| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/29/2007 4:56:22 PM | If you're looking for familarity to breed better sex and with it, a better relationship, you're going to be sadly disappointed. I'm not saying your sex won't improve, but is he into improving? If you feel this way now, imagine in a few years.
Sounds like he does just enough to keep you around. He could also be bored. Perhaps you're not as proficient as he may require. You know, not all men think just because their getting" it" that "it" is enough or even very good. Are you a lady who thinks your presence is enough participation? Is he cheating? Is someone lese getting the best of his love? | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 7:21:54 AM | Well, doesn't it get better when one doesn't have to look over the shoulder or watch the needle on the clock?! When one is at ease & relaxed and the eyes telling what the heart hungers for. Connection on many levels and with spontaneity to rule. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 7:26:54 AM | | if its bad at the start, its not going to get better... it can only get better if it was good from the start. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 11:28:55 AM | Sure, it gets better the longer you're together if you both remain interested in good sex! You learn what really turns each other on and there's no worries about doing it right, etc.
However, sex with a fairly new partner can also be great because of the excitement of the new, and the possibly new never-before-experienced techniques. Just the same, I wouldn't want to give up a great long-term relationship and wonderful partner just for some newness! It's also possible to create newness in an existing relationship - it just requires a little creativity or a little research. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 11:32:33 AM | | it all depends on where the relationship is. if they are truely madly deeply then yes. if they are at the end and just can't stand to look at each other without fantasies that involve knives guns or baseball bats then not so much lol. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 11:41:16 AM | There's something to be said for short or long term partners
Short term partners have that New Relationship Energy...where you can't wait to get alone so you can rip each others clothes off and go at it like bunnies...as often as you can.
Long term partners has the 'knowledge of each others bodies' thing. You know what gets the other person going, and what gets them off...so you can really do a good job. But there is a comfort level and a 'life gets in the way' level where you don't get it as often and the sex becomes a secondary thing.
Thats when you make a concerted effort to either have sex more often or make the times when you do count more | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 11:43:56 AM | Mmmm...always gets better!
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 3:28:41 PM | Ill be honest here; I cannot relax, open up, and enjoy sex unless its with somone I have true feelings for. Otherwise its like using a body for masturbation: does the trick, but leaves me unsatisfied.
But the answer is yes! The closer I feel to you, the more in tune to you I become. Its at that point that my intrest is soley about her pleasure. And its thru pleasing you, that I recieve the most rewarding sex. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 8:18:41 PM | I agree that sex gets better for the woman as the relationship grows. We get to know your body better, your like, what makes you get off...etc.
Now men, on the other hand, get off every time. Which means that unless the sex has variety and is playful and that you make sure that you BOTH enjoying it as much as each other the man will feel that the sex is getting stale.
Variety is the spice of life. Now if you're in a committed relationship...where is the variety?...The sex. Keep it different and keep it exciting. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 11/30/2007 9:01:47 PM | Do any of you men believe that sex is better when it's with a woman who you're in a long-term relationship with and that the longer you're together the better it becomes??
Personally, I feel sex is better if there is an emotional connection associated with the act. Some people might feel the opposite and I respect that view too.
That being said, I don't think that connection is limited just to long term relationships and I don't think there is a time line when it happens. I just think long term relationships increase the number of sexual encounters you have with that person and increases your odds of getting to that point of emotional connection, if it's possible with that person or not.
That being said, most men I know in long term relationships without marriage (more than three years ) or marriage (more than two years) have seen a sharp drop in the amount of sex they get. If they have children, it drops to nothing.
Maybe sex seems better for some men because sex is less frequent? (i.e. anything tastes good when you are starving)
I think if you are with the right person, regardless of how long you've been with them and regardless of your level of commitment, sex will always be fantastic. That being said, most people probably aren't with the right person. It's unfortunate but dating is a numbers game sometimes. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 12/1/2007 10:48:23 AM | OP, First of all, I didn't read through all the other posts.
I feel that sex (I prefer to call it love making), for me gets more passionate over time in a long term relationship. I find that the more I am in love with the person as each day goes by, the more passionate I become during love making.
If being passionate between the sheets = Better Sex (lovemaking), which I believe, then the answer is "Yes". | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 12/18/2007 10:45:39 AM | | no because you get married and she turns the tap off im doomed | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 2/28/2008 4:02:06 AM | | iv sat and read a few of the post here and i think your all missing the point there is a differance between having sex and makin love sex is something thats fairly exciting in a new relationship but as time goes by you begin to get know each other maybe start making plans for the future i think thats when it turns from sex to making love if you love someone you'll do anything for them even if the sex is boring iv got a friend hes been with his gf for 7 or 8 months he says the sexs is boring but thats not enough for him to give up on her because he loves her however i believe that if u cant be happy with each other in the privacy of your bedroom or wherever u prefer to "do it" then what the hell is the point sex and makin love should both be exciting and enjoyable whether is 2 months into a relationship or 20yrs!! | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 3/31/2008 5:38:28 AM | Absolutely!!! As long as there is good communication, it can only get better, and of course when you both become comfortable with each other, experimentation will then become necessary...... as long as it involves scenarios......places and positions........
as well as your imagination. However I dont suggest any variation in WHO you have sex with.... | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 5/19/2008 2:11:20 PM | sex can improve with time if each partner's sensuality increases, eroticism also helps, but I find the best sex is in the middle of the morning before waking up. Variety is the spice of life, add some kink, then you have endless possibilities. Kinky sex is the best in my opinion because it allows my fertile imagination to get involved and when that happens, the sky is the limit!
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 5/19/2008 2:32:39 PM | Sorry, I'm not going to lie. It's cool after you've established comfortability (especially if you're both open-minded) and can do pretty much whatever either of you comes up with, but eventually you've tried it all and it's hard to keep it interesting.
Even with the emotional bond factor involved I still wouldn't say sex is better the longer you're together. At best, it stays the same. But even that's not entirely likely.
Particularly for men. Even if we love you, we do like variety. It's just how we're made.
This is one reason I don't ever see myself getting married. I don't see myself being content with one person for the rest of my life. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:31:36 AM | | It's who you are with that really counts. Not how long you have been with them | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:49:48 AM | Sex only gets better when both partners are trying to improve their sex life.
New sex is fun because it is new.
Old sex isn't anything new.
New sex in an old relationship is best. By then you should both know your partner well enought to enhance the new sex.
In a good relationship even a passionate flop can increase the emotional bond and increase the passion of the next time. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:55:02 AM |
Do any of you men believe that sex is better when it's with a woman who you're in a long-term relationship with and that the longer you're together the better it becomes??.....come on...there has to be a few of you who believe that.......give me hope!!!!
why not,is'nt everything else better when you're more comfortable......  | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 5/24/2008 12:54:48 PM | OP...the answer is NO...the longer you're together the more boring it is and the harder it becomes to get aroused...that's why it's said that variety is the spice to life.
the truth speaks | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 5/24/2008 1:08:44 PM | | If you are doing it right. It has to be exciting and fresh. Sex cannot be stale and predictable. | |
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