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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/6/2009 3:11:46 PM |
I don't really meet too many new people.... I don't really like the bar scene ( dangerous for a guy who likes beer as much as I do ) I am the last person to rule someone out for minor things, but I either feel it or don't. Do you really think that makes me a dreamer?
I agree that you don't want to settle for something less than what you wanted. BUT you don't want to limit the number of people you meet, and if all fails, become friends with. Making new friends could end up being, "Ohhh my friend Donna would love you to pieces, would you like to meet her?" | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/7/2009 4:31:53 AM | hey mandrake, i dont think you are being too picky, you get to an age where you have been through the hard yards and why shouldnt you settle 4 best, i agree there should be a spark,so good luck in your search | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/8/2009 9:19:08 AM |
Transatatory things like looks, money, and shape are quite a bit like the weather...Here today, maybe tomorrow, but gone by next week...
Not news. However, I'd rather be with someone I once thought was attractive, than someone I never found attractive. I also believe just like our pets and children, that people we're into we'll always be into once we bond in areas outside physical attraction.
I shouldn't repeat myself again but what the heck why not....Think about this boys & girls; each and every one of us is going to get old, unless we get run over by a bus, train, car, or any other unpleasent sort of accident of life there will come a day when we won't look as nice as we do now...
You're right, you're better off not repeating that. It's been said a million times...
When the sex is over, the looks have faded, and we're sitting in the room alone how many of the picky people are going to ask themselfs. "Why am I alone? why didn't I find someone?"
Spoken by someone who thinks people who end up alone would regret it if their options were to date someone they weren't into. Some of us will know alone is better in that case. P.S. Sex isn't ever over unless you didn't ever like it in the first place.
I love my own company far to much..Sometimes I wonder if I deliberately sabotage potentials because the love affair I have with my own space...sigh
So true, AA...it's like I'd be ok with a boyfriend only when I'm in the mood to spend time with him. If I can get 3-4 days to myself no questions asked I'm more likely to consider it. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/8/2009 9:30:07 AM | | Yes i have put al my want and likes on my profile and i get a lot of nasty e-mails because i dont date short men i am a tall woman and i like tall men it seems no matter how to the point i am there is always a 5'5" guy out there mad at me for telling it like it is. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/10/2009 4:13:48 AM | The French have a saying “jardin de la vie” translated would mean “the garden of life.”
The garden of life in essence is your “dream life” that is carefully cultivated a goal if you like that one strives for to reach in their life, it does not contain materialistic matter rather matter of the heart.
Perhaps we should consider what dwells in our “garden of life” relationships would be so much easier. Like a ship sailing through the oceans in good weather and hurricanes, the rudder steers a little left and right, the ship stops at various ports but sails on till it reaches it’s set destination. It takes courage to sail the seas of life, not to “settle” for just any port yet due to exhilaration and perceived freedom of the seven seas of life greater courage is needed to “settle” in the right port, the port of our garden of life. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/10/2009 5:48:17 AM | To continue with the ship at sea analogy:
The final destination may be specific, but not to stop at the many various different ports along the way simply because they aren't the final destination may seem foolish to some.
Kind of like that other old saying: The thrill is in the journey, NOT the destination......
Or another one: You may love steak, but to never try crab or lobster is missing out on a truly wonderful meal. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/10/2009 6:09:04 AM | | ^^^I learned at a young age that trying something once and not liking it, I knew before I tried it that I probably wouldn't. Now if I don't want to try something, I know better than to get talked into it - and I just order the food I already know I like. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/10/2009 6:37:48 AM | ^^^ I wonder though, how's that working out for you? Obviously not so well since you're still single.....(just saying is all).
The thing is, you're assuming that all crab tastes the same, it doesn't. Just like just because you may like a certain guy, and you haven't found the ONE yet, maybe it's time to try a different guy?
Kind of like when you hear a woman say: why is it that I always get stuck with the jerks? That's obvious, you only date jerks! If you try someone outside your "typical" guy, you may be surprised.
I have used this example before: I dated a french woman for 5 yrs and her good friend was ALWAYS over crying the blues about being used abused and tossed aside like yesterday's news. I finally had enough and said to her: you keep going after players. EVERY guy you've dated in the last 3 yrs was the SAME GUY. Go for someone totally different. I suggested a guy, she dated him, married him a year later and the last I heard, they were still together after 10 yrs. HE was a quieter, more reserved type and she was going for the Good Looking, Mover, Shaker, GQ model type....... | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/10/2009 6:50:27 AM |
I wonder though, how's that working out for you? Obviously not so well since you're still single.....(just saying is all).
Works out great! I don't bother dating men I'm not totally into, and since I don't think having an SO is the equivalent of the Holy Grail...it's fine by me. I'd rather not date if my options suck.
The thing is, you're assuming that all crab tastes the same, it doesn't. Just like just because you may like a certain guy, and you haven't found the ONE yet, maybe it's time to try a different guy?
No, it doesn't - but I can tell by looking at it if I want to eat it. I like all cooked seafood, so that's a bad example...but let's say, I know sushi isn't for me. I don't have to try it. And I won't lose sleep if I would have liked it - too many things I like to eat are already out there. *shrug*. I also don't subscribe to the whole "The One" thing.
Kind of like when you hear a woman say: why is it that I always get stuck with the jerks? That's obvious, you only date jerks! If you try someone outside your "typical" guy, you may be surprised.
I approach men, so I generally avoid the jerks as they are more aggressive and therefore not my type. However, I also don't ask why I date anyone, since I know it's not a requirement to date someone I'm not totally into inside and out.
I guess since I don't HAVE to have a bf, being picky works for me - I don't regret the single time in between - even if it's forever. Meh. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 8/10/2009 8:41:48 AM | Rentahusband,
You may have misinterpreted my post, perhaps.
With food – I’ve been in a situation where all we (myself and a few other guys) had nothing to eat accept raw onions, we ate those frigin raw onions for almost three weeks, we ate them like apples, later just the thought of onions made me sick.
Back to the topic – I think the moral of the story is it’s fine to stop along the way, even eat a few raw onions, look to your left and right, but not to settle for something less but also to have the courage to grasp what you want.  | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 10/18/2009 4:31:38 PM | Seriously, who gives a shit what others think. Why are they so concerned about you being picky?You have every right to be entitled to your own preferences, and besides you are the one dating the woman, not them.
Speaking for myself, a fat jellyroll BBW just won't cut it for me. I prefer a woman that weighs less than me. Just like how some women are only searching for a Mr. right, we men definitely deserve a woman that we can be satisfied with on all levels, whether it has to do with looks, personality,body type, etc. | |
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