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Posted: 6/24/2007 10:31:01 AM | | Exception to that damnation remark is - If she cheated and u put her awayfor that then she's the only one in trouble. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 10:32:20 AM | My daughter has a statement for the trophy wife.
"Any woman who marries for the money.....
earns every penny of it" | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 10:53:18 AM |
I will always remember his face when I was reading a paper on "String thories"... I love physics and formulas... I have the web site link on my profile... Have a look if you are interested... Cool stuff.
Oooh, baby, annasthasia, forget the "trophy" idea, *that* alone is a turn on for me! 
On that idea though, I've seen a few of those relationships, the "trophy wife", and while I've seen some that seem to last a while, they always seem "distant" to me, like two people living seperate lives, kinda "mutually using each other". You talked about the "unspoken truth", y'know, I think from what you said it was basically that he put his job and the "appearance of success", before a relationship. I find that sad, personally.
I dunno, give *me* the choice of being able to jet around the world with a hot woman on my arm, but no real "deep" emotional bond, or being able to come home to a woman I love, who loves me, and who I have that "connection" with, I know I'd pick the latter. But then, I was raised by parents who didn't care about "appearances", but who deeply love each other, so I guess I have good role models. (June 1st was their 50th anniversary). | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 8:03:06 PM | | I once had a trophy wife, she took 4th out of 5th. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 8:30:41 PM | | could a trophy wife also be a gold digger? | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 8:32:14 PM |
could a trophy wife also be a gold digger?
Ask "the Donald", he wised up and started getting a pre-nup after the first one!  | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 4:19:31 AM | It's all about how things look. Older men want to appear successful and in some of their minds they just can't do that with the old wife around. Out with the old and in with the new. I think most of them go on to utter, "I'm not as young as I used to be."
They probably say or think that a lot when their chasing the kids.
I've had the opportunity to be just that. I can't bring myself to sell the goods. I want love. I won't settle for less. In the end it's what you settle for. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 11:48:35 AM | This was an interesting post as I have read many responses. But I would just like to give my two cents of an opinion. I remember so many decades ago when I was looking for a gift for my mother on mothers day, when I was like six years old. I bought her one of those trophies, you know "Worlds Greatest Mom" all plastic with a gold cup over a black base. Well she loved it and put it on display over her sink where she washed dishes every day. She always said she loved it because I showed her that I appreciated what she did for me. To me it was worth every penny I spent on it.
That image was in my head after reading many of the responses to this post. So then I would have to say that a trophy wife would mean to me. Someone who is loving, caring, sacrificing, a best friend, a great mom, a great lover, attractive to my eyes inwardly and outwardly, having the time to take care of someone when they are sick, and knowing she really cares.
A trophy wife is more of whats inside her heart and also her actions matching her words towards me or my kids. What is on the outside just fades away in time.
I will wait for that one day that I could be a trophy husband to a trophy wife someday.
P.S. I am sure of mentioning this on a dating site will either make people think I am a momma's boy or someone that sees whats really important | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 12:30:36 PM | | "Could it be that subconsciouly we try to take the woman side?"...Rephrase that as the "younger" woman's side and I would agree with that...Youth and lack of experience, skill, and wisdom are highly rewarded for women...Intelligence, assertiveness and being mentally healthy are not....Women are often punished for being mentally healthy.....Society often has nothing but scorn and suspicion for women over 40..By age 60, they become, as my 65 year old friend put it, "invisible" to the rest of the world, at least in the USA....I do agree with you regarding the part about men being blindsided by the divorce...Its like they have tunnel vision and never see it coming, although there are plenty of warning signs...I see quite a few women in unhappy marriages who are very close to leaving their husbands..They have pleaded, begged and compromised for him for years to come to marital counseling but the men see it as "her problem" and refuse...Until the women throw up their hands and leave and then it becomes "their problem"...Id say listen to your wives, men, and meet them halfway....Creating a healthy marriage is an ongoing work in progress.....Otherwise, you might find yourself without a wife ..and in shock... | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 2:00:27 PM | I spent a significant amount of time in Chicago recently (on my job)...
In Chicago, there is an area of affluent restaurants and small but expensive apartments.
Locals refer to it as the 'Viagra Triangle' because of the 'Love Nest' apartments and the proximity to upscale hotels.
This is were a woman of certain attributes of physical appeal can meet, 'date', and generally mingle with men of a certain age and stature in life.
Lets just say if you flash a Centurion credit card in public, you will have a lot of very 'city' attractive women at your side very quickly...
Some of these women actually get to be wives, but most of them are 'Working' girls.
I was taken off guard at first, I'm a simple man and didn't understand a first.
(Not being the brightest bulb on the tree, some of the other guys had to explain it to me...)
I hung out at the park or on the lake. My dog was much better company (dog breath and all!), and in the morning the only thing I woke up with was 'fleas'... | |
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Posted: 6/28/2007 5:53:08 PM | | My boss who is about 50 is actually looking for a woman half his age even younger and he has no luck LOL!! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2007 6:06:17 PM | Youth and lack of experience, skill, and wisdom are highly rewarded for women...Intelligence, assertiveness and being mentally healthy are not....Women are often punished for being mentally healthy.....Society often has nothing but scorn and suspicion for women over 40...
What?! No way. That's ridiculous.
I'm sure I posted on this thread before, but I can't find it. It's my opinion that many of these so-called "trophy wives" aren't the brainless, gold-digging bimbos as so many people like to label them. The only cases I personally know where a stranger on the street might consider the woman a "trophy wife" are nothing of the sort.
They're younger than their husbands, but they're not kids. They're smart, successful, attractive women in their 30s and 40s who are also the lucky kind who look younger and are quite glamorous. But one is a doctor (as is her 60-ish husband) and one is a real-estate agent (who's married to a lawyer). Both couples met through work, long after the older man's marriage was doomed. Both the men are trophies in their own right, too. Attractive. Smart. Nice. Like their wives. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2007 9:12:39 PM | whats wrong with being a stay at home mom or community activist? and i think you're giving too much credit. they usually don't even do that, the trophy moms i know...
it is not our place to judge the lives of others, unless its just pure ignorance...does that offend you or something?
to each is own | |
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Posted: 6/28/2007 9:37:48 PM |
But "trophy wife" is a caricature too... the spinny blonde with the 90 year old Oil Baron. A used up hausfrau who doesn't get child payment' because the ex-hubby spends the money on wife #2. Reality is much more nuanced.
Hmm - Personally I would be embarrassed to have a woman in my life who thought or acted like she was a trophy. That is degrading for her, and to some extent demeaning for me as well.
Rich men who really look at women for trophy value tend to hire escorts -- not marry them. The really rich and shallow guys have women on call. Rich women can be just as bad. Yet when it comes down to it rich people just like to stick to what they feel is their own kind (peers -- or those from other rich families). Associating trophy spouses with the rich is a stereo type view. The upper and middle class yuppies are more likely to engage in that kind of selecting of mates then the rich. Yuppies are far more elitist.
Depicting wealthy men as stupid and shallow is not fair. Saying many of them are ambitious and do not have time for a real relationship is closer to the truth. A good percentage of them are psychologically married to their job/wealth generation before they marry a wife. They don't marry for access to daddies millions like they used too years ago. Does that make the man the villian of the story? or is it the materialstic bimbos that often chase them. The only difference is a smart rich man will pick a smart woman over a bimbo. Guys in that position have way more options then average guys because women of all stock and ages will chase a man with money over a man with a good heart.
On the other hand -- I live in a city where you can have fun spotting the wealthy yuppie couples with their pretty kids, pretty wife, pretty SUV, etc. A lot these are rich wannabees and more shallow then rich people. These kinds of people are more interested in having trophies to show off -- because most of them live off credit and have no real wealth. They are all image and status oriented.
At least rich people are more direct (if they trust you or work directly with you). Most of them can be very quiet outside their business circles. Some of them are socially retarded due to their wealth -- and how it corrupts their view of humanity. Especially those who found it easier to make money from having sociopathic tendencies (a big factor amongst new rich people who make their money with no conscience about the harm they do to others).
But the one big advantage "beautiful" people have is more options of choice in life. Thankfully that list of choices includes being better human beings (when they want to be). When they stumble and fall they have more people who will come to their support. Average people do not have this kind of advantage. Some trophy women are just women who rich men have paternal feelings for. That maybe creepy to some folks -- but it is the basis of a lot of rich man - pretty girl relationships I saw when living amongst the super rich. Its when time goes on and the pretty fish turns into a shark that problems develop.
Yet watch how quickly some women today will drop a man like they drop a penny, when another more available man with serious wealth comes into the picture. Blame the society and how it turns a lot of women into money chasing wh**es. Women who view them selves as trophies are more the problem then the rich men who end up with them. Funny how you never see that come up in a forum discussion. Its always the guys fault.
Really though guys -- any woman who wants to be a trophy wife -- stay the hell away from her. Chances are what your getting is not worth what it will cost you - prenuptial papers or not..They all have agendas. You may want love, but they want something else.
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Posted: 6/28/2007 10:52:40 PM | I know three different couples who most people assune are together for the trophy reason. The first, the man is a well to do business man, 56 years old, and his wife is 29. They have been married for 5 years and now have one child. She is a very lovely and highly educated lady and has a lot of money of her own, from various business investments she has made and been very good at. Neither needs the others money, but they are very much in love and happy.
Couple #2 are 60 (him) and 34 (her). Both are highly active professionals and have 2 children after being married for 6 years. I estimate that they are each worth over $5 million on their own, and do not require each others money. They are very much in love.
Couple #3 are also very active business people. She is 52 and he is 30. They have been married for 7 years, They have custody of his children from his previous marriage and they are very happy. Bothy do very well financially and have an incredibly great and loving marriage. I realy do envy them and enjoy their company. Maybe its the happy marriage, but no-one and I me no-one, believes that she is older than him. She looks better than most 25 year olds, and I do not exagerate.
In the previous 2 couples, The ladies do look younger than their husbands, but the husbands do not appear to be their actual ages either. I believe the difference in ages has kept them active and young, and having the children has kept them together and bonding. Maybe that is the trick.
They were all looked at as just trophy spouses by those who don't know them, but who realy cares what others think? If they realy look they would see something special, or maybe they did, and just are jealous and want to say something negative ... who knows?
I see so many threads about a formula about age difference barriers to go by, and how people would only date within a certain age range, and all the other mindless drivil that these still single and desperate are throwing out; but from what I see, the very best marriages I have ever seen, and the couples that are the closest and most completely in love, are those who have quite major age differences and have similar goals and the same drive, that keeps them ticking.
I had an Uncle that was, sadly, killed in a car accident, at 58. His wife was, at the time, 78. They had enjoyed 20 loving years together and were still like newlywewds. She just died two years ago at age 90, and was actually looking forward to once again seeing the love of her life. She told me this a short time befor her passing.
I am now, more than ever, convinced that there should be a closer line in thinking and drive with a couple and a larger gap in age. Without fail, every couple I have known in this situation, have had the sort of marriage that would rival the great love stories.
Now thats something to take into consideration and envy. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2007 10:27:19 AM |
I am now, more than ever, convinced that there should be a closer line in thinking and drive with a couple and a larger gap in age. Without fail, every couple I have known in this situation, have had the sort of marriage that would rival the great love stories.
Now thats something to take into consideration and envy.
Yeah I agree -- but considering the above couples you mention all have money -- it goes without saying money is more likely the factor. Given the sour attitudes of women towards men with no material wealth -- I don't think most of us regular joes have much hope in hell of finding happiness in the form you mention. Nice thought -- but not reality. That women are willing to put with age gaps to obtain a mate with money says a lot for the outlook of women seeking men.
Money may not buy happiness -- but it gives you way more options to find it. Sad but thats the way it is. Think I will go buy a dog lol.
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Posted: 6/29/2007 10:59:46 AM | I see no point in trophy wives - or husbands. First time around, I thought I married for love as did she, but I guess that was a bad assumption - but it wasn't for money or extraordinary beauty.
Now, I'd marry for love once again, but only when I'm sure that's the real reason. Anyway, as far as trophy wives are concerned, I wouldn't want one because good taxidermists are expensive too! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 8:35:06 PM | | All I can say is: I wish I were pretty enough to BE a trophy wife!! :-p | |
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Posted: 7/2/2007 9:05:36 AM | | ^^^^ So you're saying the term "trophy wife" is really just a sign that the person using it is envious that she/he wasn't a good enough catch to get the guy/gal for herself/himself? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2007 9:21:49 AM | | a trophy wife is simply a beautiful woman that has married a man that may not be her equal physically. he can wealthy or not. if i married a playboy playmate i would consider her a trophy wife as an example. these women usually marry men that if not for their bank account and beachouse, they would never even give them a thought. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 1:43:51 AM | If I could have a trophy wife, it would have to be one who has some substance to them as well, but yes incredible beauty and figure sure have a lot to do with it in this man's eyes anyway. There are a few ladies on here that would sure be trophy fishies in my eyes but they seem to be a long ways away [like thousands of miles].
QUESTION FOR THE MASSES- How come all the gals that I am interested in are not too interested in me and all the gals that are interested in me, well, I'm not too interested in them???? | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 1:50:06 AM | consider this
if it floats, flies or farks ---- lease it | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 7:26:38 AM | I just joined and am getting caught up on reading these forums.....
As for a "Trophy Husband"...... heck yeah they are out there - we just have another name for them........
"Boy Toys" | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 7:52:51 AM | | I really don't care. | |
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