM |
I have come to the opinion that alot of women who come to this site carry the ultimate baggage, they are either so lost in their past they need to find a guy who looks like and acts like their ex partners or they are facing a midlife crisis and want to fool with the emotions of others just to make themselves feel better.
Hurls my ultimate baggage at my ex-partner and midlife crisis, fools with my own emotions and feels sooooo much better........
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