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|Yeah I dated a guy who wanted me to use a strap on and give him anal sex... NOW THAT WAS WEIRD! I have had 2 seperate requests from men on that issue in my 8 year dating "career" .. lol|
Gees.. you see everything these days... the only thing I can rationalize about it is that they say men get sensual stimulation that way ... I know women enjoy it, but I still cant figure out the intracies of male stimulation in that arena.. always thought anal sex for guys was a sign of homosexuality or at least bi-sexuality.. perhaps Im wrong and its more about how men are socialized to pleasure, but I cant really say for sure....
Posted: 6/26/2007 5:53:47 PM
|Well, I don't think this defines the guy as gay just yet unless he goes down on the dildo! then i would worry. Have you ever heard of "milking the prostate?" That area can be very pleasurable for a guy and give him an explosive orgasm! I know of girls maybe fingering the guy and that does it as well so maybe you can offer to do that instead and see how he reacts.|
Posted: 6/26/2007 10:41:23 PM
|hey it's me again...i later went back to read the original post and i'd like to change my response a little.... I REALLY REALLY REALLY think he's a closet gay...obviously i missed the sucking the dildo part the first time...woopsie daisy! This guys gotta go girlfriend! lol|
Posted: 6/27/2007 3:16:53 AM
|hes bi its pretty much that simple, or at the very least bi curious|
Posted: 7/3/2007 2:15:52 AM
|As somebody whos into this myself (though not that "daddy" vocal part), I say its entirely up to whether the OP is comfortable with it. Its not necessarily a sign of homosexuality or being bisexual, but thats not dismissable either.|
The people calling the guy in question a freak etc need to loosen up.
Posted: 7/3/2007 2:42:17 AM
|HEY,Well i would consider that fact that he was abused defanally in denial GAY OR BI................. or Dam right dangerous |
Posted: 7/3/2007 2:49:29 AM
|Theres no evidence he was abused, it was an explanation somebody in thread came up with. He could simply have submission sexual tendencies.|
Strap-on use with proper lubricant and care isn't dangerous.
Posted: 7/3/2007 2:57:46 AM
|Well you must like him to be around still get rid hes not really bothered about you.My x was like that i divorced him he is now undergoing councilling for abuse as a child.Unless your happy with it go with it but if i was you i would run like hell|
Posted: 7/3/2007 4:52:15 AM
|Well thats strange... I guess everyone has their own lil odditys but... wow.. yeah thats a weirded out thing for sure.|
Posted: 7/5/2007 1:29:28 PM
|Sounds kinda gay.|
Posted: 7/5/2007 1:49:53 PM
|not saying it isnt gay but agree with submissive that it could also be just a submissive tendency. There are those that would actually love to be anally penetrated by a woman but would never be with a guy. But the rest of it..is one step beyond and not in my comfort zone..but like most people on here..communicate with him how you feel..not us.|
Posted: 7/5/2007 1:56:22 PM
|Well, the sucking on it, was that before or after you did him with it? Either way, that sounds unsanitary. And the DADDY thing, too weird! If one partner is totally turned off or weirded out, it's not good sex! Just say NO!|
Posted: 7/5/2007 2:07:46 PM
|stargirl, well at least he is still talking to you, paying you attention, loving you.|
i dont think he is fully gay he may just like women with power cause most women are very passive and its hard to get them to do anything. with a strapon at least they are doing something and the guy doesnt have to make all the moves for a change.
what is he like outside of the bedroom t hough? do you love him do you get along does he love you is this worth making him happy with his fantasies?
i say go for it unless it hurts you or someone else.
Posted: 7/5/2007 2:20:47 PM
|RUN FORREST RUNNNNNNNNN|
Posted: 7/5/2007 4:40:25 PM
|First i would like to say that there are alot of close minded people out here.. |
His request is that of a fetish.. anything and everything can be a fetish to one person, doesn't necessarily have to be sexual.
Yes his request for him to call her daddy was a little much, but men wanting anal stimulation weither it be as minor as a finger, or as extreme as an object of different sizes doesn't mean he's gay, or Bi.. it means he likes anal stimulation.
How is that any differnt then a woman wanting something done to her.. it's not.. and for the one that said men can't be BI that's bull.. how is it ok for a woman to be BI but not a man... common... that's a double standard!
As for the OP, if this is something that you aren't willing to do then explain that to him, if you have an open relationship where you have good communication skills then this shouldn't be a problem to discuss this with him, He obviously thought he could trust you enough to discuss this fantasy with him. Not everyone is willing to experient to that extent.. doesn't mean that there is something wrong with him.. simply means that he likes to try new things and he found something that he likes
I know i've been asked if i would do this for someone that i know and i explained that there is alot i'm willing to do but that was one that I wasn't comfortable performing..
Good luck! and I hoped that some of this helped
Posted: 7/13/2007 4:36:32 AM
|Yeah I remember that episode|
Posted: 7/13/2007 4:38:23 AM
|of the Sopranos.|
Posted: 7/13/2007 4:54:25 AM
|my god girl where did u find this one!!! lol|
i have met some odd people in the past but that has got to be the funnist i heard of!!!
if i was u trow him back where u found him babes n look again!!!!
good luck ether way x x x x x
Posted: 7/13/2007 5:58:41 AM
|Eww that's just gay!|
Posted: 7/13/2007 9:25:52 AM
|I'm with CrAzY_StArRiE_SkIeS on this one.|
Sounds like a harmless Fetish to me.
And yes there seems to be allot of closed minded people out there (and more so here).
I think the real elephant in the room is the lack of communication in the relationship between the two people in question.
Sounds to me that there was not enough intimate talking before physical intimacy began.
Seriously folks bring out a checklist and go through it together while the clothes are still on.
And BTW more straight couples engage in Anal play of all sorts then Gay couples.
Methinks It's rather silly to define anyone into a label based on a fetish they may have.
Posted: 7/13/2007 9:27:04 AM
|That is one hell of a sicko guy!!! lol.|
Posted: 8/1/2007 9:04:25 AM
|Not hardly.... while it may interest some men to have their women use a strap on as a sexual aide.... when his fantasy begins to call you daddy.... he is possibly reliving an earlier event in his life.... he need professional help.... but that's just my opinion.... but I'm sticking to it.... otherwise.... some women enjoy using a strap on for sexual aides with their men.... it can be arousing to both partners.... within certain bounds.... just like other toys.... and the way those toys are used & experimented with.... good luck|
Posted: 8/1/2007 9:13:33 AM
|Well PoeticBliss.... first you need to remember that men & women all have the same basic plumbing.... it's all in where it's located..... Second.... men who really care for their spouse are wanting to understand everything.... Thirdly.... Men desire topleasure their women.... and some women gain pleasure and a feeling of power when using a strap on with their man.... In this manner .... it's role reversal.... and both partners gain an insight into the others sexual role.... Fourth.... It's not about sexual orientation.... anal stimulation by either partner to the other can be arousing.... and stimulating during sex.... even using an anal toy can be different such as in Double Penetration.... everything changes.... the so called angle of the dangle in the virgina.... the tightness of the virginia as the toy presses into the anus causing muscles to contract.... In conclusion.... aman does not have to be gay or bi-sexual inorder to share sexual experiences of any kind with that special someone ..... |
Posted: 8/1/2007 11:55:50 AM
|ok why the hell would a guy where a strap on in the first place ????????/|
Posted: 8/1/2007 12:20:44 PM
|Don't you think that it really does sound like he was molested by his father?|
That is just not normal. I'm sorry.
To bring that up so soon in a relationship without knowing you and your views better is pretty presumptious.
Just my opinion.
Keeping your love life exciting and being adventurous is wonderful but there really should be a relationship in place first.