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Posted: 3/24/2008 9:49:02 AM | No, i would never be satisfied by, 'normal' sex, infact i never was! Ive been back a couple of times, just to see, it dosent do anything for me except leave me frustrated!
I need a confident, motivated, persistant, intelligent man, one that can tap into my brain and control it :) | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 3:34:49 PM | Maybe it's just me, but too much of the same thing is boring after awhile...always have to change things up...otherwise I'll be bored to tears. I do enjoy a good rough romp...but there are times when I want to *cough cough* make love and snuggle. I do find I seem to be more aroused and the orgasms seem to be more intense when my hair is being yanked and my butt is being spanked.
I've had gentle lovers, rough riders and a mix of both...and I guess for me...I need someone who can do it all  I don't need a large quantity of sex to be happy woman, but it better be damn good sex. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 3:56:40 PM | | That's exactly it!!!! I don't think I could be satisfied with vanilla sex... been there, done that. Discovered there is so much more and I'm not looking back. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 4:01:46 PM | | Hmmm ... I like to think the best advice I have ever heard about this is a quote from Kevin Bacon on the secret to a successful marriage: "Keep the sex dirty and the fighting clean." Sex is one aspect of the relationship that I think compatibility is non-negotiable. Either you have it or you don't. So if this potential partner and I can't get past the vanilla stage together as trust is built in the relationship ... well ... sorry babe ... it just isnt gonna work ;) | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 4:53:41 PM | Yes, absolutely. While sex is great and ideally its dirty and often....it's NOT a major point of interest when I'm choosing a partner. I'm looking for so much more than sexual compatibility in a man, that if I have what I want it really doesn't matter. I've BTDT so I speak from experience.
Think for a moment if you met and married that special someone. Do to medical issues or an accident or who knows what...he's no longer able to perform sexually. You're no longer sexually compatible. So, what? You dump him and find someone better in the sack? What if he was unable to perform from the start? Would you rule him out or just find other ways to create that intimacy? Someone that's vanilla is very similar. They're not willing because they can't understand the mentality behind more adventurous sexual behaviors. Sometimes that can be overcome with time and a patient lover, and sometimes it's just an obstacle to work around. I've found that if the other important dynamics are right, you will find yourself in a satisfying place sexually too...even if you can't always try and do everything that strikes your fancy. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 4:56:22 PM | I don't think it's possible to go back completely because you're always gonna crave that something extra...but there is balance to everything...you just need an open minded man who is willing to try. I guess the bottom line is..women also want a good relationship with that gentleman in public and whore in bed kind of guy. That is the best way to keep the chemistry and spark going. Always be willing to try something new to spice things up.  | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 8:29:15 AM | DEFINATELY love to mix it up, same ole same ole cools the passion I think...need both to keep the relationship at its hottest.
Communicating those deep seeded desires is key so bring it up if its not happening for you and maybe you will be surprised thats what they want also.
Just as important, the timing should be right when you do bring it up. Sharing a rough romping right off the bat is usualy a quick way to end things. Developing that deeper inner love is important for the long term success of the relations. But once you have that and have the hot mix....WOWWWW. You got it made....little heaven on Earth as I like to say. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 9:39:59 AM | | I love rough sex that hurts! I like the pain. To hurt though it has to be a pretty good size to start. After my last boyfriends last year I have a hard time finding someone that size. If I date someone and they are small I don't want to see them anymore. There is no pain there and it don't feel good to me. The larger it is the more I want to have sex. I must say not 2 big. If u big it is hard to get in and then u rip and what fun is that? I prefer width over length. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 10:00:28 AM | | hmm I find myself in the same kind of situation right now.... its frustrating but its still new soo, Im hoping that I can peak his interests in things that are not so vanilla.. if not umm Im not sure whats gonna happen cause I def want more. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 3:52:51 PM | I like variety that’s for sure.
So maybe vanilla one day, then for the next 6 days of the week, we'd have chocolate, raspberry, cookies & cream...  | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 4:50:57 PM | hmmmm, vanilla....I prefer neopolitian. Vanilla is good but why bother when you can have so many more flavours....spice of life
Im creative and I do not believe I would be comfortable with a partner who was not willing to explore or have their soft limits pushed a little. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 5:09:30 PM | if you like to rough it, be prepared. lol
Me I will not rough it up, I do not like broken bones and bruising.
black eyes either, or teeth knocked out
just normal stuff
not the rough stuff
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Posted: 3/30/2008 5:50:11 PM | Hey bionic, i think you misinterpret the thread...or it was an attempt at sarcasm. LOL
Rough sex does not mean medical attention will be required.
It is simply a way for others to explore and release their energies in different Dom/Sub environments...in my experience anyway.
Can you go back to Vanilla after having an incredible partner that turns you on through 'rough sex'? Absolutely you CAN. Will you enjoy Vanilla as much after 'going to the dark side'...probably not, at least not if Vanilla was now the standard.
As others have said, its about knowing, trusting, and respecting your partner. Finding someone that is open and adventurous like you. Its about communication of wants, needs, desires, turn ons and offs - BEFORE getting in the bedroom. End of the day, if you can't discuss sex and all aspects of it with your partner over coffee, soda, whatever you drink...you most likely will not have the most enjoyable sex life as you could.
So bring it on, spank me if i'm naughty, restrain me if you need control, hold me and cuddle to show your true appreciation and affection, talk nasty to me too if you wish. Knowing it is all for fun in the bedroom and is not humilating or demeaning. I will reciprocate these things as well. Again, its all about variety and spontaneity...what an awful thought to think you'd have the same routine all the time.
as always, just my humble opinions...but damn...think i need to call my 'rough' friend now...
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Posted: 3/30/2008 5:53:10 PM | | I like it all! Nice and easy to start to get all wet and warmed up. Then see how she likes it by stepping it up. Some like a real hard banging and it's good for me, sometimes it's what we need it to get off. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 5:56:45 PM | well as I say when u really get into it, it can be scary can it lead to:
rough sex
could happen
get out of hand.
like some get into snuff films
like into the killing
no kidding
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Posted: 3/30/2008 6:03:13 PM | | Can't go back. I like 'tender' sex once in a blue moon (yeah once a year or so) but I can't go back to being bored in bed. Or training someone new. It's too much work, or too dull. Sex isn't supposed to be comfortable, sweet, gentle or any of those things all the time. It's primal. It should feel primal. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 9:22:14 PM | Still exploring in a Dom/Sub relationship but I can tell you that rough is very primal and if you have the right partner and the right mix it is beyond belief.
I tend to be much more aware and concience of how wild things are than she is, but that is part of my role. She throws her self in and it is my job to accept it and push her limits while not taking her over.
Exciting, scary and rewarding on levels I wasn't even aware of.
Her being a subie does not make her any less of a person. It makes me more aware of her needs and wants. It is very hard to describe if you have never been there.
The mad frenzy of her screaming, pushing and begging for more while you have to control your self to make sure she is safe and not really harmed.
Bleh! Like trying to explain the color orange to someone who has been blind all their life.  | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 5:44:26 PM | I keep hearing Doctor Hook singing "Get my rocks off" inside my head.....
I am just sooooooo greedy.....and he said it best "But Lord I want it all!" | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 7:54:59 PM | Tulipa, what an interesting (pulls hair) post. I'm not sure how ("hard enough, baby, huh?) you figure there is a line (slaps ass) to be crossed, but ("let me hear you bark like a dog...NOW!) I suppose that if there were one (pulls hair again), then one could simply (" you f****g s**t!") advertise it among one's, um, preferences?  | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 8:23:10 PM | | I dont think I can ever have "vanilla sex" again it dont get me off at all. Rough and tumble all the way ,give and take thats the way I like it. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2008 8:03:48 AM | | BEING VERSITLE IS THE KEY: i LIKE TO GET A LITTLE CARRIED AWAY SOME TIMES I LIKE AN AVENTURES WOMEN!!!!!!! I WILL GO WITH THE FLOW OF THE PERSON I AM WITH BUT IF SHE IS TOO CONSEVITIVE I WILL TRY MY BEST TO CURRUPT HER IF NOT I WILL USALLY LOOSE INTEREST. | |
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