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Posted: 8/8/2007 8:01:35 PM | Iv'e been doing Muay Thai for about 9 months, with some sparadic ninjitsu, and ju-jitsu. I'm looking at taking a full Hapkido course full time cause i think it will help me spiritually, mentally and physically.
It's similar to what Shotgun said, Martial arts can help re-enforce a good person, or give a bad one tools to do more harm. But like relationships, if you don't take the chance, you'll never know what it could have done for you. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2007 8:43:40 PM | Yeah, Well i figure Hapkido will be good to do steady for a year or so just to try it out, I'd like to be trained in several, as sort of adaptable style fighter, tho i never plan on using any of it.
Was also looking into Krav Maga but i don't live near a military base in Canada. Hapkido should give me a good run for a while tho. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2007 9:29:40 PM | ^^^^ You don't need to live near a base to learn it.
I know a few years back there was a place behind the Home Depot near Chinook center that used to teach it. Can't really remember the name of the place, but I know they used to teach Krav. Hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 4:58:47 AM | Yeah, i already looked into it, and according to the official KM site, they don't have any training dojo's in Calgary anymore. a buddy of mine said when the military base shut down, it did too.
Most of the training centers are located near Canadian military bases, which is why i made the comment. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 1:17:44 PM | | Well I don't know if it helps me in Relationships, since I haven't been in one for awhile, but it does keep me upbeat when things in dating doesn't go my way. I know if it wasn't the confidence that I got while taking MA, I wouldn't have talked to a lot of women. Now just need to get over that next step. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 7:49:52 PM | Jiu Jitsu is a huge part of my life. I fight in tournaments and train very hard for it. I also do Muay Thai, but don't apply myself as much as I do with Jiu Jitsu.
Whether it has helped me with relationships... I don't think so. Girls sometimes stereotype me as being violent, although I am probably more peaceful and gentle than the majority of guys that don't fight.
Either way, martial arts have definitely changed and matured me as a person for the better. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2009 5:03:56 PM | | Iv been training for several years now. Did a lot of wreslting, judo, and boxing when I was in high school. I now compete in MMA and train tie, boxing, jiu jitsu, and still wreslte. I have to be there about 4 to 5 times a week and at least for 4 a night. In my expreince it does not help a relationship had two failed ones becuase competing got in the way and they told me I had to chose between them or it. Needless to say I still train and compete. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2009 10:01:30 AM | It's impossible to generalize "martial arts" because so many schools and teachers are so totally different, and the individuals they attract all come with their own baggage. In my years of doing MA I've met some real losers and also some real amazing people too. So very hard to predict.
As with any "art"---yoga, meditation, etc.---quality varies hugely from one place to another. Google up "McDojo" if you want to be entertained.
However, I can't imagine doing MA would be *harmful* to one's ability to have healthy relationships. ANY physical discipline, whether it's martial arts or running or biking or yoga, is more likely to have an overall positive effect on the individual's general well-being than not. Anything that gets you off the couch and out of your head, is bound to be a net positive. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2009 1:49:27 PM | "Help Relationships": As in meet new people? I dunno. I suppose there might be some ladies in there training to help ward off potential rapists; trouble is, they might CONSIDER YOU a potential rapist LOL!
If you're already in a relationship, sure, I'd think martial arts would be a great way for you both to stay in shape and work out whatever tension and aggression you're feeling toward each other and toward work-stress and life in general. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2009 2:54:16 PM | Martial arts training can be a great way to spiritual growth. Facing your fears and pushing past previous endurance levels can give anyone the tools to be able to manage relationships in life.
Heh, yeah................I'm recently divorced.  | |
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Posted: 1/10/2009 5:17:48 PM | | It probably helps with self confidence and inner peace so to speak, so I would think it helps, but working out does that too. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 10:43:23 AM | | It really depends how often you are training, and to what degree. Most train to stay in shape and do mabye an hour or two, about two or three times a week. You learn self control, self esteem, confindence, the work. But when you train to compete, you are at the gym almost five to six times a week, for about four to five hours, sometimes more. That can hinder a relationship becuase you are never around. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2009 8:20:42 AM | | It has definitely giving me confidence, & a way to deal with obstacles in dating. I'm pretty sure we all have some obstacles in dating. I know the more training I do the more better I feel better about myself. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2009 5:43:23 PM | Martial arts are a bit of a geek activity. If you take it too seriously, you're bound to miss out alot as much as if you were wasting your time playing video games.
Everything in moderation. | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 1/18/2009 9:29:15 PM | Did Judo for 25 years , national tournaments, Can-Am games, coached and ran a dojo for 5 years.
My take - far tooo many people want "instant gratification" in the gym and in relationships.
Lots of people take martial arts wanting to be a bad ass--they wash out in a year or two.
Discipline, sticking to something for an extended period of time, mental toughness,
humility (yeah getting your ass beat a time or two), perseverance, evolving & maturity
all play a role in martial arts.
Truly knowing your inner self, what makes you tick, is important in relationships.
Those continually searching for something are lost , no matter who they hook up with. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 9:54:12 AM | I don't know that you can apply the success of relationships or not directly to martial arts training. Like so many previous posters have said, there are a myriad of dojos/schools... and they're not all created equally.
I've been training in a blended discipline for over five years now, and I can tell you emphatically, it has taught me a great deal about who I am inside and just how much I'm capable of.
In regards to relationships I think it's helped me to give the other person the benefit of the doubt, always keeps me respectful of the other person, but I'm also a little more selective about a potential mate.
As far as it being a "violent" sport... most of them are. Unless you're thinking golf, or swimming, or the ever so popular extreme badminton, lol. The martial artists that I've known and trained with are some of the least violent people you'll meet. There's an understanding of what your training has made you capable of, and if trained by a decent Sensei, a respect for that training that tends to make you less likely to use it.
Finally, no matter what you're learning, it's always, ALWAYS important to have teachers that have integrity. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 8:32:23 AM | At my Club in Canada we have almost as many talented women as we do men so I'm really happy about that!
I dont totally agree with dating in the "do jahng" if you are the instructor. However if you are a student there is nothing wrong with it. I think it can be a great place to make a match. Perhaps you do tournaments, there is another place to meet new people as everyone gets together from different schools.
My advice is to make friends with some new people and then go from there. It's kinda like dating at work or school, if it goes wrong you could make for an uncomforable situation. So be cautious and use your best instincts. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 8:40:13 AM | your right vakyxclone, it can be a "geek" type activity as you really do miss out on a lot. We used to actually call ourselves TKD nerds, and that was what we were. We lived and breathed it and spent up to 7 days a week training. I was on every team and club as well as travel and competition. It was fun but I missed out on a lot of "real world" things.
I found that when I worked and trained too much I was either too taxed out to do other things or I simply didnt have the time. I was single for 3 years!
I mean in the 3 years I accomplished much in my training and I wouldnt trade those accomplishments for any dating in the world, but I see your point.
When your young you only live once! It's a good positive environment but you have to find a balance between that and other social activities. Even if you have a lot of frineds in the "school" or even a significant other.
I find that now that I no longer work as an instructore and I just train for "fun" I have a way better social life and I have WAY more things to talk about.
Again, I wouldnt change things for the world but I'm glad I made the change for myself as I'm not getting any younger!
I got hurt a while back and it was like losing a best friend, I now dont feel so desvistated if I miss a class here and there. Usually I do cause I actually have plans or better still a date! | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 10:42:25 AM | I started martial arts 36 years ago. I have never stopped training, I love it. I travel around helping out dojo owner's and teaching seminars.
Divorced three times
just sayin............ | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 3:05:36 PM | i dont think martial arts helps in anyway honestly. i started training in mixed marital arts and if anything, it has made my dating life worse. i went through a breakup recently and got into MMA to get through the depression i was in. i train brazilian ju jit su, muay thai, and boxing.
one thing i learned NOT to do is tell a girl im interested in that i train in MMA. when they hear that im a mixed martial artist, they automatically think im some kind of violent person. they think im going to beat them up for whatever reason.
if anything, martial arts gives off a red flag to women and you are automatically labeled as a woman beater. i have never hit a woman in my life. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 4:16:51 PM | A little "spin" might be in order, and I mean that it an educational sort of way.
Much of martial arts involves yielding or bending to forces like bamboo does in the wind.
Water can flow around a rock or go over the top as if it were never there.
We always have choices in presentation of our skills.
Perhaps you can say you're a peaceful gentleman who studies the actions of nature
to gain mental agility and thoughtfulness.
In Judo you'll often hear the term "play" as opposed to fight - a different mindset indeed.
Most of the time in boxing, wrestling, judo, karate, etc. points are awarded in playing the "game".
Now I can flip the switch in an instant becoming the tornado, avalanche and tsunami combined
but for the majority of my life, I'm just a nature lover. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 8:52:27 AM | | Two years in karate gave me the courage to finally stand up to my abusive husband......this was a good thing! And yes, he is now my ex. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 7:16:55 PM | | I have been doing Kung Fu and some Karate thrown in for 25 years. I was married for most of that time so I'm not sure about dating and how it affects that. I know my standards are probably too high because I want to find someone who really takes care of himself. I wonder if men are intimidated by women that can handle themselves? I don't get much attention on this site but I'm sure having four kids doesn't help. Our school always puts respect and self control above all else. | |
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