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Posted: 6/15/2007 11:44:07 AM | No body male or female SHOULD get a free pass because they were blessed genetically with physical beauty.
That doesn't seem to matter sometimes how ever..and looks can strongly influence sucess in life. Its sad, but it says alot about our whole society and not really alot about the beautiful person that gets by....WE are the ones that let it happen more often than not.
I certianly appreciate a physically beautiful person...but I appreciate them much more on a personal level if I see that they have compassion, intelligence, passion, empathy ect to go along with whats on the outside. And if all the beauty is only superficial with nothing on the inside....it'is very easy to see if you are paying attention...and that beauty fades fast. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 12:38:55 PM | | Write to your congressman and have a law passed. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 12:40:28 PM | msg 26.......
ahhhhhhh... but that what you feel SHOULD be....
is not reality. | |
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| Trophy Wives
Posted: 6/15/2007 1:11:47 PM |
Questions: Is this so different of how marriages to powerful men have manifested through the centuries?
If you want to talk history, you need to change your question. Obviously, the entire concept of marriage has drastically changed over the centuries ~ marriages of long ago to wealthy men were pre-arranged. It left no room for personal preferences, unlike today.
Is it the first wife that is the anomoly in this arrangement?
Many "starter wives" are just as beautiful as their replacements. Sometimes marriages fail for reasons other than the conceived notion that men (primarily) have a "mid-life-crisis." Personally, I would assume I'm mid-life and other than a few new Harleys roaming around, I'm just not seeing the whole replacement theory happening merely because someone is bored at home, tired of looking at the same old face (her's not his), nor do I believe that it's only wealthy men who have said "crisis" or starter wives.
Should beautiful women be allowed to escape poverty on looks alone? Is this merely confirmation that, for many women, fairy tales can come true? Is this prostitution legitimized by a wedding ring? Are these girls being duped into becoming some rich guy's breeding machine?
Oh dear. First, beautiful women are usually just fine and escaping poverty by other means than some man showing up to rescue them. And if a woman is dumb enough to think fairy-tales exist or come true, I'd say she'd better stick with the wealthy older man who comes to her rescue.
Prostitution? WTF???????????? That is either a word that ended up here by mistake or the concept of prostitution escapes some.
Duped? I think not. Most women marry if and when they choose for innumerable reasons, I have yet to know one woman that has married anyone to be a "breeding machine." I think statistics would show that there are far more children born to lower income women than higher....but, calling them breeding machines would be rather politically incorrect ~ I find it just as insulting when referring to a woman who just happens to marry a man with money.
Simply put OP ~ this post screams frustration....I'm not sure if it is your frustration or what, but it makes no sense. Some marriages fail, it's a fact. Many people marry more than once. If there is a trading-up mentality, oh well. I don't have to be or feel victimized by that. If the man in my life is that shallow ~ he needs to find a new wife. And who's to say I won't find a little eye-candy of my own? It works both ways. (Before anyone publically beheads me, NO, I'm not into eye-candy ~ I require substance.) JMO  | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 1:33:48 PM | I didn’t wait for success. I married a real beauty when I was young; a second beauty while I was in college; and a third beauty when I thought I had settled enough to stay married.
Only one of the three was a real dirtbag. The other two were, in retrospect, pretty good people.
Of course, all three cleaned out my pockets (took EVERYTHING including the lint). The second one even took the bellybutton lint.
I count my blessings; I was pleased to get them and I was pleased to get rid of them. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 1:42:16 PM | Oh wow now this is a lovely way to look at marriage. Why doesn't the topic of why women divorce men when they are made to feel like trophy wives. Or what about this one men who think they are getting old so they chase all the Young A** they can catch..... lol
Oh boy what an interestingly debatable topic.
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Posted: 6/15/2007 2:03:17 PM | The question becomes, really, who cares? Who ever cared? It's the bidness of the two. If they find it a fair trade, why should anyone else spend any time worrying about it? The guy was never, at any age, in my mate pool, and the wife is no relation of mine.
Just my opinion.
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Posted: 6/15/2007 2:23:40 PM |
Is this so different of how marriages to powerful men have manifested through the centuries?
Not a valid question. The majority of men who chase (and sometimes catch) the much younger woman are not necessarily powerful. But in relative terms, they are likely more powerful than any younger woman they catch. Catching the younger ones...at least the quality younger ones, is becoming more difficult as young women are fighting their way up the success ladder just as much as young men are. They want a partner, not a sugar daddy. Many "older" men haven't quite grasped this concept yet.
Should beautiful women be allowed to escape poverty on looks alone? Is this merely confirmation that, for many women, fairy tales can come true?
Who cares? If someone is beautiful..use it. If someone is smart...use it. We ALL use what we have. But a fairy tale? lol I don't think waking up at 35 or 40, entering the prime of your life, and realizing that the man in bed next to you looks more like your dad than your lover sure wouldn't be a fairy tale.
Is this prostitution legitimized by a wedding ring? Are these girls being duped into becoming some rich guy's breeding machine?
No, it's not prostitution. It's simply a man trying to get what he "thinks" is the best. We all do it. And like I said, the more intelligent younger girls are not interested.
Many of the men on here are divorced from their 2nd and much younger wife. They also have small children...many of them with full custody because the girl they married wasn't a quality woman. So they're in their mid forties with a small child to support emotionally, physically, etc. whether or not they have custody. And strangely, many of them still list that they're open to more children and have an age filter on that goes down to 21. Scary. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 2:34:14 PM | i`ve been very lucky with my ex girlfriends and i wish other men of all ages,shapes and sizes the same luck
thanks
john | |
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| Trophy Wives
Posted: 6/15/2007 5:10:56 PM | | A woman doesn't want to be a trophy wife. They want to be accepted for who they are, not how good they look on somebody's arm. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 5:40:21 PM | People are flat-out guaranteed to get... whatever they buy-into.
OR...
Shallow is as shallow does. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 5:53:22 PM | A saying goes: I owe my career to my first wife. I owe my second wife to my career.
If a guy can live with the fact that is wife is there because of his financial success, then more power to him. I couldn't live that way, in fact I think guys like that are idiots. It is obvious that in this scenerio, financial savey does not mean emotional and/or common sense savey. I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life wondering where my beautiful wife was. And believe me, guys will continue to hit on her, married or not. Subtly if necessary, depending on her character. She is constantly reminded by other men she is desirable. Go get em' guys, if you can afford em', and grow that 3rd eye in the back of your head. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 8:49:15 PM | I do believe that men still do this today.
Men suck. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 9:08:08 PM | | I actually know someone who was a 'trophy wife' which she had found out that's all she was with just a month of marriage I believe. It still goes on believe it or not. She didn't even know about this till after the divorce by the way that her ex only used her as a 'trophy' to further his career in the medical field. He even admitted it to her and the sad part was his family was on it the whole thing as well. I look at her sometimes and wonder why this would happen at this day in age. No one expected that this could happen for she is a rather intelligent young lady with a heart of gold to go along with her beauty. She is the whole package. This woman I know of did not marry this guy for money for she was successful on her own before they got married and still is successful in her field of work. Let's just say after the divorce he got what he deserved. Just because a female is attractive does not mean they are looking for assests in a husband down the road as someone called it so they don't have to work anymore. I wish people could stop generalizing. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 9:50:41 PM | covering body in gold body paint to become sought after trophy wife
I know it will work | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 9:52:27 PM | | Very nic reply. In my opinion, although beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, if any person marries someone or dates someone for that matter just for the outer package, well they are asking for trouble. If the heart and head work together, then there is a chance for a couple, so regardless of any initial attraction the two must feel that uncontrollable urge to be with , and miss always, the other..... Love rules and it's the only way anyones relationship life can truly be completed. Have a nice day all, and if we all said and meant caring statements would it not be a better place to live....so let's all use our MOJO to make it a better place to LIVE | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 10:01:22 PM | I knew a guy in Florida, who worked for a company that did small in home repairs for rich people.
He worked in an area with a lot of rich cubans. he said, that every house he went into was the same story. Old, fat, rich cuban guy with a young, absolutely stunning younger wife. he said the idea was, the hot wife would do whatever the guy wanted sexually...cook whatever meals he wanted....act however he wanted her to act in public. She wouldnt look at other men, she would never talk back, etc. In return, she didnt have to work, she got lots of spending money, and every kid they had had to be put through private school and college, PAID FOR in full by dad. He said in the years he did that job, it was the same in every rich guy's house.
By the way there is a picture floating around the internet called how to spot a rich guy...it's pretty funny.
http://www.extremefunnypictures.com/items983/522.jpg | |
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| Trophy Wives
Posted: 6/15/2007 11:34:46 PM | "Simply put OP ~ this post screams frustration."
I'm afraid you misunderstood me, VGE. I am not taking these positions, but merely playing the Devil's Advocate with questions that contradict each other as to the assumption of who brokers the power in the relationship. My interest is in the debate.
Funny how "trophy wife" is a cultural shorthand that people thousands of miles apart instantly understood. That's because it is a real phenomena in society that occurs enough for people to mention in pop culture (despite denials of its existence). I was curious to see how various people perceived it.
But "trophy wife" is a caricature too... the spinny blonde with the 90 year old Oil Baron. A used up hausfrau who doesn't get child payment' because the ex-hubby spends the money on wife #2. Reality is much more nuanced.
On one hand, who would tell their daughters that make-up is more important than high school, that marrying rich will ensure success more than an education or skill? On the other hand, people should not feel resentful of someone else's happiness because they feel it reinforces the idea of an unjust universe.
" And who's to say I won't find a little eye-candy of my own?"
Certainly not I. You're as lovely as a spring morning, madame, and I look forward to more of your contributions in the forums. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 11:37:00 PM | Op;
Do you want one? What's on your mind?
What would you do with one if you had one?
Sounds like a bit of a myth to me, personally. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 11:44:27 PM | "Do you want one? What's on your mind?"
Clematis, I am of the opinion that the Barbies of the world deserve to be with the Kens of the world. Otherwise, it upsets the balance of the Force.
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Posted: 6/15/2007 11:52:16 PM | | Ken's suck. I wouldn't want a Ken. Feeble.... | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 11:53:31 PM | Been there, done that,, on the other side of the coin!!
Stupid is as stupid does | |
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Posted: 6/16/2007 12:22:59 AM | as rosie would say
let's ask donald trump
he knows the answer to this stupid question.
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Posted: 6/16/2007 1:30:20 AM | No, no, no, its compatibility related. The young studs chase hot older women since both their sex drives are at their peak. So…….that leaves the young girlies for the old dudes because they both have lower libidos. It’s biological so everyone wins. 
Why some people are so prejudiced I will never understand. Get a life and let others live theirs. Then we may all find the one for us no matter what society’s judgmental little voice has to say about others who have found their bliss.
For the record I felt like a “Trophy Wife” to a husband who was the same age as me because he only liked me when I was happy and looked good. Thought we had married for love as it certainly was not for money. Now I avoid stereotyping other people. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2007 2:04:40 AM |
You know...I'd like to think that when we pick a partner to marry or even date that we do so because of their assests ....humor, kindness, empathy, understanding, honesty..... those are all assets/attributes. Also included are beauty and stability whether mental/emotional or financial
[u]BRAVO[/u]....... this is what a trophy wife/husband is all about
I have seen so many couple out there looking like they have come from a 'barbie and ken' advert but yet they look as glum as hell, but yet happy because they have there trophy beside them.
But yet i also see some not so attractive couples out there having a whale of a time together and are really into each other....
Now where is the real trophy here? | |
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