| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/14/2007 3:39:50 PM | | After a month I would have deleted my account, Did so it within a week last time but we had dated before almost 2 yrs previous, and I wanted to show her I was serious. Although now I'm enjoying the forums, so I may not delete my account next time. Just make it clear in my profile, but if neccessary I would delete it. Hopefully I would'nt have the time to be on here as many of us spend too much time here. | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/14/2007 5:28:41 PM | thats up to you, if you are looking for someone to just have sex with then stay with him untill he leaves you.
but if your looking for a soul mate, get rid of him becuase he is certainly not 100% happy with you.
of course you can always try talking to him, although their is a really good chance he will say, Awww baby im just seeing if people are still posting me, its nothing to worry about.
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/14/2007 11:49:04 PM | This is another fine example of the detrimental effects that dating sites via computers can have on people...This story has been said on many forums, people get addicted to this and start becoming, all confused for prior to this they dated in a 'normal' fashion, that is interacting with a person, where all of the senses are stimulated and there are no 'threats' of infidelity via a click of a mouse and absurd competition, via internet dating sites, that stresses the life out of a new relationship... I wouldn't be surprised if the online dating sites, have become a tool of utter destruction in many peoples relationships...
I personally am a bit suspicious of people who are frequently using this site for dating..
and never seem to develop relationships..i come on for the forums and seek my dating in the world and it works better for me and i have seen many, many people who
have been on here looking for 'long term' they say and they are on 400 people fav's list and been on the site for 2 years, but they can't meet anyone...Hmmm...
The odds in them not meeting anyone isn't that hard so, that spells a very difficult person to bond with...For, they are not bonding with anyone..they have become slaves
to their computer induced, empty lives...
It really is pathetic..when you give it some thought and dating out in the 'real' world is
a far more realistic approach than an environment that literally encourages infidelity, and shallowness... | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:15:49 AM | | this is my advice if he was just that intrested and so busy with work.. why does he have time to go on there ? sounds fishy to me and i would ump his ass but hey thats me i look at it as when mr right comes i will be a pirority i wont be second in line to an on line dating site i mean give me a break some men arnt worth it program into ur head " im fablous so wtf is wrong with u ?" i think when us ladies meet the right guy he will be over the stars under the moon or personally for me i dont want it. i have been single 3 yr whats another 30?im happy in my life i know im a good person i would walk my ass to chapters and buy hes just not that into u best book ever written not only will u laugh at gregs man anologys but u walk away realizing these dinks anr worth ur time | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:24:25 AM | "But I can't say I'm feeling very happy. "
I'm sort of new to this site and this is my first reply to a forum. Sorry i'm not a male.
That should answer your questions right there. The first thing i always ask someone who's in a relationship that's about to end. Are you truly happy? Life is too short and if after 1 month you're already "not feeling very happy", GET OUT!
Good luck! | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:27:32 AM |
This happens all the time around here. Women really really need to get smart about
this.
curlygirl as always makes an excellent point.
Listen - nothing wrong with having sex with a guy when you first meet him but
be very very aware of the consequences that can happen. Sometimes it just
turns into a lay - thats all. I know it sucks and I know it hurts.
Right again......., I will also add that if you're looking for a relationship it's probably best NOT to sleep with somebody on the first date. It can work out and I am living proof of that. But the majority of time it's just a one night stand or you are designated booty call. Once your booty call girl it's very difficult to become the main squeeze.
My advice for you is next time Play Smart- when you meet him and you are feeling it, hold back and get that second or third date. Get to know him alittle before giving yourself to him. Thats all.
Can add nothing more here because it's right on the money.
What do I think now- I think that you should talk to
other guys here and carry on with your life, if he comes back thats great and if
not just chalk it up and try to learn from this little incident.
Right is right here. Simple rule of thumb here...... if there really is a connection between the two of you and you're thinking that you'd like to have a future with a certain gentlemen, WAIT...... if he is really REALLY interested he will wait a few dates for the intimacy. If he does not wish to wait for sex, you'll be doing yourself a big favor. Wondering about whether he likes you or not just really blows the big one.
:))
Witchy
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:10:54 AM | | Sometimes people check other people's sites to check their profiles from the forums. I've seen some profiles that says they're no single/not looking. if his says that then he probibly is just looking at their profile to better undestand a post that person might have made. that's what I do sometimes (rriiight.....not secreatly gay.....not looking at straight men's profiles for other reasons...) jk but yeah might be just looking at a posters profile, though i can be wrong. | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:41:46 AM | | Insurgent...you really hit the nail on the head. Normally, I'm not this paranoid but this online dating has really puts a wrench into things. I think we pass up people online that if we met in person would have been a great match for us. I've tried online dating in the past and decided it wasn't for me. I've known people searching online for 10yrs!!! I didn't want that to happen to me. I only tried it this time because I had recently moved to the area and wanted to meet new people. Unfortunately, not many people post to the platonic section. I actually hadn't intended on dating anyone through Craigslist...it just happened with this guy. I've learned my lesson though. Back to 'real' world dating!! | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:46:32 AM | Posted By: writeaway on 6/14/2007 11 34 PM
Subject: Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Message: If it was mentioned in the post, then I missed it, but did you actually talk to him about being in a monogamous relationship. (Dropping hints doesn’t count.)
Writeaway-I did talk to him about his being "MIA" but not about being monogamous...it seemed too soon for that. Instead I suggested we cool off on the sex and get to know one another better...if we find we still want to be together and I feel comfortable about our "relationship" then perhaps sex can re-enter the picture. | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 7/8/2007 9:02:54 PM | | This is another slant. I met someone last year online, we saw each other twice, I thought we hit it off but I never heard from him again. Oh well I assumed he met someone more interesting. Guess what? He is still searching after a year.He must be looking for the non existent woman, or maybe she lives in Hollywood.LOL!! As for me, it would be nice if I met the love of my life, however life goes on!! I gave up searching whatever happens, happens. | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 8/16/2007 2:31:40 PM | Ah yeah, I had a feeling a little search would bring up a thread on this subject :p
Going through the SAME thing with a girl right now. Waited for months for "the right girl" to come along, and we hook up and date for a few weeks, talking on the phone constantly, hooking up 2-3 times a week to do stuff together....
And then I noticed this weekend she put her profile backup (over at Match) and added some extra text in there I noticed all of a sudden about "not wanting an instant relationship." (If that's the case why was she constantly wanting to hook up together?)
And I'm like WTH?? So I ask her about it and she basically had no explaination for why she would do it, nor did she seem all that concerned that it bothered me. Said something along the lines of how I "shouldn't be worried" as she hadn't exactly been getting a tons of hits (thus making me think "Great, so even if she doesn't go with somebody else, she basically just said if she sticks with me it's because she couldn't find anybody better.")
Bah. Sucks a** to go pretty much overnight from thinking you may have finally found "the one" to suddenly constantly feeling paranoid about "waiting for the other shoe to drop."  | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 8/16/2007 2:55:10 PM | OK ...so in retrospect it sounds as if you might be feeling a little sorry you hit the sack so early...what's done is done. However NEVER forget that you are special and you DESERVE a caring and loving individual in your life. Express your wants and needs to this man and be HONEST. If he is not on the same page don't waste your time. Move on!!! You go girl!!!
PS-we learn from our experiences and sometimes it takes a heck of a long time to get things right. Good Luck ! | |
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| Dating for 1month & he's still checking other profiles online. Continue seeing him? or Is it a sign?
Posted: 8/16/2007 9:29:06 PM | Dating and checking out profiles is fair games and a two way street. Nothing saying that if he's doing it so can you too. Checking out profiles doesn't mean he's see other people but possibly keeping his opions open or just talking.
Is he talking to you differently like using the word friends instead of gf. If it really bugs you call him on it. If you don't like his answer dump him. It will only get worse and drive you nuts.
tbh | |
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