| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/20/2007 7:37:41 AM | I've had the most success with women when I'm not even looking or coming onto them.
Tan, you'll just depress the poor bloke even more, you know!
Stoney: Tan y Ddraig has an unfair advantage.... not only is he drop dead gorgeous to look at, but he's also intelligent, articulate, comfortable in his own skin, easy to be with, AND NOT DESPERATE!
Actually, now I come to think of it, perhaps you could take Stoney in hand (oo-errrr-Mrs) and sort him out, Tan? | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/20/2007 8:38:12 AM | I find humour works well,make them laugh so hard they forget to breathe in ,they pass out,you do your st johns ambulance bit ,mouth to mouth, loosen clothing ,bobs your uncle .
Or get club drag WOMAN back to cave .
Hang on your are asking how to get a woman to a load of SINGLE PEOPLE can anyone else see the problem here.
Women are not an enigma more of a rubiks cube. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 1:41:59 AM |
I've had the most success with women when I'm not even looking or coming onto them
exactly, don't act like every other guy out their, let them come to u
Respect her, talk to her, communicate with her on every level and show her you are interested, but don't chase her like a little puppy dog being all nicey nicey hoping she'll like u and take u home with her...
Aint gonna happen, if someone like me doesn't come along then u may just at best get her number if u r 'lucky', but chances are your not the only guy who has her number so unless she just simply likes c**k way too much id say your chances are limited
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 1:44:54 AM | I think this sums up any 'secret' their is to picking up girls/being good with women...
intelligent, articulate, comfortable in his own skin, easy to be with, AND NOT DESPERATE!
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 2:02:17 AM | As has been pointed out, any attempt at 'trying' to commence a relationship is doomed from the start.
I'm not saying that being indifferent to them is a good 'method', but we can all tell when someone seems to be making the right 'moves', and we can usually spot their sincerity (or lack of it).
Everyone is an individual, so you should treat them as such. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 5:36:24 AM | Stoney
I have always been successful with women and the one thing I have NEVER ever done is generalise about them or try to crack the code. There is no code to crack, we are all individuals and have motivations. If I did fully understand each person I met, life would be boring, it would be like going to a magic show and understanding how every trick worked, the mystery is the magic.
You always come across as completely focused on getting a relationship, to get a good one you have to be interesting and entertaining, if your sole interest is the thing you seek, that makes you dull and probably a tad scary!!! Lighten up, talk to people, make friends, learn to chill, then things may turn. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 8:28:14 AM | | I have to agree with a few of the posters on here. You do appear desperate to get a women and at all costs. If you were to chat me up I would be terrified, thinking he isn't interested in me, he just wants a relationship at all costs. Hardly flattering, it's almost like anyone will do as long as there female. Men run a mile if a women starts talking, babies, etc on a first date, women are much the same. It is bunny boiler behaviour and quite frankly very off putting. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2007 8:52:17 AM | MMMmmmm i think Stoney is ' a made up profile' he doesnt exist-just wants to wind folk up.
Wrong.... Stoney is a real person and many can vouch for that.He has attended meets!
I do not know any good books Stoney that would help you. Having met you a few times at meets, the only reason you do not have a woman is because you scare them off by coming across as being so desperate and needy.
You have received lots of advice from people who have met you and those on here who have not but for some strange reason, you seem to ignore it.
If you just go out to have fun and meet people instead of hunting for a woman I am sure that when you least expect it ,the right lady would come along for you.
Stop trying to find answers to questions in books that only life can teach you. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 9:20:33 AM | I know every time I try to get a woman I am not very sucessful....
Mind you as I keep saying Mr Stonecastle Eau d'desperate never a commodity I require in a man....
Whining isnt either...
Books hmm ignore them.... load of old twaddle unless you want a stereotypical sheep for a woman...
Stop trying so hard.... | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 9:32:16 AM | Stoney im a woman and I dont understand myself half the time so there is not a hope in hell that any man is going to understand me 
That is what is good then, men and women will never really understand each other but we are still attracted to each other so like others have said loosen up a bit, stop trying so hard and it will happen when you least expect it to. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 10:00:58 AM |
I found the book "women who love too much" very enlightening. It's a book of true life stories from different women who have been in abusive relationships and who return again and again to their abusive ex's or to someone equally as bad. It's an old book but still interesting, what I learnt is that women don't know what they want or even what is good for them and that their inner child affects how they are in relationships and what they expect from men. Women are only attracted to men who will treat them the way they have grown used to being treated by their own parents and other relationships throughout their lives, unless the woman becomes emancipated and throws off those chains that bind her to a life of putting up with abuse just because it makes her feel 'real', she will most probably be searching for a man who is a tosspot.
??? I'm absolutely flumoxed as to why you think this book would be of any help to Stoney pull women?!
"Women who love too much" is a self help book for people with Co-Dependancy, which, affects both men & women.
what I learnt is that women don't know what they want or even what is good for them
S'cuse me???!!! Not all women are dysfunctional yunno?! 
As for OP...talk about lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink  | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 10:44:57 AM | | there is no code or mystery to getting a woman, its the easiest thing in the world. finding a good woman however is a different matter, and when i say good i dont mean all women are bad, i just mean that finding the right woman for you is hard. if you're not fussy though, yes its easy | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 11:28:14 AM | I have always been successful with women Why are you on here then????? If you were successful with women you would be able to get one with out resorting to joining a dating site.
get out there and meet women I do go looking for women out in the real world. Most don't seem the slightest bit interested in me though. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 11:31:44 AM | If you think there is a code to crack OP then i would honestly suggest the following -
Get a place to stay in a hostel
Get a job
Get own bedsit (rent it..)
Get oneself spruced up a bit
Get a few nice new clothes
Get hair cut
Get out and about
STOP READING SILLY BOOKS AND CLAIMING YOU ARE TOO UGLY TO GET A GIRLFRIEND FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!!!!!
I can assure you that if you follow the above advice rather than from books that tell you to lie to women (you said that in another thread) you will get a missus
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 11:39:01 AM | I do go looking for women out in the real world. Most don't seem the slightest bit interested in me though.
Probably because you are far too negative about yourself, the majority of your posts I come across are wallowing in self-pity. Accept your faults or try russianbrides.com
Seriously, I can relate in some ways to you about your self doubts and lack of confidence but you really need to stop these automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) which are irrational and harmful. Maybe you should forget about dating and women in general for the time being and concentrate your efforts on self improving your mentality and attitude.
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 12:13:16 PM |
I can relate in some ways to you about your self doubts and lack of confidence but you really need to stop these automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) which are irrational and harmful.
It is my lack of success with women that is making me feel so very negative!
Maybe you should forget about dating and women in general for the time being and concentrate your efforts on self improving your mentality and attitude.
I would have perfect mentality if I wasn't constantly failing to make any progress towards getting a woman! Women just don't seem to fancy me at all because I am so ugly. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 12:25:59 PM |
I would have perfect mentality if I wasn't constantly failing to make any progress towards getting a woman! Women just don't seem to fancy me at all because I am so ugly
If you don't like yourself, why the hell should anyone else like you?
OP you have been given some excellent advice on this and other of your threads, instead of reading books, read some of the advice you have been given! | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 12:53:35 PM |
I would have perfect mentality if I wasn't constantly failing to make any progress towards getting a woman! Women just don't seem to fancy me at all because I am so ugly.
If you think your ugly then why should anyone else find you attractive ?.
It's nothing to do with looks or how much money you have it's about liking yourself, if you like yourself it will show and you will have more luck.
Stop worrying about who finds you unattractive and concentrate on the ones that do like you.
I can't see many women from these forums giving you a chance as they will feel they are an anything will do choice and who would want to feel like that ?.
It's a bit like the bitter women that put no losers in their profile, might make them feel good about themselves but most nice blokes thing sod her she's in the head and keep on browsing.
Not sure what your looking for as haven't looked at your profile but if it's long term then you shouldn't be after any woman but the one for you.
Good Luck in your search and try to relax a bit. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 2:37:26 PM | listen mate , get yourself some good jokes , or stories to tell preferably about yourself , especially if you have an embarassing story about you, women love a guy who can make em smile...
don,t waste your time trying to figure how women think cos let me tell ya , they are a mystery, but thats the fun of it all ... show me a man that understands women and I,ll show you a fooking liar... | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/21/2007 3:52:28 PM | Cracking the code .... just learn to enjoy your own company and like yourself.
It isn't important that you have a woman it is more important that you are happy with yourself. The rest will all fall into place later maybe but even if it doesnt if you like yourself it wont be such an issue then. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/22/2007 1:31:47 AM | Do not be disheartened gentleman. The pursuit of romance via the internet can seem a daunting task , as you will be dealing with the Gold Standard of British women. An infinitely superior class of ladies compared to real life women.
Presumably therefore the rewards and sense of achievement will be greater.
This is the challenge you have taken on.
Have Faith & Resolve. | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/22/2007 6:25:15 AM | If you believe in yourself others will believe in you also
If you feel you are a complete waste of space, others will treat you like you are...
If you want to read books, read on body language, read on confidence, read on self belfeif, work from the inside out my friend
The code to cracking people is to understand them, understand something and you know its every move... this can be a bad thing aas someone pointed out earlier but if you want to be good with women work on yourself first and learn how people work... | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/22/2007 6:44:33 AM |
Why are you on here then????? If you were successful with women you would be able to get one with out resorting to joining a dating site.
Because I WAS single and moving to the US, so it seemed a good way of connecting with people! I am no longer single have not moved and am here for the forums as I find it a welcome distraction. Unlike you I am interested in the views of others on a whole spectrum of subjects! None of my girlfriends nor my wives have come from dating sites.
Are you able to be interesting? WHy would a woman be interested in some one with only one interest themselves. You seem to think you will meet the "one" it doesnt really work like that! | |
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| Cracking the code - trying to get a woman
Posted: 6/22/2007 7:08:58 AM | well stonecastle i kind of agree with you to a certain extent...this online dating malarky hasn't really lived up to my hopes and expectations either.... but getting down about it and posting many negative messages on the forum isn't going to improve the view of you in the eyes of other people potentially reading it either. remember it is not just your profile that is visible!
It is good to be open and honest but some feelings are better kept private...and put a brave/happy face to the world.
I think rather than relying on books and various theories/online methods invented and marketed to get american college kids laid, you should consider taking up a sport, hobby or join club that would allow you to interact and meet other women and get to know them first as friends, and then build from there....
I think you will continue to get nowhere as long as you continue to consider women as a different species...
keep smiling! | |
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