| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 3/15/2009 11:46:14 PM | 25 years training here.
No, it doesnt do a thing for relationships. Sincerely, if yer a jerk in the dojo you will be a jerk outside of it. Martial arts develops alot of things, but intimacy and capacity to love...i dont think theres any connection.
Whats with the guys wearing a Gi in their profile? Women arent attracted to men doing martial arts, they see it as violent. I would think about changing that. | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 3/16/2009 4:21:55 AM | I would love to have a partner that was into martial arts. I know many of the guys at our school are really sweet teddy bears on the insisde. The only thing that turns me off about SOME martial art guys is they think they are IT!. But you get that anywhere you go in life not just in the dojo. Knowing how hard someone works to get that black belt or beyond gives me a whole new level of respect for that person. | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:17:55 PM | I think it does. Most people only see the physicality of it but that is not all that it is. It really helped give me that extra boost when I was at a very low point in my life. It helps boost self confidence and self esteem. You also get out there and meet some good people.
I have been studying Aikido for nearly 2 years now and I started Kali/Arnis at a new club but I have also studied Wing Chun Kung Fu and Wado Ryu Karate briefly. It was at Aikido that the senior instructor told me that he met his wife while he was studying Tae Kwon Do. That was 14 years ago. | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 3/19/2009 2:23:56 AM | I'm going to chime in on the makes no difference side. If you're a jerk, you're a jerk in martial arts, though perhaps in better shape. The better shape aspect is what appeals to me.
I can see her and she can see me. Of course, the old style uniforms in our school tend to obscure shape. 
I think a person that takes care of themself is a better person. But, as has been said before, there are a lot of Prima Donnas in the Martial Arts.
Avoid Guardian Angels like the PLAGUE! Much too willful and self-righteous. Anti-drug as hell. 
Whoops! That includes me! | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 3/20/2009 1:45:10 PM | | Well eastdragon, I can see your concept. To be successful in any endeavor wether is a martial art or any other activity, you have to give all you got. That is called COMITMENT and devotion. So, yes there is a relationship between Martial Arts and any relationship that you might pursue. Again, comitment and devotion, those are the key. | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 3/20/2009 4:22:59 PM |
No, it doesnt do a thing for relationships. Sincerely, if yer a jerk in the dojo you will be a jerk outside of it. Martial arts develops alot of things, but intimacy and capacity to love...i dont think theres any connection.
I have to agree with this guy. My ex-husband was a 2nd degree black belt in one discipline and a 7th degree black belt in another. He still didn't communicate well at all. | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 3/21/2009 11:11:57 PM | Martial arts have the capacity to teach you good character skills, like self-disipline, respect, confidence, which can benefit a relationship if it's with the right person. However if you go just to learn how to "hurt people" and "be the strongest/best" then those are probably bad motivations that won't carry over well to a relationship (im the strongest/best in this relationship, so we do what I say. See what i mean?)
Open Palm or Closed Fist; which is easier to hold someone with? | |
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Posted: 3/23/2009 11:05:59 PM | i like to learn about martial arts, but never had a chance to train in any. there are several schools around, alot are mcdojos. not sure what to get into, maybe jiu jitsu or some muay thai. krav maga is cool.. simple but effective.
i want to train in something brutal and effective. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2009 9:25:39 AM | I think that few people who puruse the martial arts truly learn much about the spirit and philosophy. Some emphasize this aspect more than others, such as aikido. Personally, I've done some training but never took it very far, and still go to classes occasionally.
When dating, it seemed to make little difference, but women who had studied martial arts often seemed to catch my interest more than the others. My partner of many years is a black belt, and that does show through in her self-confidence. She's also one who does pay attention to the spirit and philosophy. | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 3/24/2009 5:00:46 PM |
DO MARTIAL ARTS HELP RELATIONSHIPS?
I don't believe they do, because I don't believe martial arts and eastern philosophy are synonymous. I do, however, think knowledge of a new philosophy can give new & constructive perspectives for an individual to consider and adapt into their own lives. When a person has more "tools in their tool belt", and they've got the brains to utilize the right tool for the job, then indirectly this philosophy can help the relationsip.
Unfortunately, during periods of growth sometimes people grow apart from one another. So, in theory, it could do more harm than good... | |
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| Martial Arts and Relationship Sucess
Posted: 5/20/2009 11:46:44 AM | | I don't believe that it helps......I have been in the arts for 30 plus years.....I have develpoed many great friendships. I have incorporated many aspects of the arts into my life...and exercise them daily......However the martials arts is what I do....and not whom I am...... The most important thing is that we train..... | |
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