| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:17:46 PM | My Dad passed on many years ago. There are so many things I wish I had said, so many things I wish I had asked.
I have two grown up children somewhere, but there will be no Fathers Day cards dropping on my doormat.Maybe one day they will feel as I do, when it's too late. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:21:40 PM | I lost my lovely dad last month and am still finding it hard to come to terms with the fact that i will never see him again, though all the great memories i have will always keep him close by.
I wrote a small poem for him and it will be in our local paper this week, although i have never done anything like that before... it felt like he was inspiring me
Miss you dad xx | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:28:52 PM | ^^^^^
I'm very sorry for your recent loss MaidInGrantham 
I don't think we ever fully come to terms with the fact that we'll never see them again, I still have moments where I wish so much that I could just ask him for one piece of advice.
Writing your feelings down is a very good way of easing it a bit, maybe write letters to him and just pop them in a box somewhere, just to keep the connection going.
One day, you'll find it so much easier and you'll laugh and cry all at the same time just thinking about the happy times you had.
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/18/2009 5:16:00 PM | You have my sympathy's too.
My Dad was a good man. I gave the eulogy -still find it difficult to write and voice certain words. Find it hard to visit where he has been laid too-and thats 2 years now (anniversary was 11 days ago and the f was 2 years ago precisely-we delayed it so friends and family could get back from their holidays)
Just try to remember the good times. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/18/2009 5:43:53 PM | I never had a dad either, well I did, but he doesn't want to know me. Fathers day can be hard for people who aren't in touch with their dads as well as dads who want to see their kids but can't.
It's just another day and the cynical side of me says that there doesn't need to be a day that you tell your mum, dad, gran that you love them by giving them a mothers or fathers day card, they should know anyway, that's what really matters. Certainly if it's going to make people feel more pain when they don't have their parents anymore. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/18/2009 5:57:31 PM | I lost my father on Christmas day last year so this will be the first Father's Day without him, I still can't believe he's gone.
I shall be visiting him on Sunday and taking some roses from my garden. I think about him everyday and miss him so much.
We have had lots of laughs over the years, he couldn't spell for one thing and whenever he wrote things down or did the crossword we were in hysterics. He was a wonderful Dad and Grandad, so loving and would do anything for anybody. My rock, always on my side and forever in my heart, one in a million. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 1:46:19 AM | I never really cared for my dad much for fathers day to mean anything to me.
Unfortunately, my daughter won't be seeing her father this weekend as her mum insists on using her as a pawn.......sheesh....after 4 years its getting very tedious.
Fathers day?.......Humph. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 2:44:05 AM | Thought I would tell you all a smiley story
princess fudgy's dad told me in no uncertain terms that he was her father when she was born , but now he is not 
One particular fathers day , Emily was really going on about having a daddy and she wanted to make a card ..she was only about 7 ....
My friends husband overheard this conversation and said to Emily ..." you can make a card , I will be your daddy for the day  "
priceless
and sure enough , she made a card , we where invited for sunday dinner and he made as much of a fuss with Emilys' card as he did his own childrens ..Emily was as proud as you like ....
I lost my dad 16 yrs ago ..gone but in my heart always...
To all of you who are feeling sad for all the many different reasons .. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 6:19:14 AM | Yes I must admit I am missing my dad this year more so than other years before not sure as to why but.......
This year in December will be 5 years since my dad passed away....
I shall visit his grave this year.....Im not really an avid fan of visiting his grave I know it seems to help some people but It does'nt really appeal to me......
But all I wanted to do was leave a message on here for all of you who have lost some one either recently or even a while ago and just say....Enjoy your lives whilst you are here as it is my belief that one day we will all be together again happy and harmonious together forever.........Love and peace to all....B safe x | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:19:10 AM | I'm touched by the men on here who find Father's Day difficult because they're unable to see their children and would like to wish each one the best of luck for future Father's Days.
As a mother of a 9 year old son who's Dad, after much trying on my part, refuses to have any contact with his son, I really feel for dads who are stopped from having contact and I really don't understand what kind of woman would do that to their own children!
I don't often visit my Dad's grave, cos I figure if he's floating about anywhere, it won't be the cemetary.....probably near his family or at a cricket match somewhere most likely.
However, this year, because my son is feeling the lack of his own father, I've suggested me and him take Grandad a card and some flowers instead and, for now, this seems to have taken his mind off things.
To those dads I mentioned above, I just want to say I wish there were more like you, who actually care and want to be there for your children cos there are certainly many who don't. I just hope when the kids are old enough to make their own decisions, they come back into your life and realise it wasn't your fault.
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:18:28 AM | Like you all, never a day goes by without thoughts of him. But time still goes on with memories of so much shared throughout, and it doesn't matter how long we have been apart at times they are so so near.
What has helped me to get through sad/hard times was a small verse which i'd like to share with you all- for HIS special day :
Since childhood you have given me so much strength within, & this precious gift has seen me through thick & thin.
You've always said I could attain dreams I hoped to see,
you've encouraged me so much & made me proud to just be me.
You've been the rock on which I stand- my shelter in a storm,
I have been truly blessed since the day I was born.
So, thank you so much DAD for the way that you cared,
which brought the kind of happiness that could never be compared.
Where ever they are, they know we LOVE them truly.
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 10:08:28 AM | I have memories of making fathers day cards when we were young at school , making half cold toast on the day with a scraping of butter and murky tea and taking it to him in bed on fathers day. But now I never see mine from one month to the next, he chooses when he will be in touch with us and he often goes for months without callling or visiting us.
He doesn't let us know his home address, we only know he lives somewhere in Birmingham and the company he works for. Quite often we don't have a current phone number for him, its how he chooses to live his life. If something were to happen to myself or my sister or my brother I doubt we would be able to get in touch with him as when we do get a number for him and ring he doesnt answer calls. My son doesnt see him very often and my niece rarely sees him either. Somehow I doubt he will be getting a fathers day card or a present as we never know when he will turn up. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:40:48 AM | I lost my dad 23 years ago after his 2-year battle with Motor Neurone Disease.
Still much missed and talked about.
He was a baker, and when he came home in the early hours of the morning, I'd climb on his lap whilst he had a beer, some powdered cheese on dark brown malted bread and a ciggy, whilst smelling of freshly baked bread and sweat!
As soon as he left the house at night, I'd practically sleepwalk from my room to my mum and dad's, and crawl into bed next to my mum for a big snuggle. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:08:09 PM | Thanks for that smileysue, that brought a little tear to my eye, I might just have to nick that to put in the card I take to his grave on Sunday....if you don't mind? Its just that it describes the way I feel about my Dad to a tee.
A Touch Of Fate...Your story is one of those that really saddens me, it must be dreadful. I'm not sure if I should say this, but I'm going to anyway.....he'll come to you before you come to him and then only you'll know what's best for you and your own family.
Hanneke, your stories reminded me of my Dad when he was a shop steward in a factory and used to come home with boxes of Walnut Whips.....I can't even look at one now without smiling from the memories.
I always used to get my Dad a quarter of Nutty Slack and half oz of tobacco on Father's Day and, every year, without fail, he loved it like it was the first time he'd had them!
I'm so grateful to have had him in my life and for the best advice ever, to make my own mistakes and learn from them.
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 1:04:46 PM | | Wow this is all making me so thankful my Dad is still here. I truly would not be able to cope if I didnt have my Dad, he is wonderful to me and my girls. I am so sorry for you all who no longer have your Daddies. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/19/2009 2:55:50 PM | My dad passed away Dec 2007, couldn’t bury him `til January, it was like sorry your dads dead but you gotta celebrate xmas, your daughters 21 st and New Year, oh, and the fact someone has cloned your debit card and buggered off with nearly a grand from your bank account
Bit of a confusing time.....
But I always remember my dad with a smile, that’s how he would like to be remembered
Remember once being at my parents and my kids come running in from the garden laughing and saying ”come see what granddads doing” and there he was, on the garage roof he was repairing, in his 60`s , T shirt up, doing the truffle shuffle, at his po faced neighbour
Or when he dressed as a clown and pushed a wooden beer barrel for miles for charity
Or when I met my parents one night in my local and offered to buy them a drink as you do and with a sly grin he asked for a schooner of sherry, my mates took the piss for weeks, as my dad new they would
Top bloke, lovable rogue, the best ever gramps, leaves a void the size of a football pitch
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/20/2009 12:52:45 AM | I shall also be missing my dad tomorrow and most days .
It does get hard when trying to buy cards and gifts for the kids to give,i shall have my own moment for my dad tomorrow.
Also miss my Grandad as much now as i did 15 years ago,so will be having a thought for him to. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/20/2009 1:07:39 AM |
Anyone else feeling something missing today?
Nope, I actually feel quite lucky that I don't have to dip into my pocket and buy the a$$hole a card !!
Our paths have crossed on two occassions in 33 yrs and on both occassions it reminded me of just how much of a wise kid I really was !! | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/20/2009 2:30:40 AM | | I've just come back from my annual trip to see my father in Cyprus. I think we have both mellowed through age and although he's always found it hard to show his love I know he loves me....although I didn't feel that when I needed to as a child but it no longer matters so much. My brother remembered to get him a card....I didn't. I'll ring him though and wish him a happy day. I've seen too many people lose their fathers and regretted not trying to make their peace with them why they are alive. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:18:04 AM | | I miss my Dad dreadfully, but he is always with me, as I look to him for guidance constantly asking questions all the time like, Would my Dad Approve?: What would my Dad have done if......? I just hope I havent let him in down in anyway!! I just would have loved him to have known my beautiful daughter of whom he would have been very proud of and spoilt thoroughly. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:33:54 AM | | My dad was always there for me, even when I made mistakes, sadly I was not as good a choosing a dad for my daughter. Since he moved out she send me the fathers day cards, her words not mine, you did the job so you have the card. Tomorrow we will be going out together to remember granddad Tom, a dad who was there. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:21:00 AM | | My heart goes out to all that have lost there Dad's. Like so many previous posts I too lost my Dad 01/01/06 not a pleasant way of starting a year, I also lost my Mam 21/12/04 again not a pleasant way of ending a year. Father's/Mother's day are very hard and at times its the memories of them that help you get through the day. I have so many good memories of them both that always helps to put a smile on my face, I just wish my last memory of my Dad was a happy one and not of having to identify his body sadly I can't change that one. Rest in Peace all that are no longer with us, Forever in are Hearts. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/21/2009 1:35:33 PM | | Whatever went on with you and your dad or you and your daughters mom, your daughter is the innocent one and reading all these notes about people missing their dads or wondering what their dads were like etc is heart wrenching to me. My wonderful dad passed 2 years ago and each day I miss him sorely. My point is, keep being the wonderful dad your daughter will always think you are and when she is old enough to make her own mind up maybe the two of you will have the very special bond that even death does not break. May the future hold good things in store for you. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/21/2009 2:09:14 PM | Sorry for all your losses and for those who cannot see their children/fathers, for whatever reason.
Thursday 09-01-1975
Having always been a 'miss goody two-shoes', I went to school dressed totally in black and although I was reprimanded for not wearing full uniform, I wasn't sent home to change.
At morning break I told my friend that I had to go home because my dad needed me. She asked how I knew and I said that I just sensed him.
She dissuaded me, telling me that I would get in serious trouble.
After school, I tried to phone home but, the only 'reply' was what I took to be the Operator, saying that there was no one to answer the phone.
I went to an aunt's house, whom I disliked with a passion!
She arrived shortly after me and whilst I made her a drink, she asked why I was dressed in black. I said I didn't know.
She asked me if I recalled what was said to me the preceding summer, by someone who had read my cards. I said I didn't, although my stomach was lurching.
She asked why I had come to visit her instead of going home. I relayed my tale.
She told me that there had been people at home at that time and that the phone never rang.
Apparently, my dad had died before lunchtime.
My mum, in her wisdom, told me to break the news to my younger brother, who promptly kicked me down the stairs and hurled all his vocal anger at me.
For some reason, relatives and friends gave sympathy to my three brothers 'who would be missing their dad' and to my mum and kept telling me to 'be strong' for them.
I was 14 and a 1/2.
R.I.P. dad. I'll never forget you and will always love you. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/21/2009 4:12:30 PM | | I lost my father when I was 14 he was killed in an accident at work and the special thing about fathers day is I give my thoughts and love to just him all day long, it's a way of rembering the good times. He was a Character and part of the good things about him lives on in me. So thankyou for putting up this thread and like you said remember all those dads that are no longer with us and make sure the are remembered on this special day xxx | |
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