| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 7/22/2005 9:30:12 AM | The same day or next day is too eager for the initial first call but 3 days is good. One week is too long unless you tell the person your going to be busy and can't call until a certain day.
The perfect scenario (for me) after the first date mind you, is if he says I'll call you on (fill in the blank day) and we can make plans for our next date. Then you know he likes you. That may be to brazen for some but again that is what I prefer. I have also had on the extreme end of things a guy call after 3 weeks....way too long. Then I knew he was trying to seem like he didn't care or in fact he didn't. Either way, just call her (don't leave a message) or next time if it's such a dilemma give her your number and she can call you and you don't have to worry about it. | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 7/22/2005 12:50:05 PM | | I've had guys call the next morning after a date. It doesn't make me think any less of them, in fact, I'm flattered by the attention. So I think the waiting rule is silly, the sooner he calls, the better. | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 7/22/2005 1:09:53 PM | | I once got a "thank you" email, the very next morning after a date. It was very sweet and made my day. | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 12:32:08 PM | The first chance I am back online...I say thank you! Seems like the proper thing to do....according to Mom! | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 12:50:55 PM | | If I give you my number and you wait a week to call me, you might as well forget I ever gave you my number. I will certainly not answer your call. | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 1:45:55 PM | Meh, no way am I waiting a week to call someone/for someone to call me.
I personally see it as kind of "game playing", and can't stand these things, eg "wait this long before you call (/back)" etc...
If I like someone, I'll call them now, not wait for them to call. Why waste time? I'm not spending a week waiting for a phone call if I like someone now. | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 2:02:27 PM | I had a guy do that to me, and then get pissed off when he asked where I was due to not answering his call 8 days later. I told him "Hell, I went out on a second date with someone nicer tha you." LOL I do not sit by my phone waiting for it to ring. I am way too busy and active for that crap.   | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 2:09:23 PM | LOL I do not sit by my phone waiting for it to ring. I am way too busy and active for that crap.
Yep, that's basically my way of seeing it too.
Do the people who advocate this idea of waiting so long to call think I actually have no life or something? I don't sit at home all day singing/listening to "build me up buttercup"  | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 2:25:01 PM | | The problem with this is that esp online dating guys dont want to seem "clingy, needy" and have any kind behavior that could be seen as clingy,needy or stalkerish which is why I think for the most part they wait the 3 days or whatever to call | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 2:33:51 PM | Thread Necromancy FTW.
Call soon. If you're interested at all. Call. Don't be a yutz about it, blowing her phone up and texting to oblivion, but show that you're interested AND cool. That is if you are cool. If you're a dork, embrace that too and find a girl that appreciates it and blow HER phone up. | |
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 2:47:27 PM | Either way when you put this much thought into it its game playing isn't it? I always send a text or email after the date the night of the date or the next morning saying I enjoyed it and thanks. I think its unfair to make the guy make first contact all of the time, (I would not call because I am a lady).
When you do call her keep it casual. Do not profess your undying love to her. Just say something like I had fun, do you want to do it again? Then go from there .
If your life is so full you are to busy to call me for a week then I can only assume that even though I am very low maintenance you are to busy for me.
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 3:13:59 PM | Ummm... if it all went well in your eyes.. why can't you ask her/him when to call?
Is "So, when can I call you? Can we see each other again?" so difficult to ask? Maybe I just tend to be direct as I don't understand game playing and it boggles my brain. But I am guessing if you get a genuine smile and a shine to their eyes after you ask, it is a safe bet you can call the next day.
If someone did not call me for several days to a week, I would think I was on the 'culled list', or if you did call me a week later, it was as you had no other prospects for the weekend dating scene.
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| Waiting so many days to call
Posted: 8/9/2009 4:12:30 PM | Nah, three days is too long for me. I'm young and impatient 
Besides, calling a guy basically as soon as I had his number got me a date for the next morning. I tend to think that if he didn't want me to call, he wouldn't have given me his number (that goes both ways actually - if I give a guy my number, then it's because I want him to call me).
Meh, I don't bother about supposed "rules", eg the guy should always make first contact etc. If I like him, I'll call him; he could have found someone else in three days. | |
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