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| Double Standard on Financial Matters in Relationships.
Posted: 6/20/2007 1:02:16 PM |
How romantic is this: I fell in love with you because of your house, I fell in love with you because you sacraficed and financially invested rather than indulging and now I want to enjoy it although I would never want you when you were poor and sacraficing, I would never want you while your business was unstable but hey now that you have finally made it lets get together.
Very well said. Unfortunately, this is the reality we live in. They are not with you during the sacrifice, but sure as hell want to enjoy the spoils. Then of course, you have the legal means to take half. Its called a marriage!! | |
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| Double Standard on Financial Matters in Relationships.
Posted: 6/20/2007 2:33:46 PM | OP,
It is because that phrase "Financially Stable" has been hijacked by gold diggers. If you are able to support yourself comfortably simply state that followed by "looking for a man who does the same".
I know it is more wordy, but trust me "Financially Stable" sends the bells, whisltes, and warning sirens into overtime....
Cheers! | |
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| Double Standard on Financial Matters in Relationships.
Posted: 6/20/2007 2:58:49 PM | I am for the "financially responsible" in the profile. I do not mention finances in mine though, but other criteria that i would like to see in a potential date. Thinking about the financial part of all this, I think health insurance, nursing home insurance, and ' responsible retirement investments, like a IRA, should be something that one must consider. All the cash in one's wallet ain't going to take care of a devastating disease, like terminal cancer, or a cardiac arrest, when the hospital bill comes to your mailbox...without health insurance, and even if we all could live 9 lives, like a cat- we could never take care of that hospital bill!! Without health insurance- one TRIP to the hospital, can bring financial wealth to a grinding stop, and bring on the welfare rolls. It is something to reflect on...... | |
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| Double Standard on Financial Matters in Relationships.
Posted: 6/21/2007 8:54:23 PM | Ok, I'm a woman. and I have to say that I placed it 'financially secure" in my profile because the last guy I dated was so broke he really couldn't afford to date. I mean it. Don't tell a girl that you want to see her and in the same breath tell her that you're so broke you could not afford to drive to work...
I ended up loaning the guy money because he kept saying things like he might have to live in his car!
But you men do have a point. I should just point out that I'm looking for a person who has their shyt together because I really don't care how much as long as it doesn't get in the way of out getting to know one another. But um, yeah. Too often I've been the woman who lends the loan.
I know, look for better men. | |
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| Double Standard on Financial Matters in Relationships.
Posted: 7/5/2007 11:30:19 AM | | Well I don't know if there is really a double standard involved. I think some people just think that if you are finacially stable then you are more likely to be stable in the rest of your life. | |
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| Double Standard on Financial Matters in Relationships.
Posted: 8/27/2007 12:39:07 PM | Laugh do you mean men who can pay for their own bus ticket or are billion dollar men.
A deal breaker for someone that is not in the same income bracket as myself. That limits myself to doctors, lawyers , etc; not fair you say, yes I agree, life is not fair.
Sorry but want an equal not someone that needs an allowance. | |
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| Double Standard on Financial Matters in Relationships.
Posted: 8/27/2007 3:26:03 PM | | I have in my profile that I am financially secure and am seeking the same. No, my financial security is not a result of divorce settlement... actually, I never asked for nor received either child support or spousal support. Everything I have, I earned on my own, hard work. I have had a number of men contact me, via the internet, who were not working, lived with their Parents, were broke due to divorce/child support, actually thinking that a woman on the internet dating sites is desparate and will suppport them! One man, after our initial meeting, actually wrote me to tell me he was being thrown out of his apartment and wanted to know if he could move in with me! Yes, I want a man that is financially secure. No one supported me financially, even when I had children, and I'll be damn if I'm going to support someone with what I worked hard for! I am not saying that I would walk away from an established relationship if, my partner, due to circumstances beyond his control, lost financial stability. I just refuse to be a "Sugar Momma" for anyone! | |
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| Double Standard on Financial Matters in Relationships.
Posted: 8/27/2007 7:16:29 PM | Sadly the "financially secure" often is a red flag, meaning that this woman could possibly be after material things more then of love. On the same token it could also mean the woman is just sick and tired of losers begging off her! I think women should NOT put this in their profile, cause it just stinks of something fishy!
I personally am totally dept free, so I guess I would consider myself financially secure, but some people would not think that! Bah who cares! Money is just good for buying crap we don't need!  | |
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