| footfetish
Posted: 7/4/2007 11:51:43 AM |
I'm here, unable to wrap my brain around it. If anyone would be willing to enlighten me I'm more than happy to hear from you.
Foot fetish explained. Well, sort of ;-) I don't think origins of a fetish are well understood. I think the psychology of sexuality is as fascinating as it is complex and unknown.
As someone pointed out, a fetish is usually associated with objects. However, in contemporary use, the word is used beyond its literal or academic scope, which I do as well.
One theory I have read about origins of a foot fetish is that when an infant crawls and approaches others, the part that is most frequently encountered is feet and this experience somehow lays the seeds for a fetish. I don't this theory is complete because most infants have this experience. However, I do think the origins of a fetish lie in early experiences that produce a lasting response; many foot fetishists recall an early experience with the feet of a babysitter and the like.
I think various forms of sexuality (homosexuality, an interest in BDSM) have each a nature and nurture component. I think the nurture component (experiences in life) influences whether or how the nature component (genetics or psychological propensity) realizes or not. While I do not have any direct observations that suggest a nature component for fetishes, I see the pattern enough in other similar areas to allow the possibility.
I am aware of two types of motivation behind an interest in feet.
One motivation is an appreciation of feet much like that for another part of the body. I personally appreciate hands and feet. I respond to them much like how anyone else does with a part of a body they appreciate.
Another motivation is that attention to feet has potential to express a gesture of submission or an act of service, which is a whole different discussion that I will save for another time.
For some, the interest in feet is driven by the first motivation only, for some the second only, for some both.
Cheers,
Sea | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 7/4/2007 12:32:42 PM |
As I said, my friends "attraction" to feet is non-sexual. Yes, I researched this a tad and saw it truly is possible (wasn't sure if I believed him).
I agree that it is possible for someone with a foot fetish to give a foot massage and to not experience sexual arousal or feelings while doing so. It frequently happens with me. Incidentally, I find this point to be as relevant to a discussion about a non-sexual massage as it is to a foot fetish.
I once fractured my wrist and went for physical therapy upon having the cast removed. The woman who ran the place always massaged my hand at the end of my visit and told me that she likes hands. I don't think massaging my hand was necessarily sexual for her however I expect that her lover's hands carry special meaning for her.
I usually do not experience sexual arousal when giving a foot massage. I do, however, more consistently find a pyschological gratification--I feel calm and at peace. I went to school for massage therapy and feel similarly when giving a massage in general. Because I like feet, I give foot massages more frequently than other types of massages.
So someone who has a foot fetish and is giving a foot massage may well feel like someone who finds shoulders attractive and is giving a shoulder massage to someone with nice shoulders.
All that said, I do consider a fetish more a part of my sexuality than not. My enthusiasm for giving someone a massage is affected by how attractive or not I find the person, one key reason for why I am not a practicing massage therapist. Perhaps part of how I feel is because of the potential for sexual energy. I think the bigger reason is that the act is personal--it brings each within personal space of each other. One way to convey this point is to liken it to a slow dance.
Many people might like to dance with someone they find attractive or wish to court. They are generally less enthusiastic about dancing with someone they do not find attractive. The dance may or may not have sexual energy. The dance does bring each person with personal space of the other. How one feels when asked to dance is influenced by whatever motivation or agenda this person perceives to be attached to the dance.
Cheers,
Sea | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 7/10/2007 1:31:59 PM | | well honestly i tell them i have it and i am not sure y ppl keep saying that im going to try to suck their feet. thats not it at all , i mean yes i would love too but u know i do have respect for women so i expect respect back thats all im saying , but if someone offers me then u better belive im on it lol. but if they find it nasty then thats them, but that doesnt mean they can not be my friend for it am i right?? | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 4:17:23 PM | | A lot of chicks get really funny about guys with foot fetishes though. They probably don't mind getting a foot massage, but if they know that a guy that is giving them one is actually attracted to, or turned on by their feet, they get all weird and stuff. Wtf difference does it make? lol | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 7/18/2007 10:51:38 PM | Im a guy.
I keep good care of my feet. Sometimes days better than others.
I had a babe date me once because I had such nice shiny toes.
I've noticed over the years, that my (male) feet are in better shape than allot of women.
Nothing like looking at a pretty woman and then spotting her torn dirty toenails. yuck.
Nice toes are important. Its like nice teeth.
Here is a thought to women who run from foot fetishes. Its easier than anal sex!!
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| footfetish
Posted: 7/26/2007 12:57:00 PM | mostyl every girl i dated loved it cause they knew it was a weakness i had especially if were out in public lol plus they allways got a good foot massage from me which they really enjoyed *wink* | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/12/2007 8:23:45 AM | | I SECOND THAT MOTION | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/14/2007 3:38:44 PM | It's pretty tame, as far as that sort of thing goes. And, judging by the opinions expressed here, people who actively find feet gross seem to be in the minority. The prevailing opinion seems to be that feet can be very hot, or that people can't understand it, but are willing to take a "vive la difference" attitude. Suddenly, I don't feel so alone...
On a slightly off-note: this boutique here in Ottawa had radio commercials for fruit-flavoured pedicures! They really need to think about the effects of these things... I mean, I was just water-proofing the back deck when I heard it, but geezus! What if I'd been driving, or operating heavy machinery? 
!Les | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/14/2007 3:56:55 PM | Foot fetishes is one of the most common. The degree and nature is what is freaky to many women. Licking, smelling, needing the feet to be stinky, rather having a footjob than a BJ or vagina, or handjob, needing trampled on etc. is just weird and perverse to many. Why? Not the presumed norm I guess. Appreciation of nice feet is normal/common/healthy. Same with any other body part. Need proof? Think of seeing someone with nasty feet. Turned off by it? Most would answer yes I think. That indicates everyone is into feet at some level.
But really I learned that a sexual fetish is something a person NEEDS to experience in order to have arousal and or orgasm. You decide the degree of truth of this, if any.
I suffer from a head to toe, inside and out, whole package deal fetish. Too many things turn me on about a woman, but I need a bit more than other guys to pop cork. At least last I check, which was long ago in a galaxy far far away. And I was drunk which numbs some people and allows for them to screw for longer periods of time. No, make that trashed. | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:00:41 PM |
Here is a thought to women who run from foot fetishes. Its easier than anal sex!!
god, all I can do today is giggle......everything is a little brighter.....even the foot fetish thing....And especially that there is an alternative to anal! Woot! | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:02:13 PM | | I have been told that I have nice looking feet. A couple of guys I corresponded with had foot fetishes, and I have no problem with it. In fact, I've been thinking about adding a photo of my feet to my profile. I wouldn't mind a little attention from "feet" guys! I don't think it is weird, unless it's the only thing they talk about. | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/16/2007 11:17:53 PM | I am sooo close minded about this!
EW EW ew EWWWW!
lol that being said. I've been approached by a fair number of men with foot fetishs and really its not my thing at All. I guess they like me because I have extreamly tiny feet? I shop in the kid area (size 3&half). And they (have) just get more and more desperate as I continue to deny them and say no way am I letting you touch my feet. So I'm really.. Just don't go near my feet and I'll be happy. The only acceptable time to touch my feet is if I've had a long hard day on my feet and are complaining about them. THEN it would be nice to have a foot rub.
One of my friends teases me by sometimes joking that he has a foot fetish and grabbing my feet to freak me out. | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/17/2007 5:29:36 AM | i have never seen or heard women anti foot lol my god do you know how many nerve endings are in the feet !!!!!!! gezzzzzzz you girls dont knwo what your missing hehe and its a great way to start up soemthing very intense and erotic !!!!!!! with me it allways lead to some wild passionate erotic love making sessions ....... i could go on about this but i wont haha        | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/17/2007 8:10:36 AM | | I don't know what it is about feet. I did stop talking to a guy who really loved my feet when he told me he wanted to pull my toe ring off with his teeth. That might not have been so bad, but we'd just met! | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/25/2007 12:41:52 PM | Has anyone seen the scene in "Dusk to Dawn" where Salma Hayak is a dancer & puts her toes in Quentin Tarantino's mouth & pours a bottle of booze down her leg, & it flows over her foot & toes & into his mouth? ......... i seen that and yes it was erotic as hell  | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/25/2007 12:54:15 PM | I dont think any fetish is that bad providing it dosen't become the focal point of a relationship
Like they say variety is the spice of life  | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/25/2007 2:13:13 PM | And especially that there is an alternative to anal! Woot!
He didn't say that it was an "alternative", but that it was "easier".
!Les
Then there's standing up in a hammock... | |
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medana
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Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 68 | |
| footfetish
Posted: 8/25/2007 3:36:58 PM | a foot fetish is the cutest one around. nothing wrong w a man wanting to rub my feet for hrs
he he he | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/26/2007 8:11:00 AM | | I heart elbows. | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/26/2007 8:20:14 AM | i just wish more girls were open minded about a little bit of kink.
sure they may not understand it, but at least appreciate the fact that the guy is turned on by it, and is willing to do whatever turns you on, even if he doesn't understand it. | |
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a1na2
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Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 71 | |
| footfetish
Posted: 8/26/2007 8:35:49 AM | I don't have a foot fetish but I do enjoy kissing , licking , sucking toes when the mood is right and I've yet to find a woman who doesn't enjoy it...
Most women probably are turned off my profile, but that has a lot to do with the fact that they don't know me.
It's interesting that once I'm in a relationship and I suggest a bit of roleplaying how much women enjoy my games.
Different strokes, pardon the pun.
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/26/2007 1:31:23 PM | | I don't think there is anything wrong with the foot fetish. I think it's great when a guy pays attention to my feet, pedicures, even a little extra special attention is a great bonus. if the feet are more important than the rest than it might create problems. I need foot attention. | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 8/26/2007 1:48:58 PM | i totally agree partiegirl if a woman can take care of her feet whats the rest like haha   | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 4/3/2008 9:57:41 PM | | I agree! sounds like alot of uptight women here. not very open to being sensual at all. such a waste. | |
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| footfetish
Posted: 4/4/2008 2:00:57 AM | | ^5 DK.......... I say don't knock it till you've experienced it, the toe's can be so sensual to start with, can be very stimulating. Ladies you will be surprised. | |
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