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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:17:37 PM |
He's on this site, I wish I could anounce to everyone who it is, but I'm not that low.
Well, you could always post a really nice (read: sarcastic) testimony to his profile and wait & see how long it takes him to notice it - bet all the other women do first!  | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:18:54 PM | Yes it happened to me,late bloomer too,with my husband,well now my ex,he to is one who cant half spin a good story,lies etc,dont think I had been cheated on before with previous relationship,not had many though,but it does make one lose trust in guys,I use to believe everything I got told,I have certainly learnt my lesson,just take things with a pinch of salt. You will hopefully meet nice guy one day,best of luck to u,but be careful of them,I married my ex only new him 6 months,must have been crazy,never again,best to get to know them well first,thats if we ever do  | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:47:20 PM | it happend to me as well...but he was seeing this woman and had kids with her and STILL denied it until the bitter end...y?? Y?? Y???do they have to lie???nice tune for a country song eh?well i dint meet that guy on here..so it dosnt matter where u meet the guy..but didnt u have a clue that he was seeing someone? i did,, i kept asking him and he kept lying..there r nice guys on here dont give up....i would choose someone eith kids coz u no that they are responsible well alot are alot arent bu for the most part they are..
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:54:13 PM | Not a nice thing. I wanted to be so honest. I didn't want to go out with a male friend of mine, because "j" hadn't met him.
so silly now. I feel like such a fool. It was really something. He had on all his dating sites: long term. Why couldn't it say, dating and fooling around. BUT no..... | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:00:38 PM |
Hoist him with his own petard?
Oh man that would HURT...LOL!
Seriously, why worry about somebody who emails people just to call them names. He needs a life.
And don't blame the internet. Granted it has made it easier to meet people to play games on if that's your intent, but guys( and girls) who cheat or try to juggle more than one serious relationship have been around forever. If you don't want to risk being cheated on or played, DON'T DATE. I don't mean to imply that all people cheat, of course they don't, but it's a risk you take if you are going to date and get involved with someone.
OP, I'm sorry this happened to you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:22:49 PM | Hey tampagirl, I think you did great going slow, dating other people. I think that was wise. I like that you dumped the guy after his other GF showed up. I agree with you that there can not be unconditional love. Not if we're talking about people. And that it's not a curse of online dating, but just what happens in real life offline.
Where I differ is that you emailed the other woman. Right or wrong, that automatically makes you look like an instigator who can't let it go but wishes to cause a riff.
Anyway, you can see those two are a team (she let him know that you emailed her and what the email was about), and they deserve each other, she for taking his lying, cheating self back, and him for being a lying cheat.
I don't understand why he agreed to come over to talk about it with you.
I'm sorry to see that you need closure for this! You seem way too strong to let this have gotten that far under your skin, but guess it has.
Next time, please, please pay more importance to the flags. They'll get you out sooner if need be, way before you get that emotionally attached. | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:39:38 PM |
I'm a late bloomer at being cheated on as well... just happened last year. He was my rebound guy right out of my marriage. I really hated feeling like a fool more than it bothered me that he was with someone else.
I got it fairly early in life. But the truth is I'd rather have had her do that and stay with me than leave me for him. | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:58:00 PM | They make " ulta light beer ?" Trying to get you to smile. Pour some on his car?
He had the signs and being human and in 'love' you overlooked them as your girlfriends 'hoped' things would be OK, and mislead you into not looking harder at the signs.
Any guy who is worried about anything of yours being left around him is not commited to anything, but hmself. And, you sensed that- you were right on it.
He must have been dating her while dating you and how he did that so long..............is amazing with you not knowing. I take it you two did not live close.
Online or offline -matters not where you meet them. Many can lie so truthfully-my first hubby was a master- class one.
He did not sleep around-well not after we got legally married-, but he sure lied.
Now, you should be mad. And, now you SEE him for what he is......wish him on someone esle.
One who has done something such as being unfaithful has probably done it before and WILL do it again. He WILL do it again to this new-ex gf.
That kind will be older one day saying to some woman or dating site how nice they are, how kind, loving, and wondering why they are still alone in the end.
The universe wants you with one of integrity. I want one with integirty too universe , if you are listening lol.........and better to find out now-though was a long time seeing him- but now you know. Now you are no longer sleeping with a man , who was lying to you in most all ways.
I am so sorry. | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 9:06:49 PM | I do not think she meant 6 months and no sex? I saw another poster pondering your waiting 6 months and..............did u? I think you said he said you were no good in bed? Less I am reading wrong or senile more than I knew.
So must have been a intimate relationship , and what a PUTZ to sleep with you and tell you such garble. The guy gets the PUTZ of the day award.
On the other hand, I like the woman poster who said testimonial his site!
Do it. He is now with a girlfriend,which implies in a relationship to me even if it is 2007 and the world is nuts as a bat, so he is in a relationship and surfing on here?
Inquiring minds need to know lolol;;;;;;;;; | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/18/2007 9:44:21 PM | | i had something similar happen to me .i met a lady on pof and we went out for three months until i found out she was a member of a sex club seeing men and women for sex and orgies.gangbangs and what ever else they do on nite s that i wasnt there . and i tell u i soon hot tailed it out of that relationship . the worse thing about it was she had the nerve to ask if i wanted to join the group i soon told her where to go in no uncertain terms . i have now pock myself up shook the dust off and im moving on to bigger and better things i hope.i believe there r some good women out there somewhere i just have to find her | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/19/2007 12:56:42 AM | | I agree with you. I only emailed her, because I knew she didn't know about me before that night. I was thinking we were both in the same boat. We were both cheated on. I had no idea that she would forgive him and take him back. But there was nothing in that email that was wrong or instigating. It was apologetic. It really doesn't matter now. They do deserve each other. A cheater and and liar and a woman that will accept cheating & lying. | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:04:43 AM | | Yes. He's on here and seeing her. I hadn't looked but she may be on here too. I'l have to do that in my spare time... lol, since I have my weekends free. I did live very close. 3 miles down the road. I just trusted him and respected his privacy. I could have driven by his place months ago and probably saw her car, but I would do that. I'm glad I wasn't the one that banged on his door in the middle of the night. I'm just sorry I was inside that night. | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:22:22 AM | | Sorry thier are some men as well as ladys that take advatage of people and use them, but thier are some people out thier that is not like that, I hope you find what you are looking for. | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/19/2007 4:30:24 AM | tampagirl- I just wanted to say that it's his big loss because you look like you have the whole package. Your a beautiful woman and you'll find a great guy in time! However, it really doesn't matter if you take it slow or not, alot of men out there are going through some sort of crisis and try to prove something to themself. This is where you need to be selective and only consider someone who is very secure with themself and doesn't need to prove their sexual prowess to everyone! He is out there!  | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/19/2007 5:00:24 AM | | They always have great explanations, and because you love them you believe them. Sorry this happened to you, I was married for 23yrs to my better half. He did not cheat, but now that I'm a widow I hesitate to date because the pain of his loss and finding out someone I'm dating is cheating would be more than my old heart could take. You definately have more class than the other woman.. He has none! | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:53:58 PM | | Thank you for your kind words. I do believe that there are men out there that do not cheat. I was married for 20 years and we never cheated on each other. We would never. Today is a much better day. I'm getting angry rather than hurt. I'm going thru the stages...lol | |
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| It Happened to Me for the First Time at 48 years Old.
Posted: 6/19/2007 3:26:00 PM | | Yep. You're right. This is a temporary set back. I felt so together when I started to date him and I let my guard down. It's not a bad thing, but it was with the wrong person. A person that just didn't have the character and the integrity I am looking for in a partner. | |
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