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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:40:42 PM | Hmmm
<div class="quote">I sent a polite e-mail to this girl and she didn't respond. The next time I e-mailed her I said that her profile showed that she was a shallow person the rest is all blah blah blah blah justify justify.
Dude, she ignored you, you disted her and now you bring it to a form to try more left handed approach at saying sorry.
your not
<div class="quote"> Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring? your just an ill wind who thought the girl should ansewr the email and lashed out.
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 go fish some more.
 Have a drink
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Side quesiton for the girls, how many of you read the forum posts of the men before you accept a date :)
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/12/2007 9:09:55 PM | I think this is kinda funny to me.
it reminds me of Kids vying for Mommies or daddies attention. 
Although in the real world it happens too. i'm Pretty Sarcastic normally,
And My sense of humor Dry and lacking. Recently i was in a relationship with
a woman That hardly gave me the time of day let alone any quality time.
When We WERE together though, everything Was Awesome but the minute we were
apart we'd be like Cats and Dogs. The only Way i could get her attention would
be to be Rude and sarcastic. i'm sure some of it was due to me and my own issues
with trusting a married woman and ex-swinger. i'm the Monogamous type and no
doubt lost my trust in her true intentions after playing me for over 2 years.
But to me, either way is Cool, polite shows respect and consideration
for other Human beings, where as Sarcastic may be just the way they
communicate. after a Couple Emails it's pretty easy to tell if they have a
Chip on there Shoulder!! | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/12/2007 9:19:06 PM | I would rather recieve a rude and sarcastic message.
I get a lot of messages and most of them are polite and boring, so no one sticks out.
Best thing would be someone polite and interesting, but I haven't gotten any messages like that. | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/12/2007 9:46:58 PM |
No, but a lot girls seem to be attracted to jerks that are rude and obnoxious rather than the shy reserved guy who doesn't say anything. I know, in real life I'm very shy and reserved myself.
I worked in retail back in college. They made sure we'd ask every customer if they'd like a widget when they got to the til. Every single time. The reason is, by asking if the customer would like a widget, even though it's useless, they'll often choose to take a widget, while the other widgets in the store never get any attention paid to them.
See the parallel? | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:15:15 PM | "Side question for the girls, how many of you read the forum posts of the men before you accept a date :)"
Side answer - I all ways read the forum posts before I even talk to a man. It shows the spirit and character of the person in question. | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/13/2007 6:44:12 AM |
Yeah, but if somebody can take the time to tell you off why can't they take the time just to say "no thank you I'm not interested" when you're polite?
As others have said, on the Internet not responding is esentially saying "no thank you I'm not interested". Just take the non-response and move on to someone else who is interested in you. | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/13/2007 11:31:29 AM | Are you basing this on someone telling you where to go as a response to an insult you sent? Surely you cannot deduce that the entire female gender seeks abuse based on your one e-mail experience.
As if!
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/13/2007 11:57:07 AM |
Surely you cannot deduce that the entire female gender seeks abuse based on your one e-mail experience.
No, I know it was only one girl's response. That's why I'm asking what you think. Anyways, based on my personal observations it seems like men that are rude and obnoxious but can be funny get a lot more attention from women than the guy who is polite but has a dull personality. I know that ideally you should try to be more polite and funny. Even if you can be, there's still no guarantee a girl will be interested in you if she's not attracted to you. | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/13/2007 12:40:22 PM | Even if you can be, there's still no guarantee a girl will be interested in you if she's not attracted to you.
That's an interesting statement. It implies that at times a woman should be interested if not attracted, and if you think she should, I'd like to know why. Pity? Money? Something you have that she wants? It's a given that a woman will only be interested in you if she is attracted to you. While it's easy to turn off a woman who is interested by things you do or say, it's almost impossible to turn on a woman who isn't interested by what you do or say. It's complicated, but it is what it is.
I still don't see the connection with insulting a woman and getting a rude response back and a woman being interested in a jerk because he's funny. What you said wasn't funny, and what she showed was not interest. As Seinfeld would say, "Where is the connection? Discuss." | |
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Posted: 6/13/2007 5:35:28 PM | Uglybetty, I think you’re misinterpreting me. I think she has the right to reject me if she’s not interested in me. Anyways, I admit I was rude but I could have been a lot ruder. I was just joking around trying to give her advice on how to avoid getting messages from men just looking for sex. I said she may be intelligent but her profile didn’t reflect that. “Thanks for the concern but worry about your own profile.” was her response.
I read a post in another forum where a woman said she would rather get rude messages than polite and boring ones. One woman I messaged didn’t like rude messages, one woman that posted in forum did. That made me wonder what most women think about this so I sought out your opinions. Is that wrong? | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/13/2007 7:34:57 PM | | When I was young and immature I saw rude and sarcastic as exciting and a nice guy very boring. As I've grown up and matured I realized that you can have a polite, nice guy with a sarcastic sense of humor (which I LOVE by the way) minus the rude. Bad boys were attractive when I didn't know any better. A truly hot guy is one that cherishes me, but still maintains a backbone. No real woman wants someone that's gonna lay down like a dog. Rude lasts with me for less than 30 seconds. | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/13/2007 7:48:18 PM | So what is your point? If you thought that about her, why did you email her in the first place. Just because some one doesn't email you, that gives you the right to cop an attitude with a total stranger over nothing? How dare you try to give unsolicited advice to a grown woman like that. The nerve.   | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/14/2007 6:18:02 AM | i am rude.
i am sarcastic.
i never answer my mail seriously.
the men that don't like that?
can F*CK OFF!
Because they'd end up just being a
B*I*T*C*H
in a relationship anyhow.
^^^^^ This is my kinda girl!
If she were only 5 years older. *sighs*
Back to the topic:
Being Mr. Nice Guy never gets a man anywhere in this life. Be rude, be sarcastic, tell that woman what she needs. Posting this question in Ask A Girl was your first mistake. Listening to these women will be your second. After that... you might as well delete your profile. | |
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Sigi
| | Joined: 5/26/2005
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/14/2007 6:52:28 AM |
I sent a polite e-mail to this girl and she didn't respond. The next time I e-mailed her I said that her profile showed that she was a shallow person and she should change it to show that she's an intelligent woman.
Op...I don't follow your 'logic' at all....I find it very childish. Like Bucsgirl said..."It's okay for you to be rude, but wrong for anyone else. Foot hurt yet, you just shot yourself in it. "
I was just joking around trying to give her advice on how to avoid getting messages from men just looking for sex. I said she may be intelligent but her profile didn’t reflect that. “Thanks for the concern but worry about your own profile.” was her response.
She was right...she didn't asked for your 'opinion' nor your insults. | |
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mizbex
| | Joined: 4/22/2007
Msg: 46 | |
| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/16/2007 1:32:51 PM | As Mominatrix said, For the 1 jillionth time, if a woman does not reply, she is not interested. Now is she rude because she doesn't reply? Some might say yes, but some women will tell you, the minute you send that nice rejection note, 8 times of 10 you will get the nasty name calling note and frankly it gets old. I am not a b!tch, I am simply not interested, for whatever reason, I am just not.
Now OP, as for your little game. I had someone do this to me who I had actually dated, things did not work out, long conversations were had and it became exhausting. I made a decision just to stop communicating with him all together, it was going no where. He could be incrediably mean spirited and sarcastic, but when I did not reply to him, he sent me the mother of all emails, telling me what a horrible mean person I was and who did I think I was and on and on. But the one thing that he said in that email which I will never forget and showed me exactely who he was, was, " I hope you end up alone." That statement alone spoke volumes about him. My point is this, you can say whatever you want to people who are not interested in you however when you do this it will show people what kind of person you really are. Why would you insult a total stranger just because they don't want to date you? Frustrated or not it's just not right. | |
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TrevG
| | Joined: 6/10/2007
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/16/2007 3:28:14 PM | You hit on an interesting aspect of human nature here. If you are boring, in any respect, you are far less likely to create any emotional impact or history with a person. Whereas if you are sarcastic and rude? You have an instant relationship with many people. The personality type that wants to be liked by everyone, for one, will not be able to leave you alone until you change your additude. You could string them along for a long time by playing this game. It also helps them remember you. It causes them to think about your interaction with them, and to think about you. And if it works, it also projects their own inner conflicts unto you, and that helps them identify with you. Once a person has identified you as some part of themselves, you are much 'closer' to them already.
But could you turn it around and get them to like you? The real you? I'm not so sure. I think the rude and sarcastic might be an attention getter, but I don't think it has much staying power or value.
This is just my opinion however.
Still, its nicer to ... be nice to someone. lol | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/16/2007 6:34:19 PM |
Yeah, but if somebody can take the time to tell you off why can't they take the time just to say "no thank you I'm not interested" when you're polite?
Tomcat guy: it is simple. If she doesn't respond, then quite simply, she isn't for you! Which would you rather meet: a respectful person, or a rude person. This should be quite clear. | |
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| Is rude and sarcastic better than polite and boring?
Posted: 6/16/2007 7:12:36 PM | | Try sending witty, charming, cute, and/or funny messages to girls! Then maybe you will get more of a response. I would reply to a boring message over a rude one. If he is rude to you before he meets you, then imagine how mean he would be when he gets comfortable with ya! Also I believe most of the time girls don't respond based on your profile more than the email itself. I usually don't bother conversating with guys who don't have any similiar interests as me in their profile. | |
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