| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 8:34:19 AM | From other threads DebInTx has posted in just this week:
I'm a licensed therapist, degrees in Psychology, so I know this is the truth
BTW: Many women who do wait and find out sex with the husband is not fun at all, will see movies or hear other women talking about how "good" it is, and become curious, eventually leading them to cheat and/or get divorced so they can hopefully have "normal" sex and love instead of some guy always doing It , and probably everything else, His way. The few women who do stay, do so out of obligation to him and the kids, but hate having him touch them, so move into another bedroom with the kids, later grandkids, and even later dogs in the bed with her - works better than any chastity belt!
WOW Deb, not sure where all that bitterness comes from, but from all the bile you're spewing in multiple threads here, I'm sure glad I'm not getting "professional therapy" from you - yikes! | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 8:43:55 AM | | Right! First the "nobody would want us" comments" and "we can't get any" and now we're whores. I think he spelled it wrong - to thes kinds of men we're Holes. This is how dumb and inconsistent these guys are. And the question about if it's men propositioning me or that I'm dating....Dumb! Neither of these extremes...it's just Men in general, men I meet on here or anywhere. Men I decide NOT to date, honey becaue of their being so Nasty about sex. And no, it doesn't need to be "sewn up". I enjoy sex with a decent man who treats me right,shows he at least cares for me as a person - not just a "hole" for his use. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 8:52:15 AM | Not very good with words, are you? It isn't bitterness at all, but experience. And no, I was not dumped. I usually do the backing off because i've learned to look for clues and listen very well to catch the liars. I don't like confrontations, so when things get uncomfortable for me,I'm out.
I guess the closest thing to being dumped on here is a couple of days ago when I guy was writing to me (on here) and I discovered that although he'd written the trite statemet of "don't like games", he was playing one on me. Luckily I got the name and email address of another woman he was playing at the same time, and asked him if he'd seen her lately(by name and city). He was busted, yet he acted like I'D done something wrong...? Duh! Men just cant stand a smart woman. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 8:59:23 AM |
Do any of them finally realize it's time to give up? I mean who wants some lame d---ed, crusty old geezer on top of them anyhow? It's disgusting, and if they want a lady's companionship,they should stop with the sex talk. Otherwise they'll keep driving us awway! Please go as far away as you can be driven, as soon as possible. In another thread a woman wondered about a man she had just met buying her a car. Now I know why he did. So she could drive away! | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:13:21 AM | For the illiterate: If you'd read that comment you quoted again, I was not talking abut myself, but "some women..." In fact, the expample with the kids and dogs was my Mother. She married young, most likely a virgin, to a man who could "Support" her - not for love. Many of our Mothers and Grandmothers did this, but in my opinion it is just another form of prostitution.
I mean, do you men want a woman who just needed someone to "keep" her, or a woman who really loves you? So there was not love in that so-called marriage, causing misery all around. She was just waiting for him to die and her get all of what he's worked so hard for while she laid arouund watching soaps. She hated sex, therefor the tactics to avoid it. But once a week when whe needed some money to spend on herself, she'd force herself and he'd give her some cash. Legal Prostitution - not a marriage. I got out as soon as I could and vowed to be Nothing like her.
I entered the military, educated myself and I have supported myself totally, even when I was married. I always worked as long as I could, and still have my own income, house and everything paid for (all by myself), and was smart enough to learn birth control and not have kids. So that makes me a very good catch for a man who is not intimidated by a smart woman.
Or would you rather have those women with their hands out because they have bill collectors knocking, a drug habit and criminal kids/grandkids needing bailed out of jail? Does she make you feel Needed? The word is Used, son! | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:21:38 AM | A good catch? Like a bad cold.
No man in his right mind would snuggle up next to a woman with quills. there is an old joke: How do porcupines make love?
Very carefully.
Growl, snarl, hiss, snap, and so on. Gotta love the internet and it many side shows. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:41:56 AM | Hmmm... "Trying to Score". Ahhmmm... WTF does that MEAN, anyway..!?!?
If you are talking about guys who try to get a woman in bed on the first date, then just dump her after some quick, recreational sex... yep, that's childish.
Personally, I don't get involved in 'sex talk' until it's pretty clear that SHE is just as interested as I am. IF that 'interest' never seems to develop... well... there's NO point in talking about sex... with someone I have NO desire for.
Along the way, you are going to meet ALL sorts of people in life's journey, and MOST of them won't suit you. Regardless of what they may be babbling about at that moment, it is easy enough to just say... "Sorry, not interested"... and move along. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:51:18 AM | Hummm I guess it depends on the kind of man he is.. I know many men who seem to think it's there job to try and fertilize the entire female population. God how childish they think of women as some sort of amusment park for them.
I guess im kinda old fastioned, but I really think sex is just an extention of a healthy relationship. If your relationship is loving and healthy, then sex just happends on its own. It's not who scores for it's not a game to me, Its mearly another way of showing affection to your other half. Just my thoughts . | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 9:58:29 AM | Brad: You seem to be one of the few decent guys on POF and the only one who posted here. A few Mamas still raise their sons to be gentlemen!
Yep, that kind of man is exactly what I'm talking about, but unfortunately I (and other decent women) meet them one after another to the point we're ready to give up. Many of them start talking about sex in emails or IM's, I guess hoping we'll talk back and be just as low as they are. Or maybe it's the first phone call or first meeting in person. Either way, I just stop talking to them as soon as anythng about sex comes up. Sometimes I let them know why, but other times don't because I know it's likely they'll react like the other guys who posted here - fuming with anger because they were busted and didn't get what they wanted to Take. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:56:35 AM | One of my favorite true stories is about a granddaughter who asked her grandmother, who was 83, when sex stopped being enjoyable. The grandmother's answer? You'll have to ask someone older than me, Honey.
I can't imagine any kind of long-term relationship with the opposite sex without sex in it. It's part of love and loving. Perhaps the secret is to stop going to bed with people that you don't love. . . .
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 11:44:06 AM |
What male wants to stick his****in the whores on thise site.
HIV
AIDS
Bo thank you
Wow.. that's always nice to hear (read).
As for the OP.. I'm confused. The men are supposed to want to date you, start a relationship maybe, but aren't allowed to want sex?
Or is it just the young pretty guys that are allowed on top?
How they go about getting this sex they like so much.. well that's another matter. Bringing it up right away is just sad. So ok.. no one wants to be propositioned before the getting to know you starts. Cool.
just because there are no ladies that want to shag you here on POF, doesn't mean we are whores.
I've long wondered how NOT screwing someone made a woman a whore. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 11:52:15 AM | I do hear ya Deb... been there, done that.
A lot of times I think it has to do with what we know we are capable of GIVING and
that we are thwarted endlessly by the superficial male bringing it down to a.... bang.
When we know we can give even more if someone would SEE US and care for us the way
we want to cherish, respect and care for them....
I think inside a good woman....there are a 1000 more waiting to get out and rise to
the occasion. Mother, lover, banker, lawyer or candlestick maker, we can be all these
things....but if no one wants to see ALL the women inside of us and only sees that ONE
THING that makes us the LEAST unique....we die a little inside as a human being.
I'm not saying that all women are decent or that all men are bad....just seems they'll have
a hell of a time finding each other if all we do is look for a....cliched image of sex. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 12:19:04 PM |
Do any of them finally realize it's time to give up? I mean who wants some lame d---ed, crusty old geezer on top of them anyhow? It's disgusting, and if they want a lady's companionship,they should stop with the sex talk. Otherwise they'll keep driving us awway!
Perhaps it was just me,a little curious at times,that read your profile.
Your age qualifications are for men 59 to 99.
I guess at your age the memory is the first thing to go.Glad I have a few more years to go before I become that absent minded.......and that ridiculously bitter. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 12:31:39 PM | | Many people do not read profiles, they contact someone based on their appearance. Others may read your profile and think you a challenge. Other than that, who cares why guys act the way they do. When you run across something you do not like, next. | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 1:27:38 PM | What is with the "angry woman" rant? Just as you (the OP) make general accusations about how men are, I recognize you to be an angry, bitter woman. Even the whole, "I'm not bitter. It's just experience," line is cliche and typical of an angry woman. Even on a message board, I can see through your insecurities.
Are you really the age you are and not understand how the world works? More than anything, I hate women who want the world to conform to their way of thinking. The world is what it is and YOU have to conform to the world (you know, roll with the punches). If you can't handle the fact that sex comes with a relationship, then stop seeking men and get off the site.
Sex is part of the whole package. Otherwise, you have:
Sex without relationship = CASUAL SEX; friends with benefits.
Relationship without sex = FRIENDSHIP ONLY; NOT a REAL relationship.
Sexual compatibility AND personality compatibility = Hey, this person is great!!!!! - A real relationship. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 1:40:47 PM | Dallas ~ I so love you. 
~OP~ Hmmmmm. If you don't like what's in your inbox, there's a magical way to fix the problem: unread/delete or even read/delete. There's also this little trick commonly known as "block." And I do wonder, what age do you think you'll not want physical intimacy any longer? I would assume since you are here, and possibly looking to meet someone ~ eventually sex enters the big picture ~ do you think that "old geezer" thing wouldn't apply to women (or you specifically?) The harsh reality is ~ we all get old. Sexuality is a vital part of any healthy relationship. Although I don't like the mental picture, I'm certain my grandparents had an active sex life well into their 70's. Now, I'm not sure what they do, nor do I wish to know ~ but it's rather stunning to me that a women of 58 would have such a vicious view of sex at maturing ages. It will eventually happen to us all, some of us sooner than others.
Simply put, if you don't like what someone is saying to you, you don't have to listen. Likewise, if someone is approaching you via POF about sex ~ Admin (report profile) is where to take your complaint. These types of threads are simply hateful and speak very much of the character of those posting hate, whether male or female. JMO  | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 3:46:08 PM | I like men of all ages... young men can be delightfully energetic, older men tend to be sweeter.
I think many men offer a bit of "sex talk" in order to test the waters... and some believe the woman will be offended if it isn't attempted.
I think it is in her court to respond in a way that preserves his dignity, and her integrity. Perhaps w/ a joke, maybe a diversion... it's not always a put down.
Some honestly believe it to be a compliment! | |
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| At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score?
Posted: 6/15/2007 4:16:27 PM | | I for one hope that I don't go through life with pent up anger and aggression towards men for simply expressing their desires to a woman they find attractive. I would hope that no matter how old myself - or my husband gets - we find each other sexually appealing!!! I hope my husband always wants to 'score' with me!! | |
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